I've often wondered who names a child. Who's right or responsibility is it??
Do mothers have a say in a child's naming??
Or do grandparents??
I've seen where a grandparent gives a child a name and the parents accept it.

Is this different in tribes?
I know of some names I wouldn't give my child....... Was telling my friend that and she was like, " What if that's the name the father decides to give?"
Why would he give a name I don't want to my baby??
Please I need enlightenment on this issue.

The father should give name to his offspring. Though with his Wifey 's support /approval.

Nairaland, breaking homes since 2005.

He can name the girls and she names the boys

The wife and grandparents suggest names to the father and he decides whether or not to accept the names

The grandparents and/or the father mostly have the final say cos they get to name the child after one of his ancestors. This is usually practiced in yorubaland. The woman can name the child if the husband/grandparents of the father agree, but if not, she has no right to argue on that.

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Equal rights go soon enter now

MrsBreezy:
He can name the girls and she names the boys

Abi??

sohl7:
The wife and grandparents suggest names to the father and he decides whether or not to accept the names

Do the mothers accept any name he chooses?? Even when she doesn't want it??

Give it to the fathers,it's their prerogative. However, the mother can name the child as well. I name mine because if I wait for my husband,the child will be 2yrs old without a name.

soonest:
Give it to the fathers,it's their prerogative. However, the mother can name the child as well. I name mine because if I wait for my husband,the child will be 2yrs old without a name.

Welcome to my world. Not funny though.

TribalEAST:
The grandparents and/or the father mostly have the final say cos they get to name the child after one of his ancestors. This is usually practiced in yorubaland. The woman can name the child if the husband/grandparents of the father agree, but if not, she has no right to argue on that.

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Equal rights go soon enter now

Really?

It is d right of d father to name d child but some grandparent will never allow d father to name d child,some grandparent see d child naming as part of dia responsibility

Why should one person own the right to naming a child that's a joint effort of two people?
It's no issue. I don't know about other cultures but in yorubaland these days,almost everyone names the child. Maternal and paternal grandparents, uncles, aunties, cousins etc. The child gets to have like fifteen names altogether.
Mother and father then gets to decide what name to stick with and all is well.

There are no rights in marriage. These are things you discuss and agree on before you marry.
Discuss, compromise and agree. Dating is beyond lovely dovey and enjoyment. It is bot you agree and synchronise your views eg: how many kids to have, if gender of the kids is an issue and issues like these.

You have no rights in marriage, your right stops where your partners right starts. What happens in marriage is fairness, compromise and understanding and mutual respect and not who has rights or not

When my brother's wife gave birth, i asked my mum which name she would give her grandson, she bluntly told me that the child isn't hers so she has no business naming him.


@ Post, both parents can name the child, my hubby comes up with the english names and i come up with the native name. No big deal.

aisha2:
There are no rights in marriage. These are things you discuss and agree on before you marry.

So sweeping and emphatic, albeit a totally wrong statement? Apart from the fact that OP wasn't referring to marriage per se, marriage is exactly about rights. It fomalises the rights and responsibilities of the couple towards one another.

aisha2:
You have no rights in marriage, your right stops where your partners right starts. What happens in marriage is fairness, compromise and understanding and mutual respect and not who has rights or not

And repeated for good measure?

If there are no rights in marriage, then what distinguishes a married couple from a non-married couple?


OP, the couple are free to embrace the dictates of the faith or traditions, forge their own path or reach a compromise.


TV

I believe both parents have the right to name the child. They can also agree to have names from their parents. I don't think it should be a right exclusive to the father.

TV01:

So sweeping and emphatic, albeit a totally wrong statement? Apart from the fact that OP wasn't referring to marriage per se, marriage is exactly about rights. It fomalises the rights and responsibilities of the couple towards one another.
And repeated for good measure?
If there are no rights in marriage, then what distinguishes a married couple from a non-married couple?
OP, the couple are free to embrace the dictates of the faith or traditions, forge their own path or reach a compromise.
TV

No need for this fishing. " Rights" in the context i was clearly stating means that in issues like this spouses agree to disagree and compromise not just stand on what they think they deserve and hold on extremely. Everything that may seem like a problem in marriage can be worked out with proper communication and understanding.
No rights here as i earlier explained means even when you think the name you want is better and your " right" you and your spouse can sit and talk maybe your spouse may want the name based on sentimental reasons eg a grandma who raised them and had a lot of positive influence on them while growing up

I.am talking about sane marriages between sane spouses who know what marriage and compromise means and not those who see it as some sort of competition and power trip.

The whole world can give a child different names. It is the parents that will decide which ones they'll put on the birth certificate.

aisha2:


No need for this fishing. " Rights" in the context i was clearly stating means that in issues like this spouses agree to disagree and compromise not just stand on what they think they deserve and hold on extremely. Everything that may seem like a problem in marriage can be worked out with proper communication and understanding.
No rights here as i earlier explained means even when you think the name you want is better and your " right" you and your spouse can sit and talk maybe your spouse may want the name based on sentimental reasons eg a grandma who raised them and had a lot of positive influence on them while growing up

I.am talking about sane marriages between sane spouses who know what marriage and compromise means and not those who see it as some sort of competition and power trip.

Quite garbled.
It's not about marriage - and your points on marriage were off-point.

Leave it.


TV

Every loved stakeholder gives a name or names I.e Grams, father, mother, friend of the family etc. That is why Yoruba babies have a lot of names. However, the mother of the child who spends most time with the baby calls him or her the name she wishes out of all names given. Mind you, its a game of the thrones as each name giver calls the baby their preferred until one prevails.

I still get called different versions of my names by my relatives from time to time but everyone knows my official first name

TV01:

Quite garbled.
It's not about marriage - and your points on marriage were off-point.
Leave it.
TV

I may be speaking to myself but if you have some issue with me please state it and get it off your chest
Following me round making condescending statements is just sad. If it fills in a viod in your life then goodluck and enjoy

soonest:
Give it to the fathers,it's their prerogative. However, the mother can name the child as well. I name mine because if I wait for my husband,the child will be 2yrs old without a name.

loooool

Phema:


Welcome to my world. Not funny though.

Got your mail Phema

aisha2:
I may be speaking to myself

You are right.

aisha2:
but if you have some issue with me please state it and get it off your chest

You are wrong. The issue of getting crabby when challenged is yours not mine .

aisha2:
Following me round making condescending statements is just sad. If it fills in a viod in your life then goodluck and enjoy

Following you around ? I don't think I've responded to you for months - are you attention starved !

Like I said, leave it.


TV

BreezyRita:

Abi??

Haha yeah life's so much easier

i think its a collabo tin, cos the wife wud want a particular name , the parent wud also give advice/suggestions

My parent, her parent, my wife and i, anyone of us can name our child but the only challenging i may be having with them is to name my child with an "English Name" God damn it , i will reject it outrightly. I need a Yoruba Name such as Omolewa, Omolaso, Bukola, Abiodun, Motunrayo, Oyindamola, Owolegbon, Abosede, Ayodeji e.t.c

aisha2:
There are no rights in marriage. These are things you discuss and agree on before you marry.
Discuss, compromise and agree. Dating is beyond lovely dovey and enjoyment. It is bot you agree and synchronise your views eg: how many kids to have, if gender of the kids is an issue and issues like these.

You have no rights in marriage, your right stops where your partners right starts. What happens in marriage is fairness, compromise and understanding and mutual respect and not who has rights or not

kai! I love this aisha2 ooooooo!!!!!

Both.

Bibol:
The whole world can give a child different names. It is the parents that will decide which ones they'll put on the birth certificate.

+1

...And the streets too. Guy name

I think of name, suggest it and if he buys it, he names the baby.simples!