@Babymama: nice thread, hope you are fully ok

Hubby:
Thought about it

He is very principled (and can sometimes be rigid and an idealist (see things as it should be and work towards it)

Interesting thread.

Too gentle: This makes some people take advantage of him. Sometimes, I wish he had just a little "agberoness" in him.

Too trusting: This man gave a huge sum of money (about 80% deposit) to an interior decorator when he just moved into his new home. He didn't know much about the man, neither did he know his office. Someone just recommended him, he called him up, the man came to the house and they talked. All he had was his phone number. I mean, who does that? Of course, the man stopped picking his calls after some weeks. The rest is history. . . I nearly get high BP.

Hates confrontation/can't say "no": A relative/friend asks for money he doesn't have or can't afford to give at the moment. Instead of telling the said person exactly that, he will say "I'll see what I can do". And they will nearly blow up his phone with calls and daily prayer SMSs. This gets on my very last nerve! How difficult can it be to say "o'boy, I no get money" and mean it?

^^ Eyah...he sounds kind hearted, Phema.

You'll just have to be the 'hard' one in your relationship.

Stillfire: Babymama, what's your own flaw?

She talks a lot.that's one of her major flaws

Babymama1:


Hmm
I don't know how the man manages me wallahi
One time he made me angry and I was talking and he refused to respond
Nothing as annoying as that,dead cold silence
I said to myself babymama
How can I punish this man this morning ,that is eh , show him well well
I put his bunch of keys in my handbag and went to work and switched off my phone
Chai
He called me over 25 times whosai
He had to take a taxi to my place of work

Lol.
I can't do that though.
I found out I blame myself more when things go wrong...like I must be stu.pid to have let the issue happen.

EfemenaXY: ^^ Eyah...he sounds kind hearted, Phema.

You'll just have to be the 'hard' one in your relationship.

Kindheartedness is good, but when people start taking advantage of it, then it's high time one re-evaluated him/herself.

I pressed some buttons and now, his frenemies are complaining he's changed since he got married. Them never see anything

Funny enough but what we consider flaws may be Gods way of balancing us out.
We both cant be hard and we both cant be soft
We both cant be quiet and we both cant be talkative
We both cant be disciplinarians and we both cant be soft parents and the list goes on
Most importantly if you complement each other and respect, undertand and tolerate each others differences, then thats OK . . . it even makes the marriage more interesting and lively.

^^^^^True that Chaircover.

Phema:
He's given me absolute control of the finances. And now, his frenemies are complaining that he's changed since he got married. Dem never see anything.

chaaaaaaiiiiiiiiiiii!!!!!!!
Phema, diaris God oo

alutacontinua:
chaaaaaaiiiiiiiiiiii!!!!!!!
Phema, diaris God oo

My dear, what can a good, christian and kindhearted woman like me do na?

Phema:

My dear, what can a good, christian and kindhearted woman like me do na?

lol
You remind me of my mum dad can dash himself out (and everybody knows). Even as kids, na daddy tinz oo, my mum go dey ask how, when, where and what you wanna use it for when I will have got triple from dad


Thing is I think I completely take after the man.
the only solution for me is 'don't ask' cos once you do, I'll gladly go hungry for one week just to put a smile on somebody's face

alutacontinua:

lol
You remind me of my mum dad can dash himself out (and everybody knows). Even as kids, na daddy tinz oo, my mum go dey ask how, when, where and what you wanna use it for when I will have got triple from dad


Thing is I think I completely take after the man.
the only solution for me is 'don't ask' cos once you do, I'll gladly go hungry for one week just to put a smile on somebody's face

Really?

Please send 5K to my account

$dollars please

Thank you in advance

bukatyne:

Really?

Please send 5K to my account

$dollars please

Thank you in advance

lolllllllllllllllllll
@phema, your children go like daddy pass

alutacontinua:

lol
You remind me of my mum dad can dash himself out (and everybody knows). Even as kids, na daddy tinz oo, my mum go dey ask how, when, where and what you wanna use it for when I will have got triple from dad


Thing is I think I completely take after the man.
the only solution for me is 'don't ask' cos once you do, I'll gladly go hungry for one week just to put a smile on somebody's face

Your roommates must have loved the hell out of you at Uni!

EfemenaXY:

Your roommates must have loved the hell out of you at Uni!

Lol, they do when it's to their favour.
but when I decline them something cos I just gave it to a lady I met in class yesterday, that's when they remember I'm stvpid

^^ Girl, don't let people (especially borrow-borrow Nigerians) take advantage of your kind nature.

It's a dog-eat-dog world out there...

alutacontinua:

lol
You remind me of my mum dad can dash himself out (and everybody knows). Even as kids, na daddy tinz oo, my mum go dey ask how, when, where and what you wanna use it for when I will have got triple from dad

Oh, that worries me too. Other than giving out money, I doubt he will even scold them when they go wrong (I mean, our kids). I won't even have the 'privilege' of saying "let your dad get back from work today", like my mum had. That will be a waste of time and energy. They will prolly laugh me to scorn. Looks like I might just be doing the disciplining all by myself

Hope I don't turn into one spiteful wicked woman. The Lord is my muscle

Coogar what are your own flaws
Count them off and name them one by one nna a

EfemenaXY: ^^ Girl, don't let people (especially borrow-borrow Nigerians) take advantage of your kind nature.

It's a dog-eat-dog world out there...

LOL
Yes ma-am

Phema:

Oh, that worries me too. Other than giving out money, I doubt he will even scold them when they go wrong (I mean, our kids). I won't even have the 'privilege' of saying "let your dad get back from work today", like my mum had. That will be a waste of time and energy. They will prolly laugh me to scorn. Looks like I might just be doing the disciplining all by myself

Hope I don't turn into one spiteful wicked woman. The Lord is my muscle

Join the club babes
Mummy "hard" since 1845
Welcome to the club of "where's dad?" as the first thing they utter when they get in before saying Hello mum

chaircover:
Join the club babes
Mummy "hard" since 1845
Welcome to the club of "where's dad?" as the first thing they utter when they get in before saying Hello mum

Lol@ where is dad?

When will these children realise we actually love them more, ehn?

Babymama1: Coogar what are your own flaws
Count them off and name them one by one nna a

i am flawless.

This Coogar ehn .That jollof rice part cracked me up. .

Nice thread babymama.

My hubby is actually similar to yours. He is a no nonsense man and doesn't give people second chances.
However , I dont think that's a flaw at all. That actually turns me on . I love men with balls.

My hubby can be a nag. Yes o men nag too . Most times I'll be like 'I don hear abeg'. Dont kee me.

^^Oh my!The 'I don hear abeg',Dont kee me.This really got me laughing...It's like we married same husband.
I need to let my husband know he has an 'act alike'somewhere.

ladygogo: This Coogar ehn .That jollof rice part cracked me up. .

Nice thread babymama.

My hubby is actually similar to yours. He is a no nonsense man and doesn't give people second chances.
However , I dont think that's a flaw at all. That actually turns me on . I love men with balls.

My hubby can be a nag. Yes o men nag too . Most times I'll be like 'I don hear abeg'. Dont kee me.

Men accuse women of nagging,na dem dey nag pass

coogar:

i am flawless.

Indeed
You strike me like someone that will start cooking his own stew and soup when he is angry

Hahahahaha
I hear some men do that
When they're mad at the wife they will stop eating her food and start cooking and putting on one side of the fridge until she begs them

If my hubby tries that,I will put all his containers of food inside the deep freezer

Babymama1:

Indeed
You strike me like someone that will start cooking his own stew and soup when he is angry

Hahahahaha
I hear some men do that
When they're mad at the wife they will stop eating her food and start cooking and putting on one side of the fridge until she begs them

If my hubby tries that,I will put all his containers of food inside the deep freezer

Em em I belong to that category....

donodion:

Em em I belong to that category....

Hahahahaha

What exactly do you plan to achieve?
To make her feel bad you are rejecting the food?

Babymama1:

Hahahahaha

What exactly do you plan to achieve?
To make her feel bad you are rejecting the food?

Yep. when a man like me who have great preference for home made meal starts ignoring my babes food...as tasty as it maybe,hmm, eating fast food,sometime sef I fit ask a female colleague to prep some specific type of soup I know my babe is equally good at.... im passing across silent but strong message.

But im getting over that antic..... ...no expose me o.

donodion:

Yep. when a man like me who have great preference for home made meal starts ignoring my babes food...as tasty as it maybe,hmm, eating fast food,sometime sef I fit ask a female colleague to prep some specific type of soup I know my babe is equally good at.... im passing across silent but strong message.

But im getting over that antic..... ...no expose me o.

. . . . and when she starts taking imaginary phone calls from guys in your presense no vex o!
Two can play the game

chaircover:

. . . . and when she starts taking imaginary phone calls from guys in your presense no vex o!
To can play the game

That one is an old trick women are known for.
to make d oga suffer jealousmonia...you women even go as far as calling the 'person on the other line with sweet names like," my lovie,yes dear,sweets....,etc'

trust me I know..and I've also learnt when ur woman starts that...me too I grab my phone close to her and be calling one imaginary sister with wonderful titles like " oh Nosa darling,you are angel, your soothing words are so touching. And I look forward to seeing you again,rememer that gorgeous versace bag with shoes to match,babygirl it will compliment any outfit you out on for the next outing".

Yes two can play the game well well... I learnt from advance women.