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Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by Nobody: 7:34am On Sep 07, 2014 |
Wait, wait, wait! you mean one seriously can't even spank his toddler in the US? Seriously serious?! I don't mean beat with cane oo, because I don't condone that myself. I my dad flogged us ehh, hmmm, we chop igabti no be small and like magic we all turn out well, none will need therapy for sure and my elder siblings are often grateful for it. For me o, I've tried shouting, eye contact, bribing, and spanking with my nephews. Them lads love to be bribed with icecream but even that is not as effective as spanking! And I think it's bad to bribe kids but sometime you'd do anything for some sanity. And the belt is the ultimate means of controlling those duo. I never go as far as to use the belt, because I never had to, I just pull it out and a pin drop silence is what I get. That's because their dad uses belt and they have incredible reverence for it. I also discovered that using a little 'psychology', mind games works well, rewarding good behaviour as an incentive for further good behaviour, and I find that if I tell the younger one to keep an eye on my laptop and not allow anyone touch because I trust he's my pal and would run to tell me, it's done! 1 Like |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by Bigwig1: 7:37am On Sep 07, 2014 |
Spare d rod nd spoil d child In d heart of a child is madness and only cane can remove it |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by chidimmaaa(f): 7:41am On Sep 07, 2014 |
moca: Absolutely yes!m gonna tell u d effect on me. If my parents never spanked me, I'll probably wld av become a thief, always home late and challenging them buh then, they scare d shit outta of and I barely tell them anything about me. U gotta use watever way necessary to put ur kid in d ryt way. |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by chidimmaaa(f): 7:42am On Sep 07, 2014 |
moca: Absolutely yes!m gonna tell u d effect on me. If my parents never spanked me, I'll probably wld av become a thief, always home late and challenging them buh then, they scare d shit outta of and I barely tell them anything about me. U gotta use watever way necessary to put ur kid in d ryt way. Even if it means them hating if, they're gonna cum bck to their senses one day and thank u big tym |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by Camellia(f): 7:55am On Sep 07, 2014 |
beating yes ..more like. spanking..... but to abuse it...its very bad... |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by alphaomega(m): 7:57am On Sep 07, 2014 |
“If a man has a stubborn and rebellious son who will not obey the voice of ... then his father and his mother shall take hold of him and bring him out to the ... Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him. (Prov.10:13; 13:24; 26:3) Bottom line: SPARE d rod..n SPOIL d child... Chikena... P.s..if u think u are wiser than the Holy book ( cos of ur supposedly high level of education), then u are on ur own... 1 Like |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by dnawah(m): 8:08am On Sep 07, 2014 |
It is the bible,in the coran even okeja juju will tell u to flog ur child well well.i no a family that didn't do that,it the children that flog them now.(because they don't know how painfull the cane is)GOD himsel flog his children |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by godman01(m): 8:09am On Sep 07, 2014 |
Do not withhold discipline from a child; even if you strike him with the rod, he will not die. Prov.23:13 |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by Nobody: 8:09am On Sep 07, 2014 |
Yomieluv: Spanking is good,where necessary,don't leave a bruise.Spanking may lead to deviant sexxual behaviour. So don't blame anyone when you find your child's into S&M, Bee|Dee|SM, and other crazy things. Yes you can raise children without punishing them corporally. You only need wisdom. |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by silversonuc(m): 8:09am On Sep 07, 2014 |
aolatunde00: I told myself same thing and it's becoming increasingly more difficult to abide by with my 21month old son.lol, kids nd dia innocent minds, nd if u spank dem den u are simply a fun spoiler |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by Whizpeter(m): 8:11am On Sep 07, 2014 |
bebe2: its very possible to raise a child without beatings.Lol... The dude z now used to the hard life he was brought up with... |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by bee444: 8:23am On Sep 07, 2014 |
I've spent 3 solid decades in this world and still counting. I was a product of beating! My dad (of living memory) would beat the hell of out me for no reason. Beating was my nickname, not that I was naughty or wayward of some sort. Not eating a particular kind of food in the house would lead to severe beating; playing with friends nko, na beating; having disagreement with my siblings, beating; mistakenly breaking or misplacing anything, beating; sleeping in the afternoon, beating, waking up late, beating and so on and so forth. The beating so affected me as a grown up until I sort deliverance. I lost my dad 11 years ago, and just got delivered from his abuse and beating 2 years ago. He would visit me in the dream and beat the hell of out me. He did that for solid 7 to 8 years until I fasted and prayed for deliverance. I was affected emotionally, psychologically and even spiritually. And once in a while, My dad would want to visit and beat me again, Jesus always stood for me and will continue to stand for me. I therefore seek the indulgence of parents.. pls only spank your children and do not beat them! There's a difference between spanking and beating..pls look it up! |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by Mutuwa(m): 8:23am On Sep 07, 2014 |
shizzleStar: Beating becomes a necessity when a child is unruly or unrepentantly sturbon. Nothing wrong with it this is wht i call a qualified answer to this thread. |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by silversonuc(m): 8:25am On Sep 07, 2014 |
iwakolewa: I believe it's possible not to beat a child if you want to,my kids are very hyperactive and they do the naughtiest of things. ...all I do is apply patience and wisdom,many parents do not have the patience to deal with kids especially kids that are ages 18 months to about 8 years...I spanked my 4year old daughter in the presence of my mum one time,and my mum was so upset,nothing wey she no talk that day. ...that I was worse than my kids at stressing her and so I shouldn't beat my kids again,she then took her time to tell me the things I did as a child. ...it was so funny, so I decided that my kids were just being what they are,children. So I'd rather discipline and mete out what I deem to be punishment,like for my almost 5year old daughter, anytime she gets naughty,I make her count 1-200,if she makes mistakes, she'll start again, and it has helped me and her too.....or I tell her to lie down and sleep,na by force sleep o,she hates siestas...once I say,lie down,she'll just say mummy,sorry, I won't do it againmehn u are a proffesional at child discipline,like u said d secret is find out wat d child doesnt like and use dat against him/her wen he/she goes wrong, i like d lie dwn nd sleep part, d 1 - 200 make sense too, prolly if she gets used to 200 u make it 700, thanx maaam dat was educative, noted |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by silversonuc(m): 8:27am On Sep 07, 2014 |
CyberEBOLA: I JUST ASKED MY DAD AND AFTER TWO SLAPS, HE SAID NO.ya papa na retired principal? |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by Joshuadon: 8:30am On Sep 07, 2014 |
troy20: #DONOTBEAT IN ONE WORD - SPARE THE ROD ND SPOIL THE KID.... DATS KIND OF A CLICHÈ....BUT DATS D TRUTH... |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by Youngzedd(m): 8:49am On Sep 07, 2014 |
moca: Absolutely yes! Give him/her a cookies. |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by Laitesmart(m): 9:00am On Sep 07, 2014 |
I dont think so... Why do you think chidren fear their dad more than their mum or in sum cases, vice versa?? |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by styvhin(m): 9:27am On Sep 07, 2014 |
You who say you'll not spank....hm...u neva meet pikin o..... u neva jam!! When u jam....ur story will change. |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by Sixix: 9:29am On Sep 07, 2014 |
[quote author=Kirinwa] Bleep America. They are not a standard. Check out almost every precinct there has a gansta unit with guns ready to blaze at slight provocation. FYI, most gangsta especially blacks were beaten by their parents yet it did not stop them from dealing in drugs and guns I have dealt with kids without touching a strand, if I had been told I could do that I would have argued blindly. Try to be non-violent especially to towards your kids. What you do and who you are affect their personalities and would shape how they will turn out to be Even their president is a gay sympathiser possibly one too albeit having a wife. A country that threatens to sanction other countries because they are against men opening yansh for fellow men to ram home. Abeg! What does this have to do with the issue at hand? It seems your opinion is born out of sentiment. Learn to be objective. |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by Sixix: 9:39am On Sep 07, 2014 |
Xcapist: Wait, wait, wait! you mean one seriously can't even spank his toddler in the US? Seriously serious?! I don't mean beat with cane oo, because I don't condone that myself. I my dad flogged us ehh, hmmm, we chop igabti no be small and like magic we all turn out well, none will need therapy for sure and my elder siblings are often grateful for it. You think you all did but sorry you all didn't. Violence always leaves a scar and it is transferable. It will manifest when you least expected it. However individuals differ |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by Nobody: 9:51am On Sep 07, 2014 |
kulboy: In my state of origin according to my Nigerian passport, it is practically "IMPOSSIBLE" because that child's gonna grow up to very Disrespectful and Rude.I've have a friend whose parents never smacked him...beat him up and this dude grew up to be very respectful and he ain't rude. Funny thing is he ain't an ajebo. So its possible bro. |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by Sixix: 9:53am On Sep 07, 2014 |
ITbomb: People who are against beatings are mostly the ones who got more than enough and maybe from anger rather than correction. |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by mistyebby(f): 9:59am On Sep 07, 2014 |
Enough has been said already!But let's remember as written in the Bible "spare the rod..spoil the child! |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by Heycube(m): 10:12am On Sep 07, 2014 |
It is possible if u practice wat u preach to ur kid. Let ur kid knw ur YES frm NO. Once a kid get to knw dt u ar a lie/deceiver......datsall |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by streetzdreamz(m): 10:13am On Sep 07, 2014 |
aolatunde00: I told myself same thing and it's becoming increasingly more difficult to abide by with my 21month old son.lols ur little man is quite energetic,troublesome kids r a sight to behold n i prefer em o'er d cool quiet ones,well a lil spanking on d bum should do d trick,cuz he cant obviously see anytin wrong in his lil adventures howbeit t myt oneday endanger him, and as he grows up other measures can be introduced,wen he's able to decipher rights from wrongs,btw u'l make a great mother |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by Davidbanky(m): 10:18am On Sep 07, 2014 |
Kachisbarbie: Yes na...my parents have never laid their hands on us and we very responsible and all... I think it depends, when u giver birth to a child around mushin, Oshodi and the rest, mhen, u got to flog o, cos as the area is having a negative influence which I assure you will, the Cain will serve as the corrector ... Lol |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by raphy(m): 10:24am On Sep 07, 2014 |
this sound gibirish to me. |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by Nobody: 10:26am On Sep 07, 2014 |
Sixix:maybe. But I won't go as far as calling it violence. Did my father's general strictness leave me a little timid? Yes. But I really don't think the cane scarred me in any way beyond physical. And note that I don't support the use of it ooo. Or should I say I haven't made up my mind yet.... |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by babtunsk(m): 10:27am On Sep 07, 2014 |
I blive in Spare d rod n spoil d child |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by miketayo(m): 10:53am On Sep 07, 2014 |
its possible obviously. why do u think Nigeria turned up like this, its because we were raised like goats so we end up acting like one. i blive in talking sense instead of using the rod |
Re: Is It Possible To Raise A Child Without Beating by Nobody: 10:57am On Sep 07, 2014 |
Davidbanky:Lol...very true tho. those ones they stubborn welllll. |
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