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Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by Nobody: 2:39pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
Mondisweets: do enlighten us all on how the OP was achieving that by saying achidie "lacks class" and claiming that she has a " tasteless class of performance." Perhaps you would do better to direct your question to the OP. He is in the best position to give you an answer. That is assuming you still dont have an answer from reading his already meticulously explicit article. |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by Nobody: 2:42pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
Kay17: Are you asking a question or you are asking a question? |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by Kay17: 2:42pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
MrAnony1: 1. A right to abortion. Men are allowed full privacy rights, while women are denied the right to abort. 2. A woman lacks a corporate status in a marriage. The man assumed to speak for the union. Her identity dissolves in the marriage. 3. Labour laws in Nigeria are tailored to the needs of men. The legal obligations an employer has to the male employee do not exactly match those required for a woman. 4. The child girl is not fully guaranteed a right to education. Cultural regimes which indulge in early/child marriage are tolerated. 5. The woman doesn't have the right to free speech as a man. Her right is limited to cultural/moral/public considerations. And the typical post colonial African idea of a woman, is a housekeeper. I will be back with more. 1 Like |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by Bootybuttchic(f): 2:52pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
Amhappy:u still have no idea...smh |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by ihedinobi2: 3:13pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
Kay17: Yes, African femininists know too little while the chauvinists are classy, tact, with sophisticated minds (a mild joke) and deeply knowledgeable. The chauvinist in question (the OP) believes Teju Cole is a better writer than Adichie such an insult!! How knowledgeable is that?!I'm about 70% sure now that you're a woman |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by ihedinobi2: 4:37pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
damiso: It's hard to disagree with you about the personal attacks. I feel personally that the author could have been more graceful but Chimamanda has been quite insolent herself toward the Nigerian populace and the African man in general so it is really hard to consider her unworthy of the abrasive remarks. Still I think he should have avoided references to her personal life even for the purposes of making sense of her stance. About equality though... Man is not equal to woman or else they would both be man or woman. Things that are not the same should not be treated the same. The fact that in the absence of one, another might be substituted for uses that the other ordinarily serves does not make them the same. A woman can in some things be used as a man and vice versa but for all that, they have their different primary functions. Children are better off raised to know these functions and fill them according to their gender. It is not right to make one into both. Everyone should be equipped to fill their primary roles. The secondary abilities we pick up should help us better fill our places in life. |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by ihedinobi2: 5:13pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
damiso:Lol. I love your posts and your reasoning is very accommodating for intellectual exercise. I understand and agree with you. However, it really is a big deal to have a woman in a sensitive position in your business when marriage, pregnancy or kids could change affect her availability even for just a little while. It is important that women appreciate that. I don't think it is impossible to make the best of a woman's ability in a business and still not lose because of all the possibilities attached to her feminity but it would take a very talented manager to pull it off at a profit to everyone involved. Therefore women should not consider employers' preference for men as an affront to their womanhood. I don't think that men should consider a preference for a female to serve as a caregiver an affront to their manhood either (although caregivers are not accorded adequate enough respect, in my own opinion.) |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by Nobody: 5:17pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
callmenow: It is an insult to compareThis will be someone's mother tomorrow. One day, one fool will go down on his knees and beg this one to marry him?! And no Iweala is still alive. But then again: Gonzaga: I know for a fact that AfricanCallmenow, this quote is particularly true about you. 1 Like |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by ihedinobi2: 5:19pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
pickabeau1: those climes, the cost is subsidised by the govtGood point. Still, it is tough to hire a woman when it is such an economic risk to do so. That is the point. |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by ihedinobi2: 5:35pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
pickabeau1:Actually he has. If you consider that feminism as a concept is merely about the well-being of the female folk, then it is not a bad concept and it can also be abused. If someone decides to go beyond looking out for women and starts pushing for female dominance at the expense of any other person's wellbeing, then they can hide under the umbrella of feminism and push an agenda that actually negates it. That is what abuse is. That abuse is what he calls radical feminism. |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by pickabeau1: 5:38pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
ihedinobi2: So whats the solution ihedinobi2: ok.. when i have a bit of time.. i will jawjaw with him |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by Nobody: 5:38pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
pickabeau1: Dat dude does not know the profile of Ngozi, funmi kuti, dora akunyili and the gallant Oby Ezekwesili (madam due process) else he won't be saying that Sh1T... |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by pickabeau1: 5:40pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
njokusboy: I am surprised that a nigerian woman ranks adichie ahead of a Minsiter of Finance and ex-World Bank Executive But heck... that some ladies for u |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by ihedinobi2: 5:41pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
freshdude2: It's definitely not cruelty to prefer hiring men but it could lead to other social and workplace issues if there's no balance. And like Gonzalo said, even in Finland, women are hired, sometimes, for the sake of diversity. Water tends to find it's own level and eventually natural selection just sort of happens. This is especially seen where Gonzaga claims that despite Finnish women's access to public funds to pursue worthwhile ventures, they don't particularly abound in furthering the Finnish or world economy.Of course, it is neither cruel nor unfair. But it may be necessary to remind feminists of how it isn't unfair. |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by ihedinobi2: 5:44pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
coogar:If his definition of feminism is correct then he's right, coogar. Do you think he's wrong? |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by Nobody: 5:48pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
njokusboy:I find it hard to comprehend that comment or the idea behind it. |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by damiso(f): 5:50pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
ihedinobi2: Ihedinobi can I ask what these primary functions are? Me teaching my son to cook is a skill that I want him to learn like swimming as if push comes to shove he can at least fix HIMSELF something to eat.My husband is a very good cook but I still do most of the cooking but if for some reason I am unable to I know the children will not eat MCdonalds everyday. Me teaching my daughter to cook and not my son because it Is a girl or woman's 'primary function' is actually not being fair to him.He could eventually never WANT to cook but at least he would know HOW to . My daughter should learn how to fix a light bulb not necessarily cos her husband will not do it but just so she is not helpless if he is unable or not around to do it.Last winter the radiator in our room was not working and hubby was not around(if he was around wetin consain me ) this was like 11pm and I called British gas who could not get an engineer out for another couple of hours.The guy on the phone asked if we had bled the radiator in a while and I said I don't know and he told me how to do it.I actually did it and it worked.My husband could not believe I did it myself.But it really was not that hard.Some women would wait for their husbands.My husband says he knows I can do a lot of things but I pretend not to .Same way I am confident enough to travel and leave him with the kids. I don't believe teaching children life skills should be gender biased( my opinion).My son will not leave his plates in the sink for his sister cos she is the girl lai lai I won't take it.Wash your plate.Not saying she can't wash his plates but it will not be an entitled assumption due her being the girl.I will tell my daughter to close her legs(it's just being decent) but I will also twist my sons ears if I find him sagging his trousers with half of his boxers in full view(that again is a matter of decency). 4 Likes |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by Nobody: 5:50pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
ihedinobi2:indeed. That's why we have you, sir. |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by coogar: 6:53pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
ihedinobi2: feminism is a fraud! it doesn't matter the number of types of feminism anyone can put forward.....if the concept itself is fraudulent, any structure put on it would be null & void to me. the movement was socially engineered by the government to drive women out en masse and turn them to capitalist slaves. did rockefeller not admit to aaron russo that the feminist movement was socially engineered to push women into the workforce to increase tax revenues and corporate profits? now, bcause of women entering the workplace en masse in the 1960s, the price of homes and vehicles skyrocketed. the big corporations could now charge more for homes and vehicles because working women created the dual income household. as the income increased so did the tax rates.... 1 Like |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by ihedinobi2: 7:09pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
mcino:What's the difference between your assumptions about the OP and Nwikwu's profiling of Adichie? I think the OP should also have been more careful with his words but look how you chose to tell him that. It's hard to say that you're not a tactful pickabeau1 hater. 2. The writer is a hater, otherwise remarks like "Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s ‘feminist’ views, as well as towards her [b]tasteless style of performance", especially the bolded wouldn't have been necessary. There are lots of such remarks, like "Unquestionably, Adichie has been everywhere with her opinions in recent years—ill-conceived as they are doomed to be—plus ever-willing to present them in manners that confirm a thorough lack of tact and class" and "Yes indeed, it’s OK to have strong opinions, but nothing confirms Adichie’s lack of a full integration into her American society—despite having spent many years there—than her consistently unashamed display of words betraying a lack of class.", which depicts a loser, who tries every inch to find a mate in pulling others to his un-existent world. His definition and understanding of class is sour and ill-driven.Again, how is this different in kind from Nwikwu's own profiling of Adichie? 3. He is petty, and that is why he made such a statement, "And so I’ll go ahead to remark that according to my Igbo culture, when a woman goes about town or country acting out of control and spewing sheer arrogance as has been the case with Adichie the writer, sensible adults tend to point fingers of blame at one ultimate culprit—a vacuum—and it specifically has to do with the absence of a real man in the woman’s life, either as a strong father figure, or as a strong and influential brother or partner. One could say ‘husband’ instead of ‘partner’ if they will. (And I add that this fourth is also the final vacuum.)". For Christ's sake, anybody that is trying, without bias to counter somebody's argument wouldn't go this far in attacking her person. This is petty and lacks the'class' that the writer touted, a handful times in this article.Again, how is this...? 4. The writer is an intellectual fraud. He tried to make the audience (and Nairaland audience actually fell for it) feel that Adichie was referring to the men, when he quoted Adichie to have in this; "Her reason was that as she struggled with multiple bags in a hotel elevator, citizens stood by and watched who could have helped or simply offered to assist her. Such a thing wouldn’t have happened in her beloved Nigeria, she said". His background information on this quote did not indicate in any way that Adichie was referring to men not helping him. Adichie could well be referring to the unfriendliness of the swedish. It doesn't matter whether it is a man or a woman. Anybody who is suffering under some luggage up a staircase, would expect the people, standing by to offer a hand of help, whether they are men or women, and when that doesn't come, the natural thing is think that such people are unfriendly. Why would the writer try to, dishonestly make us believe that Adichie was referring to male citizens, watching her struggling with her bags up an elevator?Apart from the fact that you're obviously still "attacking" the author while condemning him for "attacking" Adichie, I think that you are wrong about what the author meant to convey. Nwikwu stated along the way that the Finnish society is a self-centerd one and that that selfishness was a result of feminism. There is neither chivalry on the part of men nor kindness on the part of women, according to him. If it hadn't been for feminism, he implies, somebody - male or female, it does not matter - would have offered a helping hand. Over there, everyone looks out for himself or herself as the case may be. And his position is that that is the natural and logical conclusion of gender equality. Again, it is not merely that men are no longer chivalrous enough to help a lady struggling with her bags, it is that women also lack the kindness to help a stranger struggling with her bags. Personally, i don't subscribe to feminism in any form and do not see any need to advance such radicalism, but if the speech you are referring to is the one here,I haven't seen this speech and cannot right now, but I have made a mental note to see it sometime. Still, some of what I have seen has been pretty extreme and reactionary. Finally, Adichie is a diamond that has no hiding place. I understand that she is always sought out to come and deliver lectures and speeches, not because she so much craves for it, but because people always desire to hear from the people they feel have proved to be exceptional. She has a strong feeling and an opinion that she lets out, whenever she is sought out to speak and as it is said, she is entitled to it. Much as she is an influence, it behoves on all her critics to try and be like her (a star), so that when they are selected among the crowd to speak, they would equally share their own opinions. May be, people would buy theirs, and drop that of Adichie. Anything outside this will be the kind of ranting by Ebeneezer Williams, when Nnamdi Azikiwe was soliciting for fund to build the great University of Nigeria Nsukka. He mocked the idea of BSc Nsukka, etc, but today history has placed Ebeneezer Williams and Dr Nnamdi Azikiwe where they belong. While the former remained, till date a nobody, the latter is revered as Zik of Africa.I agree. However, I hope that you have seen how hard it can be to focus on the arguments a person makes to the exclusion of their own personality. I also think that it is not always possible to ignore the person behind the arguments nor is it always necessary or good to. But under no circumstances is it acceptable to batter a person in the manner that Nwikwu did Adichie to make his point. In that, we are both agreed. 1 Like |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by ihedinobi2: 7:54pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
freecitizn: OP thanks for the article. Had a good read. The discussants have also done justice with their comments. Very good post indeed. I like this part most: "we are not unequal, we are just different". Words I've been looking for this whole time. Thanks. |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by ihedinobi2: 8:00pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
TV01: In the West these days, one has to be “onside” of the prevailing ideology of the day. Otherwise the establishment rejects you. The establishment being that power working through the elites in politics, media, business, entertainment and the like, who, unseen too many, are working towards a common goal. I won’t speculate here on just what that goal might be.Excellent post, TV. |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by ihedinobi2: 8:01pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
fantasia200: do u live in this country (Nigeria)?Do you disagree with him? |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by Nobody: 8:16pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
joomiegirl: You didn't have to but thanks. That definition is very incomplete- a screensaver. This is the proper definition. "One of the main problems with “feminism” is that it exploits the legitimate claims of equal rights as a cloak to usher in its divisive, hateful and neurotic interests. Interests that are plainly anti-male and not at all about equal rights." -Kelly Mac (a woman) Who the hell is Kelly? CLARIFICATION: So because there are some bad eggs, the whole movement and ideology is wrong? Like really? If this is so, stop going to church because priests are bleeping little children, boys and girls. There are some evil Christians, why not condemn the whole religion? ALL OF THIS SHOULD HAVE BEEN CONTAINED IN THAT DEFINITION. What should be contained in the definition? Some women who seem to have serious issues? Really? Then do not forget church leaders who bleep children when you next go to church. HERE IS MY TAKE, FROM WHAT I RESEARCHED ONLINE: Next time provide the source for your quotes. I can create a webpage at any time and claim that the USA are about to invade Nigeria. Anyone can claim anything online. F eminism is beyond the right to vote and the education of the girl child. Says who? The Internet? Feminists have pure scorn and disregard for the women who CHOOSE to be stay-at-home moms. Says who? The Internet? Feminists do not recognize the man as the head of the home. Says who? The Internet? Their doctrine and dogma have added greatly to the dysfunctionality in families. Says who? The Internet? THIS, THEN; IS MY SUBMISSION: Is it you talking now or some people you found online you don't even know? My dear, I don't want to turn this into a religious argument; I don't know if you're a christian, but I am, and its not something I can hide. Too bad, Christian leaders bleep children. Ever heard of Zelophehad's daughters? They were five (5) sisters in the bible who were told they couldn't inherit their father's property because they were women. Your choice but don't forget man of the Bible bleep little children. Feminists are men-haters and Christians are paedophiles. Cheers 1 Like |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by Nobody: 8:30pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
MrAnony1: I have enjoyed reading your posts so far on this thread and while I don't agree with you, you seem to be one of the few people on here who actually know what they are talking about. Now to my objections. I really appreciate a discourse with someone who disagrees in a respectful way. This is not a feminist issue. There is also name-calling for men who are not married past age 40 You are right but men are brought up to be independent and have greater choices in life to face the pressure and take a stand. Correct me if I am wrong. How exactly are bad boys celebrated and how exactly are women "discriminated against" in this regard? There are plenty of posts on NL of men and women who say that they will give their teenage boys freedom that they will not give their daughters. It is ok for many people to see their teenage boys with girls but they will freak out if their daughters have a boyfriend. In the pop culture boys call themselves "baddest boy" with pride but women will rather not. It is ok for a man to mess around but women are suppossed to act like they have no needs. What is wrong with this? How exactly are women worse off because they are expected to be mothers primarily? A woman should choose if she wants to be a mother or not. A woman, like a man, should choose what their primary roles are. It should not be determined by gender. But the Nigerian law does not prohibit women from owning property, neither does it limit their property rights as opposed to men. So what's your point? My point is that girls are raised in a way that they believe that a man will take care of themselves and later do not aspire to having their own. Instead of taking pride in academic achievements, they take pride in their mirror reflection because this is what will get them men and therefore a roof over their, sorry, empty heads. Society expects women to marry quite young, have children and support their husbands. Society does not encourage women to discover what they are really good at and how they can make a change outside the home. I have no problem with stay-at-home moms but not every woman was meant to be one. Please do I think it is enough for the moment. |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by Nobody: 8:36pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
freshdude2: I find it hard to comprehend that comment or the idea behind it. Me sef shock... |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by Nobody: 8:38pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
MrAnony1: You are a feminist By the way, the North is also part of Nigeria. If there is no law against child brides and no persecution of grown up men marrying children, then there is no education for all female children and the society is far from sanity. Additonally, there is a recent British Council report that shows that women are not paid the same in Nigeria. https://www.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/67333/Gender-Nigeria2012.pdf Look, I am not anti-men or anti-boys. I just feel like helping girls. If you feel like helping boys, please do it. I will even support you but my main interest is with girls. Simply because I am a woman. |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by Nobody: 8:41pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
Decryptor: You are a feminist |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by Nobody: 8:48pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
crackhaus: All the points that I have listed can be termed discrimination on grounds of gender. I won't even bother picking them out one by one, but believe me when I say I have good refutations to each. I believe you. But see I'm your friend, let me tell you what feminism in Nigeria should be fighting against/for as the case may be. You have made some brilliant points but your comment would have been much better without any insults. 1. Mama Ngozi just lost her husband, she was made to undergo some traditional rites that were barbaric, she was locked in a room for three days and was given minimal food, she was maltreated because they accused her of killing her husband. First of all, I am not fighting. I am arguing and I am promoting my ideas but anyway. Scenarios such as this will not happen if female education will be taken more seriously because we all know that such scenarios are only possible with the help of uneducated women. 2. Mama Kamilu is old and tired, she has lost her children. She now walks on the street begging alms because her village council banished her on the ground that she is a witch. Scenarios such as this will not happen if female education will be taken more seriously because we all know that such scenarios are only possible with the help of uneducated women. Scenarios such as this will NOT bepossible if women will not have to depend on men and their male children but make sure that they are comfortable in old age. 3. Blessing and Charity are sisters, they have a brother. John (brother) wasn't asked to go with his Aunt to Spain, instead it was his two sisters who were deceived into prostitution in Spain by their Aunty under the guise of going for schooling. Bad example because female and male prostitution cannot be compared but anyway, I get your points and I really like them. 1 Like |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by Nobody: 8:55pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
crackhaus: Please do not tell me that you do not know that gender is not only a biological but ALSO a social construct and that its perception and the expectations of a certain gender differ CULTURALLY. Deal with it, this here is not equality. You feminists want to compete on something so negative as promiscuity. Who said anyone wants to compete on promiscuity? Are men promiscuous? Competition again with the male gender, this is not what the feminism you so hold dear is about. What are you talking about? The day women start going on their knees to ask the hand of men in marriage, pay the groom price, sponsor the entire marriage, and have the man come live with her under her own roof paid for in full with her own money...only then will it happen the other way around. I do not need and do not want a man to do all this and it will NOT happen. I am not a piece of property to be sold off and my partner does not have to go on his knees. Keep calling competitiveness feminism. I dey laff una. Why put words in my mouth again and again? And no matter how much you laugh, it does not make your statements more qualified. Competition not equality. So you are saying men are hoes? 1 Like |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by ihedinobi2: 9:00pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
Kay17:What exactly does history say about the 19th century? Does it say anything about centuries that preceded that? I put it to you that you are wholly and entirely wrong that chivalry is just about courtship. Chivalry is the correct relationship between man and woman, between the strong and the weak. It is always about using one's strength to uphold a weaker person. It is what is expected of a man with a woman, whether he is courting her or living with her as her husband. 1 Like |
Re: Adichie’s Feminism: Vacuums And Fallacies By A. Gonzaga by Oahray: 9:06pm On Aug 01, 2014 |
MrAnony1:I wonder why our resident feminists have not done justice to these questions yet. Since how many pages ago? |
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