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Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by Nobody: 4:26pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
8years and he is cheating? What is she still doing in that marriage sef? Make him pack and go back to his village 4 Likes |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by Nobody: 4:33pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
crackhaus: As a Head of a family, are you not to PROVIDE for your family? If your wife earns more than you do, does that mean you should leave all financial responsibilities to her? I'm not focusing on who earns more. I am focusing on who carries out the responsibilities of a Head. I can earn more than my husband but that doess not mean i must be the Head. A true Head carries out responsibilities inspite of what he earns and makes sure he is the driving force in the home. His wife may choose to support as a partner that she is but he the Head takes charge and does not leave his responsibilities for his wife to carry. That is the mistake most men make when they see that their wives earn more. They sit down and leave everything for their wives to do. 3 Likes |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by Nobody: 4:35pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
Kachisbarbie: How come you quoted Tim 5:8 and did not see this- But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel. 3 Likes |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by Nobody: 4:40pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
BABE3: The Head is to provide. that certainly means he is to provide a larger share of the basic necessities. As a wife, i am to be his partner. In cases where his financial status isnt adequate to to foot certain bills, then i can come in as a partner. |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by Nobody: 4:52pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
Kachisbarbie: Well, im focusing on who carries out the role of the Head. To me, roles are what define who you are. Every position has responsibilities attached and if you are not handling them as supposed to be done, then you are not that position. Thank God, the bible says anyone who does not provide for his family is worse than an infidel. That is a very serious thing to say and put to heart. That means the role is the most important factor here and not the position. Men who brag about being heads must focus on the role attached to it rather than just focus on the position. You must play that role of being the Head in order to be recognised as the Head. THE HEAD IS TO PROVIDE. Kpomkwem. 1 Like |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by crackhaus: 4:52pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
Sophyrocks:You're contradicting your position. What are you saying exactly? Is it that you believe whoever shoulders the financial responsibilities assumes headship or is it that a man is always the head regardless of who is the breadwinner going by the first emboldened bit? For the second emboldened bit, are you no longer 'all for equality' in marriage? What's up with the 'may' condition on a wife when it comes to supporting her husband? What about a full time househusband, are you saying he is no longer the head of his house because he adds no financial responsibility? 1 Like |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by Nobody: 5:04pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
andromida: Younglady, did I argue with the fact that the man is an 'infidel'? I only said he is still the 'head' of the family. Ok, I get your point @ Sophyrocks. You're right though, I'm only looking @ it from the Christian side, but Christianity aside, the guy no try @all. |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by Nobody: 5:06pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
crackhaus: No I am not contradicting myself. Read slowly. The Head is to provide. A wife is to complement/be his partner. A man who deliberately sits down, does nothing and leaves major financial responsibilities for his wife is not playing the role of the Head. You are to provide a larger share financially as the Head. That is your role. TO PROVIDE. It is only when your financial status is incapable of solving other problems that your wife can be a partner. As the Head, you are the person who should take major financial responsibilities. 1 Like |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by pickabeau1: 5:13pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
Sophyrocks: What if the man is providing say 30 per cent...is he still the head So are u saying being a husband is all about provision Why then do u castigate fathers who provide but are not always around |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by Nobody: 5:15pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
These "head discussions" make me think that people don't have heads. 2 Likes |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by Nobody: 5:15pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
Kachisbarbie: Well, he is still the Head to you but not to me. Bible say 'He is worse than an infidel'. It would have been diffferent if the men in the op made efforts to provide for their families. Making an effort is better than sitting down and allowing your wife to play your role for you. 1 Like |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by Emmalot121(m): 5:17pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
Sophyrocks:Equality is not in the natural order of things, and the crusade to make everyone equal in every respect (except before the law) is certain to have disastrous consequences.—Murray Rothbard 1 Like |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by Emmalot121(m): 5:20pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
pickabeau1:Equality is not in the natural order of things, and the crusade to make everyone equal in every respect (except before the law) is certain to have disastrous consequences.—Murray Rothbard |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by Nobody: 5:20pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
coogar: So,the tables are being turned now....but in a different way, the men are taking a backseat, cheating on the women who are doing what they should be doing and even getting violent with them.... 1 Like |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by Nobody: 5:23pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
Emmalot121: Equality is not in the natural order of things, and the crusade to make everyone equal in every respect (except before the law) is certain to have disastrous consequences.—Murray Rothbard Equality, to me, is all about 'doing unto others what you would like them to do unto you'. 1 Like |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by coogar: 5:24pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
iwakolewa: and who told you housewives back then didn't cheat on their husbands? where was potiphar when his wife was harassing young joseph? |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by Emmalot121(m): 5:34pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
carefreewannabe: These "head discussions" make me think that people don't have heads.I doubt the quality of your brain. 5 Likes |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by Nobody: 5:35pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
Kachisbarbie: You went with the biblical POV and apparently the bible points the head Must provide not only as a husband,father or son where parents can no longer provide for themselves but also as a sign of faith in God once he stops providing he has denied his faith. The scriptures holds the man very responsible for his household. Just keeping it balanced in terms of headship. 1 Like |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by Nobody: 5:38pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
coogar: that was back then |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by Emmalot121(m): 5:38pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
Sophyrocks:We are not saying the same thing. |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by coogar: 5:40pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
iwakolewa: nothing has changed....an idle mind is a workshop of the devil. if a good looking man is left at home to become a house-husband, then one should expect housewives in that area to form some sort of covalent bonding with him. |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by Emmalot121(m): 5:41pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
andromida:Never mind that dude.No wonder Julius Caesar said "All bad precedents begin with justifiable measures." |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by Nobody: 5:41pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
Emmalot121: We are not saying the same thing. Exactly. I know. |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by Nobody: 5:43pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
coogar: that thought is evil |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by Nobody: 5:44pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
Emmalot121: I doubt the quality of your brain. |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by Nobody: 5:52pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
andromida:But the scripture never said if the man doesn't provide he is no more the head. It only said 'he is worse than an infidel' Except you know where it said, if he can't provide, he should be displaced as the head? Pls tell me, I am open to learning on this particular issue...lol. |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by thandii1: 6:05pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
Stillfire: The roles have really not been defined in these households. The man still thinks he's the head. The man must willingly accept his role as a househusband and the wife as the head of the household. The head of the household has to be firm on how money should be spent. The woman should not complain if the husband takes care of the home, the kids, cooks, and makes the house presentable. If you lose your job, kindly make yourself useful on the home front. That is why it takes two to make a marriage. When one falls, the roles can be reversed. Ditto... Everyone's hands should be on deck. Each person must have a role to play be it financially, domestically, spiritually. Etc. |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by thandii1: 6:08pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
tpia1: More females are financially empowered these days, so this is going to be a common scenario at some point. It is becoming common already, some just choose to close their eyes to the realities of today, but that doesn't change the fact that it is what it is. |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by Nobody: 6:13pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
Well, on this issue, I have since made up my mind that I will NEVER marry a woman who earns more money than I do. I will rather marry a housewife and work hard to fend for her and the family. My reasons are not far fetched. It is of no use for me to marry a woman who earns so much money but sees her financial contributions to the household as out of place or doing the man a big favour, hence goes about lamenting to world how she has been fending for the family. It is better for a man to marry a housewife, work hard to provide her needs and put her in her place when she misbehaves. |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by aderonila18: 6:14pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
how come men don't cry out that they slave to feed their housewives. must women moan over everything? when women were asked to sit at home so men would bring the bacon - they screamed out that they are being marginalised or discriminated against. now men are taking the backseat so that women can do what they have always wanted to do & yet they are still screaming that they are slaving to feed their husbands. which is which? feminism fought for 50 years to put women in this position, it would be heartbreaking if women are still not satisfied. The difference is that when a man pays the bills the woman takes care of the children and the household so at least the work is divided and both parties bring something to the table. The problem the men whose wives pay the bills is that they don't help out with the children or the household. It's unfair to expect the person who went to work all day to fend for the family to be the same to come home and take care of the kids and cook while the lazy man seats around doing nothing all day. No one can be happy in a relationship where you are the only doing everything 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by phabulous88(m): 6:24pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
Sophyrocks: I agree with your submission except the ones highlighted. Marriage is a collaboration between two parties who share like visions. When one party is down, the other party should (not may) support the down party. If it wasn't so, we wouldn't have the 'for better for worse' in marriage vows. |
Re: Female Breadwinners Lament 'we Slave To Feed Our ‘househusbands’ by thandii1: 6:24pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
coogar: Here on nairaland, housewives used to be e-battered severely and when they come running to nl, they are told they deserve it because they do not earn for a living. In the real world too, when being housewives used to be more common, many were, oppressed, cheated on and treated like slaves. Even their kids were not left out of it, the reason women have been striving for empowerment for years, to stop the oppression and gain some self worth. Also, in the case of housewives, they do their roles religiously ; take care of the children, the husband, the home in general, they are submissive to their masters, so why will the masters cry out. With the househusbands, they want to spend, be fed but useless domestically. They don't want to be submissive .. If these new generation husbands aka househusbands were domestically useful and submissive like their housewives counterpart, the women will not complain na 5 Likes 1 Share |
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