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Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by cococandy(f): 9:40pm On Sep 24, 2014 |
Happened to my BIL just last 2 weeks. Where he went to pay for a shoe. The guys just called police that my BIL and his friend were present on an earlier occasion when they went to place the order for the shoe that he came to pay for at the later date. And that on that earlier date,someone's phone got missing in the shop. Meanwhile the owner of the missing phone didn't even go to the police or file a complaint. Didn't even tell his parents about it. Can you imagine? When his mom was contacted,she said the boy had gone back to school. Evil police people. Greedy oafs. If not that they knew who my FIL was when his name was mentioned,they would have kept him in their cell. But they released him after 2hrs while begging like almajiris for drink money. We gave them 5k. Hungry mugus Chillisauce: |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by AfricanApple(f): 9:46pm On Sep 24, 2014 |
crackhaus: I usually step away to put some distance between myself and a woman whose mouth starts running.it doesn't matter if u said it(last sentence) I will still talk my mind. how could you compare an adult u married to a child whose sense has not fully grown or matured if I get u well, what u are saying is if d wife is stubborn, he should caution her in a painful way but not injurious way. 1 Like |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by crackhaus: 10:01pm On Sep 24, 2014 |
AfricanApple: it doesn't matter if u said it(last sentence) I will still talk my mind.I think that maybe by negligent omission or selective reading, you probably missed this bit which is right before the 'last sentence' you angled from: Well, throwing tantrums and insults around is more of a child's behaviour than it is an adults'. Do you or do you not agree with this? |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by Nobody: 11:15pm On Sep 24, 2014 |
coogar:Ha ha. You never jam. Have you evr been held in a Nigerian police cell for any length of time. My broda if you dey find adventure, just refuse to pay conductor him money after work at least there's still hope of retaining some of your sanity and freedom after the inevitable rough-handling. |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by AfricanApple(f): 11:20pm On Sep 24, 2014 |
crackhaus:nahhh, u got me wrong, I was only saying I will still criticize your write up despite u already said 'some may not critic it again cos I've said so' I just didn't want to repeat d statement while I agree that throwing insults is Immatured, some do that when their anger has full to the brim and have lost total control. but then why beat in d name of caution. how will u even feel touching your wife, there are other matured ways u can handle her insults other than beating. |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by Sepp360(m): 11:43pm On Sep 24, 2014 |
Chillisauce:lolz!... "I'm Seeing Tins"... *singing* |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by Sepp360(m): 11:46pm On Sep 24, 2014 |
mentorandfriend: Op, if I was there that day you laid your hand on that girl, I would have dealt with your idiotic head. Guys for whatever reason that exhibit violent acts to women must really be mad. At our estate sometime ago, I met a guy slapping her girlfriend front and back for not picking his calls the previous day. It was a lonely night. Nobody was in sight. The girl was helpless. I weighed up the guy and told him I'd like to have a word with him. I took him to a corner and taught him discipline. I told the girl to go home to her parents. Beating a lady (your girlfriend, wife or even sister) for any reason at all is the highest form of cowardice.lolz!... I'm sorry bro... I was just 15 then. I've learnt my lessons now! 2 Likes |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by crackhaus: 11:25am On Sep 25, 2014 |
AfricanApple: nahhh, u got me wrong, I was only saying I will still criticize your write up despite u already said 'some may not critic it again cos I've said so' I just didn't want to repeat d statementFirst off, I didn't mention anything like beating as a form of caution...read my first post again. As for the emboldened, so it is understandable when someone is controlled by their anger, loses total control and throws insults...but a person who loses control and because of anger slaps another person for throwing insults is to be viewed as animalistic and immature? Is the scale of measurement for immaturity in men different from the scale of measurement for immaturity in women? Is self-control a quality only men should possess? |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by cococandy(f): 1:31pm On Sep 25, 2014 |
crackhaus: Is self-control a quality only men should possess?No |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by crackhaus: 2:06pm On Sep 25, 2014 |
cococandy:Indeed. 1 Like |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by Shirley07: 2:57pm On Sep 25, 2014 |
crackhaus:You mean if a hefty man/colleague of yours berate and insult you, the next thing you would do is to lash him? The truth is women beaters are cowards who act like mice when their fellow men are involved in the same scenario. If you want to flex your muscle, flex it with your fellow man. 1 Like |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by crackhaus: 3:12pm On Sep 25, 2014 |
Shirley07:I've |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by 5minsmadness: 3:52pm On Sep 25, 2014 |
jacabi: Whatsoever might be the reason, any man that beats his wife is a lunatic.You cannot just make a sweeping statement like this. It holds no truth whatsoever. Stop ignoring the issue and address it. 1 Like |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by 5minsmadness: 3:54pm On Sep 25, 2014 |
While we're preaching against physical abuse on women in whatever form or intensity, we should also admonish wives to refrain from antagonizing/pushing their husbands past his emotional threshold...there's only so much a person can take no matter the level of self-control they claim to possess.Point. |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by 5minsmadness: 3:58pm On Sep 25, 2014 |
cococandy: Yes I'm going to criticize it.You too like divorce, haba! The truth (whether the white man likes it or not) is that some women are just plain stubborn and a well placed and memorable SLAP restores them to default settings faster than 5 long years of fruitless dialogue during which time you would have invested and lost so much physically, financially and emotionally. 1 Like |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by 5minsmadness: 4:02pm On Sep 25, 2014 |
JEITO: Age is not maturity, any man that hits his wife for any reason, is immature and not ripe for marriage.BullshIT. |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by 5minsmadness: 4:04pm On Sep 25, 2014 |
jacabi:You are obviously a woman. |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by cococandy(f): 4:06pm On Sep 25, 2014 |
Lmao. I don't like it. But I just like to be practical oh jare. Would you rather go to jail for violent assault? She'll still leave before you finish your sentence.. You haven't met women who when you slap them will clutch the front of your shirt screaming 'you'll kill me today' You'll kill ne today Hehehe. Just pray for a peaceful woman. There's no managing an abusive partner. Whether physical and emotional abuse. Those kind of people need help and if you're not a psychiatrist,it's not your job to try to cure them. Hence when it comes to abuse of any kind,the D word is not always far from my mouth. 5minsmadness: 1 Like |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by 5minsmadness: 4:09pm On Sep 25, 2014 |
cococandy: Well...Not understanding the reason for the violence in the first place is like pretending the problem does not exist. Look for what provokes the men and curb it and the violence will reduce. We will now know that those who remain are the serial batterers and psychopaths. |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by 5minsmadness: 4:16pm On Sep 25, 2014 |
AfricanApple: nahhh, u got me wrong, I was only saying I will still criticize your write up despite u already said 'some may not critic it again cos I've said so' I just didn't want to repeat d statementFor example? |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by cococandy(f): 4:16pm On Sep 25, 2014 |
5minsmadness:Curb what? The way women talk to their husbands? But I've already told you it is a recognized offense for which you can be granted a seperation or divorce. It is very legal. How else do you wish to curb it? Apart from teaching your kids right,there's not much anyone can do about how mannerlessly others speak. One can't be sent to jail for mouthing off at another person duh! Unless it is a racist or homophobic slur for which they only get to pay a fine. The best is to get away from that person if you can't bear it. Permanently too if they refuse to change |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by 5minsmadness: 4:18pm On Sep 25, 2014 |
crackhaus: 1 Like |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by 5minsmadness: 4:21pm On Sep 25, 2014 |
cococandy:I posted the statement before reading your response. Sorry, o jare. |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by cococandy(f): 4:22pm On Sep 25, 2014 |
No wahala 5minsmadness: |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by 5minsmadness: 4:32pm On Sep 25, 2014 |
This issue of woman/wife battering is always coming up and always ends with those who have been guilty of such acts being chased away by statements like these:
Next thing the thread ends with hurling insults at abusive men without addressing the issue itself. This one is probably going to end the same way. Serial battering is bad/evil/lunacy, yes, alright we get it! It would be better if we addressed the issue of what would provoke a previously sane and reasonable man to the extent of him lashing out at the wife, then we would have taken a step forward. 1 Like |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by JEITO: 4:55pm On Sep 25, 2014 |
5minsmadness:I take then that you are in support of wife battery 1 Like |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by Chubhie: 4:55pm On Sep 25, 2014 |
I do keep a mindset never to hit a lady. I have sisters I love and always protect them. I see them as beings that needs protection. I used to tell my babe then I can't hit no lady. She's well built yet curvy n sexy. I call her okorin meta. My body was deliberately configured to lift stuffs twice my weight. Some people have a way of making your most cherished values look silly if you don't oblige them. So it happened I was caught with d option of walking away when tempers got flared but walking in this case entails cowardice so I had to pull a belt and give her some flogging like a father to a spoilt child. Yes I over did it but then something happened! She was begging n our eyes me with d tears in her eyes something snapped. Lord knows I love her and it wasn't intentional. We still had make up sex that night but the crack of the beating became a wall of china in the long run till we parted. Now, have grown to understand that anyone that can push you to anger has power over you so have learnt never to give any mortal such powers over me. Talk of the only regret I have in life tis hitting a lady. Tis not in my nature and I'm not proud of it. 4 Likes |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by 5minsmadness: 5:28pm On Sep 25, 2014 |
JEITO: I take then that you are in support of wife battery Definitely not but making this statement: any man that hits his wife for any reason, is immature and not ripe for marriage. Is overgeneralization, and prevents any further discussion on the matter.It is also grossly untrue. |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by Sepp360(m): 5:30pm On Sep 25, 2014 |
5minsmadness:hahahaha!... Ur post got me laughing... Taking my time to imagine the conformation of the SLAP. |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by JEITO: 5:45pm On Sep 25, 2014 |
5minsmadness:well, I read what you said previously about how to correct a lady. I don't agree with ur assertion. For a man to beat his wife, it is clear he doesn't know the role of a wife in his life and home. Also, it shows that he has issues with self control and temper management. Btw, no one over generalised anything. The comment was specific. 2 Likes |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by Sepp360(m): 6:02pm On Sep 25, 2014 |
5minsmadness:very sensible!... 1 Like |
Re: * Wife Beating And Domestic Violence * by AfricanApple(f): 6:23pm On Sep 25, 2014 |
5minsmadness:walk away and come back when everything has cool down, talk with her. two wrongs never make a right |
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