1. He/she mostly talks about him/herself – what
he/she likes, needs and wants in a partner, in a
relationship, in life etc. What you like, need and
want doesn’t seem to matter.
2. He/she only relates to how things affect him/her
personally and has no ability to see or relate to
how life (and the world) is interconnected.
3. He/she doesn’t consider the impact of his/her
actions on others (you included). When you point
out how his/her words/actions are “hurting” you,
he/she just can’t make the link between his/her
words/actions and how you feel.
4. He/she wants you to listen, give emotional
support and even worry about how he/she is
feeling but never takes time to listen to how you
feel — or even thinks how you feel is not
important. When you point this out you’re told
you’re being “selfish” for wanting him/her to pay
attention.
5. He/she gives only when he/she expects to get
something back in return. More often than not,
expecting more than he/she is willing to give.
6. He/she has an entitlement mentality often
followed by selfish demands and outbursts or
emotional blackmail (withdraws attention and
affection) when he/she doesn’t get what he/she
feels he/she is entitled to (i.e. your attention and
affection).
7. He/she is always quick to say “NO” when asked
to “give” in any way; always has a reason as to
why he/she doesn’t feel like giving, doesn’t want
to give or should not give- and all these reasons
have to do with someone else’s “fault”.
8. He/she always makes promises he/she doesn’t
fulfill. Either consciously or sub-consciously he/
she always seems unable to “remember” a
commitment he/she made and may even blame
you for his/her failure to fulfill a responsibility.
9. He/she thinks its okay to manipulate and exploit
and even take advantage of others to achieve
one’s own ends.
10. He/she lacks empathy and makes no apologies
about it.


bonus track: Your boyfriend/girlfriend never gives in.
Every time there’s a discussion about something to do or
someplace to go to, does he or she usually end up getting things done his or her own way even if that means leaving you sad or less-than-happy?

You may give in each time because you
love him or her unconditionally and want to see him or her happy. But it’s only a matter of time before you start to feel like your wants and desires are not addressed in the relationship.

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