I'm broken. Shola came to my house last night, he was kneeling down and crying. I've never see a man get that broken. I'm confused.

He said the reason why I didn't enjoy the sex is because he didn't bring out his best and that he didn't know it really matters to me.

damselleen: I'm broken. Shola came to my house last night, he was kneeling down and crying. I've never see a man get that broken. I'm confused.

He said the reason why I didn't enjoy the sex is because he didn't bring out his best and that he didn't know it really matters to me.

Then give him another chance to prove himself. Don't just abandon ship without giving a good fight so you don't blame yourself in the future that you didn't exhaust all possible avenues of working it out. Try him again and this time, take the lead and slow him down when he wants to rush the meal.

Goodluck.

I see communicatio gaps betw u both. If u really luv him. U will dis cuss everythin and also anything with him. In terms of marriage sex is very vital. Its better u dont get marry to someone u are not compatitable with especially sexually. Odawise u will certainly. I will not advise u to marry him odawise u will certainly have issues with him regret it.

damselleen:
I did discussed it with him. I told him I don't expect him to be perfect cos I'm not perfect. I told him how he can please me. He said I'm the first person that will complain (pride ). I thought he had listened but he didn't put it into practice what I complained about the next day.

I'm not expertise when it comes to sex but I'm teachable . My fear is what if it doesn't change?

If he doesn't put it into, you do it for him. You are the one to teach him how to pleasure you.

@op. Sex IS very important in marriage! The biggest mistake you will make is to marry someone you are not sexually attracted to. To crown it all, men love sex, they are the ones that keep the fire going in the marriage. Imagine yourself in the situation were your husband will want sex all the time and you are very very frustrated because he is not pleasing you the way you like. Believe me, your frustration will cascade down to every single thing you do. You do not want to be in that situation. Sex is what spices marriage up. When you fight, it makes you forget the reason why you were fighting in the first place. . . And so on. . .

I am glad you decided to give it more time. Since you already like him, give him time to learn and improve, but if it's not working, pick race o!