beeevan:
PHC water lines, am sure you will find your way. Wait ooo, i hope you have no plans of deserting your Utuku hut, i heard is quite safe from Ebola and the rams.

how far is it to bonny island?

coogar:

how far is it to bonny island?

Sleep in progress.....

I:30hr by lng boat
15mins by helicopter.

4hrs by pontu boat


Are you familiar with bonny island?

coogar:

how far is it to bonny island?

cococandy: I:30hr by lng boat
15mins by helicopter.

4hrs by pontu boat


Are you familiar with bonny island?

Thank you, Coogar matter don send me to emergency sleep.

Wat u wrote is nt enough evidence to conclude ur hubby is cheatin. To imagine u tinkin of divorce bc of this weak evidence is childish to say d least. Again checkin ur hubby phone d way u did is nt a gud habit sha.
Act like u saw nothing n sha him extreme love until u ve more concrete cheatin evidence

cococandy: I:30hr by lng boat
15mins by helicopter.

4hrs by pontu boat

Are you familiar with bonny island?

yes, i am familiar. this will be my second time there though but i know how things work. beevan needs deliverance. PHC water-lines no be address.

Jenchi: My Husband Is Already Cheating Three(3) Weeks After Our Wedding

“I can’t talk to anyone. I’m still in shock. I woke up to use the bathroom and my husband’s phone was buzzing about 11pm.

He was fast asleep as I picked his phone and saw nude pictures of a girl named Tolu who lives in Akure. Apparently he has been begging her to send pictures saying how much he misses her and calling her same pet names he calls me. I feel like I want a divorce already.

I don’t think I can ever let him touch me again. How do I handle or get past this? Does any one have a cheating husband? Does this get worse? I’m loosing my mind, please advise…

Honestly,ur in for a very long trip and d journey has just started.

I'll advise that you just talk to him as calm and mature as possible and pray for God's intervention.

I believe in God and prayers but NO as I keep saying I will not pray for a cheating spouse. Pray that what will happen? Is cheating tough times e.g loss of a job, illness, bereavement, dealing with an ill child, trying to concieve etc that I will be disturbing God for?

I would not divorce him immediately after this one discovery but I sure aint praying nothing. Why should I be the one praying when he is the one that did something wrong? I would confront him as calmly as I could (e go hard but dat na where I go need the prayer ) hear his explanations (I would prefer explanations to excuses sef) and then tell him and let him know that I will not tolerate cheating.I will not turn a blind eye "might" be willing to forgive this ONE depending on the reasons but Naaa I aint accepting it as 'normal'.If you value me and our marriage no more if not..... (leave it hanging)


I know its Linda Ikeji tings but all these pray pray for a cheating spouse just kinda puzzles me.


Anyway sha we are all different.Some girls don dey fight 'side chics' since tey tey.I no get that kind pawa.

U may be seeing it as cheating ....but Ur MOTHER may see it otherwise....because MOST of them got married as 3RD WIVES....even as 6th..wife...
In Dis AFRICA can u
PLS...DIFFERENTIATE POLYGAMY from ?CHEATING....?

damiso: I believe in God and prayers but NO as I keep saying I will not pray for a cheating spouse. Pray that what will happen? Is cheating tough times e.g loss of a job, illness, bereavement, dealing with an ill child, trying to concieve etc that I will be disturbing God for?

I would not divorce him immediately after this one discovery but I sure aint praying nothing. Why should I be the one praying when he is the one that did something wrong? I would confront him as calmly as I could (e go hard but dat na where I go need the prayer ) hear his explanations (I would prefer explanations to excuses sef) and then tell him and let him know that I will not tolerate cheating.I will not turn a blind eye "might" be willing to forgive this ONE depending on the reasons but Naaa I aint accepting it as 'normal'.If you value me and our marriage no more if not..... (leave it hanging)


I know its Linda Ikeji tings but all these pray pray for a cheating spouse just kinda puzzles me.


Anyway sha we are all different.Some girls don dey fight 'side chics' since tey tey.I no get that kind pawa.

I thought i was the only one that felt this way. Pray fire!!

Didnt you see signs of potential cheating while you were dating?

ogawisdom: Wat u wrote is nt enough evidence to conclude ur hubby is cheatin. To imagine u tinkin of divorce bc of this weak evidence is childish to say d least. Again checkin ur hubby phone d way u did is nt a gud habit sha.
Act like u saw nothing n sha him extreme love until u ve more concrete cheatin evidence

And what happens if she gets infected before getting the concrete cheating evidence (who knows how long that will be?)

And how do you even enjoy a marriage where all you do is pretend to show love and also looking for concrete cheating evidence?

What is even a concrete cheating evidence? (i guess HIV and its siblings should be one of them)

I hope this advice also applies if OP is a man (why am i even asking? Cheating is a man's birthright and any man that has not started/is not cheating has probably sold his birthright)

yeyenatu.......

kayciano: U may be seeing it as cheating ....but Ur MOTHER may see it otherwise....because MOST of them got married as 3RD WIVES....even as 6th..wife...
In Dis AFRICA can u
PLS...DIFFERENTIATE POLYGAMY from ?CHEATING....?

Polygamy is having wives and cheating is having mistresses, concubines, side chicks etc. However, polygamy starts with cheating because a man would have been keeping new wife as a side chick before deciding to marry her as 2nd or 3rd or 4th wife as the case may be. I don't think a man will tell his wife at home when he is about to woo another lady who will eventually join the list of wives.

Besides, how do wives in polygamy cope? Do they use condom with hubby or have unprotected sex?
What if one of the wives is promiscuous? Does it mean that she will just be freely sharing STDs to the co-wives?

This life sha..............

ladygogo:


I thought i was the only one that felt this way. Pray fire!!

I would be the one needing prayers :Dbut the prayers would be for to God to grant me wisdom and calm so I don't freak out and break his head or start screaming like a banshee So I will pray for myself not him.

Godmystrength:

And what happens if she gets infected before getting the concrete cheating evidence (who knows how long that will be?)

And how do you even enjoy a marriage where all you do is pretend to show love and also looking for concrete cheating evidence?

What is even a concrete cheating evidence? (i guess HIV and its siblings should be one of them)

I hope this advice also applies if OP is a man (why am i even asking? Cheating is a man's birthright and any man that has not started/is not cheating has probably sold his birthright)

yeyenatu.......

Listen like I said d info provided is nt enough to conclude d man is cheatin. If he is nt cheatin hw does d talk of hiv come in here. Neva d less d op may need to talk to her hubby on hw uncomfortable she is with wat she saw on his phone. She shld b more prayerful too n nt childishly throwing in divorce at d slightest provocation.
Marriage is till death do u part.

damiso: I believe in God and prayers but NO as I keep saying I will not pray for a cheating spouse. Pray that what will happen? Is cheating tough times e.g loss of a job, illness, bereavement, dealing with an ill child, trying to concieve etc that I will be disturbing God for?

I would not divorce him immediately after this one discovery but I sure aint praying nothing. Why should I be the one praying when he is the one that did something wrong? I would confront him as calmly as I could (e go hard but dat na where I go need the prayer ) hear his explanations (I would prefer explanations to excuses sef) and then tell him and let him know that I will not tolerate cheating.I will not turn a blind eye "might" be willing to forgive this ONE depending on the reasons but Naaa I aint accepting it as 'normal'.If you value me and our marriage no more if not..... (leave it hanging)


I know its Linda Ikeji tings but all these pray pray for a cheating spouse just kinda puzzles me.


Anyway sha we are all different.Some girls don dey fight 'side chics' since tey tey.I no get that kind pawa.

God is able to change a cheating partner in a fraction of a second forever. Dnt underate prayers

ogawisdom:

God is able to change a cheating partner in a fraction of a second forever. Dnt underate prayers

I am not underating prayers . You saw where I said I will pray for myself for God to give ME the wisdom to deal with the situation and not act rashly .

That's me taking responsibility for my actions or reactions.God has given us freewill and cheating requires alot of premeditation that God does not orchestrate.

Actually going by the Christian faith (muslim too as it says marry them not keep your them as concubines) adultery is a sin.

So NO I ain't taking responsibility for HIS actions. Let HIM pray for God to help him not to cheat again.

ogawisdom:
Listen like I said d info provided is nt enough to conclude d man is cheatin. If he is nt cheatin hw does d talk of hiv come in here. Neva d less d op may need to talk to her hubby on hw uncomfortable she is with wat she saw on his phone. She shld b more prayerful too n nt childishly throwing in divorce at d slightest provocation.
Marriage is till death do u part.

Jenchi: My Husband Is Already Cheating Three(3) Weeks After Our Wedding

“I can’t talk to anyone. I’m still in shock. I woke up to use the bathroom and my husband’s phone was buzzing about 11pm.

He was fast asleep as I picked his phone and saw nude pictures of a girl named Tolu who lives in Akure. Apparently he has been begging her to send pictures saying how much he misses her and calling her same pet names he calls me. I feel like I want a divorce already.

I don’t think I can ever let him touch me again. How do I handle or get past this? Does any one have a cheating husband? Does this get worse? I’m loosing my mind, please advise…

To you, the evidence might not be enough but how on earth will a married man be requesting for nude pictures from a girl and saying he misses her? What does he miss about her? I don't think any man will see this kind of message on wifey's phone and still be calm about it. Was it not on this same NL that a man posted screen shot of whatsapp conversation between his wife and her boss? I can still remember the responses from people. When i have the time, i will fish out the thread.
I know marriage is till death do you part but i don't think the death here is the one caused by the actions/inactions of one of the spouse..

But come to think of it, isn't the ''till death do you part'' binding on the MEN because it is not so common to see husband of the cheating wives think like that.

If a woman cheats: the men tell the husband to send her away. Any woman that pleads that the husband should forgive the wife will be insulted. Any man that talks about forgiving a cheating wife will be insulted by his fellow men and probably called a pvssy, mumu etc
If a man cheats: some women tell the wife to divorce or separate from the man, some women tell her to fast and pray and endure it, few men tell the wife to leave the husband, most men tell the wife to act as if nothing happened because most men are cheats etc.

Why should the punishment for cheaters be determined by the gender of the offender?

damiso:

I am not underating prayers . You saw where I said I will pray for myself for God to give ME the wisdom to deal with the situation and not act rashly .

That's me taking responsibility for my actions or reactions.God has given us freewill and cheating requires alot of premeditation that God does not orchestrate.

Actually going by the Christian faith (muslim too as it says marry them not keep your them as concubines) adultery is a sin.

So NO I ain't taking responsibility for HIS actions. Let HIM pray for God to help him not to cheat again.

U failed to realize dt God sees u n ur hubby as one. So u share in his actions n inactions in d spiritual realm. Prayin for ur cheatin hubby is nt wrong

ogawisdom: Wat u wrote is nt enough evidence to conclude ur hubby is cheatin. To imagine u tinkin of divorce bc of this weak evidence is childish to say d least. Again checkin ur hubby phone d way u did is nt a gud habit sha.
Act like u saw nothing n sha him extreme love until u ve more concrete cheatin evidence

ogawisdom: U failed to realize dt God sees u n ur hubby as one. So u share in his actions n inactions in d spiritual realm. Prayin for ur cheatin hubby is nt wrong

If hubby and wifey are one, then i see no reason why checking on each other's phone is not a good habit

Godmystrength:


To you, the evidence might not be enough but how on earth will a married man be requesting for nude pictures from a girl and saying he misses her? What does he miss about her? I don't think any man will see this kind of message on wifey's phone and still be calm about it. Was it not on this same NL that a man posted screen shot of whatsapp conversation between his wife and her boss? I can still remember the responses from people. When i have the time, i will fish out the thread.
I know marriage is till death do you part but i don't think the death here is the one caused by the actions/inactions of one of the spouse..

But come to think of it, isn't the ''till death do you part'' binding on the MEN because it is not so common to see husband of the cheating wives think like that.

If a woman cheats: the men tell the husband to send her away. Any woman that pleads that the husband should forgive the wife will be insulted. Any man that talks about forgiving a cheating wife will be insulted by his fellow men and probably called a pvssy, mumu etc
If a man cheats: some women tell the wife to divorce or separate from the man, some women tell her to fast and pray and endure it, few men tell the wife to leave the husband, most men tell the wife to act as if nothing happened because most men are cheats etc.

Why should the punishment for cheaters be determined by the gender of the offender?

Lol u r taking this personal ooo
U kw our culture nw a man can marry as many wives as he wishes n is okay but I ve never heard of a woman married to more than one man at a time. In short a cheatin husband has little to lose n d woman divorcin him after being wit him for years is even doin him a favour to take in a younger bride. A divorced woman has over 90 percent chance of neva marryin again in her life in Nigeria while d man can take in a sweet sixteen as a divorced man in days. U see d equation is nt balanced. D man is alwys ahead in this senerio.
Nb I am nt supportin cheatin by a man but jst layin d cards on d table

Godmystrength:
To you, the evidence might not be enough but how on earth will a married man be requesting for nude pictures from a girl and saying he misses her? What does he miss about her? I don't think any man will see this kind of message on wifey's phone and still be calm about it. Was it not on this same NL that a man posted screen shot of whatsapp conversation between his wife and her boss? I can still remember the responses from people. When i have the time, i will fish out the thread.
I know marriage is till death do you part but i don't think the death here is the one caused by the actions/inactions of one of the spouse..
But come to think of it, isn't the ''till death do you part'' binding on the MEN because it is not so common to see husband of the cheating wives think like that.
If a woman cheats: the men tell the husband to send her away. Any woman that pleads that the husband should forgive the wife will be insulted. Any man that talks about forgiving a cheating wife will be insulted by his fellow men and probably called a pvssy, mumu etc
If a man cheats: some women tell the wife to divorce or separate from the man, some women tell her to fast and pray and endure it, few men tell the wife to leave the husband, most men tell the wife to act as if nothing happened because most men are cheats etc.
Why should the punishment for cheaters be determined by the gender of the offender?

Case study Sister: https://www.nairaland.com/1284024/broken-dejected-found-out-wife/19#25207771

Even when his wife responded. On a seperate thread that he had also been cheating she was shut down and thoroughly insulted.
Meanwhile the poster in that thread went through his wives phone no one questioned his invading her "privacy

His Wifes thread : https://www.nairaland.com/1287745/whyme222s-wifes-judge/2#15688189

Notice how only TV01 was consistent in advicing reconciliation and forgiveness the rest ignored that he went through her phone to discover she was cheating and just started screaming "divorce her" no "Pray for her" "Give her better se-x" "work on yaself" The hypocrisy was alarming

Another one.

https://www.nairaland.com/1844751/divorce-him-please-need-advise

aisha2: His Wifes thread : https://www.nairaland.com/1287745/whyme222s-wifes-judge/2#15688189

Notice how only TV01 was consistent in advicing reconciliation and forgiveness the rest ignored that he went through her phone to discover she was cheating and just started screaming "divorce her" no "Pray for her" "Give her better se-x" "work on yaself" The hypocrisy was alarming

Godmystrength:
Is hubby and wifey are one, then i see no reason why checking on each other's phone is not a good habit

Above quote first point.

2nd point if husband and wife are ONE (which I subscribe to in the biblical sense) at what point does HE remember this ONENESS in unrepentant adultery?

Even apostle paul said 'shall we continue in SIN so that grace might abound. ? God forbid." So of what use is me praying for God to "change" him if there is no genuine repentance and he is operating under the premise"its normal for men to cheat"?

As I said I will pray for wisdom, grace to forgive (unforgiveness is a huge thing for me) but pray for an unrepentant spouse to stop cheating? Mbanu that decision lies with him.

Huh? Oh... chai...my name don see fire for una hand. name wey me dey use do ynga, una dey use am yab...diaris godu ooo...

Godmystrength:

And what happens if she gets infected before getting the concrete cheating evidence (who knows how long that will be?)

And how do you even enjoy a marriage where all you do is pretend to show love and also looking for concrete cheating evidence?

What is even a concrete cheating evidence? (i guess HIV and its siblings should be one of them)

I hope this advice also applies if OP is a man (why am i even asking? Cheating is a man's birthright and any man that has not started/is not cheating has probably sold his birthright)

yeyenatu.......

ogawisdom:

Lol u r taking this personal ooo
U kw our culture nw a man can marry as many wives as he wishes n is okay but I ve never heard of a woman married to more than one man at a time. In short a cheatin husband has little to lose n d woman divorcin him after being wit him for years is even doin him a favour to take in a younger bride. A divorced woman has over 90 percent chance of neva marryin again in her life in Nigeria while d man can take in a sweet sixteen as a divorced man in days. U see d equation is nt balanced. D man is alwys ahead in this senerio.
Nb I am nt supportin cheatin by a man but jst layin d cards on d table

How am i taking it personal?
If a man wants to marry one wife, that is his own problem plus his 1st wife's problem. Why keep them as mistress? Why not marry them and bring them in? I am not saying i support polygamy, but a polygamous man might not be a cheat in the sense that he MARRIED all the wives. He becomes a cheater when he now has side chicks apart from the wives at home..........

A cheating husband has little to loose okay o. where did you even get this your 90% statistics from? How come we have so many step fathers around town?
A divorced woman has much too lose if he is totally dependent on her husband. So you are saying a woman can't have a life without the husband? What of the widows. Everybody will not get married (both men and women) you know. Marriage is sweet but without it, life will not end for the person o.
Better to be a living divorced woman than to be a dead married woman(because of the carelessness of the man)
If the woman dies, hubby will take a new wife and continue life as if nothing happened. So why can't the woman do everything to keep herself alive for as long as possible.

Anyway which one is my own in the matter?. At the end, it is their (husband and wife and children) problem. Wetin concern me? I have said my own.

yeyenatu: Huh? Oh... chai...my name don see fire for una hand. name wey me dey use do ynga, una dey use am yab...diaris godu ooo...

Abeg sister no vex jare. Didn't know it was anyone's username

@ cococandy and aisha2, i tire o. In fact very tired....
Most men are cheaters is the national anthem now....

If you know you have cheating in your gene, please stay unmarried. Don't put some innocent spouse and children through hell because of your own stupidity, foolishness, carelessness or what have you.

I bet there will be no sympathy for a promiscuous woman who infects her husband with any disease..

I take God beg una .Nobody should preach endurance to me o. My marriage is not perfect and i already have so many things i am trying to cope with. To now add CHEATING on top? MBA!!! I wan die ni? mtscheeeew

Godmystrength: Abeg sister no vex jare. Didn't know it was anyone's username
.

No p.

Btw: this is a peculiar one @topic. 3 weeks? Let me go and read and then come back to modify...


YeaYeaNot

may be he was a player before u got Married to him

Before u check ur partner's fone decide what do what ever the outcome is
I never pray for my self finish na one man I go put for my head
Name marriage go even send some people go hell

Chynx: "Seek and you shall find".


2. Leave his phone alone. You have yours.
Trust me; if he picks up your phone and gently runs a peruse, he will see a couple of things that would be frowned at...not necessarily promiscuity.

Everybody is entitled to a degree of privacy...no matter the intimacy you share.

#TruthIsBitter

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