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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Rukkydelta(f): 4:52pm On Nov 23, 2015 |
whitecloth: so this dude is also an introvert |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Rukkydelta(f): 4:55pm On Nov 23, 2015 |
buccunmie:seriously you need to learn how to get along with females |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by buccunmie(m): 9:25pm On Nov 23, 2015 |
Rukkydelta:i really love to buh its jst kinda hard atimes. won't mind if u can put me thru tho. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by nnamdiosu(m): 10:33pm On Nov 23, 2015 |
buccunmie: I can help u |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by nnamdiosu(m): 10:53am On Nov 24, 2015 |
muphasar11: stay young if you're rock and rolling. all the best things in life are free. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by olagbemi118(m): 3:35pm On Nov 24, 2015 |
Since I returned from serving my father land to my uncle's place at Lagos, I've always - at least for the greater part of the day remain indoor. It got to a point that his wife was like, "Uncle, are you okay? Don't u ever get tired of staying indoor?" I've been there for over a month and their neighbours don't know they have a visitor. I enjoy the company of my phone and at least a novel to read so much than sitting and talking with people. 2 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by HCF(m): 7:57pm On Nov 24, 2015 |
HaneefahRN: Lolz Let me add some other traits you didn't remember to mention; You don't like being taken for granted,just as u DON'T take people for granted. You cherish sincerity because you are also very faithful and trustworthy too. You are conscientious. You prefer issue-based 'talks' rather than mundane conversations.... When you talk,u could be brutally frank...You're more of a thinker than talker!...... If I got my speculations right, don't ask me how I got to know . 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by HCF(m): 7:59pm On Nov 24, 2015 |
@all. It is not weird being an introvert/melancholy. The day you understand who you are,by appreciating your strengths and weaknesses,u regain a kind of paradise. We live in a world of showbiz/amusement. We grew up having a distorted view of what being sociable is all about and the media hasn't really helped matters either. If by nature u are not gregarious or outgoing, u are tagged 'unsociable'...If u fail to follow the trend,u are ostracized socially and sometimes psychologically. This has made many Introverts,join the bandwagon,...the end result is that u would be made answerable to other people's weaknesses. But did you know that,most extroverts admire and are often attracted to introverts?. Why is this so?. Because you are thoughtful,you possess the foresight,the ingenuity,the industry, commitment to responsibilities, candour, above all the Calm and reserved mien all of which u often have in higher degrees than an average extrovert. In short, Strive to excel at what u do, put in your best..participate in activities that you love to be a part of. It could be sporting activities, showcasing of talents,etc...Don't allow people's opinions stand in your way. Remember,a majority of those who have made great impacts in the world were/are Introverts/Melancholy. 6 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by HaneefahRN(f): 8:44pm On Nov 24, 2015 |
HCF:Lolz, U got me, but am I such a gud girl? Hmmm, now I'm curious. I'll av to overlook ur last paragraph, sorry mister, u can't rouse my curiosity and just slip thru. Oya come and confess how u came abt ur speculations |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by buccunmie(m): 8:56pm On Nov 24, 2015 |
nnamdiosu:i'll appreciate dat bro |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by whitecloth: 9:10pm On Nov 24, 2015 |
HCF: some introvert are phlegmatic, hope you know, nice write up and many of your words are on point. 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by HCF(m): 10:45pm On Nov 24, 2015 |
whitecloth:Yes, you are right 'some introverts are phlegmatic '. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by HCF(m): 11:02pm On Nov 24, 2015 |
HaneefahRN: Lolz, the traits don't really make u good or bad. It is just who you are. But they are VIRTUES common among Introverts especially Melancholies. On how I came about it,it is just psychoanalysis. You gave yourself away with the description you gave about your personality. But, since u asked me to 'confess', here's my confession; I have the same set of traits, so I could easily relate to what you said!!! |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by nnamdiosu(m): 12:05am On Nov 25, 2015 |
buccunmie:k. but u gat to specifically tell me wat u want me to help u on. conversation starting? socializing etc |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 11:31am On Nov 25, 2015 |
nnamdiosu: You've gat everything that you need 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Empressgifted(f): 1:00pm On Nov 25, 2015 |
HCF:This is just Me! The worst part is the part where I'm taken for granted, it hurts like hell which is why I almost blinded my classmate in JSS 2. I thank God I'm beginning to let go of bitterness, I nearly destroyed the girl's life which if I did I wouldn't have forgiven myself. For now my method is never say YES always, for instance my roommate asked for my laptop to watch movies yesterday and I told her I also need it for a movie (I actually needed it for a movie) so I can't give it out. The normal me wouldn't mind giving it out, I mean it's mine and the movie is there for me to watch any other time but NO you just have to put up some resistance for them to know that hey! Someone is actually in there. It kind of doesn't feel comfortable being who you are not but people just have to know their boundaries with you and if you don't create one they are ever ready to override you. They will think "after all she's quiet", what they don't get is she's quiet doesn't mean she's Stupid. 3 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by HaneefahRN(f): 1:04pm On Nov 25, 2015 |
HCF:Cool, but u will agree they are nice virtues not many pple have. Funny thing is I haven't totally agreed I av a melancholic temperament, don't knw why cos some parts really fits me well apart from the overtly sensitive, organized,etc . I like things in order but not like it's a compulsive thing for me, and I can procastinate alot but not in a way that affects my outcome or do a task right at the min, depends on my mood, I like setting alarms for tasks and stick to it. I dnt mind things not going my way when I see there is a better alternative. And I'm definitely not self-centered nor selfish, frugal,yes but not stingy etc . I think I'm Mel/Phleg. Lolz, I love the confession part, nice to av someone with similar traits. So, hmmm, psychoanalysis? Are u a psychologist? 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by HaneefahRN(f): 1:21pm On Nov 25, 2015 |
Empressgifted:Lolz, u made me remember myself back then in boarding house. I think that's the phlegmatic part, not wanting to say NO to pple. I also have the same problem, I don't mind giving my things out, even if I needed it. I was mother Christmas, I wld give out my provision to pple even when I knew they probably had theirs and were keeping it. Or borrow pple money even when their pocket money is more than mine, wc they might not pay back. When no one wants to take up a task, I find myself volunteering for it, etc. The funny thing is even though I had less, I never want for things and I don't like borrowing from pple. But one thing I don't like is someone taking my things wtout telling me or not even bothering to (they cld be like, sebi it's Haneefah) that can get me mad and I don't take light to insults, While I was younger I was violent, but now very calm, becos I learnt to overlook some things. When I get angry, the person and everyone who knows me, wld know the person definitely bleeped up big time, and wld castigate the person even b4 hearing anything. Being quiet doesn't mean one is stupid. Just be urself, and don't be overly sacrificial for pple who aren't worth it, think of urself too. And when someone does somethn u don't like let them know u don't like it and they shldn't try it wt u again. 3 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by HCF(m): 5:26pm On Nov 25, 2015 |
Empressgifted: Thank God u didn't make someone go blind o.. But really,I understand u perfectly. You see,oftentimes we come across people who are very exploitative in nature. They capitalize on your perceived weaknesses to achieve their own goals and usually, melancholies are their victims,because they(Introverts/Melancholies/Phlegmatics) find it difficult saying the two-letter-word, 'NO'. For instance, Melancholies can go all out to render financial assistance to People even when they themselves are not having enough to cater for their needs...just because they don't want to hurt their 'friends'. But, are these 'Friends' really 'Friendly'?.... Exploitation(Attempted or successful) from such category of people makes you see who your real friends are...and u would be able to seive friends from mere acquitances pretending to be friends. In short, real friends wont exploit you because of your perceived 'weakness', they wont make u feel guilty for saying NO, rather, they would genuinely respect ur stance/decision and this would make you feel real good inside. So, your 'new' method is okay . When next someone requests for something,and sparing such would bring some level of discomfort don't hesitate to say NO..this, u can do bluntly, indirectly or diplomatically, but you must be Sincere.... 3 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by HCF(m): 5:36pm On Nov 25, 2015 |
HaneefahRN: Lolz,....Yes u are quite right!. These Virtues are not so common these days. They are gradually going into extinction,like species of black rhinos....So,u can take pride in being among the few with the golden virtues . However, I think u are mel/sang. and not mel/phleg. ( though i can't know u more than urself sha.lolz). Let me use one trait of phlegmatics to corroborate my point; Phlegmatics are so peace loving that they don't like arguments, but here you are trying to justify your line of arguement..! ...And this doesn't mean I am a Psychologist, I am NOT o...but I av read quite a number of books on human behaviour...and observing some of those things in people could be quite interesting and revealing!. It makes u understand people,hence there would be little friction between you and others. Its fun sha! 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Empressgifted(f): 6:00pm On Nov 25, 2015 |
HCF: Thanks Dear. You give some people chance they come back for chances. That won't stop me from helping those that are sincerely in need when I can but offering any form of help at my discomfort is a no no. 2 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by HaneefahRN(f): 8:03pm On Nov 25, 2015 |
HCF:Lolz, yh, I guess that's what my friends like abt me. Mel/Sang? That's like combining an introvert and extrovert temperament. I dnt necessarily like arguing but I do esp when I know I'm right, and I can be confrontational too. That's cool, I want to join ur clique, what books will u recommend? I know it wld be fun and interesting, it'll be like being in on secrets of the human psyche. Like why pple behave the way they do. 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by whitecloth: 9:02pm On Nov 25, 2015 |
HaneefahRN:Will you try ' why you act the way you do by Tim lahaye 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by HCF(m): 9:53pm On Nov 25, 2015 |
HaneefahRN:Ok..Haneefah...you can start with the book ' Why u act the way you do' -Tim LaHaye. Also, by the same author is the book 'Spirit controlled Temperament' Personality Patterns by Lana Bateman Personality Puzzle -Florence and Marita Littauer. Personality Plus by Florence Littauer. You can get some of these books online...and other relevant texts too can be read/downloaded online..... by the time u finish reading at least two, especially 'why u act d way u do' as suggested by whitecloth..u might be convinced that added to melancholic traits u also have traits of a sanguine! 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by HaneefahRN(f): 7:13pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
HCF:Thank u so much. I really enjoyed discussing wt u. 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by HaneefahRN(f): 7:14pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
whitecloth:Thank u sir |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by HCF(m): 8:59pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
HaneefahRN:You're welcome...It was fun for me too. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 9:37am On Nov 28, 2015 |
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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Bidexluv(f): 6:36pm On Dec 13, 2015 |
Hello Gud evening all How do you deal with insecurity and trust as an introvert? Wish you all a Merry 12 days to xmas 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by feran15(m): 6:41pm On Dec 13, 2015 |
what goes on in here? 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Olarewajub: 9:48pm On Dec 13, 2015 |
feran15:A lot. Are you an introvert? |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by feran15(m): 10:24pm On Dec 13, 2015 |
Olarewajub: i guess so... think i qualify by some standards 1 Like |
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