crackhaus:

What method would have been more suitable to seek his retribution?

ihedinobi2:

Yes indeed. Actions taken in anger are not always right. And even if he matched her, like I said, he didn't do the right thing.

Now, you've talked about how the girl stands to suffer. I think you know how it affects us men, don't you?

The betrayal of a woman hurts a lot more than her outright rejection. Men are merely rejected when they make advances and they start drinking. I learned recently that about 80% of the Navy SEALS got into that program because a girl broke their heart. The statistic is unconfirmed but allow me to assure you that men enter "self-destruct" when women only reject them. What do you think happens to us when we're betrayed?

Please don't encourage the idea that we don't hurt, don't feel that badly and all that. We were built with a soft spot for the women we care for. Only that spot in us is soft. We are hard everywhere else. We care about family and community because we care about women. We care about children because we care about women.

This girl practically ripped this guy's heart out, not once or twice but three times. Cheated twice and then broke up with him. Did he tell her that he couldn't handle her cheating? She tore out his heart, pissed on his soul and you worry that she'll commit suicide while he goes on to forget everything a year later. We don't move on so easily.

Kimoni:


CC, is it really a silent threat? The girl is only going paranoid cuz of her guilty conscience, and like the guy said, she is about to get married to a doctor who probably thinks she is a saint(and maybe boasting on NL that he is marrying the best girl ever, sister Sarah comes to my mind here. Hehehehe). Think of it, making of sex videos and sending nude pics is like a given amongst many young people today and I never see the girls get worked up when they break up with these guys simply bcause there is no guilty conscience operating anywhere.

That said, I think the guy has a very low self esteem and he needs to work on himself. If he doesnt believe he deserves someone better than that, then he's got a long way to go. I know people fall in love hopelessly sometimes but then, there should also be an allowance for common sense. But I think what hurts him more is the fact that she is about to get married and that's where the girl is hooked. She can't even report to the police cuz her new catch might just hear about it and she will end up losing on all sides.

chaircover:


Funny enough I feeel more sorry for the doctor than the boyfriend.
At least the bf knows what she is like, besides she is no longer his responsibility, however on the other hand, the doctor is the one who doesnt know what he is getting.

chaircover:


I didnt say that at all.
We are all human & with blood running in our veins regardles of our sex and we all hurt; male and female
I have someone close to me going through a divorce and I see how much its affecting him & can see how much he hurts
I live with men, and I know that they do have a heart. I see how "floppy" my husband is with the kids.
I know he is hurting and having been there before, I wont trivialise his feelings of betrayal. What I am saying is that thought difficult to see now, he will look back in a few years and thank his God that he escaped from this woman and he wont have the burden of knowing that he is in any way responsible for ruining the ladys life.

ihedinobi2:

In that, chaircover, you and I are and always have been in perfect agreement. And I'm glad that yoy acknowledge male vulnerability too. It gets rather annoying to always have people behave like men don't "bleed". Because of our pride we cannot rightly show it or talk about it everywhere. That's rather indecent (although I'm very guilty of that indecency). But when people attack this guy merely because he felt hurt and showed it and was even willing to keep forgiving a cheating girlfriend, I'll pull the knives out. He doesn't deserve the thrashing.

I would have advised him to just walk away. But I don't know who he is.

alutacontinua:


1. He deserves the trash.

2. If we alll decide to take a pound of flesh when we get hurt, the universe will be extinct by now.
One basic lesson every human has to learn is to let go!

3. Is it painful? Hell yeah!
But learning to deal with it is called maturity and responsibility.

4. Technically, the lady owes him no faithfulness (at least, not legally) and morality as we all know has become a relative word in our generation).

5. I agree that he has a right to keep forgiving and taking her back, heck, that's his choice but he has no right to go after her after she dumped him.

chaircover:


Funny enough I feeel more sorry for the doctor than the boyfriend.
At least the bf knows what she is like, besides she is no longer his responsibility, however on the other hand, the doctor is the one who doesnt know what he is getting.

Timbuktou:


1. How so? Has he cheated on her or been disloyal to her?

2. Wrong. If people knew they were accountable for their actions, they'd be more conscientious in dealings with their neighbours. I'm sure she felt nothing would happen. Why does the law exist? To keep us on the straight and narrow. Where there is no law, there is no sin. The very idea of sin evokes the need for correction and consequences.

3. I agree. However, dealing with is subjective. One could choose to forgive and forget or seek revenge. It is entirely within their rights to do so.

4. Wrong again. The lady does owe him faithfulness because of the fact that they are in an exclsive romantic relationship. Secondly, she owes him loyalty for being her rock in trying times. She owes him big time.

5. Go after, as in, revenge or still want to continue the relationship?

pickabeau1:
Coogar

Did u see nasri's goal

coogar:


it's the microcosm of ramsey's goal last night.

pickabeau1:



No its not about the comparison

You said city will not qualify

coogar:


even if they do, a big club awaits them in the next stage. that's the price for coming second these days.

coogar:


even if they do, a big club awaits them in the next stage. that's the price for coming second these days.

pickabeau1:



They will avoid Bayern
If they avoid barca or real

They have a sweet chance

I told u

pickabeau1:

They will avoid Bayern
If they avoid barca or real

They have a sweet chance

I told u

raumdeuter:

Dortmund, Atletico, Barca, Monaco, Porto Madrid
They can only fear Barca and Madrid
They would be at par with Atletico and Dortmund
They would be favourite to beat Porto and Monaco
33% chance of a bad draw isnt too bad

netotse:

Hey wassup?

Any idea what happened to Tv01 and Nash? Seems Nash has deactivated his account? Abi the feminazi's got to him?

coogar:


not sure city can beat any of dortmund, athletico or PSG. all these teams are going on winter break for few weeks to replenish. city would have added FA cup to the festive premier league fixtures coming up by the time hostilities rësume in elite europe.

city will die in the next round.



by the time they avoid arsënal, chelsea & bayern, what do they have left? athletico, dortmund, barca, madrid & PSG. which of these teams does not have more experience than city in europe?

bellong:
Can City really go past the 2nd round irrespective of the opposition.

I think their best bet is to meet either Porto or Monaco.

RoyalRoy:
Did you watch PSG game this noon?
The team was compact and in charge. They list to Barca because of ill luck. It was a very superlative game especially for Ibrahimovic and Matuidi.
They were so swift on the ball.
Waiting for the next stage draws. Gonna be interesting I believe!!

pickabeau1:

if they meet any of those two or even Athletico Madrid
they should fancy their chances

The only issue for them is that yaya will be at the afcon then

bellong:


It is not just an only issue, it is a very very big issue . And that will be compounded if Aguero's return gets delayed.

pickabeau1:
I did not know attendance was being marked for this thread ooo
Monitoring spirits

coogar:


she wants to be a guy so much, she monitors who posts what in the men's lounge. May God deliver us from the spirit of voyeurism.

RoyalRoy:
Monitoring Spirits....Viewer Spirits....all on this thread?
Can't laugh..

pickabeau1:


where have u been

Lol ...ghost mode.



Rounding up for Xmas.

Taking lots of time and plan.

We talk later.

RoyalRoy:


Lol ...ghost mode.



Rounding up for Xmas.

Taking lots of time and plan.

We talk later.