aolatunde00: I told myself same thing and it's becoming increasingly more difficult to abide by with my 21month old son.
He runs the water dispenser almost everyday completely running it out on the kitchen floor at least once
He goes to his clothes drawer to empty the neatly ironed and folded clothes.
He empties his laundry basket too;at least twice a day
This is minus going to turn off/on wall sockets as soon as no one is around.
He's also pulled a standing wall mirror on himself crashing it in the process and slightly bruising himself.
I have introduced spanking on the bum to caution him
Have I also mentioned he's a pro in climbing any and all things?chairs,dinning tables,centre table,climbs into his own high chair amongst many others?
He needs to be cautioned before he endNgers himself unknowinhlu

I'm sorry to tell you that its just the beginning.
There is a phase in a child's life known as "terrible twos".
“Most toddlers begin testing limits** shortly after their first birthday and continue until about age four,” says Ari Brown, M.D., author of TODDLER 411

They want to explore, they are more aware of their environment, attracted by colors and sounds, etc.

Mine wants to buy all the soccer balls across the country and now I don't take him anywhere there's a soccer ball.
And yes, he decides his clothes are too neat in a pile and decides to scatter them all over the room too. .

He now has a degree in wanting to know why my own "tutwee" is bigger than his own. lmao!
Can't have a shower with him anymore.

yemisolar: training a child without beating WHEN NECESSARY i like thinking you can drive a car so carefully without wearing out the brake pad. i don't know where we got this idea of only talking to the child from.

the balance i believe is that you should not beat irrationally especially at the moment of anger. also let the child know why he is being beaten.

lastly, i know that there are a lot of contrary opinions, but the question we should ask is :in societies where the do not their their children, are they turning out to be more responsible adults that we are?

Kachisbarbie: Yes na...my parents have never laid their hands on us and we very responsible and all...
If I open this my big eyes, better fear go catch ma pikin, I no need stress ma sef to beat am. I actually have other measures I use, a child is child, we know how to handle them without beating.

Horayce: In the west, kids are generally not beaten,yet they grow up to be responsible and well behaved citizens for the most part; can't say the same for Nigeria with our holier than thou attitudes on raising kids. My siblings and I were not flogged and we turned out ok, it's entirely possible dude.

Atmmachine: I see many Nairalanders getting 5 years jail term if they were in America

Kirinwa:

Bleep America. They are not a standard. Check out almost every precinct there has a gansta unit with guns ready to blaze at slight provocation.

Even their president is a gay sympathiser possibly one too albeit having a wife. A country that threatens to sanction other countries because they are against men opening yansh for fellow men to ram home. Abeg!

Kirinwa:

Bleep America. They are not a standard. Check out almost every precinct there has a gansta unit with guns ready to blaze at slight provocation.

Even their president is a gay sympathiser possibly one too albeit having a wife. A country that threatens to sanction other countries because they are against men opening yansh for fellow men to ram home. Abeg!

Horayce: In the west, kids are generally not beaten,yet they grow up to be responsible and well behaved citizens for the most part; can't say the same for Nigeria with our holier than thou attitudes on raising kids. My siblings and I were not flogged and we turned out ok, it's entirely possible dude.

AbdulSleek: Think carefully,

Beating a child in Western countries is a crime. Yet, they manage to raise children there.


So, it can be done. I think that if one removes beating, it has to be replaced with strong punishment

doctorofgirls: what's up

Kachisbarbie: Yes na...my parents have never laid their hands on us and we very responsible and all...
If I open this my big eyes, better fear go catch ma pikin, I no need stress ma sef to beat am. I actually have other measures I use, a child is child, we know how to handle them without beating.

Kachisbarbie:
Me good and you?

Truckpusher: It's a crime in the West because the govt became afraid of too many abused children cases coming up ,but again when you raise a monster with the 'no beating policy' being the main culprit that ensured that the child didn't get the manual reset he or she so much deserved , the same govt wouldn't hesitate in throwing them into jail altering their lives forever.

toofine765: I try my best not to spank them but there are times when you are left with no choice. I also use the naughty corner which they detest a lot because my own naughy corner is our visitor's toilet. Just the mention of it gets them to behave but all in all I keep praying for wisdom from God to be able to teach them in the best way possible as I have four kids aged 0 to 7

Daresh:

I have 2 kids, my son is almost 6 and my daughter is 3 and I dont beat them.

My children are not drums. I usually talk them thru it.

Occasionally I spank their bums but then they have committed grave sin.

I think naughty corner or locking them in the room serves as a better punishment than beating.

I'm not a violent person by the way, I don't like fighting and I can't kuku fight sef