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Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by adexsimply(m): 12:54pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
Matthew briggs: *Scracthes head*#Mathew Briggs |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by TyLannister: 12:54pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
uj_sizzle: |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by Mynd44: 12:58pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
Caracta: She didn't say money brings happiness, did she?She did not. uj_sizzle: Money is the next best thing after love. Seriously, lets not deceive ourselves here, money makes the world go round. And who says it can't buy you happiness? 4 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by Psychedelia(m): 12:59pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
jay bee: Clara Chime |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by jmoore(m): 1:02pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
"Emancipate yourselves from mental slavery" |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by Caracta(f): 1:02pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
Mynd_44: Oh no. I seriously disagree with that point. There are hundreds of people who have money but are far from being happy. Maybe i skipped that part and got carried away with the good points. Truth remains that if you solely depend on money for happiness, you are close to self-destruction. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by Caracta(f): 1:05pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
Material things will not make you happy. They can only get you excited and boost your ego. Just the way i feel about my new shoes. But am i happy because of the shoes? No. I'm happy because i found happiness in something immeasurable and immaterial. |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by TyLannister: 1:07pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
Caracta:But there are also people that have money and are happy and who appear to be happier the more they have. Maybe they just knew what shape and color happiness takes and where to buy it and the others didn't know? *shrugs |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by TyLannister: 1:11pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
Caracta: Material things will not make you happy. They can only get you excited and boost your ego. Just the way i feel about my new shoes. But am i happy because of the shoes? No. I'm happy because i found happiness in something immeasurable and immaterial.@bold: really weird thing to say. You're happy because you found happiness? In something immeasurable and immaterial? That's esoteric shyt, not meant for mortals to understand You know, emotions or feelings might have different names but they feel alike. The thing you call excitement and ego boost is also called happiness by mere mortals |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by Caracta(f): 1:12pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
Ty Lannister: Lol. It's not the money that makes them happy. Yes, they are either contented, relaxed, excited or glad they can afford basic and non-basic things. But real happiness goes beyond that. Forget what they display on the surface. Lol @ the bolded. Abi o. Maybe the colour is blue or orange |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by Caracta(f): 1:14pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
Ty Lannister: True that. People are different. Let the mere mortals enjoy their happiness. A toast to that |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by TyLannister: 1:19pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
Caracta:Real happiness is a strange concept. As far as the op's meaning goes, happiness is simply a feeling that people have because they have something, a pleasant feeling. Call it contentment, call it relaxation, call it gladness ( Isn't that a synonym for happiness? ), call it whatever. It's the same feeling and the op believes that Nigerian women think that money can give it to them. I don't know anyone who knows what 'real happiness' is. Can you define it? |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by TyLannister: 1:20pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
Caracta:They are at that |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by UjSizzle(f): 1:20pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
Caracta: She didn't say money brings happiness, did she?The human mind has the ability to see what it wants to see, and not what is truly there The thing tire me 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by dre11(m): 1:22pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
Matthew briggs: *Scracthes head* well said bro...... you said 2/3 of what i can deduced from the agurement and counter agurement on this said topic |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by Caracta(f): 1:23pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
Ty Lannister: I can only define my own happiness (perfectly). Serial killers and vampires derive joy in seeing/drinking blood or inflicting pains. So the OP got it right to an extent. To each his own. |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by Matthewbriggs(m): 1:23pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
uj_sizzle: Lol Matthew Briggs, very smart Financial security is different from happiness.. To define happpiness I think we should ask the following peeople. >1. The governors wife who was locked up by her husband in the state house, while he philaanders away... it took the intervention of the press to free her. > 2. The women with a husband who beats her black and blue but takes her on a expensive holidays oversees > 3. The beutiful woman who just discovered her banker husband has just infected her with an STD. due to his cheating life style >4. The beuatiful model who is married to a billionair, old enough to be her father. She sleeps arounnd becaus she can't help but feel disappointed every night because he is impotent. Going by your epistle, I think the real issue is that the average Nigerian woman has a twisted sense and manner of pursuing happines. for me caractas post some where on his forum summarizes my thoughts on happpiness.. PS. I replaced the word love with happiness. Caracta #Mathew briggs |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by Caracta(f): 1:26pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
uj_sizzle: You really need to clarify the issues raised. Me I don tire o. |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by UjSizzle(f): 1:28pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
Ty Lannister:Tyrion you are truly a wise man. Happiness is the feeling of contentment, and money can buy that. Now whether that feeling can be sustained by money in the longrun is another matter altogether. But can money and all it gets make some people happy even momentarily? Yes it can. |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by Caracta(f): 1:30pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
uj_sizzle: Definitely not mine. |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by Matthewbriggs(m): 1:34pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
Caracta: She didn't say money brings happiness, did she? this is what she said Uj_sizzle Why are 'Nigerian women' money conscious? Does it mean they are pursuing the wrong thing. |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by Mynd44: 1:39pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
Caracta:That's cos you might not be superficial, a lot of folks (women in this case) are and that's her argument 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by TyLannister: 1:39pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
Caracta:I don't believe that money can buy happiness. I don't believe that money is happiness. I believe that happiness is the emotion that accompanies achievement. It may be called myriad other things but it always is the result of getting something. When a woman believes that having money will make her happy I stay very far away from her especially if I have or plan to make money because she's deluded. When she gets the money, she'll find that itself is a responsibility and she won't want the responsibility so she'll destroy it. Then the illusion is shattered and she finds a new sucker to build new illusions for her. If she believes that money will buy happiness, it doesn't matter how much I've got in the bank or how many stocks I own and how many enterprises I own she'll go through it all like wildfire and still be unsatisfied (that is, unhappy) because happiness is not an object that can be bought with money. So I'll live at the other end of the world from her if I can help it. But an adult woman who understands responsibility will find happiness because the habit of fulfilling responsibility is the package in which happiness comes. Now that's a woman I'll build a goddamn kingdom for. Hell, I'll build a galactic empire for her if God gives me life long enough to do so. 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by Mynd44: 1:43pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
Ty Lannister, I am with you, I can not and will not accept that money can lead to happiness but the OP believes so or appears to. Changing people's mind or trying to change minds on NL is implausible so......... 3 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by UjSizzle(f): 1:43pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
Caracta:But that's you my dear, which is why i say i speak for a proportion of the population. Look at it this way: What does an average person want? What is happiness? Q1. Food, Clothing, Shelter, Security....for some it ends here. For others it goes further to include not just any shelter but a mansion, not just any food but the best cuisines, not just any cloth but 'label'. You want education, but you don't want it in just any school. You want the best. Money provides all that. You have dreams and aspirations that ultimately define happiness for you...it's a sense of fulfillment. But something must give. There must be a consideration. That's money. Look at it as the facilitator. Some may decide to work and sweat to get what they want, and others may choose to attach themselves to people they think will help them get what they want(that's what we term gold digging) but what is the true motivation here? Happiness however short or prolonged the feeling lasts. Q2. Happiness is simply an emotional feeling of contentment. It's that simple. |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by Caracta(f): 1:48pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
@TY Lannister, I supported the OP as regards the bolded in the sense that people are different and perhaps some people find happiness in money. I can't speak for them. I can only speak for myself. Nice points you have up there. Sometimes sef money can be a curse! |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by UjSizzle(f): 1:50pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
Matthew briggs:Depends on what leaves a person contented. Personally, it's more of the process than the end for me. I find happiness in the struggle...i like to know i was part of the reason i reached an expected end. But some just love the end *shrugs* I dunno, no judgement coming from this end. |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by Mynd44: 1:55pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
All has been said and bla bla bla, now this is to the OP, Define "Gold diggers"..... You said Nigerian women are not Gold diggers but pursuing happiness so what do you call "gold digging"? 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by TyLannister: 1:55pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
uj_sizzle:Why'd you call me Tyrion? What makes you I'm not Tywin? Yes, money can buy stuff that makes you happy. I bought a pair of shoes the other day. I still stare at my feet when I walk. I'm happy jare. But I don't believe that money buys happiness. I believe that some people believe that it does because they think that the stuff they buy makes them happy. But let's see. The shoes are suede. My city is fairly dusty. And the weather can wear shoes out quite easily. I'm gonna have to rack my brains to figure out how to keep the shoes good and working. I'm also gonna have to give them up sometimes when they are not the best option for a movement. Only the ability to respond correctly with respect to them is gonna, well, keep me happy. So, while I agree that buying a new Porsche or gold-plated BB makes some vain girl happy as a lark, I do not agree that she can stay happy (which, I suppose, is the whole point in pursuing happiness) unless she buys more and more and more until the money's gone. And when it is (and it will be unless somebody teaches her to grow up or dumps her) so's the happiness. So if love is fleeting, this happiness thing might be worse unless the female is grown-up and responsible. 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by jaybee3(m): 1:56pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
uj_sizzle:Why can't all of that be achieved individually without having the need to rely on someone else with a promise of love to achieve them? I mean all these are common goals each and every human being make at some point in their respective lives. The key difference is the self worth and so called happiness derived from achieving these goals are of importance only to the person setting the goals. What gives? 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by UjSizzle(f): 1:57pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
It really isn't so much the money than what it provides. @Mynd, i already briefly addressed that in my post to Caracta. |
Re: Nigerian Women Aren't Gold-diggers, They Are Only Pursuing Happiness. by Mynd44: 1:59pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
uj_sizzle: It really isn't so much the money than what it provides.a quote won't hurt will it? 2 Likes |
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