Salam alaykum,this is actually my first post but have been reading nairaland topics for years.please dear sisters and brothers, I need your advise/help

Am always having dreams of snakes and men.sometimes I even sleep with the men other times I wake up in fear after I feel their touch.I actually feel the touch as if its real.
Most times when something good is about to happen, it suddenly stops.the worst part is that when I think of any thing positive happening, it turns out negative.
I feel like a failure.no marriage, no progress.I do try not to dwell on my issue because when I do, I fall sick.
Hardly does a month pass with out me having abdominal pains.doctors always have different results.
Please kindly assist with your advise.

Hope I don't offend any one by posting here but am surprised that as a christian am the first to post my advise to your challenge.
- actually was teary when I read your issue. Lots of women are having the issue.you might wish to approach your muslim experts on this.
BE VERY PRAYERFUL.don't be depressed. My mum is a muslim and she says everything is a test from GOD no matter how bad it is, it is predestined to happen.

Can the Muslims help this sister out,
@ dearestaramide
My little advice, download ruqyah mp3 and play them with your earpiece during the day, you can also play them at night in low volume on speakers. This might not totally kill or remove the jinn but it will suppress it.

Please do not listen alone for the first time.

Please read these links.

www.beatsihr.com/the-jinn.html



www.islamweb.net/emainpage/index.php?page=showfatwa&Option=FatwaId&Id=5241

dearestaramide, will be back here later. Jum'ah is busy. For now, start reciting ayat Qursiyu as much as you can

Salam alaik. Please PM me. In sha Allah, I will give you some contacts and you will have your way out.

1. When you recite Surah al-Baqarah. If you can't play an audio CD - Do this often

Abu Hurayrah (ra) reports that Allaah's Messenger (saw) said, "Do not turn your houses into graves. Indeed Shaytaan flees from a house in which Surah al-Baqarah is recited." (Muslim).

2. When you say: La ilaha illAllaah - wahdahu laa shareeka lahu - lahul-mulku wa lahul-hamdu - wa huwa 'ala kulli shay'in qadeer. [There is none worthy of worship except Allah alone. He has no partners. To Him belongs the Dominion, to Him belongs all praise and He is capable over all things] a hundred times a day.

The evidence is what has been reported in the Saheeh of al Bukhaari and Muslim from Abu Hurayrah (ra) that Allaah's Messenger (saw) mentioned the above words and then said: "He will receive the reward of setting free ten slaves, a hundred good deeds will be written for him and a hundred bad deeds will be erased from him. It will be a sanctuary from Shaytaan for him on that day until he reaches the evening. No one will come with something better except one who increases beyond that".

3. Recitation of Ayaat ul-Kursi when you go to bed.

Abu Hurayrah (ra) reported that the Messenger (saw) put him in charge of guarding the zakaah of Ramadan and someone would come and take handfuls from the zakaah for two nights in succession. On the third night, he (Abu Hurayrah) grabbed him and said: "I will take you to Allaah's Messenger (saw)". He (the thief) said: "Leave me alone and I will teach you some words by which Allaah will benefit you". He then said, "When you depart to go to your bed recite aayaat ul-Kursi until you complete it. There wil never cease to be from Allaah a guardian to protect you and Shaytaan will not approach you until you wake up". When he explained this to Allaahs Messenger (saw), he said, "He has told you the truth althought he is a great liar". (al-Bukhaari).

4. When you spit on your left three times and seek refuge in Allaah from the evil of what you see in a dream.

Abu Salamah bin 'Abdur-Rahman said: "I heard Abu Qataadah ibn Rab'iyy say: "I heard Allaah's Messenger (saw) say, "The good dream is from Allaah and the bad dream is from Shaytaan. When one of you sees what he dislikes, let him spit on his left three times when he awakens and let him seek refuge in Allaah from its evil and then it will not harm him"". Abu Salamah said, "I used to see in my dream that which wouldbe more burdensome to me than a mountain and when I heard this hadeeth I considered it as nothing." In another narration he said, "I used to see in my dream which would make me concerned until I heard Abu Qataadah say: "I used to have dreams which would make me ill until I heard Allaah's Messenger (saw) say, "The righteous dream is from Allaah. If one of you sees what he loves then let him not inform anyone about it except one whom he loves. And if he sees what he dislikes, let him not inform anyone about it. Let him spit on his left three times and let him seek refuge in Allaah from Shaytaan, the accursed from the evil of what he saw and it will not harm him.""

5. Upon saying, when leaving the house "Bismillah tawakaltu 'ala Allah, la hawla wa la quwata illaa bilLah" [In the Name of Allah, I place my trust upon Alaah, There is no power nor movement except by Allaah].

Anas (ra) reports that Allaah's Messenger (saw) said, "Whoever says (when he leaves his house): "In the Name of Allah, I place my trust upon Alaah, There is no power nor movement except by Allaah" it is said to him: "You have been sufficed, you have been protected and you have been guided". Then one of the devils turns to another and says, "How can you get to a man who has been sufficed, protected and guided". (Abu Dawud, at-Tirmidhi, hasan saheeh).

Umm Salamah (ra) said, "Allaah's Messenger (saw) never left my house except that he raised his sight to the sky and said, "Allahumma innee a'oodhu bika an adil aw udal, aw azil aw uzal, aw azlima aw uslam, aw ajhal aw yujhal 'aleeyy (O Allaah I seek refuge in you from leading others astray and being led astray, from causing others to slip and being made to slip, from oppressing others or being oppressed and from making others ignorant, and being kept ignorant."" (at-Tirmidhi, Abu Dawood, an-Nasa'ee, Ibn Majah. at-Tirmidhi said "hasan saheeh", al-Albaani agreed with him in al-Kalim ut-Tayyib, no.59).

6. Remembering Allaah the Sublime and Exalted when entering the house and before eating.

Jaabir (ra) said: "I heard the Prophet (saw) say: "When a man enters his house and remembers Allaah the Exalted upon entering and before eating, Shaytaan says: "There is no place for you to spend the night and there is no supper for you." When he enters the house and does not remember Allaah, Shaytaan says: "You have found a place to spend the night" and when he does not remember Allaah upon eating his food, Shaytaan says: "You have found a place to stay and some supper"". (Muslim).

7. Saying "A'oodhu bilLahil-'adheem wa bi wajhil-kareemi wa bi sultaanihil-qadeemi min ash-Shaytaani-rajeem" [I seek refuge with Allaah the Mighty, with His Noble Face and with His Eternal Authority from Shaytaan, the Accursed] when entering the mosque.

'Abdullah ibn 'Umar (ra) said, "When the Prophet (saw) used to enter the mosque he woul say, "I seek refuge with Allaah the Mighty, with His Noble Face and with His Eternal Authority from Shaytaan, the Accursed". He then said, "When (a man) says this, Shaytaan says: "He has been protected from me for the whole day"". (Abu Dawud, al-Albaani declared it saheeh in Saheeh Abu Dawood, no. 458, and an-Nawawee and Ibn Hajr declared it hasan).

8. Upon pronouncing the adhaan.

This is due to what has been reported from Abu Hurayrah (ra) that Allaah's Messenger (saw) said, "When the call to prayer is made, Shaytaan flees on his heels and passes wind with noise during his flight so that he does not hear the adhaan. When the adhaan is completed he comes back. When the iqaamah is pronounced he takes to his heels again until it is completed. Then he returns again and whispers into the heart of the person and says to him:

"Remember this and remember that". So the person remembers those things which were not in his mind before the prayer began and as a result, he forgets how much he has prayed". (al-Bukhaari, Muslim).

Pronouncing the adhaan can be done at any time to repel Shaytaan. This is due to what has been reported by Muslim from Abu Saheel bin Abu Saalih who said: "My father sent me to Bani Harithah and there was a young boy with me. Someone called him by his name from a wall, so he went to have a look at the wall but did not see anything. I mentioned that to my father and he said: "If I had known that you would encounter this I would not have sent you. However, when you hear a voice then make the call for prayer since I heard Abu Hurayrah (ra) saying the Prophet (saw) said, "When the call for prayer is made, Shaytaan flees".

9. . When seeking refuge in Allaah due to the Exalted's saying: "And when an incitement to evil comes to you from Shaytaan, seek refuge in Allaah. He is the All Hearing, the All Knowing". (41:36)

10. When you say "A'oodhu billah minka, al'anuka bi l'anatillaah" [I seek refuge in Allah from you, I curse you with the curse of Allah] three times during the prayer.

Abu Dardaa' (ra) reports that "Allaah's Messenger (saw) stood for prayer and we heard him saying, "I seek refuge in Allaah from you". Then he said, "I curse you with the curse of Allaah" three times. At the same time, he was stretching out his hand, trying to grab hold of something. When he finished his prayer we said to him: "O Messenger of Allaah! We heard you say something in the prayer which we have never heard from you before and we saw you stretching out your hand". He said, "That was the enemy of Allaah, Iblees. He came with a flame of fire and tried to throw it in my face. I said, "I seek refuge in Allah from you" three times and then (I said), "I curse you with the curse of Allaah" three times and he did not hesitate. Then I desired to capture him. By Allaah! If it had not been for the supplication of our brother (the Prophet) Sulaymaan, he would have been tied up and the children of Madinah would have played about with him"". (Muslim).

In another hadeeth from 'Uthmaan bin Abul-Aas (ra) who said, "I said, "O Messenger of Allaah! Shaytaan comes in between me and my prayer and my recitation, confusing me." He said, "That is a Shaytaan called Khunzub. When you feel his presence, seek refuge in Allaah from him and spit on your left three times." I did as he said and Allaah took that (distraction) away from me." (Muslim)

11. When the servant finds something in his soul that concerns him and says "huwal-awwalu wal-aakhiru wadh-dhaahiru wal-baatinu wa huwa bi kulli shay'in 'aleem" [He is the First and the Last, the Outermost and the Innermost, and He has Knowledge of every single thing.]

Abu Zameel (ra) said, "I said to Ibn 'Abbas (ra), "What is this thing which I find in my soul?" - meaning doubt. He said, "When you find something like that in your soul, then say, "He (Allaah) is the First and the Last, the Outermost and the Innermost and He has knowledge of every single thing."" (Abu Dawood, al-Albaani declared it hasan in al-Kalim ut-Tayyib no.135).

12. When a calamity befalls you and you say "QadrAllahu wa ma sha' Allaahu fa'ala" [Allah has decreed (this) and He does whatever He wills].

Abu Hurayrah (ra) reports that Allaah's Messenger (saw) said, "The strong believer is more loved by Allaah than the weak believer, but in both there is good. Be zealous for what will benefit you. Seek help from Allaah the Mighty and Majestic and do not become incapacitated. If something afflicts you, do not say: "If only I had done such and such" but say, "Allaah has decreed (this) and He does whatever He wills". Indeed saying "if.." opens up the doorway of Shaytaan's handiwork." (Muslim)

13. When you say "Bismillah, Allahumma janibna ash-Shaytaan wa janibish-Shaytaana maa razaqtna" {in the Name of Allaah, O Allaah! Make us distant from Shaytaan and make Shaytaan distant from what you bestow upon us".

Ibn 'Abbaas (ra) reports that the Prophet (saw) said, "If one of you says, when approaching his wife (for intercourse): "In the Name of Allaah. O Allaah! Make us distant from Shaytaan and make Shaytaan distant from what you bestow upon us" and offspring is decreed for you, Shaytaan will never be able to harm it (i.e. the offspring)". (al-Bukhaari, Muslim)

14. When you say in a state of anger "A'oodhu bilLaahi min ash-Shaytaan ir-Rajeem" [I seek refuge with Allaah from Shaytaan the Accursed].

Sulaymaan bin Sard (ra) said, "I was sitting with Allaah's Messenger (saw) and two men were abusing each other. The face of one of them had become red (out of anger) and his veins had become inflated. Allaah's Messenger (saw) said, "I know a word which, if he was to say, his anger would leave him. If he said: "I seek refuge in Allaah from Shaytaan the Accursed", his anger would leave him"" (al-Bukhaari, Muslim).

15. Upon saying "bismillah" [in the Name of Allah]

Abul-Maleeh (ra) reports that a man said, "I was behind the Messenger (saw) and his riding animal stumbled. I said, "May Shaytaan perish", and he said, "Do not say, "May Shaytaan perish". If you say that he will grow in size until he becomes the size of a house and says, "By my strength". Instead say, "In the Name of Allaah". When you say that, he reduces in size until he is like a fly." (Abu Dawood, saheeh isnad).

16. When you supplicate for blessings for something which wins your admiration.

Allaah's Messenger (saw) said, "When one of you sees something in his self or in his possessions which amazes him (or wins his admiration) he should invoke blessings upon it as the (evil) eye is indeed true and real".

17. When you recite the M'uwadhdhataan [Surah al-Falaq and Surah an-Naaz].

Abu Sa'eed (ra) said, "Allaah's Messenger (saw) used to seek refuge from the jinn and from the effects of the (evil) of men until the m'uwwadhdhataan were revealed. When they were revealed he clung to them and abandoned what was besides them." (at-Tirmidhi, hasan; an-Nasa'ee and Ibn Maajah - saheeh).

18. When you make the prostration of recitation.

Allaah's Messenger (saw) said, "When you read a verse of prostration then prostrate, Shaytaan departs crying and says: "Woe be to him. He was ordered with prostration and he prostrated - so for him is Paradise. I was ordered with prostration and I refused - so for me is the Fire." (Muslim, Ahmad and Ibn Maajah).

19. When reciting the Qur'aan.

The Messenger of Allaah (saw) went out one night and passed by Abu Bakr (ra) who was praying with a lowered voice. Then he passed by 'Umar ibn al-Khattaab (ra) who was praying with a raised voice When they came together with the Prophet (saw), he said, "O Abu Bakr! I passed by you while you were praying with a lowered voice." Abu Bakr (ra) said, "I made the one with whom I was conversing with (i.e Allaah) hear it, O Messenger of Allaah." He then said to 'Umar (ra), "I passed by you while you were praying with a raised voice". 'Umar (ra) said, "O Messenger of Allaah! I was incitng those who were asleep and driving away the Shaytaan." The Prophet (saw) then said, "O Abu Bakr! Raise your voice somewhat" and he said to 'Umar, "lower your voice somewhat". (Abu Dawood, al Haakim, who declared it saheeh as did adh-Dhahabi).


20. When you move the finger during the prayer.

It is established that Allaah's Messenger (saw) used to move his finger, supplicating with it (Abu Dawood, an-Nasaa'i, Ibn al_Jaarud in al-Muntaqa and others) and the Messenger of Allaah said, "It is more powerful against the Shaytaan than iron" - meaning the forefinger. (Ahmad and others).

Imaam Ahmad was asked, "Should a man point with his finger in the prayer?" He replied, "Yes, vigorously". (Ibn Haani mentioned it in Masaa'il of Imaam
Ahmad).

http://www.themodernreligion.com/basic/charac/shaytaan-flee.html

Often times, problems could just be psychological. If you can get a psychologist or someone to talk to, that will be good.

In addition, realise that everything is just a test. Seek help with patience and prayer.

hey dear sister, lets drop religion aside, your issue is quite complex yet minor.

Nevertheless, first things first, you gotta believe in yourself, you can overcome all those stuffs happening to you, yes you can
Clear all negativity and evil imaginations from your mind, you can be great regardless of the terrains you're passing through.

Forget about marriage, your failures, your lack of progress and all that... concentrate on yourself, build yourself, work on improving yourself, stop bad habits, bad imaginations and even bad thinking, you can control that. Focus on your strength, your positive side, count your blessings...

Eat balance diets, have time for exercises, socialize, keep friends, gist and play, have fun, hit the beach, hit the gymn, museum and anywhere you can have fun (work on your lifestyle).

Finally, (Again drop Religion), but if you believe in God, talk to him (not the religious ways or memorized patterns), quietly and calmly talk to him about your situation, ask him for guidance and help-He'll surely help. But you have to go back to the previous 3 chapters afterwards


NB: dont do memorized prayers or listening to music or all that, work on your lifestyle.

iv4fb: hey dear sister, lets drop religion aside, your issue is quite complex yet minor.

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I like most of what was written.

Why can't she do all of that whilst maintaining religion?

tbaba1234:

I like most of what was written.

Why can't she do all of that whilst maintaining religion?

pardon me, no offense intended, but religion has a way of blinding people to reality.

someone clearly starving and sick will resort to waiting for his pastors prayers or is advised to fast or he's reciting prayers with his/her head to the floor while facing a certain direction.... those wont cure hunger.... though rhetorically speaking

Apparently, most issues people run to their Pastors/Imams for are pure physical/psychological induced issues without any religious undertones.

That being said, i believe if this lady work on herself, things will work our naturally.

BTW, its easy to advise people to follow well written and documented religious scripts (with the belief that the Religious books confirms it) especially if you've never been in their shoes. when you wear those shoes, you'll know where it hurts.

If your ways aint right and your lifestyle aint pure, you can recite all the Quorans and all the Bible, the Devil is going to still have the upper hand.

iv4fb:

pardon me, no offense intended, but religion has a way of blinding people to reality.

Very general statement,

I understand the sentiment but in Islam, we do not go searching for miracle healing. We pray but also seek practical solutions to our problems.

That said, I completely understand the sentiment because in Nigeria, everyone is looking for the magic wand even the government.

A better advice would have been, pray but also work on yourself.

Like the Quran says:

....God does not change the condition of a people unless they change what is in themselves (Surah 13:11)

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I already answered that and my apologies if it aint sufficient for u.

tbaba1234:
Very general statement,
I understand the sentiment but in Islam, we do not go searching for miracle healing. We pray but also seek practical solutions to our problems.
That said, I completely understand the sentiment because in Nigeria, everyone is looking for the magic wand even the government.
A better advice would have been, pray but also work on yourself.
Like the Quran says:
....God does not change the condition of a people unless they change what is in themselves (Surah 13:11)

I wasn't debating religion with you and neither will i. you may as well sink or soar in your beliefs- you're entitled to them. I've seen Muslims in the Synagogue on TV (maybe they went sight seeing), how about the well (water)- you wont remember that i guess. Was Mohammed not said to cure illness by touching ém? A lots of Muslims seek miracles too and i'm not ready to argue this.

I never said prayer wasnt important, i emphasized it in my first statement (if you check well), i only said the right thing need to be done first as the issues is most likely not having any religious angle to it


Btw, so if an atheist doesnt believe in any god/God and need help, you'll force him to believe in your Allah before helping him? how abt those fighting for Allah? i'm not saying i do or dont believe them but did they not open their mouth to say Allah told them to kidnap girls and kill those people? I'm not derailing, it is rumoured that they became violent after their head was killed, that's trying to use religion to solve a political problem. Christianity has got her own complications too, my emphasis was based on your line of defense.


I think we all got to do the right things, be in tune with our conscience, have a personal relationship with God (Allah in your case)- and live right. perhaps thats all that matters and not the christian-muslim religious philosophies and doctrines that go against reality and conscience.

iv4fb:

I wasn't debating religion with you and neither will i. you may as well sink or soar in your beliefs- you're entitled to them. I've seen Muslims in the Synagogue on TV (maybe they went sight seeing), how about the well (water)- you wont remember that i guess. Was Mohammed not said to cure illness by touching ém? A lots of Muslims seek miracles too and i'm not ready to argue this.

My point is simple, Islamic theology does not place emphasis on miracles even though We believe in miracles. That is why we do not place emphasis on the miracles done by the prophet (peace and blessings be upon him).

The miracles occurred after work had been put in.

Do you think a muslim in synagogue is following the tenets of Islam?? Really??

There is a difference between Islam and muslims.

The op can apply the solutions offered whilst still being religious.

For muslims, Islam is a complete way of life not a regimented aspect of just praying. So working on herself can also be a religious act.

Like I said, the op's problems could just be psychological but it could be more. Either way, as muslims, religion is still fundamental.