1. Showing too much sexual interest (Starting in
Seduction): “The Creepy Guy”
A lot of guys show sexual interest in a woman
before they attract and qualify her. They make it
obvious to a woman they’re only interested in
taking sex from her, without any regard to her as
a person. It’s as if they say, “You don’t know me,
wanna have sex?” Rather than be a getter, why
not be a giver? Before seducing her, it’s best to
let her see what you’re about, bring her some joy,
and build comfort and trust. That way, you’ve
built sexual interest in her as well.
2. Being too Nice (Starting in Comfort): “The Nice
Guy”
On the opposite end, other men focus on not
being a sexual threat and only building comfort.
They’ll say things like “So, where are you from?
Do you come here often?” before the woman
knows anything about who this guy is. Share
yourself first, and that will make her feel more
comfortable sharing herself with you. And
keeping the conversation fact-based is artificial.
It’s best to make her FEEL first. Ironically, “The
Nice Guy” technique still telegraphs sexual
interest. He’s still trying to “get” but in hidden
way. Giving favors, gifts, compliments, early
protestations of love, and being afraid to rock the
boat isn’t really giving because something is
expected in return. It’s okay to be a sexual
threat. In fact, to create sexual tension you need
to be.
3. Not qualifying or listening (Attracting but No
Comfort): “The Player”
When a man attracts a woman first, but skips
comfort, and goes straight for the sex, he
becomes a player. This has three major
drawbacks.
a. Buyer’s Remorse. If you a rush a woman into
sex too soon, she may regret it. So, avoid making
out with her, especially if you’re in the club, and
don’t lead her into the bathroom stall, unless all
you want is a one night stand. It’s better to push
her away: “We shouldn’t do this here.” Showing
constraint is attractive. It also creates comfort
and trust with her and increases sexual desire in
her as a result. So, kiss her, but push her away.
After you’ve built enough comfort, sexually
arouse her in PRIVATE.
b. She feels manipulated. For us, it can feel
intoxicating when a woman shows interest in us.
Before we protest our interest in her though, let
her win us over first. Let her show us what she’s
about. Let her EARN being with us. Let her WORK
for us. After all, you don’t want to sleep with just
anyone, do you? If you like who she is as a
person, then show interest in her as a person. If
we don’t do this, she may feel like she’s just a
body and that we just go for anyone. Besides,
who values handouts? A player is smooth but
rushes to sex. A Venuisan Artist doesn’t push for
sex, but gets her to work for us first.
c. Her guard comes up. If you cross the line into
seduction too early without listening to her,
spending a few hours with her (between 4-10
hours–7 hours on average), bouncing her to
different locations, showing a vulnerable, honest
side, connecting, laughing, touching comfortably,
showing constraint, she will feel uncomfortable
with your seducing her. Most likely, she’ll resist.
Don’t make sex the priority. Build comfort and
trust with her first. By not pouncing, she’ll more
likely pounce you.
4. Not Touching Her (Attracting but Stuck in
Comfort): “The Friend Zone”
On the opposite end, if a man spends too much
time in comfort, he’ll get stuck in the friend zone.
This usually happens when we don’t kino her.
When we don’t kino, often it’s because we don’t
want to “offend.” We won’t “offend” if we’re the
friendly guy who speaks with his hands and
touches everyone, not just the target. High-fives,
hugs, hand-shakes, arm taps are accepted public
forms of touch. In a discreet way, also squeeze
her hand and see if she squeezes back. If she
does, play with her fingers but then drop her
hands. This slips sexual feeling into the
interaction without being overt about it. When
alone, touch her leg with yours, smell her neck,
brush a hair from her face to match the gradual
escalation of emotional intimacy. Touch eliminates
the friend zone.
5. Not creating sexual tension (Do Balance
Indicators of Interest with Disinterest)
The “sexual” part of sexual tension comes from
taking on the role of a dominant man interacting
with a “cute” girl. The “tension” comes from the
conflict of play-fighting. Tension is also the feeling
of “what will happen next?” To the girl, this is
exciting. She feels challenged–her pretty face for
once isn’t sufficient to win over this guy. So, we
must show disinterest: for example, walk away at
the height of an interaction, or make her laugh
with a neg instead of giving her a predictable
compliment. We must also show interest too: for
example smile, touch, show her appreciation
when it’s deserved. In this way, we communicate
with the woman inside her, not with with her
polite, artificial social persona. Play-fight with her.
Dominant man versus “cute” girl. This sparks
sexual tension, and attraction, in her.
6. Trying Too Hard
Here are some examples of trying too hard:
showing off, bragging, exaggerating
accomplishments, asking a million questions, not
allowing any silences, spending loads of money,
entertaining her, trying to make her laugh
constantly, getting interested in her way too fast,
investing all our energies in one girl. Way too
exhausting. The best pickup artists not only hunt,
they farm. Go after one girl, get nothing. Go after
10 girls; get 7 awesome pivots and 3 lays (the
best of the bunch, of course). You can only
choose from the women who choose you. That
means if you want to have choice, you have to be
the man who talks to a lot of women. How can a
girl chase us if we plant our feet in front of her
and never move? Lie back and roll off. You’re the
prize. Let the woman chase you. Jealousy
plotlines can be an integral way to make the most
beautiful women chase you.
7. Not Being Prepared
Generating a conversation out of thin air with
complete strangers isn’t an easy task, so having
some icebreakers prepared helps. Whip out a
cheat sheet and fill it with negs, kino (write out
the kino, however mundane, with negs and DHVs
like stage directions), DHVs, and qualifiers. You’ll
need enough material to engage a woman for 25
to 40 minutes, though ultimately you’ll need to fill
7 hours. Of that time, only the first few minutes
should be A-2 material. Once we’ve hooked a
woman, qualify her. We’ll stale out a set if we
over-attract without having her work to attract
us. We also demonstrate cluelessness about how
to read a woman. Being prepared also means
getting into the right state, which is a playful,
positive, talkative state. Also, knowing where to
bounce girls, and having logistics handled, is part
of being prepared, as well as being groomed,
clean, having condoms, and gum. Practice in the
mirror before going out if you have to, it lends a
degree of self-awareness in the field. And when
you’re ready for that woman of particular beauty,
forget everything and be in the moment.
Ironically, preparation makes flow possible.
8. Being Too Logical and Factual
Showing off our intellect doesn’t create
attraction. Our intellect speaks to her logic, not
her emotions. Not smiling, keeping a monotone,
factual voice, and being silent altogether doesn’t
create attraction either. Where’s the juice?
Women respond much more to a man who smiles
and who’s expressive. This shows warmth and
feeling. Women would rather feel. Rather than
explain, or talk about facts and logic, or be overly
serious, talk about emotional subjects, play with
her, sweep her up into your arms and dance, talk
about things that light you up. Passion and
enthusiasm are aphrodisiacs for women. When
you’re enthusiastic about something, she’ll be
swept up in those good feelings and won’t want
to part from them. Make a woman feel wonderful.
She’ll associate feeling wonderful with you.
9. Demonstrating Lower Value
When we portray ourselves in a lower-value way
with women, it kills her attraction for us. The way
we portray ourselves begins in our thoughts.
Instead of focusing on our insecurities in our
thoughts, highlight strengths and
accomplishments. Then when we’re talking with
women, our positive light will naturally shine
through, which increases her attraction for us. As
a side note, self-deprecating humor only works
when everyone is aware of one’s strengths. It
becomes a form of humility, which is attractive.
But when we self-deprecate without our strengths
to contrast it with, it’s uncomfortable. So, why
not meditate on our strengths in our thoughts?
That way we grow into men of the highest value,
like a self-fulfilling prophecy.
10. Fearing What She Thinks of You
Who cares what she might think of us? For that
matter, who cares what anyone might think of
us? All the great pickup artists seem to have one
thing in common: social freedom. It’s so much
more attractive to walk through the world without
fear, especially without the fear of losing other
people’s approval. “Approval” from others is
flimsy, “approval” from within is solid. More
important than getting the girl is serving a
deeper purpose than women, and keeping focus
on that purpose to its end with all of our hearts.
Women can be sunshine in our lives, beautiful
and inspiring, but true freedom comes not from
getting her or from clinging to her, but from
bringing our light into the world. The byproduct,
not the goal, is we become a supremely attractive
man to women, a man of particular value.

First Commandment: Thou should not base your relationship on Nairaland lists, or get ready to marry in heaven or ...
OP, great write-up though.

U cnt be cleared wif dis wack post...











Go get an affidavit bruv!!!

OP who do you expect to read this epistle just to get a woman?

Priceless24: OP who do you expect to read this epistle just to get a woman?

is she's worth it sha

Welrez: First Commandment: Thou should not base your relationship on Nairaland lists, or get ready to marry in heaven or ...
OP, great write-up though.

thanks jare

polz: U cnt be cleared wif dis wack post...
Go get an affidavit bruv!!!

take your drugs well bro

Nice one..I wish all men can learn frm this...Men and their orishirishi behaviour..

I honestly do feel sorry for men oh...So many rules

Ameerasexy: Nice one..I wish all men can learn frm this...Men and their orishirishi behaviour..

Maybe you need to start paying the bills and working hard so that you wont need them.

PrinceCharmiing: [size=16pt]is she's worth it sha[/size]

op, you say wat ??

Touch her hair..

So Wetin make we do

Ameerasexy: Nice one..I wish all men can learn frm this...Men and their orishirishi behaviour..

wetin even dey toto sef? Mbok that thing is an over hyped piece of meat.

glitest: I honestly do feel sorry for men oh...So many rules

Rules are meant to broken. Besides nature makes it's better with mutual attraction. Sometimes we don't have to say a word to woo a girl. It's automatic wooing with mere looks.

Making those mistake is one of those things that make relationship interesting and not following any rules or arrangement by anyone

If we follow the rules...... We tailored our lives like a robot which is given a specific rules to follow and its output is according to the input...

But as a humans ..... Rules are made to be broken due to
The place u find itself
Ur state of mind when the approach is made
The immediate surroundings
The person ur expressing ur mind and feelings to
For spontaneous reactions
To create an avenue for laughs and grin

Etc......

Rules or no rules...... Just follow the times and let the moment dictate ur steps and flows

bought

though I do not exactly agree with your number 5 but this is a great list and very educative
lota guys makes did mistake a lot while some is not actually mistakes, they know what they are doing.

any guys who shows signs of intimacy before I get acquainted with him should count me out cos I will just lock up for u

dre11: Making those mistake is one of those things that make relationship interesting and not following any rules or arrangement by anyone

If we follow the rules...... We tailored our lives like a robot which is given a specific rules to follow and its output is according to the input...

But as a humans ..... Rules are made to be broken due to
The place u find itself
Ur state of mind when the approach is made
The immediate surroundings
The person ur expressing ur mind and feelings to
For spontaneous reactions
To create an avenue for laughs and grin

Etc......

Rules or no rules...... Just follow the times and let the moment dictate ur steps and flows

did u readbd post well at all. this is not about relationship and d list is not a rule, its just pointing out mistakes made by u guys when wooing us. so did is not a rule u follow but a list to learn from

AfricanApple: did u readbd post well at all. this is not about relationship and d list is not a rule, its just pointing out mistakes made by u guys when wooing us. so did is not a rule u follow but a list to learn from

And if we don't make those mistake...... What wil make the wooing aspect intresting
Because if every guy has condition himself to this lay out rules...... Then the actions becomes predictive and somehow boring because u know that toaster A will follow the same rules as wooer B up to Z.

op are you expecting me to read this constitution you pasted without giving credit to the source

dre11: Making those mistake is one of those things that make relationship interesting and not following any rules or arrangement by anyone

If we follow the rules...... We tailored our lives like a robot which is given a specific rules to follow and its output is according to the input...

But as a humans ..... Rules are made to be broken due to
The place u find itself
Ur state of mind when the approach is made
The immediate surroundings
The person ur expressing ur mind and feelings to
For spontaneous reactions
To create an avenue for laughs and grin

Etc......

Rules or no rules...... Just follow the times and let the moment dictate ur steps and flows

exactly, it looks as if I'm working according to scripts, some girls like shy guys y some don't, some love ur flaws joke with and and even like u more, while some doesn't, that epistle is just too much Jare

Ameerasexy: Nice one..I wish all men can learn frm this...Men and their orishirishi behaviour..

Meaning?

Bigcake: wetin even dey toto sef? Mbok that thing is an over hyped piece of meat.

Rolling

#Gbam!

Ceasar1:

Rules are meant to broken. Besides nature makes it's better with mutual attraction. Sometimes we don't have to say a word to woo a girl. It's automatic wooing with mere looks.

It happens in very rare cases

Even if you gonna give me an Iphone6, am still not gonna read that crap up there