pickabeau1:
Wenger has gotten two results to stem the tide of criticism

RoyalRoy

The end justify the means.....

tpia6:
spark your interest ke.

do i sound that desperate?

coogar:


your desperation knows no bounds. you are a 40 year-old virgin. your new year resolution in early 2014 was to bed a nairalander(male et female).

you have about 5 weeks left & your dream is nowhere near your desired goal so you are throwing the kitchen sink at every male in boxers.

i would have pitied you but you have never had a pap smear test - you are a sėx risk so take your ebola-infested stinking labiä to the agberos of your ilk.

RoyalRoy:
@Tpia5, Tpia6 or whatever, why not just keep to yourself instead of unnecessarily stoking trouble everywhere.

Do you have to bring trouble everywhere you go?


If we talk now you go talk say we dey stalk you!!!

RoyalRoy:


The end justify the means.....

pickabeau1:
Its just an interregnum in the maelstorm of impending criticism


Winter is almost here...

Champions league second round draws will soon be made

bellong:


Calls Wole Soyinka to interprete before the brain blows off...

RoyalRoy:



Nigerian Premier League Join sef

Timbuktou:


1. It's illegal in Nigeria, I assure you.

2. I mean, it doesn't matter. Suicide is the hobby of choice of divorced men for a reason.

Timbuktou:
He can't let her go because he's still in shock. He probably loved her too much or invested too much and didn't factor in the realities of romantic relationships. Also, he's an extremely beta dude, no alpha would be so clingy.

This girl didn't necessarily play away because of his sexxual prowess or lack of, it could be that she met a more accomplished individual, or someone more mature, remember the boy in question is still in school. Women cheat for the darnedest reasons.

If I get cheated on, I won't indict myself, mbanu. It speaks more to the principles of the cheater. I would feel no shame at all. People get cheated on, even God, who am I that I would take it so personally.

ihedinobi2:

He's clingy because he's forgiving, right? He's beta because he's clingy because he's forgiving? Exactly how does being forgiving make a man less than a man?

And what makes him the less mature one exactly besides being forgiving? What makes him less accomplished? Is it just being forgiving? Or is it the video he made that led you to those conclusions?

And where was it said that he couldn't let her go?

ihedinobi2:

Don't just assure me, bro, show me. I can't believe it merely because you say it. I'll try to check myself but if you have more immediate information, by all means share it.

It doesn't matter? But divorced men commit suicide for a reason that has something to do with being cheated on? Since when does the fact that something is rampant make it inconsequential?

Timbuktou:

Forgiving her for episode 1 is understandable but silly for a girlfriend, especially one who owes him loyalty for more than just the sake of romance. However, staying with her after the second episode begs the question why he didn't just break up with her. She'd confirmed herself irredeemable. That level of clinginess is unmanly. I have a good feeling he begged her not to go break up with him after she announced her intentions.

His lack of maturity shone through from his reaction to the second episode of cheating to his decision to make the video. A biitch is a biitch and he hasn't matured to know that yet. Maybe he'll learn his lessons now, maybe not.

Timbuktou:


Section 34.
-(1) Every individual is entitled to respect for the
dignity of his person, and accordingly -
(a) no person shall be subject to torture or to
inhuman or degrading treatment;

Section 37.
The privacy of citizens, their homes,
correspondence, telephone conversations and
telegraphic communications is hereby guaranteed
and protected.


www.nigeriaworld.com/focus/constitution/chapter4.html

No, it doesn't matter and I meant divorced men kill themselves for being screwed over. What's the problem with pre-marital sexx?

Timbuktou:

Forgiving her for episode 1 is understandable but silly for a girlfriend, especially one who owes him loyalty for more than just the sake of romance. However, staying with her after the second episode begs the question why he didn't just break up with her. She'd confirmed herself irredeemable. That level of clinginess is unmanly. I have a good feeling he begged her not to go break up with him after she announced her intentions.

His lack of maturity shone through from his reaction to the second episode of cheating to his decision to make the video. A biitch is a biitch and he hasn't matured to know that yet. Maybe he'll learn his lessons now, maybe not.

ihedinobi2:

1. So forgiving more than once is immature, clingy and unmanly is what you're saying.

2. I find that quite interesting. Does that make all parents and married couples immature, clingy and, well, unmanly for the males? How about siblings?

3. Or are dating relationships merely different for the absence of signed contracts and blood ties?

4. Because if they are, on what basis do you choose to sign your life away to someone you have no blood ties with in the first place?

ihedinobi2:

1. By this same token, the girl's cheating was illegal. And that is not a red herring.


2. Has he compromised her privacy yet?


3. I'm asking you how it doesn't matter when you say that divorced men kill themselves for being screwed over. Do you suppose that signing a piece of paper makes it hurt more? I do believe in the sanctity and exclusivity of marriage but I think you are totally ignoring why marriage happens in the first place.

4. Sëx is a specific type of communication that is reserved for a particular type of relationship. Outside of that type of relationship it is only an injurious language to speak. Séx is a language of trust and thus requires a guaranteed relationship to be used.

crackhaus:

1. When some people love, they love wholly - you can't blame them for some irrational behaviour when that love is betrayed, not all men have developed that ability to disconnect and compartmentalize their emotions into segments.

2. Maybe this guy is just one of those who sulk after a breakup or when they're cheated on, I'm yet to meet a woman who affects me to that extent so I can't confidently say I won't sulk or act irrationally (although I highly doubt it cos I'm pretty good at disconnecting).

3. There's nothing immature about what he did bro, people record themselves having sex a lot and some of this footage will end up seen by a third party if not kept safe, so in my opinion I don't even see the big deal in this story - if a woman is ashamed by people seeing her nak.edness, then she shouldn't be having sex with anyone until she gets married.

ihedinobi2:

So forgiving more than once is immature, clingy and unmanly is what you're saying. I find that quite interesting. Does that make all parents and married couples immature, clingy and, well, unmanly for the males? How about siblings? Or are dating relationships merely different for the absence of signed contracts and blood ties? Because if they are, on what basis do you choose to sign your life away to someone you have no blood ties with in the first place?

Timbuktou:


1. Lol. In fact, I'd have to disagree with you and say it is perfectly rational of him to seek retribution. However, following your lead, I'd say it is instructive that men love with their heads or find themselves recording their cheating exes.

2. I know what you mean, and this guy in question has my pity. But it still doesn't change the fact that he has a lot of learning to do.

3. Come on, Cracky. How would you react to seeing your schlong on facebook. I doubt you'd be hysterical, but you'd not approve of it getting there, would you?

chaircover:


I know I am biting off more than I can chew here as my grammer no fit match yous guys, but there is a difference between forgiving and putting yourself in a silly and dangerous situation
He can forgive her a million times . . .but that doeant mean that he has to take her back 100 times.
He can forgive from afar.
We tell women whose husbands are cheating to protect themselves from STD's. If you insist on keep on taking a cheating partner back in the name of forgiveness then you are putting your life at risk

No question the guy is hurt, but he has acted inmaturedly by filming her and threatening her. I would happily let a woman like that go. She will only cause him heartbreak in the long term. She used him for her own financial needs and she has no loyalty to anyone; not to the guy or to the one she is is cheating on. Remember she went back to sleep with guy number one again.
I wouldnt want someone like that near me and i certainly wont pollute my phone with images of that person.
He needs to set her free and let her own personalised karma Bittcchh catch up with her.

The only sad thing is that now that he has learnt the hard way, he will likely go to the other extreeme, so the next lady ends up with a "killing machine" on her hands. I sincerelty hope that even thought he learns from this, he is able to judge each woman on their individual merits and not automatically think that all women are cheats.

crackhaus:

It's perfectly rational of him to seek retribution, but you still think him immature?


On this, we are at an accord.

I'm glad for the kind of close friends I have acquired over the years, there's just no way I could see a person with our kind of orientation sulking over a woman - a cheating one for that matter...I would personally take him out, stuff his belly with alcohol, and pay a girl to fvck his brains back into alignment.


Lol...I would definitely not approve but God help the woman that would do that under the excuse of payback.

I will comment on the video, and upload her pictures along with it to identify her just in case she blurs her face.
I'll even go as far as including the photos of her brea.sts and pvssy I have in my photo library for the whole world to see - two can play that game.

ihedinobi2:

Nice one.

Maybe I'm not remembering correctly but when I read that op, I saw nothing that suggested that he threatened her. Just thought to point that out.

As for taking her back, forgiveness does not obligate him to do that. What it does is make it an option. He is well within both his rights and the bounds of sanity to take her back if he wants. Additionally, if the woman persisted in hurting him, he is also well within his rights and the bounds of sanity to keep forgiving her and taking her back. I don't buy the popular self-centered way of looking at life that judges the merits of everything by how comfortable they are for us. There are other factors to take account of.

I'm not saying that it is easy or always wise to hold on to someone who wants to leave. He did let her go is why I'm not fighting about that. Whether he pled with her to stay or not he did let her go. He made a video and while I have real issues with that morally I cannot say that he did something totally inconceivable. Or that she doesn't deserve having him expose her like that. I would have advised him to simply find a way to get over her. If his morality goes that low, he could drink, go whôring, act out somehow until he wakes up one morning and doesn't remember her name. Or he could take the high road and the painful journey of deliberately reconstructing his mentality to rid himself of her.

chaircover:


You are right, I too didnt read anywhere where the lady said that he threatened to post the pictures publicly, but the threat is silent. . .and to instill fear, otherwise he wouldnt even let her know that he took the pictures.
he meant for her to squirm. It also makes it look as if he really doenst want to let go, cos he knows that she cant just cut him off knowing that he has that ammunition against her. if it wasnt for the video i am sure she would have told him to get lost but now she is forced to beg him and chase him around. He doesnt need that. He needs someone who genuingly wants to be around him.

Does she deserve to be served. Yes!! but we all know that revenge doesnt always taste as sweet as one expects the monent you carry it out.
it also opens doors for other negetive things to happen. People have commited suicide after being exposed and some have killed to prevent exposure.

I also know that sometimes its better to leave things to God. He knows/sees all and I will rather trust His judgement than mine.

By keeping the video, he is only prolonging his hurt, He should just kickj her out of his life and phone. she is taking up too much space.

Some of us have been hurt, so we know how it feels, but if only this guy can see himself in a few years time. He will be thanking God the day this girl decided to leave him. I just hope he can see that far down the tunnel and not destroy himself first.

ihedinobi2:

We aren't talking about what's right or wrong. As far as right and wrong is concerned he should have just walked away. I know how he feels because of my own personal experiences. I have never been cheated on to my knowledge but I've been broken up with and hurt in a number of ways by a woman at one time or another and I know how it feels but I have kept hold of myself because I believe that I'm the only one responsible for my decisions.

The guy shouldn't have made the video or taken the photos. I personally tend to destroy every memento I have of a relationship that fails. Only thing I've never been able to escape is the phone numbers that I unconsciously memorize and can't forget. These days I try not to even memorize those ones, so once I delete a love interest's number I would have cut every tie. That way I don't see triggers that make me pine.

I know that having those photos and that video is going to hurt him more. But my argument is that he didn't go overboard in responding to her betrayal. He matched her. He will hurt for it just like she too will hurt for betraying him and they both will hurt for engaging in illicit sêx. But he didn't do something extraordinary in response to her betrayal.

crackhaus:

It's perfectly rational of him to seek retribution, but you still think him immature?
.

chaircover:


You are right, I too didnt read anywhere where the lady said that he threatened to post the pictures publicly, but the threat is silent. . .and to instill fear, otherwise he wouldnt even let her know that he took the pictures.
he meant for her to squirm. It also makes it look as if he really doenst want to let go, cos he knows that she cant just cut him off knowing that he has that ammunition against her. if it wasnt for the video i am sure she would have told him to get lost but now she is forced to beg him and chase him around. He doesnt need that. He needs someone who genuingly wants to be around him.

Does she deserve to be served. Yes!! but we all know that revenge doesnt always taste as sweet as one expects the monent you carry it out.
it also opens doors for other negetive things to happen. People have commited suicide after being exposed and some have killed to prevent exposure.

I also know that sometimes its better to leave things to God. He knows/sees all and I will rather trust His judgement than mine.

By keeping the video, he is only prolonging his hurt, He should just kickj her out of his life and phone. she is taking up too much space.

Some of us have been hurt, so we know how it feels, but if only this guy can see himself in a few years time. He will be thanking God the day this girl decided to leave him. I just hope he can see that far down the tunnel and not destroy himself first.

chaircover:


Hmmmmmm
The problem now is how do you weigh up one offence aganst the other?
we also dont know the repercussions of some actions that we take
if he meets someone new, in a year this may all be a distant memory to him
If this video leaks a day before this girls wedding, and her wedding is called off becasue of it, she may commit suicide.
actions taken in anger are not always the right ones.

christabeli:
All for revenge.By the way whenever I see your name. The word Acatacus comes to mind

Timbuktou:
Only because of his chosen method.