[because you can't always confide in someone you love but can with a friend]

"A friend is someone you can confide in. The moment you find yourself more comfortable discussing mere issues with a third party other than your partner its time to re-evaluate that relationship. Don't marry anyone who you find it difficult confiding in you will have problems in that marriage."

So many of you have heard this phrase "MARRY YOUR FRIEND" despite the fact that it looks straight forward most people still find it hard to understand its true meaning. First who is a friend, a friend is a person whom one knows, likes, and trusts. 2. A person whom one knows; an acquaintance.
3. A person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically exclusive of sexual or family relations.

A friend is never defined as someone who one is having sex with/kissing, someone who buys you gift and takes you out on a date, it is never someone who yells and beat you up or who refuses to call you all day,it is never someone you introduce to your parents as your man/woman,etc.

This days people claim they are dating their friend but such people find it hard to discuss issues bothering them with this same person they claim to be their friend, you will find some people very comfortable discuss their problems with a third party rather than their partner whom they claim is their friend and who is suppose to be their friend/confidant.. Isn't that contradictory?.

Even health issues bothering on menstruation/sex cannot be discussed freely amongs partner, discussing critical issues and sharing their pains and fears with their partner is a no go area,they are shy doing so or they fear their partner will scold them and in turn they will lose them..

If you are dating someone you can't confide in, someone you can't share your inner thoughts with, if you find yourself discussing certain issues you wish to discuss with your partner with someone else other than them then you are simply not dating your friend.

Most of you are currently in this situation but keep deceiving yourself with love saying you love them is why you are with them,fine you can love them but dating someone who isn't your friend is disastrous.
If you marry someone who you claim to be your friend but can't discuss certain issues you should ordinarily discuss with them then that marriage is bound to fail,which is why today marriages bearly last because couples can't even confide in their partner on minor issues bothering them. We all know that marriage comes with lots of challenges which will require lots of communication to resolve most of this issues but how can you resolve issues when you can't even confide in your partner. Becareful who you choose make sure they are your friend and your friend isn't someone that increases your heartbeat when you think of them,a friend isn't that person you go out on a date with or can't go a day without thinking of them, A FRIEND IS SOMEONE YOU CAN CONFIDE IN. It does not make sense when you can't confide in someone you claim to love.

THE MOMENT YOU FIND YOURSELF MORE COMFORTABLE DISCUSSING MERE ISSUES WITH A THIRD PARTY OTHER THAN YOUR PARTNER ITS TIME TO RE-EVALUATE THAT RELATIONSHIP. Don't marry anyone who you find it difficult CONFIDING IN you will have problems in that marriage.

The process of falling in love is also supposed to make you both friends. The problem, is that people tend to rush things and confuse attractions, crushes and what not with love

Nice piece

Lesson: A friend is not someone who increases your heartbeat when you think of them.


oh, i thank God.