Matthew briggs: *Scracthes head*

From reading this epistle I am made the following deductions.

>[size=13pt]Nigerian women are gold diggers[/size] because they want to live a happy life.

> Nigerian Women believe the richer a man is the more the chances of them been happy with the man because Money can buy happiness (at least in most cases)

>The happiness of a Nigerian woman is tied to money.

> To get any Nigerian woman including the op. You stand a higher chance if you spend massively on her.

> This also means Nigerian women are like properties, commodities that can be bought via proxy i.e give her happiness aka money and you can have her.

> This also means as a guy all you have to freaking care about when in a relationship with a Nigerian woman is not her feeling nor her emotional need but how to make money, more money. You can cheat, abuse her, insult her and she will still worship you.

> This also means the happiness of a Nigerian women is tied to the Nigerian man. He is like a god who controls her happiness by how much he is willing to spend.

> This also mean as a guy you can marry as much women as you want... freaking sleep with the whole neigbohood just make sure you have enough "happiness" to give them. you have no problem.


I can go on and on...
But my question is as a Nigerian women is this a very good narrative for you.

A narrative of dependence and leeching...

Is money truly what you see in a man that defines whether you will be happy with him.

I cannot answer this question for you.

But personally I think women women go after men with money not because they seek happiness like the OP stated but because they seek to live a comfortable life free from worries (at least financial ones), the average women loves a man who can provide her with a sense of financial security ....

This I think is a better reason.

#Mathew Briggs

uj_sizzle:
Thank you for understanding the post and making an intelligent contribution

Caracta: She didn't say money brings happiness, did she?

uj_sizzle: Money is the next best thing after love. Seriously, lets not deceive ourselves here, money makes the world go round. And who says it can't buy you happiness?

jay bee: Clara Chime

Mynd_44:
She did not.

Caracta:

Oh no. I seriously disagree with that point. There are hundreds of people who have money but are far from being happy. Maybe i skipped that part and got carried away with the good points. Truth remains that if you solely depend on money for happiness, you are close to self-destruction.

Caracta: Material things will not make you happy. They can only get you excited and boost your ego. Just the way i feel about my new shoes. But am i happy because of the shoes? No. I'm happy because i found happiness in something immeasurable and immaterial.

Ty Lannister:
But there are also people that have money and are happy and who appear to be happier the more they have. Maybe they just knew what shape and color happiness takes and where to buy it and the others didn't know? *shrugs

Ty Lannister:
@bold: really weird thing to say. You're happy because you found happiness? In something immeasurable and immaterial? That's esoteric shyt, not meant for mortals to understand

You know, emotions or feelings might have different names but they feel alike. The thing you call excitement and ego boost is also called happiness by mere mortals

Caracta:

Lol. It's not the money that makes them happy. Yes, they are either contented, relaxed, excited or glad they can afford basic and non-basic things. But real happiness goes beyond that. Forget what they display on the surface.

Lol @ the bolded. Abi o. Maybe the colour is blue or orange

Caracta:

True that.

People are different. Let the mere mortals enjoy their happiness. A toast to that

Caracta: She didn't say money brings happiness, did she?

Matthew briggs: *Scracthes head*

From reading this epistle I am made the following deductions.

>Nigerian women are gold diggers because they want to live a happy life.

> Nigerian Women believe the richer a man is the more the chances of them been happy with the man because Money can buy happiness (at least in most cases)

>The happiness of a Nigerian woman is tied to money.

> To get any Nigerian woman including the op. You stand a higher chance if you spend massively on her.

> This also means Nigerian women are like properties, commodities that can be bought via proxy i.e give her happiness aka money and you can have her.

> This also means as a guy all you have to freaking care about when in a relationship with a Nigerian woman is not her feeling nor her emotional need but how to make money, more money. You can cheat, abuse her, insult her and she will still worship you.

> This also means the happiness of a Nigerian women is tied to the Nigerian man. He is like a god who controls her happiness by how much he is willing to spend.

> This also mean as a guy you can marry as much women as you want... freaking sleep with the whole neigbohood just make sure you have enough "happiness" to give them. you have no problem.


I can go on and on...
But my question is as a Nigerian women is this a very good narrative for you.

A narrative of dependence and leeching...

Is money truly what you see in a man that defines whether you will be happy with him.

I cannot answer this question for you.

But personally I think women women go after men with money not because they seek happiness like the OP stated but because they seek to live a comfortable life free from worries (at least financial ones), the average women loves a man who can provide her with a sense of financial security ....

This I think is a better reason.

#Mathew Briggs

Ty Lannister:
Real happiness is a strange concept. As far as the op's meaning goes, happiness is simply a feeling that people have because they have something, a pleasant feeling. Call it contentment, call it relaxation, call it gladness ( Isn't that a synonym for happiness? ), call it whatever. It's the same feeling and the op believes that Nigerian women think that money can give it to them.

I don't know anyone who knows what 'real happiness' is. Can you define it?

uj_sizzle: Lol Matthew Briggs, very smart
But don't you think chasing money because it's a guarantee of financial security(like you mentioned) is happiness?

Please define 'happiness' ?

Caracta
Who says happpiness is hard to find these days? I totally disagree. happpiness is in you. The truth is you can't give what you don't have. If you think true happpiness doesn't exist, then it's your fault because you have no happpiness left to give.

The moment you begin to understand that happpiness is beyond physical attraction, money or sex, that's when you can truly appreciate happpiness.

But we don't want happpiness. We want him/her to be rich, hot and sexy, speak polished English, etc. We think that's enough. That's why some people remain in abusive relationships...not because they love their partners...but because their partners are rich or famous.

You want to find happpiness? Be happy for yourself first. Discover the hidden sparkle in you. Never believe there is no true happpiness out there. Believe you can find happpiness. Change your orientation about life and people. Be positive. Be free. Know what you want. Define your expectations.


happpiness...true happpiness will find you. That's if you deserve it.

uj_sizzle:
The human mind has the ability to see what it wants to see, and not what is truly there

The thing tire me

Ty Lannister:
Real happiness is a strange concept. As far as the op's meaning goes, happiness is simply a feeling that people have because they have something, a pleasant feeling. Call it contentment, call it relaxation, call it gladness ( Isn't that a synonym for happiness? ), call it whatever. It's the same feeling and the op believes that Nigerian women think that money can give it to them.

I don't know anyone who knows what 'real happiness' is. Can you define it?

uj_sizzle:
Tyrion you are truly a wise man.
Happiness is the feeling of contentment, and money can buy that. Now whether that feeling can be sustained by money in the longrun is another matter altogether. But can money and all it gets make some people happy even momentarily? Yes it can.

Caracta: She didn't say money brings happiness, did she?

Uj_sizzle Why are 'Nigerian women' money conscious?
Really the answer isn't far fetched: They are simply pursuing happiness.

Caracta:

Definitely not mine.

Caracta:

I can only define my own happiness (perfectly). Serial killers and vampires derive joy in seeing/drinking blood or inflicting pains. So the OP got it right to an extent.

To each his own.

Caracta:

Definitely not mine.

Matthew briggs:

this is what she said


Does it mean they are pursuing the wrong thing.

uj_sizzle:
Tyrion you are truly a wise man.
Happiness is the feeling of contentment, and money can buy that. Now whether that feeling can be sustained by money in the longrun is another matter altogether. But can money and all it gets make some people happy even momentarily? Yes it can.

uj_sizzle:
But that's you my dear, which is why i say i speak for a proportion of the population.

Look at it this way:

What does an average person want?
What is happiness?

Q1. Food, Clothing, Shelter, Security....for some it ends here. For others it goes further to include not just any shelter but a mansion, not just any food but the best cuisines, not just any cloth but 'label'. You want education, but you don't want it in just any school. You want the best. Money provides all that.
You have dreams and aspirations that ultimately define happiness for you...it's a sense of fulfillment. But something must give. There must be a consideration. That's money. Look at it as the facilitator.

Some may decide to work and sweat to get what they want, and others may choose to attach themselves to people they think will help them get what they want(that's what we term gold digging) but what is the true motivation here? Happiness however short or prolonged the feeling lasts.


Q2. Happiness is simply an emotional feeling of contentment. It's that simple.

uj_sizzle: It really isn't so much the money than what it provides.



@Mynd, i already briefly addressed that in my post to Caracta.