Sophyrocks:


I get what you are trying to say. So i will confront the mistress then what next? will it stop my husband from cheating? you have answered my question.

the issue here is not whether anything will stop your husband from cheating.

it's teaching people there are consequences for whatever actions they engage in.

so far, all i'm seeing is some folks insisting the wife is the only one who will bear consequences when her husband is busy displaying his prick around town?


and all the people talking of "dignity", the so-called "dignified response" engaged in by some women, is actually deadlier than the wife who makes her displeasure known.

the mistress should even be happy the wife confronted her, some wives will not confront you but your own don finish nevertheless.

Sophyrocks:


Oooooohhh. you are just like me. we are alike. This my ego ehn. Very very very precious to me o. it has also saved me from very huge ridiculous mistakes with men.

Well, all women have ego. but you know the problem? nobody to massage it for them. it also has a lot to do with their upbringing. instead they are taught to massage that of men always. Nigerian women are veeeeeery gullible and have been taught to not have one. Infact its a sin to have one. It only takes a reaaaaaalllly strong willed quality and huge dose of self esteem to be capable of massaging your ego. Once you dnt have any of these qualities, it would appear you dnt have ego. Reminds me of this beyonce's song 'Ego'. I love that song. It boosts my ego. lol.

Me, i dey massage my ego if nobody dey there to massage am for me o. Lol.

It's really a shame I tell you, some girls have said stuffs to me like "you go fit stay for husband house so" because of my stance on certain issues on relationships.

You hear them say, "all men cheat, just make sure you are the number 1, you have to do this, do that so that he will stay",when I say, there's no main or side chic or ask what he will be doing while I do all the listed, they say "how you go compare man and woman" and then I vex and give them a piece of my mind and they call me "proud" and even gang up on me.

I have met just very few women who reason and have same beliefs with me on relationships/men, and what I've noticed from them is that, they were raised differently from the other ladies.

My ego important to me o, just like you, I constantly massage it myself added to the one my baby contributes .

freecocoa:
Hehehe.
Go confront girl wey her own no good, your body go tell you.

I remember as a teenager a woman came to the mistresses supermarket and actually met the husband there having lunch with the mistress, na so the woman begin shout shout curse the husband still dey chop him food the mistress was calm probably because she didnt want her shop destroyed, then the woman decided to slap the mistresses, chai the mistress beat her ehnn, tore her clothes, the man was still eating telling the mistress to "deal with the shameless woman". We had to get her a wrapper as our house was close by.

aisha2:


You earlier said people will only keep disturbing if you give attention. Sometimes men feel they can handle it or feel ashamed to say a woman is harrassing them same way they feel ashamed to say they are being abused physically or emotionally.

It doesnt mean they love or condole the attention. Men with mistresses are different from men being stalked. Who wants 50 missed calls a day?

Desperate times call for desperate measures

A stalker cannot stalk you forever if you take an action to curb it.

If you do not 50missed calls daily, after 2days or 1week you will do something about it.

Not doing anything is also a form of consent. If my colleague touches me in a sensitive part of my body and I do not say anything, he simply takes it as an encouragement to go a step higher.

freecocoa:
Hehehe.

Go confront girl wey her own no good, your body go tell you.

u don't hv to slap n kick n fight. ...know thy Enemy n use against them

bukatyne:

Desperate times call for desperate measures
A stalker cannot stalk you forever if you take an action to curb it.
If you do not 50missed calls daily, after 2days or 1week you will do something about it.
Not doing anything is also a form of consent. If my colleague touches me in a sensitive part of my body and I do not say anything, he simply takes it as an encouragement to go a step higher.

Do you think I reported immediately he started calling me? It took me months to say it out because I assumed just telling him off will do it.

Stalkers are not normal people they are sick people with a twisted version of reality what works with normal people does not work with them.

Stalkers are not normal chasers, stalkers are mentally ill so ignoring their calls will only make them feel you want them but you are playing hard to get. Infact when I started shouting for help people assumed I was exaggerating till I gave someone my phone for the night who thought he could ward off the stalker for where?

Please read up on stalkers explaining to you may not make sense if you havent been a victim or known someone who was

aisha2:


I remember as a teenager a woman came to the mistresses supermarket and actually met the husband there having lunch with the mistress, na so the woman begin shout shout curse the husband still dey chop him food the mistress was calm probably because she didnt want her shop destroyed, then the woman decided to slap the mistresses, chai the mistress beat her ehnn, tore her clothes, the man was still eating telling the mistress to "deal with the shameless woman". We had to get her a wrapper as our house was close by.

Lmfao .

These things happen everyday, yet women will not learn, just imagine being beaten by your husband's mistresses with your husband egging her on, kai! Which humiliation pass that one?

Omo leave am o, me sef don see things, abi na the one wey her husband go buy gbogbo ero to placate the mistress wey the wife insult? If only women will open their eyes.

tpia6:


what most of you are not getting here is IF YOUR HUSBAND IS RUNNING AROUND TOWN FREELY DISTRIBUTING HIS SERVICES LIKE A PUBLIC TAP, your dignity is already gone.

which dignity are you looking for again when another woman is busy showing off what is supposed to belong to you?

your "dignity" has vamoosed long time, you are still acting the emperor who wears no clothes, saying you have it.

your choice dear.

Naa her dignity is not gone. Dignity means your sense of self worth. It's something that stems from within, your principled nature not as a result of external factors or what somebody else did. That doesn't make sense. If you choose to lose your dignity at the dictates of what your husband (who freely distributes his services to all and sundry), then go ahead and act like an aggressive bull. On judgement day we would NOT be judged by family. Everyone would stand by themselves. So don't use someone undignifying himself to describe mine.

Mariecakes:

u don't hv to slap n kick n fight. ...know thy Enemy n use against them

The only enemy you have is your cheating husband.

It becomes a different ball game, if the other woman is all over your husband and he isn't interested, told you and prolly wants you both to tackle the issue(which almost never happens), then I don't see how she's the enemy.

aisha2:


I remember as a teenager a woman came to the mistresses supermarket and actually met the husband there having lunch with the mistress, na so the woman begin shout shout curse the husband still dey chop him food the mistress was calm probably because she didnt want her shop destroyed, then the woman decided to slap the mistresses, chai the mistress beat her ehnn, tore her clothes, the man was still eating telling the mistress to "deal with the shameless woman". We had to get her a wrapper as our house was close by.

so she slapped the mistress and left the husband to be enjoying his food and watching the show?


no wonder he told his hoochie to beat her up.

tpia6:


so its ok for the mistress to be manic but not the wife?

if the mistress is manic and your man is still humping her regardless, what does that say?

she used juju on him?

What does that say? He's manic too now. You then expect me to fight two manic people?

aisha2:


The man will probably say to the mistress "You see the mad woman I have to put up with abi?" and the mistress will rub his big stomach and say "Sorry Baby I can imagine" while the wife is home going crazy dialing mistresses number calling pastor and sending text messages

You are wicked o!

Stillfire:

Really Coogar? A Nigerian man needs to be offered before he wanders? Rotflmao! Do you really really believe that?

every time i go to lagos, i get such offers by the dozens.....

Stillfire:


Naa her dignity is not gone

my dear, the dignity has developed wings and flown away.

Dignity means your sense of self worth. It's something that stems from within, your principled nature not as a result of external factors or what somebody else did. That doesn't make sense. If you choose to lose your dignity at the dictates of what your husband (who freely distributes his services to all and sundry), then go ahead and act like an aggressive bull. On judgement day we would NOT be judged by family. Everyone would stand by themselves.

your dignity is intertwined with your husband's actions once you marry.

unless you divorce him for being a philanderer, there is no dignity in watching your husband making a f.ool out of you around town.

its not about "outwaiting" the mistress and waiting for his wandering prick to come back .

if the mistress is the aggressive bull and your husband is still with her, then you need to check yourself.

Sooooo, men, when will u guys start confronting d men in ur wives lives?

And erm, if u find out she is bedding adenuga or one army general,pray tell us how u will go about it since confrontation is the koko now

Nashville where r u? U must defend this ur hot topic o

freecocoa:
Lmfao .
These things happen everyday, yet women will not learn, just imagine being beaten by your husband's mistresses with your husband egging her on, kai! Which humiliation pass that one?
Omo leave am o, me sef don see things, abi na the one wey her husband go buy gbogbo ero to placate the mistress wey the wife insult? If only women will open their eyes.

It seems that when wifey confronts mistress gets a big bribe to placate her

tpia6:


my dear, the dignity has developed wings and flown away.




your dignity is intertwined with your husband's actions once you marry.

unless you divorce him for being a philanderer, there is no dignity in watching your husband making a f.ool out of you around town.

its not about "outwaiting" the mistress and waiting for his wandering prick to come back to you.

Lol you don't get it. Did you miss where we say we would confront the husband but not the mistress? It's as simple as that!

tpia6:



That's probably why your husband is going with the lady to begin with.

You are not even strong enough to fight for what's yours whereas the "mistress" is aggressive enough to fight for what she stole.

This is the kind of attitude that made africa or is it nigeria, a colony.

Tpia, will u fight?
U get strength?
I can just picture tpia fighting bc of her hubby
Oluwa jesu!

Madam tpia u get single bone so?
Me,i no get o!
Ben johnson is my second name.

aisha2:



Do you think I reported immediately he started calling me? It took me months to say it out because I assumed just telling him off will do it.

Stalkers are not normal people they are sick people with a twisted version of reality what works with normal people does not work with them.

Stalkers are not normal chasers, stalkers are mentally ill so ignoring their calls will only make them feel you want them but you are playing hard to get. Infact when I started shouting for help people assumed I was exaggerating till I gave someone my phone for the night who thought he could ward off the stalker for where?

Please read up on stalkers explaining to you may not make sense if you havent been a victim or known someone who was

I know stalkers are c.razy that is why I propose action real fast.

Stillfire:


What does that say? He's manic too now. You then expect me to fight two manic people?

ok, if you are no longer interested in your two timing man, then that's different.

but to say the wife should quietly put on a stoic countenance and pretend all is well while the man is busy everywhere and turning her to a laughing stock, is hard.

it will come out somewhere else, unless she herself is doing the same thing as the man.

which one is matyr for marriage?

when the mistress is doing bad girls are the shiznit?

tpia6:


my dear, the dignity has developed wings and flown away.






your dignity is intertwined with your husband's actions once you marry.

unless you divorce him for being a philanderer, there is no dignity in watching your husband making a f.ool out of you around town.

its not about "outwaiting" the mistress and waiting for his wandering prick to come back .

if the mistress is the aggressive bull and your husband is still with her, then you need to check yourself.

Don't you think you kind of lost your dignity when you married such a man?

And how will fighting the mistress restore your dignity?

moca:
Sooooo, men, when will u guys start confronting d men in ur wives lives?

And erm, if u find out she is bedding adenuga or one army general,pray tell us how u will go about it since confrontation is the koko now

Nashville where r u? U must defend this ur hot topic o

grown men don't fight because of a woman....
why fight? she's free to go wherever she wants to go......i know some men with a very low self esteem do break bottles to fight for their women & that's because they don't have enough wisdom.

women don't just hump around like men. they do it with their emotions attached. once a woman decides to taste another sausage, she's already gone. she's planned, plotted and strategised the risks & rewards before doing it. their scheme is more straightforward - a man can sleep with cossy orjiakor & still love his wife.

women don't do that.....

coogar:


every time i go to lagos, i get such offers by the dozens.....

Mechie onu dia
Who dash monkey banana

moca:

Tpia, will u fight?
U get strength?
I can just picture tpia fighting bc of her hubby
Oluwa jesu!
Madam tpia u get single bone so?
Me,i no get o!
Ben johnson is my second name.

Lol. Tpia wanna fight off women because of husband. lol So Tpia can love like this? lol Abokoku Tpia.

moca:
Sooooo, men, when will u guys start confronting d men in ur wives lives?

And erm, if u find out she is bedding adenuga or one army general,pray tell us how u will go about it since confrontation is the koko now

Nashville where r u? U must defend this ur hot topic o

A husband will confront his wife's side boo? esp in Nigeria?

Let me spread my mat

bukatyne:

I know stalkers are c.razy that is why I propose action real fast.

You dont know immediately that they are stalkers. You imagine they are normal people you can ward off. As a woman I thought so for a month, not till I started getting pictures of myself via email before I got scared I imagined at first he was just infactuated.

coogar:


grown men don't fight because of a woman....
why fight? she's free to go wherever she wants to go......i know some men with a very low self esteem do break bottles to fight for their women & that's because they don't have enough wisdom.

women don't just hump around like men. they do it with their emotions attached. once a woman decides to taste another sausage, she's already gone. she's planned, plotted and strategised the risks & rewards before doing it. their scheme is more straightforward - a man can sleep with cossy orjiakor & still love his wife.

women don't do that.....

Gbam!
Thats why i lv my ituku bro.
On point

tpia6:


ok, if you are no longer interested in your two timing man, then that's different.

but to say the wife should quietly put on a stoic countenance and pretend all is well while the man is busy everywhere and turning her to a laughing stock, is hard.

it will come out somewhere else, unless she herself is doing the same thing as the man.

which one is matyr for marriage?

when the mistress is doing bad girls are the shiznit?

I did not say the wife should sit quietly. She should instead channel her fighting karate techniques to the husband. Fighting mistresses has never worked. We wouldn't be having this conversation if it ever did.

aisha2:


It seems that when wifey confronts mistress gets a big bribe to placate her

Before nko? Confronting her has given her an edge over the wifey.

bukatyne:


A husband will confront his wife's side boo? esp in Nigeria?

Let me spread my mat

Eeh now
Abi u no dey see guys confront fellow guys to stay off their babes for school?
So why wouldnt they extend it to wifey?

tpia6:


my dear, the dignity has developed wings and flown away.


your dignity is intertwined with your husband's actions once you marry.

unless you divorce him for being a philanderer, there is no dignity in watching your husband making a f.ool out of you around town.

its not about "outwaiting" the mistress and waiting for his wandering prick to come back .

if the mistress is the aggressive bull and your husband is still with her, then you need to check yourself.

Stillfire:


Lol. Tpia wanna fight off women because of husband. lol So Tpia can love like this? lol Abokoku Tpia.

Lol
Crazy imagination!