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Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by bellong: 10:39am On Aug 20, 2014 |
damselleen: I do not advocate premarital sex because it creates a dilemma like the one you are in now. We are sexually incompatible is such an ambiguous statement which people have asked you to explain but it seems you are only looking for people to support your inner urges of leaving the guy due to sexual incompatibility. You said you wanted more than sex, hence you ditched AY but someone is giving you something more than sex but you are complaining. what do you really want? If a man is not impotent, I don't think there's no sexual skills that he cannot learn with time. If you really love the guy as claimed, you would have discussed in detail and passionately with him your fears and expectations on bed. He is no mind reader, if you don't tell him, how will he know your dissatisfaction? If your main concern is just sex, I hope years to come, you will not open a new account to create another thread that my husband wants to kill me with sex. I am not saying you should not be concerned about your intimate compatibility but I am telling you that it is not a challenge that can't be overcome in as much as he is not impotent. In marriage, couples are expected to grow together sexually. They both learn the process together, correct short comings and improve on last performance. Willingness and openness to each other are essential ingredients in this process. If you don't know how to discuss this issue with him without hurting his ego, how would you be able to handle more difficult issues when you finally marry. I will advice that you learn the art of communication first before thinking about great sex. Trust me, if communication is broken down, great sex will not save your marriage in days of trouble. I wish you a happy ceremony in advance. 15 Likes |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by Nobody: 11:05am On Aug 20, 2014 |
bellong: It May seem like I'm eager to ditch him but that's not true. I've introduced him informally to my family and we are suppose to go this week to meet his family. I did discussed it with him. I told him I don't expect him to be perfect cos I'm not perfect. I told him how he can please me. He said I'm the first person that will complain (pride ). I thought he had listened but he didn't put it into practice what I complained about the next day. I'm not expertise when it comes to sex but I'm teachable . My fear is what if it doesn't change? |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by Nobody: 11:29am On Aug 20, 2014 |
my dear, i may sound off like abit brutal 2 yur intending fiance.. but the truth is this... there are some ladies out there, who wishes to be satisfied well, sexually. we are not saying the guy shud go 10 rounds or 4 rounds in a day.. what the op, is saying is dis----shes not feeling any connection, when having sex with shola... its not that shola is not good in bed, but theres NO connection there, and trust me op, as a Nija man wey get Pride, he wont change his styles, u have to deal with it... Only few Nija men who truly wants to please their women go the extra length to adjust and learn more on pleasing their women on bed... And your Shola wont change, cos he feels amongst all the ladies he has bedded only you dey complain.. Av bn in your shoes before, and i had to take d bulls by the horn and sadly call it off... why? Cos i know, if we get married, i will cheat on him and even find him repulsive as the years go by.. and we might end up divorced or separated.. cos i hate cheating on my partner.. But thank God, it took me some years down the lane to finally be with my partner, whom am very pleased with... ..although hes still starting life, financially but am at peace with him, and wud Never cheat on him. so, op forget sentiments o.... Marriage is a lifetime commitment of being happy with your partner, husband , father of your kids, Not managing, suffering in silence. You cant be longing for Ay, or another man, when uv crossed the threshold of marriage... if your man cant change his ways of pleasing you after making him aware... my dear, pls postpone the engagement, orelse u will become bored..and thats Fact# 10 Likes |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by Nobody: 11:36am On Aug 20, 2014 |
And there are some women who does not like the whole process of sex, whether the man is good or not? it doesnt matter, as long as they are living in affluence. The money covers any fault he may have ... And there are some women, who wishes to be satisfied sexually, wealth does not really count for those types, but the guy shud be hardworking and av aims and aspirations. etc. there are different hormones working in series of ladies out there.. simply identify yours and know what u want.. Best of luck,op. 1 Like |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by dytbabe: 11:44am On Aug 20, 2014 |
Not every man likes to eat kitten 1 Like |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by mcdreeezy: 11:46am On Aug 20, 2014 |
So bcuz of sex u want to ditch a good person? Some pple sef I don tire for una! Sex |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by sunvick(m): 11:55am On Aug 20, 2014 |
Op Y dnt you try to be in charge next time so U see how it goes. Maybe during sex U take the lead. |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by Nobody: 11:59am On Aug 20, 2014 |
mcdreeezy: So bcuz of sex u want to ditch a good person? Some pple sef I don tire for una! SexRead well she didn't say she wants to ditch him. She is just saying she is having problems that the guy isn't ready to be taught. And haven't you heard that most major problems in marriage are majorly caused by sex and finances. So she has the right to be worried. @Op communications is the key, if he is good in other areas just give him time. I guess with time he will get to adjust. Please don't expect outright change, cos u will be disappointed. Teach him in love, when he says you are the first person to complain. Respond by saying everyone has different sexual needs and they get to be satisfied. He wouldn't have known whether those ones that never complained where secretly cheating on him. Just saying. |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by mcdreeezy: 12:16pm On Aug 20, 2014 |
Icherishu:Ok oh, but I don't think sex should be an issue between couples. There are way more important things in life and marriage than the aforementioned IMO |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by Nobody: 12:27pm On Aug 20, 2014 |
Amelian: my dear, i may sound off like abit brutal 2 yur intending fiance.. but the truth is this... there are some ladies out there, who wishes to be satisfied well, sexually. we are not saying the guy shud go 10 rounds or 4 rounds in a day.. what the op, is saying is dis----shes not feeling any connection, when having sex with shola... its not that shola is not good in bed, but theres NO connection there, and trust me op, as a Nija man wey get Pride, he wont change his styles, u have to deal with it... Only few Nija men who truly wants to please their women go the extra length to adjust and learn more on pleasing their women on bed...Finally someone who understand the point I'm trying to make. |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by onegig(m): 12:30pm On Aug 20, 2014 |
mcdreeezy: Ok oh, but I don't think sex should be an issue between couples. There are way more important things in life and marriage than the aforementioned IMOReality and statistics prove this line of thought wrong. Ask most divorced couples what happened and i can bet you that intimacy would be among top 3 for almost 80% of them. 1 Like |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by Nobody: 12:32pm On Aug 20, 2014 |
mcdreeezy: Ok oh, but I don't think sex should be an issue between couples. There are way more important things in life and marriage than the aforementioned IMO Really? Please explain further |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by Godmystrength: 12:33pm On Aug 20, 2014 |
mcdreeezy: Ok oh, but I don't think sex should be an issue between couples. There are way more important things in life and marriage than the aforementioned IMOHow can you say this? it is IMPORTANT. In fact, VERY IMPORTANT one of the MOST IMPORTANT except both of you now decide to make it NOT IMPORTANT |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by RollingFella(m): 12:55pm On Aug 20, 2014 |
chaircover: @OP, listen to chaircover on what she said above and answer her question. |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by Nobody: 12:57pm On Aug 20, 2014 |
mcdreeezy: Ok oh, but I don't think sex should be an issue between couples. There are way more important things in life and marriage than the aforementioned IMOLeft me ask please are you married? I quite agree with that there are more important things in life and sex is one of them. I bet you let your spouse deny you sex for a period or he/she can't satisfy you in bed. Then come back and tell us that sex isn't important. Sex is a major cause of family conflicts. Do your opinion poll very well. onegig: Reality and statistics prove this line of thought wrong. Ask most divorced couples what happened and i can bet you that intimacy would be among top 3 for almost 80% of them.Please help me to tell him. I have asked him whether he is married. Cos I need to get that answer before I know what to say next. |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by mcdreeezy: 1:01pm On Aug 20, 2014 |
onegig: Reality and statistics prove this line of thought wrong. Ask most divorced couples what happened and i can bet you that intimacy would be among top 3 for almost 80% of them.Well I guess it's a matter of preference then, they chose to make it important. That's somethin I wouldn't do if I'm married tho |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by mcdreeezy: 1:04pm On Aug 20, 2014 |
damselleen:I don't know how I'll further xplain it, it's based on preference. To me, I feel sex shouldn't be one of the main tinz in marriage. It's just my opinion tho |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by mcdreeezy: 1:10pm On Aug 20, 2014 |
Icherishu:Sex is not that important except for procreation purposes, it is the couples that choose to make it important or seem like a big deal. If you're talkin about bonding, there are numerous ways couples can bond without sex. Except for procreation, I don't see the importance of sex, it's just somethin pple do for fun and shouldn't be a priority or one of the priorities of marriage 1 Like |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by mcdreeezy: 1:13pm On Aug 20, 2014 |
Godmystrength: How can you say this? it is IMPORTANT. In fact, VERY IMPORTANT one of the MOST IMPORTANT except both of you now decide to make it NOT IMPORTANTIt's based on preference, my friend |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by Godmystrength: 1:13pm On Aug 20, 2014 |
mcdreeezy: Sex is not that important except for procreation purposes, it is the couples that choose to make it important or seem like a big deal. If you're talkin about bonding, there are numerous ways couples can bond without sex. Except for procreation, I don't see the importance of sex, it's just somethin pple do for fun and shouldn't be a priority or one of the priorities of marriagelearning something new though i don't agree with you o.... |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by Godmystrength: 1:14pm On Aug 20, 2014 |
mcdreeezy: It's based on preference, my friendI am not your friend in this |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by mcdreeezy: 1:16pm On Aug 20, 2014 |
Godmystrength: learning something new though i don't agree with you o....Lolz....well then, let's disagree to agree |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by mcdreeezy: 1:18pm On Aug 20, 2014 |
Godmystrength: I am not your friend in thisHehe..but we're not fightin na |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by babysugar1(f): 1:21pm On Aug 20, 2014 |
@OP, the issue here is dat u kip Comparing both AY with Shola. Just try nd forget the AY guy for now and concentrate on shola cos der is more to a relationship nd sex. Don't get mi wrong, sex is important too. Why not try to take control wen it come to sex, afterall u knw hw u like it, u can always lead him on by taking charge. |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by onegig(m): 1:21pm On Aug 20, 2014 |
mcdreeezy: Well I guess it's a matter of preference then, they chose to make it important. That's somethin I wouldn't do if I'm married thoGod help you then and best wishes. I hope you are not one of those people from the 18th century that believe s.ex is for procreation only? Oh ! I see you just confirmed that. Good luck once again. So what happens once you guys are done with giving births or periods you are not interested in bringing a child to the word? You would watch telemundo althrough? 3 Likes |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by Godmystrength: 1:22pm On Aug 20, 2014 |
mcdreeezy: Hehe..but we're not fightin naLol. We are not. But how can you say sex is not important now?? haba |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by Godmystrength: 1:23pm On Aug 20, 2014 |
onegig: God help you then and best wishes. I hope you are not one of those people from the 18th century that believe s.ex is for procreation only?He sounds so. he is one of them mcdreeezy: Sex is not that important except for procreation purposes, it is the couples that choose to make it important or seem like a big deal. If you're talkin about bonding, there are numerous ways couples can bond without sex. Except for procreation, I don't see the importance of sex, it's just somethin pple do for fun and shouldn't be a priority or one of the priorities of marriage 1 Like |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by mcdreeezy: 1:26pm On Aug 20, 2014 |
onegig: God help you then and best wishes. I hope you are not one of those people from the 18th century that believe s.ex is for procreation only?Procreation is the number one priority, what else could sex be for in marriage? I'm talkin about important tinz oh, not tinz that are matter (anytin that has weight and occupies space) |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by Godmystrength: 1:28pm On Aug 20, 2014 |
mcdreeezy: Procreation is the number one priority, what else could sex be for in marriage? I'm talkin about important tinz oh, not tinz that are matter (anytin that has weight and occupies space)now i am laffing . So after you are through with child bearing, then no more sex? |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by mcdreeezy: 1:29pm On Aug 20, 2014 |
Godmystrength: Lol. We are not. But how can you say sex is not important now?? habaHmm, so I'm soundin weird? That's what I believe sha |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by onegig(m): 1:31pm On Aug 20, 2014 |
mcdreeezy: Procreation is the number one priority, what else could sex be for in marriage? I'm talkin about important tinz oh, not tinz that are matter (anytin that has weight and occupies space)Don't want to derail the thread. She came here to seek help. Won't be fair if we derailed the thread with side talks. All i would just say is TIME would determine that. You would learn better soon. 1 Like |
Re: Cry For Help: Two Weeks To Introduction by mcdreeezy: 1:32pm On Aug 20, 2014 |
onegig: Don't want to derail the thread. She came here to seek help. Won't be fair if we derailed the thread with side talks. All i would just say is TIME would determine that. You would learn better soon.Ok then |
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