I met a Nigerian lady a while back in Nigeria. I was suspicious, but we got along very well. I liked her, she seemed to like me. I do not toast many women, but I tell her my feelings. She is on and off like a tap. She tell me that she wants me to return, that she loves me too. Then she says that she has a partner that she does not want a future with me.

She has strung me along and strung me along and kept my hopes alive. I said that I may return, but I need time to think and plan. I needed to see if her intentions were honest and true. But she refuses to talk much on the phone. Only enough to keep my hopes alive.

Then she ask for gifts and money. All of a sudden I realise. She has been treating me like a mugu all along. She wants me sending her money while she has fun with her boyfriends.

I have kicked her from my life. But it still hurts now. She has no thoughts for me? No respect? Shah. To think I loved her an accepted her for who she is...or who I thought she was. It is a sad world when people treat each other like dis. I pity her.

Are all Nigerian women like this? Out for whatever they can get?

OluwaOluwa: I met a Nigerian lady a while back in Nigeria. I was suspicious, but we got along very well. I liked her, she seemed to like me. I do not toast many women, but I tell her my feelings. She is on and off like a tap. She tell me that she wants me to return, that she loves me too. Then she says that she has a partner.

She has strung me along and strung me along and kept my hopes alive. I said that I may return, but I need time to think and plan. I needed to see if her intentions were honest and true. But she refuses to talk much on the phone. Only enough to keep my hopes alive.

Then she ask for gifts and money. All of a sudden I realise. She has been treating me like a mugu all along. She wants me sending her money while she has fun with her boyfriends.

I have kicked her from my life. But it still hurts now. She has no thoughts for me? No respect? Shah. To think I loved her an accepted her for who she is...or who I thought she was. It is a sad world when people treat each other like dis. I pity her.

Are all Nigerian women like this? Out for whatever they can get?

Please do not hammer me nairaland...I need god abi. I am feeling fragile.

Eyah, pele. You got tangled with the wrong lady. Not all ladies are like this

mstik: Eyah, pele. You got tangled with the wrong lady. Not all ladies are like this

Tank you. I pray I have read her right.

If she really wanted me, she would have expressed her feelings clearly to me now? By telephone. She would have said, she would not have just hinted little things. I have made my feelings obvious many times, yet she has never opened up really.

Also she would not still have a partner?

Maybe I should not tink of her or the whole thing again.

yep. Just move on

OluwaOluwa:

Tank you. I pray I have read her right.

If she really wanted me, she would have expressed her feelings clearly to me now? By telephone. She would have said, she would not have just hinted little things. I have made my feelings obvious many times, yet she has never opened up really.

Also she would not still have a partner?

Maybe I should not tink of her or the whole thing again.

mstik: yep. Just move on

I will try o

OluwaOluwa:

I will try o

I am feeling better about it. As you have hinted, I do not need someone in my life like that anyway. I am worth more.

I have dealt with it well though. I just text her saying that she has a partner, yet she asks ME for gifts. She knows I have feelings for her...and that hurts.

I have said that I will always care about her very much, I will call her to wish her a happy birthday, but then after that...I will not be calling anymore.

If she is as I think she is...she will not care one bit.

...but I guess that says more about her than it does about me.

Onwards and upwards!

I am not sure if I have read this one all wrong. Nigerian/Yoruba culture is so confusing. Why cant she just talk normally to me like an adult and tell the truth instead of playing stupid games.