It has always been my dream to someday fall in love and get married to a wonderful woman. But these days, a new truth scares me: marriage by nature destroys love.

How did I discover this? Research and commonsense. Since I became mature as a growing kid, I studied great relatnships coz my divorced parents whose youthful pictures showed them madly in love, failed in their marriage. Hence I thought I could build a better home, but here s what I discovered and it might shock you:

When u re single and in love, u & ur partner dont owe eachother so much xpectations. It s easy to be independent and feel free of responsibilities. But once u re 4eva married off to that same person, it s like a new job: first u have so much good xpectations, then time passes & not all ur xpectations come to pass & u begin to see d other side of d job. Soon u re frustrated but you must keep showing up everyday & you must play your role. Marriage brings pressure. So my advice? If you re not mature in mind, dont marry yet. Love is not enough.

I think you just discovered the fun of marriage

I don't get ur point..

Can u xplain more clearly..?

asandigbo:
I think you just discovered the fun of marriage

Lol. Trust me. It s not funny at all.

Op is posting, just for that sake

Nyc one oo

Waspy:
Op is posting, just for that sake

Just sharing what came to my mind buddy. Or are u also scared of marriage?

Op has a point though ,that doesn't still change the fact that those points are for kids to follow.

I concur; Marriage isn't a thing for one to rush into...One has to be fully matured and mentally ready to take the responsibilities that comes along with it.

U've made ur point for the KIDs:...if u r NOT married, u can comment but can't advise on marital issues.

U can't be a professional in what u haven't practiced!!

There is no too much deal abt marriage apart from having (a) wife(s) and maybe kids to add to ur pressure/pleasure.

@Op the problem rocking marriages today is the result of a fictional emotion call Infatuation currently used as Foundation in marriages today. Alot of people who claim to be in love are actually going through Infatuation.
Artificial love or Infatuation thrives in a world were the partner is seen as Perfect, Faultless and without any issues as far as relationships is concerned. This perception is Fiction.
The problem with this perception is that it sort of IDOLIZE the person you're involved with. It makes you think the person you're in love with is PERFECT and INFALLIBLE and so will never DISAPOINT or HURT you. The moment you are in that state, artificial emotions will begin to build up. It will cloud your REASON. You start worshipping the person like some kind of DEMI GOD. Emotions building up in you will make you do anything. You will go the extra length and do weird stuff, all for your partner because you believed she is the IMAGE you build around her person. This kind of relationship only thrive in romantic novels. Romantic novels makes you create the FICTIONAL IMAGE that ones you find the love of your life, all will be perfect, you will get married and live happily ever after without any problem...
... But as soon as you get married and started living the REAL LIVE, the demi god (your wife) whom you worshipped and see as the PERFECT WOMAN, will start displaying her HUMAN NATURE. Her IMPERFECTION will become very VISIBLE. Your eyes will open up to reality. Questions and more questions will start flooding your mind. Is She really the one? As soon as you realize your partner is not the perfect idol you thought she was in the beginning, you will be in deep hurt. You will feel so betrayed. It can make one go crazy. Your love (Infatuation) for her will immediately start declining. You will begin to wonder how on earth you fell in love with her in the first place (See where the expression: Love is Blind came from. It's Infatuation not Love. Infatuation is blind). At this point, your feelings for your partner will take a downward trend. If both of you are not careful, your marriage might collapse.
This is what happens when marriages are built on artificial foundation (Information or fictional love).
Rise up to reality. No one is perfect. Do not IDOLIZE or portray an image of PERFECTION on your partner no matter how nice or beautiful she is. We are all human beings. We are not perfect.
The key is to accept and like your partner the way he/she is with the realization that he/she is as IMPERFECT as you.