kayClt:
hi, am really confused on an issue dat has been disturbing me for some tym nw n am in really need of gud n matured advice. I' ve been in a relationship wit a guy I met in ma university days n its going to 5 yrs nw, the relationship has been going smooth but d problem I HV wit dis guy is dat he's really hot tempered, his proud n he has so much ego,it boils down to d extent dat if we hv ani argument no matter how little it is, he makes it a case study, he renders insults upon insults on me, wit dat, i try to make tins rite,i always beg n cry for days, his frnds must intervene before he forgives n cums back to his senses, attyms am even driven out of his Hus before he releases his mistake n it goes like dat in every little argument and I never cheated on him.I was advised to start dating sumone n nw I,ve started seeing some else who to me is d opposite of ma bf, am hapi wit dis person, arguments occur but we trash it out n life goes on. nw am confused, they both want to settle down wit me, but am looking at ma future, if I get married to ma bf, hw do we settle our issues without me crying, people settling us n going on for days without talking in d same Hus n d sec person, where I can hv a problem is his tribe, am allowed to marry antibody but not so sure of his tribe. plssss I need matured advice

Cholls:
my sister if the two is not working try other. Pls stop this confused life of your.

andromida:
My sweet lady if you ever planned a bright and happy future for yourself drop that verbally abusive man, i mean the guy you've been with for the last 5 years. Raining insults on you, throwing you out makes me feel this man is immature and ill please drop him immediately in fact i will advise that before the day is over he is no longer part of your life. Who cares if he wants to settle? He should look for an ill woman like himself and settle or whatever. HE DOES NOT DESERVE YOU. As per the second guy no rushing please humans unfold let him show his true colors you have the power of choice and there is more where he came from. Go and be happy .

All the best.

kayClt:
u r a Darling..... really appreciate

kayClt:
he has so much ego,it boils down to d extent dat if we hv ani argument no matter how little it is, he makes it a case study, he renders insults upon insults on me,

Drdaps:

well dear, i don't think he gat an iota of ego coz ego is just an act of showing one that you'r a better man.
I think you should let go of him for a while and if he doesn't change then move ahead. You are better off him.

waywardpikin:
When the topic said 'CONFUSED' I did not have to click it before knowing that it was a woman.

Women... E get when una no dey confuse? Ride on biko

waywardpikin:
When the topic said 'CONFUSED' I did not have to click it before knowing that it was a woman.

Women... E get when una no dey confuse? Ride on biko

Sunkyphil:
the decision is urs to make,u shld be able to define what kind of person he is since u guys av been together for long.So the choice is urs whether to back out or continue.
LAST BULLET ANGER CAN DESTROY WHAT U BUILD IN TEN YEARS UNDER FIVE MINUTES

2goodbobo:
Tribe should not be your yardstick for chosing life partner. You jutapox between them and you said the second guy
makes you happy, so ignore the tribe thing and go all out for the second guy.Even if you marry your tribe, is not a
guarantee for a blissful marriage. #Talkingfromexperience

angelsing:
The first question am going to ask u is if u are dating both of them right now?...if yes, u actually put ur self in this dilemma and confused state. Am sure ur feelings for the guy u have dated for 5yrs is still there but u shud know at list from the little things u said abt him he looks like some1 who will make u unhappy with his temper and attitude if u eventually get married to him. That said, I know u are concern about missing out on getting married or been left out for u to search for a new suitor considering the tribal difference of the other guy..You have to understand that ur happiness is paramount in marriage so getting married to him will be at the detriment of ur happiness. Regarding the other guy with the tribal difference, if u truly believe he loves u and makes u happy, try convincing ur parent to let u marry him but if that does not work u will have to look for someone else.

chimerase2:
Leave both of them and come and settle with the man of God kia kia

kayClt:
LoL, who is d man of God

chimerase2:
u re previldged to meet with the man of god
Is a once in a life opportunity
Join ma mins3 and I will make u the fishers of gals

kayClt:
hang on dere Man of God, on ma way

kayClt:
very true n dats d scary part....

kayClt:
yes, I started dating d other guy out of d pains I kept feeling from ma first bf n am gradually losing feelings for him on daily basis. I just don't want to end up doing d rong tin.

angelsing:
..As its stand u are cheating but u just have to take a leap of faith if u are to leave him...Ask ur self this, do u see ur self being happy when iu guys get married considering the way he behaves right now?..if no, u just have to take a leap of faith and go with the new guy..I presume u and ur Boyfriend are not in the same state cos if he is u are definitely doing a good job dating 2 pple at a time.

kayClt:
LoL, tnx dear