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Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by tintingz(m): 9:33am On Oct 20, 2014 |
Chiamaka01:Sorry if it sound so but you are aware that this is what happen in Nigeria, you said it yourself that your father will be the one to collect the bride price and so ofcos he's the one to give you out. Sorry I'm not denigrating anyone here, I'm just stating the things that happen in Nigeria. Chiamaka01:is it not you that stylish called other women properties? and I pointed out the hypocrisy about your post. you even said you are human being, so those in polygamous marriage are not humans right? |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by Nobody: 9:50am On Oct 20, 2014 |
[quote author=tintingz post=27293343] is it not you that stylish called other women properties? and I pointed out the hypocrisy about your post. you even said you are human being, so those in polygamous marriage are not humans right?[/quote] Yes, i did. Maybe the adjective i used was harsh but i was trying to pass across a message. |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by Nobody: 9:56am On Oct 20, 2014 |
Chiamaka01: I still don't have any respect for women in polygamous marriages in this modern era and i'll explain why i referred to them as 'property', if you tell me what you think of men in polyandrous marriages. @tintingz |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by shizzle11(m): 10:52am On Oct 20, 2014 |
Chiamaka01:you still blatantly refer to women in polygamous marriages as 'properties' without feeling its denigrating, yet you find it offensive when you are refered to as 'property'. Such hypocrisy....such double standard #sighs Woman take the wool off your eye first....lol NB: Make no mistake, i am anti-polygamy 3 Likes |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by tintingz(m): 12:32pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Chiamaka01:now see who is denigrating... you said women in polygamous marriage are not human but properties? well these women don't need your respect as some are living happily in their marriage, there are happy polygamous marriage and monogamous marriage doesn't guarantee a happy marriage. about men in polyandry marriage, these men choose to be in that marriage settings same goes to women in polygyny marriage and if you think they are properties then accept that you are one as well because these women are paid bride price like yours will be paid too, you will even change your maiden name. through out my posts i didn't denigrate anyone instead you were the denigrating your fellow humans(women), if you read my posts you will see that i am pointing out the hypocrisy in your posts. 1 Like |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by Godmystrength: 2:42pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
NO i won't |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by Nobody: 2:48pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Ofcourse, I will consider. Infact, it has been my life long dream. I will like to be the fourth and the youngest of all the wives though. |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by 1miccza: 2:56pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
EfemenaXY: that's why he said you were looking for drama,all you need to do is answer the op's harmless question capisce? 4 Likes |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by bukatyne(f): 2:57pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
tintingz: And the irony of your post is that women prefer to be no 2 et al to a already married man No first wife (there are exceptions though) wants to share he husband with no 2 et al |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by Nobody: 11:50am On Oct 21, 2014 |
[quote author=shizzle11 post=27295246]you still blatantly refer to women in polygamous marriages as 'properties' without feeling its denigrating, yet you find it offensive when you are refered to as 'property'. Such hypocrisy....such double standard #sighs Woman take the wool off your eye first....lol NB: Make no mistake, i am anti-polygamy [/quote] I'm just saying the bitter truth. They're the ones objectifying themselves. Enough derailing. 1 Like |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by Nobody: 12:05pm On Oct 21, 2014 |
Tintingz, I never said that people in polygamous marriages can't be happy. A woman that decides to marry a married man has already objectified herself, i'm just stating the obvious bitter truth. |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by Nobody: 12:07pm On Oct 21, 2014 |
[quote author=Chiamaka01 post=27324978]Tintingz, I never said that people in polygamous marriages can't be happy. A woman that decides to marry a married man has already objectified herself, i'm just stating the obvious bitter truth.[/quote] Lol @i am one too'. I'm not going to go there because that issue has been overflogged. I am not anybody's property. Speak for your four wives, abeg. |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by omostar: 1:13pm On Oct 21, 2014 |
I am from a polygamous family and I do like it now. I suppose there might have been problems initially but we the children are now so close , you won't know we have different mums. On if I can be a second wife or if I can accept my husband marry another wife, then I will say it depends on the situation. 3 Likes |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by tintingz(m): 3:37pm On Oct 21, 2014 |
Chiamaka01:Maybe you will be my forth wife. |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by Nobody: 5:15pm On Oct 21, 2014 |
tintingz: God forbid. Tufiakwa. 2 Likes |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by tintingz(m): 6:57pm On Oct 21, 2014 |
bukatyne:some will. |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by tintingz(m): 6:58pm On Oct 21, 2014 |
Chiamaka01:That's what you will say. |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by soonest(f): 10:14am On Oct 22, 2014 |
Different polygamy threads already exist and have been over flogged na! Una no they tire? 1 Like |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by Sagamite(m): 1:27pm On Nov 27, 2014 |
missberrypop5: You are missing out. |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by Sagamite(m): 1:28pm On Nov 27, 2014 |
suregurl: The ones that did it have a gun to their heads? |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by Sagamite(m): 1:38pm On Nov 27, 2014 |
Chiamaka01: How does polygamy make you a property? Is it not prevention of polygamy that actually makes someone a property? |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by Nobody: 2:01pm On Nov 27, 2014 |
Sagamite: Marriage is a contract between two people, not acccumulation of women by a man. |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by Sagamite(m): 2:05pm On Nov 27, 2014 |
Chiamaka01: Which kin contract? Where did you see that? 1 Like |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by Nobody: 2:08pm On Nov 27, 2014 |
Sagamite: Okay, fine. How would you rather define marriage? |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by Sagamite(m): 2:16pm On Nov 27, 2014 |
Chiamaka01: My definition of marriage is my business with whoever I engage in one with. Just the way your definition of marriage is your business with whoever you engage in one with. You don't and can't define mine for me, and I don't and can't define yours for you, except you are marrying me. That would make you the luckiest woman on Earth by the way. Marriage by law is merely a mating association registered with the local authorities because it has some value in the society's configuration, based on the values that local host society desires. Beyond that (registration), it should not be the business of the authorities how the parties in it decide to enjoy it as long as no physical restraints or violence is used. All that "marriage is a contract" is just meaningless platitudes you have heard. 2 Likes |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by Nobody: 2:25pm On Nov 27, 2014 |
[quote author=Sagamite post=28391870] My definition of marriage is my business with whoever I engage in one with. Just the way your definition of marriage is your business with whoever I engage in one with. You don't and can't define mine for me, and I don't and can't define yours for you, except you are marrying me. That would make you the luckiest woman on Earth by the way. All that "marriage is a contract" is just meaningless platitudes you have heard.[/quote] You're contradicting yourself. 1 Like |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by Sagamite(m): 2:28pm On Nov 27, 2014 |
Chiamaka01: How am I contradicting myself? 1 Like |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by Sagamite(m): 2:30pm On Nov 27, 2014 |
Chiamaka01: You are not a sex slave but you insist you have to be bought since it is "your culture"? 1 Like |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by Nobody: 2:37pm On Nov 27, 2014 |
Sagamite: You said earlier that none of us can define marriage for the other, but you call my definition, "meaningless"? 1 Like |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by Sagamite(m): 2:41pm On Nov 27, 2014 |
Chiamaka01: I said your definition was meaningless based on the general applicability you initially claimed it was. That was why I called it a meaningless platitude. If you choose to define your marriage as that, then that is your business. Another meaningless platitude people use is "marriage should be for life". The only "life" I know is the type they give in American courts for gruesome murder. Even in the UK, Life means like 15-30 years only. 3 Likes |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by Nobody: 2:46pm On Nov 27, 2014 |
Sagamite: The payment of bride-price is a marriage rite, i'm not surprised people like you see it as a business deal. |
Re: Ladies, Would You Consider Marrying Into A Polygamous Family? by Sagamite(m): 2:52pm On Nov 27, 2014 |
Chiamaka01: What is a marriage rite? Why is it necessary? Why don't you see polygamy and taking your husband surname as a "rite" too? Abi your culture never had those? 3 Likes |
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