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Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by Nobody: 6:34pm On Aug 07, 2014 |
From a female friends: ''Please Help! I'm supposed to marry in Oct. but another Woman is pregnant for my Man''... I have fixed my wedding for October but I just found out that another lady is pregnant for my fiancé. She's six months pregnant, due to give birth in October, same month I am getting married. To say that I am devastated is putting it mildly. I am so hurt that I've shut myself from the outside world.I am now so confused as to what to do. He has been begging me since I found out not to cancel the wedding. The pregnant lady actually contacted me via Facebook to tell me she's having my man's baby and when I confronted him, he didn't deny it. I have been with this man for three and a half years and all my family and friends have contributed one way or another to this wedding. The invitations haven't gone out yet, but all our people know the wedding is for October. I am so confused. Should I cancel the wedding? My female friends are telling me not to but surprisingly, my mum wants me to. What should I do? |
Re: Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by write2obi(m): 6:43pm On Aug 07, 2014 |
Cancel the wedding, and he will gladly marry his baby mama. Then wait for another 521 Saturdays . The choice is yours. |
Re: Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by GoodFaith: 6:45pm On Aug 07, 2014 |
Givemejoy: From a female friends: You need to seat down Your fiancé has made big mistake I hope you have GOOD FRIENDs that can help you through this hard time Not bad friends or family that will lie and try to break u ppl up Think why you were going to marry him What qualities does he have? Can he make you happy? Your fiancé is not marrying the woman that is pregnant for him He wants to marry you Can you really forgive him and move on with your life and be happy I understand how you feel I hope with time you can forgive him I hope he will work hard to make you happy and you can learn to trust him 2 Likes |
Re: Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by GoodFaith: 6:45pm On Aug 07, 2014 |
write2obi: Cancel the wedding, and he will gladly marry his baby mama. Then wait for another 521 Saturdays . The choice is yours.slow down |
Re: Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by write2obi(m): 6:57pm On Aug 07, 2014 |
GoodFaith:The motor no get break 1 Like |
Re: Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by GoodFaith: 6:58pm On Aug 07, 2014 |
write2obi:Ok bro |
Re: Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by wewiliberty: 7:06pm On Aug 07, 2014 |
He did not deny it and he never told you himself! You heard from the pregnant lady friend, my dear get out while you can. call it quits when you can. Do not play with your life and its no gamble time with this guy. He has either made his choice or the pregnant woman is holding him where he cannot wriggle free. Life is worth living and true love will find you soon. I know of a lady who suddenly is close to running mad because of similar case, she battled with life and yet the man is living with the other woman! Things are happening, this one was even duly married and you are about to wed, No matter how hard it is for you now, walk away and save both your life and sanity! 4 Likes |
Re: Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by GoodFaith: 7:15pm On Aug 07, 2014 |
wewiliberty: He did not deny it and he never told you himself! You heard from the pregnant lady friend, my dear get out while you can. call it quits when you can. Do not play with your life and its no gamble time with this guy. He has either made his choice or the pregnant woman is holding him where he cannot wriggle free. Life is worth living and true love will find you soon. I know of a lady who suddenly is close to running mad because of similar case, she battled with life and yet the man is living with the other woman! Things are happening, this one was even duly married and you are about to wed, No matter how hard it is for you now, walk away and save both your life and sanity!You just created this user account for BS The dude don't have to marry the pregant woman He made his choice to marry his fiancé not the pregant woman You talk about a case u knew off, Tell us why the man choice the second woman over the first woman-- the case you knew? You might not have all the information to make the Judgment you are making People lies , friends sometime mislead ppl The case you are talking about might have lot of other issues Go ask questions and get the facts of the case |
Re: Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by Nobody: 7:32pm On Aug 07, 2014 |
Its a tough one, point to note is he chose you over the pregnant lady, you must also note that he cheated on you and failed to inform you, he only owned up when you found out. He may be a nice person but sincerely ask yourself if you are ready for baby mama drama and being a step mum. These are questions you alone can answer. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by GoodFaith: 7:35pm On Aug 07, 2014 |
firstEVA: Its a tough one, point to note is he chose you over the pregnant lady, you must also note that he cheated on you and failed to inform you, he only owned up when you found out. He may be a nice person but sincerely ask yourself if you are ready for baby mama drama and being a step mum. These are questions you alone can answer.Sis, men lies about sex Not telling her might be fear of losing her He has made a very big mistake but can he be a very good husband to her? |
Re: Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by Nobody: 7:44pm On Aug 07, 2014 |
Such a man can kill her. Cheating on her and hiding the result (pregnancy) is very callous of him. My dear it is better to leave him now and bear the pain for a few months than to bear pains for the rest of your life. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by GoodFaith: 7:45pm On Aug 07, 2014 |
toke8: Such a man can kill her. Cheating on her and hiding the result (pregnancy) is very callous of him. My dear it is better to leave him now and bear the pain for a few months than to bear pains for the rest of your life. So all men and women that cheat can Kill? So 80% of people in the world can kill |
Re: Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by chinnelle(f): 8:23pm On Aug 07, 2014 |
if I was the one,I'll cancel the wedding why? because this nigga was cheating on me I won't be happy in that marriage if I go ahead |
Re: Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by Nobody: 11:09am On Aug 09, 2014 |
firstEVA: Its a tough one, point to note is he chose you over the pregnant lady, you must also note that he cheated on you and failed to inform you, he only owned up when you found out. He may be a nice person but sincerely ask yourself if you are ready for baby mama drama and being a step mum. These are questions you alone can answer.can we talk on phne? |
Re: Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by Tymax(m): 11:33am On Aug 09, 2014 |
End it |
Re: Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by GreenBobo: 11:53am On Aug 09, 2014 |
He cheats even before marriage... He's going to continue! If you're comfortable with this.... But wait a minute, what happened to "talking it out?" ,second chance? But on a second thought, you've been with this man for about 42 months, possible he has been "seeing" this other lady all along, and you never noticed? Ok, he's so clever that you couldn't catch him pants down! Perhaps you don't spend much time with him! Ohh, you trusted him! I see! how would you feel on your wedding day? Knowing that your man is already fathering a baby (that same month)? perhaps that same day? But,like they say, love covers all, love is blind! But marriage is not blind! Maybe he made a mistake, but he doesn't respect you! may be you 'nagged' him into this mess? but who cares? the deed has already been done! You just have to remedy it! At the end of the day, IT'S YOUR CALL,YOUR DECISION!!! Wish you God's guidance! 3 Likes |
Re: Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by Nobody: 12:46pm On Aug 09, 2014 |
Do you still love him? Is he the kind of man that could go an extra mile to make things work. For you both? Does he make you happy? Are you ready to become a good step mother? A child ties a bond bw father and mother, will you be ever ready to overlook their relationship? If you can say yes to Atleast 3 questions, you're good to go. Time will heal the pain |
Re: Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by Nobody: 1:17pm On Aug 09, 2014 |
Leave him yes you had me right. For you to come here seeking for advice means you are deeply hurt by his actions and you feel betrayed. He went behind you while you were still dating him to impregnate another and what made you think he won't cheat on you when you are married? If he can have unprotected sex my dear one day he will transfer a dreaded disease to you. It will hurt, you will feel ashamed but better to walk out now while you are sane than to live your entire life in pain. You can never trust him again and you will never forget his actions so why marry him? Are you that desperate? |
Re: Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by valdes00(m): 1:20pm On Aug 09, 2014 |
I dnt tink u nid a babalawo to tell u wen to call it QUIT, dnt waste ur tym sis... Cos I wuldnt want u 2 cum bck here to open anoda thread titled HELP pt 2 |
Re: Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by GoodFaith: 3:12pm On Aug 09, 2014 |
estyann: Do you still love him?You addressed the very important things that she must consider Thank U for having common sense common sense is not common If she break the relationship Marry a dumb ass man that will not treat her better than the man that had child on her You have to take time look at your relationship from A to Z Look at what made you wanted to marry him Look at the quality you want from a man does he have 8 out of 10 |
Re: Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by Nobody: 7:22pm On Aug 09, 2014 |
tjkadzyanju: can we talk on phne?do I know you? |
Re: Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by Nobody: 7:25pm On Aug 09, 2014 |
firstEVA: do I know you?it starts smwhere |
Re: Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by Nobody: 7:26pm On Aug 09, 2014 |
tjkadzyanju: it starts smwherewhat starts somewhere |
Re: Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by beeevan: 8:53pm On Aug 09, 2014 |
Get out while you still can, if you think that the preggy lady will leave him for you after marriage, then you are not serious. |
Re: Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by Nobody: 9:01pm On Aug 09, 2014 |
firstEVA: do I know you?intimacy |
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