It is a good thing that you guys have forgiven her; but it would be good for you if you keep her at arms length before she brings trouble to your own home - which is now your 1st point of responsibility.



#some people grow old, but they don't grow up.

[quote author=Siena post=27266516][color=Blue]I'm going to be blunt here. The thread starter, her siblings and father are better off without this woman. Yes, I won't use the word "mother", because she isn't one. She's a selfish, mean blood-sucking leach.

No child deserve to be denied a mother's love. I'm a guy with 3 children. I miss my kids when I'm at work, despite knowing I'll see them later in the day. I can't imagine abandoning them under ANY pretext.

This lady and her siblings can forgive this woman if they want to. However they should only do so if they feel that way, not because they feel they have to forgive out of a sense of duty.

I'm really happy Timsbee and her siblings have moved on, and now have families of their own. As for their father, that man is my hero. God will continue to bless him, and he in turn will continue to enrich his children with knowledge, wisdom and love.






Tanks for d points u av just made....
We re all keeping our respectful distance from her nd we now focus our love mainly on our Dad




It is very painful dat my Mum is not d kind of woman i was xpecting. I somtimes wish she could just change but........






I dont think she can

I can only imagine the pain that you are feeling due to your mother's actions. The thing is you don't owe your mother anything. It was her duty as your parent to take care of you and that is something that she failed at. However, she is still your mother and you should always love and respect her. Parents take care of children. Children don't take care of parents, especially when the parent is healthy and has a husband that can provide for her. You and your siblings have families that you all must take care of FIRST! If you all decide that you want to assist her, you do that only after your household needs are met. What's this statement about her not liking your choice of a husband due to him not being a millionaire? Well, looks as though she needs to find her a millionaire first before trying to impose that idea! Take care of yourself, continue to love and support your husband, and continue to be a great mother to your children. Your family comes first always.Best wishes to you and your siblings.

timsbee:
I will just go straight to d point, nd please my pple, gud advice will help me tanks...... I grew up with my dad nd two siblings, we r two girls nd a boy... My mum left us wen i was just six months old nd i didint know her atall. So dat leaves us with dad. Wen clocked 21, my big bro heard a news wen he travelled home dat she now lives somwhere in d east. Out of xcitement, i nd my big sis went to visit her. She has re-married nd has 5kids nd still divorced. Since we met her till now all she ever asks us is money for her needs(we r all married with kids now) but she has never been remorse for once for her deed. My question now is: i still feel hurt by her nd it really pains my heart. M now a mother too nd i cant leave my kids a day nd worst part is dat she is not satisfied with my husband status all she wants is a millioneer. I feel so hurt i cant forgive her atall. Wat should i do?

Wow!!!

Which kind question you still dey ask so? Abeg put her on a blast! Give her only when it's convenient! You don't even have to stay familiar with her lest she sees the status of your husband. That woman has no entitlement around u: not money, not opinion. Lubbish!

Don't give her anything.

Don't acknowledge her as anything in your life, and definitely don't let her be part of any decision making regarding your life.

She lost that right years ago. I wonder why people can not just accept the fact that some people are just best out of your life.