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Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by Gamine(f): 5:41pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
I was listening to a song which has my topic as its main theme, very funky nice song but it got me thinking. Why Do people waste their time pretending, why the stress? Either you love someone or you find your square-root. We have only one life to live na. If you dont love someone, dont waste their time If Someone dosnt love you, Dont waste your time, Leave! i hope people can see reason behind this. 1 Like |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by eldee(m): 5:45pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
How about building the love while in the relationship?? Anything wrong with that?? 1 Like |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by Nobody: 5:49pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
Love must already have a foundation to which to build it from. One cannot build love from nothing, if there is no base, worry yourself not with building love. If you do not love him, leave him. Time may build love if there's already an attraction. If not, you're wasting time. |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by Gamine(f): 5:59pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
Before you enter a relationship You know if you are serious or not even if you dont "love" at the moment, you want to build on it. Im not talking about the person who has a committed heart. |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by Tgirl4real(f): 6:06pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
eldee: I dont see anything wrong in building ur love while in a relationship. I see love as a commitment, a choice u make. Emotions can follow from there. I see true love for the matured minds. |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by ifyalways(f): 6:12pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
lol There are people i meet and know i can NEVER love them,no matter what.So basically,rather than wasting their time and deceiving them,its better i just leave them alone.infact make i comot for road,no turn to barrier for someone else. so says Gamine |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by eldee(m): 6:20pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
Tgirl4real:I'll take that as 'Eldee's right . . . spot on as usual' |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by Nobody: 6:23pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
Love is too strong an emotion for any mind. Mature or not. In time, Love fades. Do people actually feel love? Do people understand the concept of love? Then why does love come a-knocking as an uninvited guest, then leaves at it's own timing? Is there even such thing as love? Is it selective? Understanding that it is not racist, is it sexist? I mean, why do women love completely, but men barely love? Is it a must for anyone to love? or is it an emotion that we feel we must behold or understand? Why do humans so much want to love, when they hardly understand the power it holds? I still do not understand why we say I Love you, when we actually do not. Is love a privilege? a blessing? a honor? an obligation? or is it an advantage? Or is Love a mystery that prfers to stay unsolved? Or is it a myth from the time of Cupid and Zeus, an expression that humans believe but yet not real? If anyone can define love, inform me of where it lives, and who he is, tyrant or not, then I would indeed believe Love is real. 1 Like |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by Gamine(f): 6:26pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
Right? you wish Like Ify said, When i meet a dude i always know two things, if there is Hope or NO HOPE Girls know these things don't be a chuku chuku for another pesin o Love is goes beyond feelings, its in what you DO thats what people dont get. |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by Sauron1: 6:28pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
eldee: I believe in miracles. . . . . When there's a reasonable level of close proximity between a man and a woman(love usually develops). It is not what people plan or intend doing. . . . Shit just happen. |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by Tgirl4real(f): 6:34pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
eldee: U bet . . . D problem we have is that we define love as merely emotions. What about the commitments. There is such a thing as lust and infatuation and people just mistake them as LOVE. Have u ever wondered how couples cope in d olden days. They don't date, yet they get married and LOVE. @Ruby, true love does exist. True, pure, untainted love. |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by Nobody: 6:39pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
Tgirl4real:True love, eh. So what do we call the tainted love? Is love everlasting? If yes, then why does it die? Why do we love one minute, then dnt in the next hr? What do you call the love that makes ppl kill, that makes ppl commit suicide? Or is that not love? Is love sth we should be looking forward to, or sth we should try to avoid? @topic Does pity make one pretend to love someone one does not love? |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by eldee(m): 6:40pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
~Sauron~:Exactly what I'm finding difficult to explain in Anglais The whole 'Love at first sight' thing only exists in chic flics Tgirl4real:Real love is built . . . it doesn't just sprout Like a seed, it needs to be watered . . . till it becomes as strong as a bad habit You begin to share things in common, even your differences hold you together Is that not how our parents built marriages that lasted generations?? Now look at Guy and Madge |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by eldee(m): 6:45pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
Gamine:Yeah it goes beyond what you think the first minute you see him It might come after getting to know him |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by cooldud62: 6:48pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
hmmmmmmmmm, what about the gurl after money? she wont love yet she wont leave |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by Tgirl4real(f): 6:51pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
Ruby_Pearl: If we want to follow God's original plan, love should be everlasting. Humans are generally selfish dat is fine we can't love truly. We usually want to love our own way and at the same tym expect to get the best from our partner, Love hurts cos u hav to sacrifice so much. As for the love that makes u kill, it is nothing else that obsession. If u truly love someone, u will be willing to let go of somethings. As i said earlier, Love is mainly a decision. U choose to love whether u feel smthn or not. Later emotions can build. Ofcourse, that doesn't mean u can't have true love when emotions already exist. And it is wrong to love outta pity. That is very bad. |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by Nobody: 7:01pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
But yet, John Donne decribes Love as Ah, what a trifle is a heart, I am to assume that "but us love draws" means that we do not decide who to love or when to love. It comes on it's timing and leaves on it's own timing. We do not decide who to love or who breaks our heart. If Love is a decision, don't you think ppl would be less heart broken since they can [i]decide [/i]not to love that person after he/she denies their love? |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by Nobody: 7:05pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
Tgirl4real:Yes, I know. I've done that before, but it is hard to keep it up. If one does not have a foundation on which to build love, thinking in time love will evolve , then one is wrong. If there is no friendship, no attraction, no chemistry, then there is no hope for love. |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by Tgirl4real(f): 7:20pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
Ruby_Pearl: That is y u love with ur head not just with ur heart. When ur senses are intact, u can decide when to fall in and out of love. I'm not overlooking the place of attraction here which is equivalent to emotions. Emotions may be there. But true love is not built on emotions only. |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by Gamine(f): 7:22pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
Love is indeed a Choice, one you MUST make. Man was created to Love. Thats why i said when i meet a dude, i would know whether there is hope or not. Because surely a foundation has to be there if not you are just doing boxing contest with fire. Many people are just in love with the idea of being "in love" |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by Tgirl4real(f): 7:23pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
Ruby_Pearl: I donot agree with this. We have people that have loved despite all these. |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by Tgirl4real(f): 7:25pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
Gamine, I don't get ur last point . . . a foundation as how? |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by Busybody2(f): 7:30pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
Wow, see people displaying English Language skills I dey come, make I go find someone to love me first |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by 9jagai: 7:33pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
Ruby_Pearl:I belong to the school of thought that says love has an expiring date.No matta how long it seem to take but someday you just find out . . . . those things that used to drive you crazy begins to matta less and in this case only friendship can keep you both together. That's actually the first thing I try to build before startin' a relationship. Either you love me or leave me alone? Funny!!! It's worth givin' a trial.That there happen to be an attraction/chemistry isn't a guarantee that the person would end up lovin' you tho those things matta alot |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by Gamine(f): 7:37pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
lol @Busybody people are quoting Keats n Co. @Tgirl, A foundation, yes, go figgar. @9ja, Love dosnt have expiry, except you put it dia, urself |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by chaloo(m): 7:45pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
hmmmm Dis is a very serious topic. Why generally only women think about these things? Love is rare. What people commonly think is actually not love but only an attraction for someone. It would otherwise not disappear over the time. |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by JJYOU: 7:47pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
gamine my sister i highly recommend these books as a must read for you. God is a match maker - derek prince making lov last forever - Garry smalley Till the heart be touched - Gordon and gail macdonald |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by Gamine(f): 7:54pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
@Josh Thanks you can send em as well.lol |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by Busybody2(f): 7:57pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
Gamine: Keats and kini Okay, I will pretend I understand Yeah I love his songs too, I have all the collection in my audio library |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by Cristalz(f): 8:05pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
chaloo:Because we are more sensitive to the deeper issues of life,unlike you men that see nearly everything in only black and white @post I don't think its easy for some people to just up and leave when they realize a person doesn't love them cos of the hope factor. They keep praying for a miracle. Even when they don't love a person. They remain to ''see if anything will change''. Its not always an open-and-shut case. |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by Sauron1: 8:10pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
Cristalz: And why do people bank on the hope factor waiting for a miracle?? Is it not because it has worked for some people in their relationships?? Patience is a virtue. . . . . .The only snag is where to draw the line between "patience" and "love blindness". |
Re: Either You Love Me Or Leave Me Alone! by Gamine(f): 8:15pm On Oct 18, 2008 |
Love is blind but Marriage is a real eye-opener @Busy, ya i see @Cristalz, Miracle? can u see where this is heading it will also be a miracle if ants dont eat the sugar i poured on the kitchen top |
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