7 reasons why you should argue in your
relationship.
The seven reasons are;
1) Argument makes your partner to understand
the other (negative) side of your emotions
properly
2) Arguments would keep you and your spouse
educated and informed.
3) Arguments can be fun if understood properly
and will always create a long lasting bond.
4) Arguments will always leave a memorable
moment in your house than words spoken softly.
5) Argument will always give you joy when you
come out as a winner.
6) Argument would always make you and your
wife to be on the same level or platform i.e
making you both equals.
7) Argument would make you know more about
your partner’s level of understanding and
wisdom which is crucial in relationship as this
will enable both parties to have
less problems.
Before I drop my pen on this note, I'll like to
quickly
expose some tips that would enable you have a
memorable and positive argument in your
relationship which won't escalate into other
issues the argument is not meant to bring up.
The 10 things you should avoid or never do in
an argument are;
1) Focus on the topic of the argument and don’t
deviate.
2) Do not bring up past issues. If you have
anything of the past you still wish to know more
about, simply request for the presence of your
partner for discussion
on it. So please, try to avoid bringing up issues
of the past.
3) Keep in mind it’s for fun and not for fight.
4) Keep another topic for another day to be
resolved.
5) Avoidpointing fingers and also avoid harsh
words.
6) Use words like we and not you. Whenever you
use the word you for your partner, you are
separating yourself from him or her, but in the
real sense, you both are one and not two.
So accusing your partner is accusing yourself.
7) Watch each others back. People may want to
intrude, but do not let anyone be your judge. Do
not let your partner be judged wrongly in your
presence, neither judge your wife wrongly in
others presence. So watch each others back and
tell any intruder to back-off no matter their
relationship with you.
Always try to point out areas where you think
you are wrong and not where your partner is
wrong.
Don’t ever tell your partner that he/she is
wrong, but rather, you think the situation she is
supporting is wrong.
Telling your partner he or
she is wrong
is passing judgement on him or her. You can not
be the jury, the judge and the lawyer at the
same time.
9) Don’t leave issue unresolved. If you ever wish
to leave the argument, accept defeat by
accepting that your partner is right.
10) If your partner changes the topic, tell him
to get back to the topic. If he or she does not
want to go back to the topic, the new topic
should be treated another day. But if he insist,
just listen to him,, but don’t ever walk away
from your partner's presence; it’s an insult,
show some respect.
11) If married.,Don’t ever separate yourself
from the same bed after an argument at night.
Just calm your nerves.
12)Acknowledge who was right at the end,
though it may be very difficult to do.
If this is achieved, the
argument actually ended as a game and with fun
but not fight. Argument should always end in
checkmate but it most often ends in stalemate.