Some years ago, my wife died while giving birth to my daughter. It hurt for a while (the hurt never really leaves), but I was able to gather myself and be a good dad to my daughter. She is as beautiful as her mom was, and she's grown up to be very bright and independent.
The sad news is she'll be going on her first date this weekend. And it hurts...
I understand that life sucks. But this I'm not sure I'm ready to handle. What if the boy ends up using and dumping her? Maybe what I feel now are just parental instincts. I really need mature advice from those who have nutured kids and seen them grow up to become responsible adults.

Now this is unbelievable... The son of lucifer needs advice?

I think your worries are natural and good. I think that you should talk about them with your daughter. Tell her that you knew that this time would come but that you are worried of what could happen. Tell her what to be careful about and what the risks are and it will go a long way. It will help you to protect her. Talk to your daughter, she will be grateful.

polymathic: Now this is unbelievable... The son of lucifer needs advice?

Everyone needs help, even Gods.

carefreewannabe: I think your worries are natural and good. I think that you should talk about them with your daughter. Tell her that you knew that this time would come but that you are worried of what could happen. Tell her what to be careful about and what the risks are and it will go a long way. It will help you to protect her. Talk to your daughter, she will be grateful.

Thanks. It's all a bit scary and confusing. A part of me has always known this day would come, but I never really prepared for it. I have done a lot of introspection and I'm thinking it would be good for both of us if I started dating someone again. My daughter might not be as available as she used to be for me. I guess I'll just have to accept that, rather than cage her. Thanks a lot for taking out time to reply. I really appreciate it.

sonOfLucifer:
Everyone needs help, even Gods.

Nah, don't think so... Anyways tho, u should allow the gal have her own experience too, aint notin like the experience one experience 'emselves... It last longer with them and the only thing u shld do is sit her down and talk to her (father n daughter convo)
Let her know the game n gimmicks involve in this thing and how she can always handle diff kind of situation in a relationship..
I hope ths helps tho

sonOfLucifer:
Thanks. It's all a bit scary and confusing. A part of me has always known this day would come, but I never really prepared for it. I have done a lot of introspection and I'm thinking it would be good for both of us if I started dating someone again. My daughter might not be as available as she used to be for me. I guess I'll just have to accept that, rather than cage her. Thanks a lot for taking out time to reply. I really appreciate it.

You are welcome.

ask your dad, he will be of good help, with lots of experience.
#runsouttathread

Fathers be cagng their daughters like they're gonna marry her
I wonder what runs through their heads when they see a young, smart guy taking away their 'lil angel' just like that


Anyways, op, if you don't mind-how old is the girl? Are you saying you haven't dated in about 16 years?

Op,if she is of age to date, then the ball is nolonger in ur court. So long as you hav taught her right nd wrong over the years,her instinct,common sense nd good upbringing will do the rest.

Letting her know u trust her is all I think she needs at d moment,caging a young adult only make them rebellious,at times put them in much more trouble than they bargained for

It's obvious a few of the comments here have come from people who have no idea how much effort raising a family requires. Your ignorance is pardoned. I'll only respond to sensible comments. The Nigerian education system should be blamed for producing a lot of shitheads who can't think or reason for themselves. Myopic posts with more characters than sense in them.

Hourglass4real: Op,if she is of age to date, then the ball is nolonger in ur court. So long as you hav taught her right nd wrong over the years,her instinct,common sense nd good upbringing will do the rest.

Letting her know u trust her is all I think she needs at d moment,caging a young adult only make them rebellious,at times put them in much more trouble than they bargained for

Thanks. We had a long talk last night. She understands how I feel, and I woke up feeling much better than I felt last night.

polymathic: Nah, don't think so... Anyways tho, u should allow the gal have her own experience too, aint notin like the experience one experience 'emselves... It last longer with them and the only thing u shld do is sit her down and talk to her (father n daughter convo)
Let her know the game n gimmicks involve in this thing and how she can always handle diff kind of situation in a relationship..
I hope ths helps tho

We can discuss the God angle in the religion section. Let's try not to derail this. Just so you know, my daughter is a Christian and I attend church services with her sometimes. Love should transcend religious beliefs, dont you think?

sonOfLucifer:
We can discuss the God angle in the religion section. Let's try not to derail this. Just so you know, my daughter is a Christian and I attend church services with her sometimes. Love should transcend religious beliefs, dont you think?

Sure
Without Love, the religion itself is nothing...

sonOfLucifer: It's obvious a few of the comments here have come from people who have no idea how much effort raising a family requires. Your ignorance is pardoned. I'll only respond to sensible comments. The Nigerian education system should be blamed for producing a lot of shitheads who can't think or reason for themselves. Myopic posts with more characters than sense in them.

Hehehe
All these grammar for me?
You must be high on lucifer's urine

sonOfLucifer:
Thanks. We had a long talk last night. She understands how I feel, and I woke up feeling much better than I felt last night.

That's good to know...nature will take it from here. I wish her luck because at times even good nd well brought up girls still fall into wrong hands.

dumb sonoflucifer..

sonOfLucifer:
We can discuss the God angle in the religion section. Let's try not to derail this. Just so you know, my daughter is a Christian and I attend [b]church[/s] services with her sometimes. Love should transcend religious beliefs, dont you think?

cackle! how do you felt man when praising God you said is wicked

Don't really know what to say but from where I come from a girl her age should be focused on something else rather than boys...anyway I could advise u to trust ur baby girl, U raised her up, u know the morals u instilled in her, u have probably observed her from birth and knows what she can do and undo...so based on all these u can now make ur decision weather to let her date or not.

Agrika: Don't really know what to say but from where I come from a girl her age should be focused on something else rather than boys...anyway I could advise u to trust ur baby girl, U raised her up, u know the morals u instilled in her, u have probably observed her from birth and knows what she can do and undo...so based on all these u can now make ur decision weather to let her date or not.

At least, I'm grateful she isn't lesbian.

Son Of Lucifer has been 'Lucyfying' his daughter,he is scared the guy might be 'Lucific' than him.....

You are the son of Lucifer,go ahead and marry her,it would be justifyable in your father's Kingdom

Odilafta: Son Of Lucifer has been 'Lucyfying' his daughter,he is scared the guy might be 'Lucific' than him.....

You are the son of Lucifer,go ahead and marry her,it would be justifyable in your father's Kingdom

d op is a clown....

Odilafta: Son Of Lucifer has been 'Lucyfying' his daughter,he is scared the guy might be 'Lucific' than him.....

You are the son of Lucifer,go ahead and marry her,it would be justifyable in your father's Kingdom

Another product of a prostitute, local paedophile, with an anthill for a brain...

If I were you, this is what I would simply do.
Tell her it is not really cool and it looks disrespectful that the guy hasn't come visiting before that's if he hasn't.
That way you get to know the guy.

In this kind of situation or for people who are going to be in this situation in the nearest future, I suggest you make friends with your daughters friends, boyfriends and lovers. Get to know them. It starts from there.

NairaMode:
If I were you, this is what I would simply do.
Tell her it is not really cool and it looks disrespectful that the guy hasn't come visiting before that's if he hasn't.
That way you get to know the guy.

In this kind of situation or for people who are going to be in this situation in the nearest future, I suggest you make friends with your daughters friends, boyfriends and lovers. Get to know them. It starts from there.

It's all good now.