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Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by Nobody: 5:20pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
Pls, I need your suggestions and advice here. Am someone that loves to give a man some space and then letting him do what he wants. But trust me, I could be a great detector. I could monitor everything you do (I do this stlyishly because I don't want to be called possessive). Its rather very hard for my guy to cheat on me witout me finding out. Very hard! Because I must find out. Ok now listen, the last time I caught him cheating on me was 6 months ago. I was out of town for 1 week and He brought a girl home. Ok when I came back, it took me just 2weeks and I found out he was with someone. I confronted him, normally he would want to lie but later he said the truth and confessed how everything happened. He said it was just a mere fling. Ok! Now we were chatting normally some days back, and he was like can I let him have a fling? Thats is, I would be aware that he is with some woman and won't complain. My first answer was a resounding NO! So he went ahead to say he does not want to keep lying to me anymore because one lie begets plenty lies. Thus he wants to tell me when he is having a fling with a girl. So, matured guys and girls. What do you think abt this? I prefer answers from matured minds. Would you let your spouse flirt?? 2 Likes |
Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by hrmkz: 5:21pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
hmmm. |
Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by watchthisposter(m): 5:27pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
Wait o, lemme get this straight, you guys are married and he wants to have a fling and he told you to your face and you did not slap the y-chromosome outta him? You must be an exceptionally nice person. What is he looking for in those other girls that you don't have? If he feels you are not good enough for him, he can do one... 56 Likes
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Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by Nobody: 6:39pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
Op, tell your hubby that you will allow him to have a fling only when he allows you to have one too. In other words, you guys should opt for an open marriage. Problem solved. O.k, let me be serious. i think your hubby is not used to staying with only one woman at a time or has never being faithful to any lady he has dated before you and has never being faithful to you. Now what i am amazed at is the level of tolerance you have shown towards this attitude. I feel you gave him so much freedom, that he translated it to having side chicks while dating you. But you chose to turn a blind eye to it in the name of 'Giving him his space because he is a Man'. Dnt get me wrong. A man needs his space BUT NOT the kind of space where he is free to keep side chicks and become unfaithful. No man would ever allow that from a woman. Now he saw how comfortable you were with his lifestyle and so had the AUDACITY to ask you to your face if you can allow him to have flings!! A man can never have the audacity to ask you of such if you have never shown that you are o.k with it. As for your question, I CAN NEVER allow flings in my marriage. I WILL NEVER MARRY A MAN WHO REASONS THIS WAY. I can never marry a man whose lifestyle is this way. Flings in a marriage is an evidence that something is wrong with that marriage. 52 Likes |
Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by Nobody: 6:44pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
If you are not married to him yet please dont marry him and years down theline disturb God with prayers on what you could have avoided. He is not marriage material, he does not understand or respect marriage, if women would refuse to settle for less they would stop getting less. 27 Likes |
Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by beeevan: 7:23pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
Are you really asking this? I doubt if you really love this man. 7 Likes |
Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by Kanwulia: 6:03am On Jul 22, 2014 |
Heck yeah! I resemble ugly MGBEKE wife wey dey beg for blokos and chop-chop-money? The best way to deal with such things is to IGNORE! Make the man or woman dey flirt dey go na! E go soon jam blackmailer wey go post im toto or blokos for YouTube/Facebook ke!!! If you make it a big deal, OKORO or MGBEKE go begin to feel funky! Sha-sha make the flirt aim higher o. A downgrade would be a MAJOR H-INSULT!!!! 4 Likes |
Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by jayseehe(m): 7:03am On Jul 22, 2014 |
Life is like Nairaland. People will like your problems and comment, but no one will solve them because everyone is busy updating theirs. 28 Likes |
Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by Smartsyn(m): 7:04am On Jul 22, 2014 |
hmmmm 2 Likes |
Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by justi4jesu(f): 7:04am On Jul 22, 2014 |
Hell Nooooo....Who does that? 1 Like |
Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by MilesLamar(m): 7:06am On Jul 22, 2014 |
Did u take anytin b4 creatin diz topic?? 5 Likes |
Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by SummyL: 7:07am On Jul 22, 2014 |
Your spouse really needs deliverance form ToToliasis o. Abi aint all of 'em the same |
Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by natureblack(m): 7:07am On Jul 22, 2014 |
Simple,just tell him he can if only he would allow you open a business-center in the bed-room. 3 Likes |
Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by Nobody: 7:07am On Jul 22, 2014 |
No it is not ok to flirt with another person whether your spouses are present or not.It is a matter of respect there is a difference between two parties looking at the opposite sex and engaging in inappropriate behavior...It is not acceptable in my marriage/relationship and will never be...If you want to flirt you should stay single..people in committed relationships undermine the value of that relationship by allowing someone else to "think" that they can share for a moment what is promised to your partner...Why should some other girl think that I would be willing to allow her the same benefits that my wife / fiancee who has proven herself deserving of my respect should get to be with me...I wouldn't encourage it and belittle her in such a disrespectful way. 7 Likes |
Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by femmmmi94: 7:07am On Jul 22, 2014 |
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Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by Nobody: 7:08am On Jul 22, 2014 |
Well? permit him if he permits you. Ask him to allow u too *even when you myt have no intention * |
Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by chelseabmw(m): 7:08am On Jul 22, 2014 |
Op You nor know who Boiz be.... you can catch fire.... sorry you nor fit catch me say I dey cheat Dats if I decide to cheat |
Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by MissyDivah(f): 7:08am On Jul 22, 2014 |
Yes and No 8 Likes
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Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by eluquenson(m): 7:08am On Jul 22, 2014 |
This isn't a marriage You guys are just deceiving each other 3 Likes |
Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by Ayanko(m): 7:09am On Jul 22, 2014 |
Its better he lies to you than telling it to your face. 6 Likes |
Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by Guidette(f): 7:09am On Jul 22, 2014 |
Marriage by force! @OP Na only you waka come? In fact let the man bring the girl to the house, arrange food and drinks for them, make the bed for them and sit down outside the door with soft drink after they finish their tinzzz. Nawa for u o..... 6 Likes |
Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by Fatdon(m): 7:10am On Jul 22, 2014 |
Hmmmm for me, both of us cheat. 3 Likes |
Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by Nobody: 7:10am On Jul 22, 2014 |
Am the jealous type, i can't allow it 2 Likes |
Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by xp17(m): 7:10am On Jul 22, 2014 |
the next thing he ll ask you is 3-some. my mum said it easier to eliminate a weed at the infantry stage . if you continue , you are going in for a disaster that is about to happen. #BringBackHerBrain# vex outta thread. metcheew! 16 Likes |
Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by Nobody: 7:10am On Jul 22, 2014 |
I really think you shouldn't allow that. Cos me I won't oooo. One day he will eventually pack his luggages 1 Like |
Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by Brymo: 7:11am On Jul 22, 2014 |
Dats foolishness, y wud i allow my fiancee to flirt. |
Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by GeneralShepherd(m): 7:11am On Jul 22, 2014 |
Just tell him this in olamide's voice, 'Story for the gods'. 1 Like |
Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by superior1: 7:12am On Jul 22, 2014 |
[size=13pt]No...eating your cake and having it is not possible[/size] @OP, the guy will soon tell you he was just having a fling with you are you so bad that you cant get yourself a responsible man 3 Likes |
Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by freshness2020: 7:12am On Jul 22, 2014 |
Hell no! This is Nigeria not France! |
Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by samnificent(m): 7:12am On Jul 22, 2014 |
common sense will even give u de answer.. 3 Likes |
Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by ibdeals1(m): 7:14am On Jul 22, 2014 |
m sure you guys are nt married 3 Likes |
Re: Would You Let Your Spouse Flirt? by Nobody: 7:15am On Jul 22, 2014 |
Marriage is a sacred bond. If u guys r married, then i believe u already knw d answer. If u guys r not, i still believe u knw d answer. |
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