Stage 1: Lust

Lust is driven by the sex hormones testosterone and oestrogen. Testosterone is not confined only to men. It has also been shown to play a major role in the sex drive of women. These hormones as Helen Fisher says "get you out looking for anything".

Stage 2: Attraction

This is the truly love-struck phase. When people fall in love they can think of nothing else. They might even lose their appetite and need less sleep, preferring to spend hours at a time daydreaming about their new lover.

In the attraction stage, a group of neuro-transmitters called 'monoamines' play an important role:

Dopamine - Also activated by cocaine and nicotine

Norepinephrine - Otherwise known as adrenalin. Starts us sweating and gets the heart racing

Serotonin - One of love's most important chemicals and one that may actually send us temporarily insane

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Stage 3: Attachment

This is what takes over after the attraction stage, if a relationship is going to last. People couldn't possibly stay in the attraction stage forever, otherwise they'd never get any work done!

Attachment is a longer lasting commitment and is the bond that keeps couples together when they go on to have children. Important in this stage are two hormones released by the nervous system, which are thought to play a role in social attachments

nice!!!

iice:

Am i the only one who thinks attraction comes before lust or is it because i see attraction as the power of drawing one closer to something before you start lusting after it and once tasted, it becomes an addiction hence attachment

yes girl i also think attraction comes before lust infact is the lust by force sef cos wen i started datin i remember the attraction but not the lust infact my mind didnt even go there so me i dont know o!

thanks all for your contribution
invite others let's discuss

Nice. really nice

i dont think there is anything to discuss here cuzz ppl just fall in love somtimes crazily, in a way you will never dream off. i think is attraction b4 lust then r/ship. dont know about the attachment.

that nice.

You know one thing I'd like to tell you. When yu feel uncontrolable attraction towards sombody at the begining of a relationship, then that is lust not love. Love grows between two people. I think you've heard about the saying that says the best person you can marry is your best friend.
Naturally afriend is someone you love and can forgive and forgive and forgive. You got what I mean?
If you take note, most people that feel attracted to each other at the begining of their relationship break up after having enough of what attracted them. Sex.
That's all I gatta say.

3 stages of love, very eye opening

intresting

A real eye opener.Tx 4 educating us better

to me you get attracted to the person b4 loving up

luvlymoi:

yes girl i also think attraction comes before lust infact is the lust by force sef because when i started datin i remember the attraction but not the lust infact my mind didnt even go there so me i don't know o!

It depends on the person, please. It could be even be attachment (out of fear,insecurity or adulation) and then attraction and finally lust/love.

iice and luvlymoi that was a really stupid thing two of you said
you still thing life is a fairy tale. Lust comes first always after all
we ladies cant help it when a guy looking like Brad Pitt comes
around us.