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Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 10:41pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 10:45pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Nonso23: Hahahahahaha. Oh dear. Ignorance is bliss. If it helps you sleep well at night and drives stroke away to be this ignorant, No problem o. |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 10:46pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by UjSizzle(f): 10:50pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Nonso23:I understand we must not eliminate human weakness especially in marriage, but that means both parties should talk about impending dangers to their union Before and not after the cat has been committed. So there's a hot woman who wants you, and you're tempted to succumb. Why not tell your wife if you really don't want to cheat and hurt her, rather than falling and seeking help way after you've eaten the apple? We're trying to respect the sanctity of a union here. Unless of course said man has no regards for his vows? |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Kimoni: 10:54pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
damiso: Appreciate the bolded. Not every woman will be gentle with a potential homebreaker who consistently refused to back off. |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 10:57pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by UjSizzle(f): 11:07pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Nonso23:Well then, if he needs help I'm sure we'll find a way to get him out of the fix he's gotten into (something he managed quite well on his own ). Far be it from me to deny my spouse limited help. But I'm sure as hell not going to yell at another woman for any reason whatsoever. That said, I hope he knows the best his wife can do is offer him emotional support. The bulk of the task still falls on him. |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 11:15pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by UjSizzle(f): 11:18pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Nonso23:Right. May God keep us away from cheating spouses though. |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 11:20pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 11:24pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Confront a mistress? What if she overpowers me, lays me across her laps and gives my bare bottom the smack of its life? Tufiakwa PS if she steps foot into my house...then na die she want |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by justanoderacct: 11:58pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
aisha2:Honestly, those people their wahala no be here o. And the worst part is that they have absolutely no idea that their behaviour is a symptom of mental illness, they think up irrational self serving explanations and they create all sort of justifications in their messed up minds to continue. @topic; I don't know if it's just me but the moment I find out my spouse is cheating all the love I have for him will die instantly. I'm not even sure I can ever care enough about him to contemplate confronting his mistress. She can continue sleeping with his worthless asss for all I care. 2 Likes |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 12:08am On Oct 31, 2014 |
Billyonaire: Na him be say, another he-goat dey shine her kongo for u, make the thing no go rust. |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by soulglo: 12:42am On Oct 31, 2014 |
pickabeau1: Maybe hire thugs to bathe her in acid. It's been done before. I have to say that I cannot imagine confronting another woman about my man to the point of physically assaulting her. I have seen situations were women have called the other woman on the phone and scheduled a time to discuss, I have seen what happens when a woman calls a mistress in a rage and ends up insulted and I would personally not do either. I honestly believe the best way to fix it is in house. Nashville I see where you're coming from and God forbid you strayed would you want your wife to put herself in a potentially life threatening situation. Would you want to risk her being stripped naked and videotaped all over a mistake you made? Even if she forgives you for the cheating, she would likely never forgive you for her naked body on every neighborhood child's cellphone |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by tpia6: 1:12am On Oct 31, 2014 |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by tpia6: 1:15am On Oct 31, 2014 |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by tpia6: 1:15am On Oct 31, 2014 |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by tpia6: 1:21am On Oct 31, 2014 |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by tpia6: 1:24am On Oct 31, 2014 |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by tpia6: 1:32am On Oct 31, 2014 |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by tpia6: 1:34am On Oct 31, 2014 |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by tpia6: 1:42am On Oct 31, 2014 |
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Re: Confronting The Mistress by pickabeau1: 6:28am On Oct 31, 2014 |
soulglo: Will you hire thugs to pour acid hypothetically |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by sheunfemix: 7:07am On Oct 31, 2014 |
ferhyntorlah:thank u o my sister |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 12:24pm On Oct 31, 2014 |
moca: You ladies obviously had alot of fun yesterday. I expected your responses because I had noticed the trend. And I quite agree you dont want to start fighting every girl you see with your husband. My point though is that these young girls need to be taught that it is not ok to date a married man. In fact it has consequences and sometimes I wish they bear the consequences of dating married men and ruining another woman's marriage. It is wrong to date married men; the girl is no better than the married man in my view as they are both cheating. We all talk about the law of karma, but hey it doesnt always work. Some of these aristo girls end up marrying very good men that will never cheat on them. And some good girls who never cheated would end up with bad guys. So I wouldnt go the karma route. But I think there has to be a way to teach those girls a lesson. Men sometimes are the hunted now. For the married men that cheat, they should also be punished with stiffer divorce laws that ensure women get a fare share of a man's wealth where infidelity is involved. But I think one of the ways of reducing cases of infidelity is by punishing people. I have focused on married men cheating with single girls; it does not mean that married women don't cheat but I do not want to discuss that. 1 Like |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Kimoni: 12:43pm On Oct 31, 2014 |
Nashville: Everyone wish these girls be taught a lesson, but who is going to bell the cat? The wife? That a NO NO, Nash. Her only goal is to do whatever it is in her power to save her marriage if she is still interested but punishing the other woman shouldn't be her objective as much as she would love to see the other woman get punished. I guess it's this state of helplessness that make most married women console themselves with this Karma theory just that it doesn't always work that way like you said. When people say life can be very unfair, this is part of it IMO. |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 12:58pm On Oct 31, 2014 |
Nashville:Nash, oh, u r still alive? I tot u were murdered and buried yesterday I get u very well and at times i feel d same way too if i hear or see such but most times d odds r always against d wifey thats why some threads carefully now. As u dont know whats on d other end, u cant just sacrifice ur life,ur children or dignity fighting a lost case. For a man to even think of going outside, perfecting it,in my dictionary is already a lost battle. Rather, i will be busy thinking of my perfect escape(with kids) and big fat account than going to fight one babe that might end up knocking my teeth off. This is simply what most ladies here r saying. Thats d logic. Nothing more. Some fights r not worth it. This is one of such fights. |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 2:35pm On Oct 31, 2014 |
So long as I dont catch her in my house or anywhere near my children My "gentleman no reach that one . . . .But anything else, I am not risking damaging my nails 2 Likes |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 2:44pm On Oct 31, 2014 |
Mr Nashville, Many women have gone down the confrontation route and it just didn't work.The disgrace,the loss of self esteem,tearing clothes and hair pulling.We jet age chicks are not going to risk it. Imagine a high class career woman fighting on the street with some babe cos of husband?It's a huge dent on a persons public image. Its not worth it especially with all these people videoing stuff and putting up on YouTube. How will I be able to explain scratches on my face and why I'm suddenly bald? Those days are long gone. |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Nobody: 2:46pm On Oct 31, 2014 |
chaircover: Person wey enter ya house na trespasser, and tresspassers can be shot in some states . If person carry wahala come ya house na she sabi. |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by Stillfire: 3:11pm On Oct 31, 2014 |
Nashville: Ok Nashville. Despite my wahala sometimes I believe marriage should be protected. Here is a good suggestion below Here in North Carolina there are laws that give the wife rights to sue her husband's mistress even the mother-in-law for alienation of affection. It is a good read and should be implemented in Nigeria. https://www.rosen.com/divorce/divorcearticles/alienation-of-affection-and-criminal-conversation/ Excerpt: Infidelity & Alienation of Affection An outsider’s interference with marriage can cost the outsider big bucks in North Carolina. Fairly high-dollar awards in such cases have existed here for a number of years, a fact not generally known. As long ago as 1926, for instance, a jury in Macon County rendered a verdict in the amount of $12,000 against the lover of plaintiff’s wife. A 1931 jury in Forsyth County held against a plaintiff’s wife’s father-in-law for $38,000. A Rowan County jury awarded $30,000 against a husband’s girlfriend in 1969. In 1982, our Court of Appeals affirmed a jury verdict in the amount of $25,000 in compensatory damages and another $25,000 in punitive damages. In the 1990’s, North Carolina juries were even more generous. A 1990 Forsyth County jury award of $300,000 in punitive damages for alienation was sustained on appeal, even though the court struck the compensatory award for $200,000. In 1997 alone, a jury handed down $1.2 million against a female paramour in Forsyth County, awarded another jilted wife $1 million in Alamance County and a deceived husband $243,000 in Wake County. In late 1999, a judge in Durham County valued compensatory damages in a case brought by a husband against his wife’s lover at less than $3,000 in compensatory damages but the judge still awarded $40,000 in punitive damages on the criminal conversation claim. Even in the last 15 years, the trend of generosity has continued. In August of 2000, a Burke County judge awarded a devastated wife $86,250 for alienation of affection and $15,000 for criminal conversation, totaling $101,250. In May of 2001, in Richmond County, the jury answered the issues of NC alienation of affection and criminal conversation in favor of the scorned husband and awarded him compensatory damages of $50,000 plus punitive damages of $50,000. Another distraught husband, in Mecklenburg County, received an award of $1.4 million in May, 2001 comprised of $910,000 in compensatory damages and $500,000 in punitive damages. The jury found the doctor who had had an affair with this man’s wife liable for both alienation of affection and criminal conversation. After an appeal the original award of compensatory damages was reversed, the punitive damages award, however, was upheld. In 2007, a Cook County judge ordered a man to pay $4802 to a husband who was grieving the loss of his wife after an affair. In 2009 a woman was awarded a nine million dollar verdict after she won a suit against her husband’s mistress, and in 2011 another plaintiff was awarded a thirty million dollar verdict in an NC alienation of affection suit. This claim will also survive even if you cannot prove that the mistress was the one in fact doing the “luring,” and it was your spouse who initiated contact and pursued her. You have a claim if you can prove that the person you are suing was an active participant, initiated, or encouraged the affair. What makes this tort different from criminal conversation, which we discuss below, is that an alienation of affection claim can survive even if there is no evidence of sexual intercourse. Some law professor-types call this the “mother-in-lawsuit” exception. Very witty. That’s right, if your mother-in-law played an active role in your loss of affection from your spouse, and you can prove she did so maliciously, you could probably sue her for alienation of affection. Liability hinges on whether the family member’s conduct arose from malice or other improper motive. Although this tort has been widely abolished and is only recognized in a handful of states today, it is alive and well in North Carolina; roughly 200 alienation of affection suits are filed each year here. |
Re: Confronting The Mistress by damiso(f): 3:30pm On Oct 31, 2014 |
Stillfire there was also a case here where a man also sued a catholic priest and the catholic Church for having an affair with his wife and ruining his marriage |
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