Maybe you have seen a girl around, and
you have been dreaming of just going
up and talking to her. However,
approaching someone for the first time
is nerve-wracking in most instances;
add your new crush into the mix, and
you might be a bumbling mess.
Sometimes, though, the result is
infinitely worth the risk.
1. Make eye contact. Spend a few days
catching her gaze every now and then.
Don’t just stare at her, though; instead,
shoot her small glances until your eyes
meet and she catches you. When she
does, smile slightly and look away after
a second. You’ll probably blush as well,
which is all the better – blushing
indicates you’re nervous, which is a hint
that you like her.
2. Time it right. When you do talk to
her, pick a time that’s convenient. Don’t
try to get her attention when she’s
obviously involved in something else,
and try to have a bit of privacy – you
don’t have to be completely alone, but
her attention shouldn’t be too
distracted.
Make the interaction extra casual (and
put a time limit on it) by talking to her
while you’re both walking somewhere
else. If you walk to a class at the same
time as her, or you start walking the
same way home, this is a great opening.
3. Start with a compliment. Paying a
girl the right compliment makes your
intentions clear right away – she’ll know
instantly that you’re interested in being
more than her friend. Here are some
things to consider:
Know how to deliver a compliment.
Even the best compliment in the world
will fall flat if your delivery is off. Keep
a half smile as you talk – it will make
you naturally add appealing inflection to
your voice. (Try this trick out when you
answer the phone sometime and see if
you notice a difference.) Maintain eye
contact with her, and keep the tones of
your voice up, but lower the actual
volume – speaking softly immediately
communicates intimacy, and it can
make her instinctively lean in closer to
hear you. If this all sounds a bit
difficult, practice it in front of a mirror
first.
As anyone who’s ever had a stalker can
tell you, there’s a fine but definite line
between flattering and creepy. With this
in mind, choose your compliment
wisely. Saying something like “You
always look amazing in that shirt” can
come off as weird if you don’t know her
well, and implies that you watch her.
(Even if you do, it’s best not to spill
that information immediately.) Instead,
opt for something general but cute,
such as “Your smile is glowing today.
What’s making you so happy?” or “I
thought what you said in class earlier
was really interesting.” A good
compliment should naturally lead to
more conversation, instead of just
hanging awkwardly in the air after you
say it.
Know what to avoid. If you’re going to
pay a girl a compliment about her
physical looks, stick to her eyes, smile
or hair. Do not comment on her body
otherwise, especially on the first
interaction.
If you want to play it extra safe, pick
something you already know she’s
proud of. For instance, if you know
she’s a dedicated violinist, say
something like, “I’ve heard you’re an
amazing musician,” and use it as a way
to ask her some questions about it.
4. Keep the conversation moving. You
might be tempted to stop talking and
just stare at this girl, but don’t let your
nerves get the best of you. Allowing a
long lull in the conversation will make
things feel awkward.
5. Instead, have a mental list of backup
questions you can use if you stumble on
an uncomfortable pause.
Ask about what she thinks of a shared
homework assignment or an upcoming
event. Asking for her opinion
communicates that you care about what
she thinks, and see her as more than
just an object.
Use the conversation to find out more
about her, but be subtle. For instance, if
you want to find out if she already has
a boyfriend, you could casually ask, “So,
anything fun planned with your
boyfriend for the weekend?” If she
doesn’t have one and she’s interested in
you, she’ll let you know immediately.
Ask open-ended questions. For
instance, instead of saying “So, have
anything fun planned for the
break?” (which can be answered with a
short “yes” or “no”), say “What are you
going to do to keep busy while school is
out?” A question that requires a
detailed response is always better to
keep a conversation flowing.
6. Make her laugh (optional) . If you’re
sure you’ve got a joke she’ll appreciate,
give it a shot. The goal is to show her
you have an engaging sense of humor,
but you don’t want to come off as
desperate or cheesy.
If possible, crack a joke about the
current situation or something you both
saw happen. Situational humor is more
meaningful than a joke you read online.
Don’t tell a dirty joke. It’s not
appropriate for a first conversation, and
it might give her the wrong impression.
If she doesn’t get the joke, don’t explain
it to her unless she asks. Just move on
quickly with a new point of
conversation.
Good humor is really attractive, but bad
humor is a complete turn off. If you
can’t think of a joke that makes sense
with the situation at hand, leave it
alone.
7. Close the conversation early . Follow
that old saying – “Always leave them
wanting more.” Find a way to gracefully
duck out of the conversation before it
goes stale. Good luck!
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