only God knows what he really want now. . . just confuse

really scared of men now.

u sound traumatized. how did u guys fall out?

he want to be sure he can dump you and take you back!
and if possible dump you again!

you don't judge a man from the same yard-stick,any life is full of ups and down just ask God for direction sha

opuro:

he want to be sure he can dump you and take you back!
and if possible dump you again!

Thats not true.

First of all, why did he leave. Why did you guys split

Then how serious is he about wanting you back?? Is he being causal about it, or do you sincerity and remorse in his eyes

Thridly, you know him more that anybody here. Take a look back and make a decicion. Is he worth the stress. Usually when a guy walks, its best to let him go. Even if he comes crawling back, its better not to go back. Cos the realinonship dint work out in the first place for a reason, and its sometimes a mistake to think things will change. They never do!!!

I think the OP had a thread somewhere about why they split. I can't be bothered to find it unless she comes back here to summarise the reason for the split.

@ Poster

Depending on what caused the first separation, there is a possibility things might still be able to work out.

Like Ujujoan has said, You dated him so only you can judge _{(based on experience)} and know if the relationship is worth giving a second chance or walking away from.


I want my ex back, but its just for the sex. _{Geez she really knew how I loved it.}

thats what am talking about
sex can be the reason for a guy to dump a babe and go for her again and again

We dated 4 6month without sex, I decided to walk away cos I discovered he was going out with someone else back then in university, he was in his final yr while I was in my first yr, he tried 2 bring me back but I refused. Now I got a surprised call from him asking me to come so we can see and startup something. . . .

sex is the c of o
of any relationship
so the guy never shag you and you are complaining he dumped you?

be-nice:

We dated 4 6month without sex, I decided to walk away because I discovered he was going out with someone else back then in university, he was in his final yr while I was in my first yr, he tried 2 bring me back but I refused. Now I got a surprised call from him asking me to come so we can see and startup something. . . .

Do you still love him or should I say "have feeling for him"? If you do the go back to him.

He wants you back despite the fact that he has never had sex with you, then it is either the money or he really does still love you. _{(my opinion)}

its like 5yrs now i walked out of the relationship,

its not as if am rich nor he is rich 2, i dont realy knw wat exactly he want from me.but he is sounding like someone dat want to setle down,but u knw guys wit there swt mouth now, they meet a girl and tell her they want to setle down while wat they want is to get her down and leave her heartbrkn.

Either ways its your call.

Are you desperate?? then grab him.

i cant be desperate cos am ok as a young lady, i mean beautiful, i have evry thing a man will want in a woman as a wife.

be sure of this one thing,no matter how you make-up with an ex,that same thing that broke you guys up in the first place will still keep on surfacing and make you guys breakup again.

It has been 5 years. He has prob. grown and matured. He now see the value in you and this could be a very good thing. I am sure he has dated other women over the 5 years and it prob. took dating them to see what he loss in you.

I would go see him, tell him you want to take is slow and see where things are. Be honest, let him know what your apprehensions are about dating him again, ask him what his intentions are, what caused him to call you and take it one day at a time.

Get to know him all over again and let him get to know you all over again.

Watch him closely and gauge what it is that he wants from you.

Good luck and keep us posted.

I think you shuld just fix an appointment and hear this guy out.
There and then you can factor out what he really wants
It will be a fatal mistake to agree to go back to him straight away.
Take sometime though secretely to observe him. Just give him the impression that all is well
But at the same time, see if he has the qualities you seek in your prospective hubby.
Else just politely take the walk.

From your explanation above, it doesn't seem there was a bitter quarrel before you left him
There is always a second chance in an affair after which it shouldn't be given any more trial.

My advice; JUST HEAR HIM OUT AND ACCESS HIM.

yes there was no bitter quarrel

thanks all 4 ur advice