aisha2: Ephee where I am now I can't receive nairaland private mails. Please mail chaircover or Godismystrength and ask for my email address. Godismystrength can give you my number. Call me let's talk small.

chaircover:
Hi babes
Will do so if she asks

chaircover:

Hi babes
Will do so if she asks

ephee:
chaircover plz can i av aisha2 number tru mail.i wil send u a pm

ifyalways: Sorry OP.

The only weapon that can overcome and win hate is love. Keep loving, don't expect it back but living in love is the strength that you'll need to overcome.

BTW, what went wrong between you and your hubby? Any hope of reconciliation?
Get a job, rent your own place, take care of yourself and baby, everything would fall back in place with time. All the best

ephee:

my hubby was violent nd hits me almost evrytime which was d main reason i left coz it was life threatening.am not reconsiling coz i may end up dead one day.

soonest: Ephee, it is well with u. By God's grace u will get a job. When u do pls move out and rebuild ur life.

zeemoore: Ephee, you got my mail, right?

ephee:
i am the first born of my parents but grew up with my mum because she separated from my dad when i was very little.ever since then she neva says good things about my dad because she also left due to domestic violence and her attitude towards me has been so unfair.she says negative words to me and condemns me a lot.she remarried later on and i can guarantee u that i love my step dad far more than her.at a point she succeeded to implant bad impressions about me and my step dad started behaving harsh to me too.

i have 2 steps which is a boy and a girl.my mum enslaves me for them in d name of being the eldest and she sometimes robe lies on me and accuses me of things i didnt do.sometimes she threatens she regret leaving with me nd almost burnt my result out of anger.
she refused to allow me go for one of my papers wen i was writing my WAEC.thank God it wasnt a core subject just because of mere accusations.

she curses me at evry slightest provocation nd talks down on me in front of my siblings.she neva appriciates all i do for her instead she condemns me more.

she worship d ground my steps walk on and allows them to have their way and do what pleases them even to the extend of controlling my step dad and encouraging my step brother to be rude to him.
all these and more which is what pushed me into the arms of wrong man nd i ended up being pregnant which i felt was a way of finally running away from my mums humiliation.

my mum stil caused problems for me in my marriage coz she wanted control my home which i refused nd it ended up in a quarell that lasted for over a year after which i eventually left my husband's house due to domestic violence back home.

am back to what i was running away from and it has relly gotten worse.each time she insult and say a lot of horrible tins to me that keeps me in tears. and make me know i and my baby ar burdens to her.
i cant even correct my junior ones anymore witout getting insulted in return.

am just doing everytin possible to stay strong for my baby coz i wil neva eved treat her the way my mum treated me. av been looking for jobs so that i can save up for my child and cater for her needs.

i dont know why she hates me this much.because my steps dont do more than half of what av been doing for her despite her attitude towards me.

how do i handle this situation coz there is no day that passes by that i dont shed tears.

sheniqua:


Same thing I wanted to ask
It looks like the woman is taking out the hatred for her dad on her
She ended up married to a man just as abusive as her dad and she leaves to become a single mother who will end up someday with a second husband and having kids that will put her child in the same situation she is in.
The cycle continues
They need to break that cycle or that child of hers 20 years from today will have the same complaints

ephee:


my hubby was violent nd hits me almost evrytime which was d main reason i left coz it was life threatening.am not reconsiling coz i may end up dead one day.

MojAyo:
I thank God,I'm nt alone in dis,dear just be strong and focus on ur child,breakthrough is coming ur way soon,say me hi to baby

ephee:

mojayo thanks.God has relly been faithful nd in control i have to learn to love,forgive nd b patient.
i guess she noticed my sudden attitude of ignoring her insults since am working towards getting a job or starting sometin.

am getting stronger nd better.

MojAyo:
yeah dats good,u see those mothers can make u do something u dnt wanna do,or say something dat will spoil everything,I guess her harshness towards was for d fact dat as her first child,u didn't make her proud by getting pregnant and also getting married to an irresponsible man dat later kicked u out,and also for d fact she is the one taking care of u and d baby financially,dats what's making her behaves like dat towards u,why dnt u reconcile back with ur man ,or is it dat bad,and always put everything in prayers,its well,I just want to let u knw u re nt alone,so dnt get urself depressed,can I pm u

ephee:


my dad is very much alive and i living in isolation and regret.pride and stubborness made him not to look for me because he blived since my mum left wit me then he has no business catering for my upkeep except i leave my mum and relocate to live wit one of his siblings who he belived wil take good care of me.staying wit a relative was a no go area coz my dad's sister s hubby was alredy eyeing me nd gave me a condition on a note that i slept wit him befor funding any expenses which i refused.
my dad is also heaping blames on me for not leaving my mum to live wit him.

ephee:

mojayo i cant reconcile coz i nid to b alive for my child. i tolerated quite a lot nd it got life threatening.
av moved on. u can pm me. thanks

ephee:


my hubby was violent nd hits me almost evrytime which was d main reason i left coz it was life threatening.am not reconsiling coz i may end up dead one day.

aisha2:


What kind of business can you do? Send me a detailed business plan while you wait for job.

I dont support moving out for now till you have some financial footing living alone can be expensive.

Call me in the morning and mail me a detailed business plan lets see.

Cost the business plus a possible repayment plan. Start small oh

fpeter:
I read this with nostalgia, i had similar or worse experience with my mum.....it was sheer providence that
helped me survive and graduate Uni,now i even have an MBA...i wont tell you it was an easy road but then
it was a struggle,i hated my mum as much as she hated me or even much more than she hated me,i was a
very sad child. She didn't hide the fact that she hated me for ruining her life and chances, hated my father
whom she divorced when i was only 2weeks old,i had a fair share of low esteem amongst peers,cousins and
neighbours...it is a miracle i survived all the beatings,curses,mistreatment,sleeping out in the cold,my dear I
saw hell as a child but today i am a far cry from that! I am wiser,bigger and yards better than she imagined
I have fulfilled destiny, from a near destitute to someone of repute. I tell you sis, your mum even gave you
a roof over your head? My mum would NEVER! have accommodated me with a child...i know what you are
passing through cos i was there,i've been through it but Alas! she is no more...nobody to vent my anger on
nobody to show that I made it, i didn't turnout a lowlife as she had envisaged, instead of anger i now pity
her, i am older now and understand she also was not happy, she didn't know better so couldn't bring herself
to love me. I have forgiven her, I have moved on and I am free at last! knowing fully well that my children
would NEVER experience what i suffered as a youngster...Keep the faith my dear, God is not asleep....

fpeter:
I read this with nostalgia, i had similar or worse experience with my mum.....it was sheer providence that
helped me survive and graduate Uni,now i even have an MBA...i wont tell you it was an easy road but then
it was a struggle,i hated my mum as much as she hated me or even much more than she hated me,i was a
very sad child. She didn't hide the fact that she hated me for ruining her life and chances, hated my father
whom she divorced when i was only 2weeks old,i had a fair share of low esteem amongst peers,cousins and
neighbours...it is a miracle i survived all the beatings,curses,mistreatment,sleeping out in the cold,my dear I
saw hell as a child but today i am a far cry from that! I am wiser,bigger and yards better than she imagined
I have fulfilled destiny, from a near destitute to someone of repute. I tell you sis, your mum even gave you
a roof over your head? My mum would NEVER! have accommodated me with a child...i know what you are
passing through cos i was there,i've been through it but Alas! she is no more...nobody to vent my anger on
nobody to show that I made it, i didn't turnout a lowlife as she had envisaged, instead of anger i now pity
her, i am older now and understand she also was not happy, she didn't know better so couldn't bring herself
to love me. I have forgiven her, I have moved on and I am free at last! knowing fully well that my children
would NEVER experience what i suffered as a youngster...Keep the faith my dear, God is not asleep....