i feel really weird or sort of messed up after hugging my boyfriend for long or maybe pecking him or having him embrace me tightly e.t.c. i just feel like am being used when such happens because i feel its just a boyfriend girlfriend relationship that may no last or sort of there maybe no commitment at the end and that then looks like am giving him so much already....this stuff should be normal, but i feel very bad after like i have messed up what is responsible please because its affecting my relationship, i cant seem to hug him, go to his house or play freely with him. i just tend to freeze up

You probably feel that he is gonna use n dump u, ur scared of commitment. You probably shouldn't be in the relationship then.

He probably is not financially stable, u probably do not love him much for d reason of subconciuos fear of d unknown or a seemingly iminent unsafe future, he probably is not a kind of u-cant-stay-a-day-widout-me kind of guy. If he was u wouldn't need a third party to urge u to be happy and abundantly eager to always embrace him or be wid him. In some mens' life, a woman doesn't need her own temperament to be happy, d guys aura, lifestyle and treatment of u certainly would swallow any bit of coldheart u ever would hav had. Some real men put up fake lives to read a woman's responses to life. Be careful and wise and above all, very patient and respectful. He can make u VERY happy if he wants to or sad if he wishes, widout u knowing- if he is a CODED MAN.

I think you don't truly love him cause if you do, all these things will feel normal