You hear it all the time: "He was such a NICE Guy, and she's Heartless for dumping him."

If you have one bad relationship after another, the only common denominator is YOU. Think about it.

SO WHY DON'T LADIES LIKE NICE GUYS

PART 1

Hideous Insecurity
What's wrong with Nice Guys? The biggest problem is that most Nice Guys are hideously insecure. They are so anxious to be liked and loved that they do things for other people to gain acceptance and attention, rather than for the simply pleasure of giving. You never know if a Nice Guy really likes you for who you are, or if he has glimmered onto you out of desperation because you actually paid some kind of attention to him.

Nice guys are a big red target for the predators of the world. There are women out there who are "users" -- just looking for a sucker to take advantage of. Users home-in on "Nice Guys", stroke their egos, take them for a ride, add a notch to their belts, and move on. It's no wonder so many Nice Guys complain about women being horrible. ..


Nice Guys go overboard.
They bring roses to a "lets get together for coffee" date (Oyibo setting that is to say).
They try to buy her affections with presents and fancy things. They think they know about romance, but their timing is all wrong, and they either COME-on too strong, too hard and too fast, OR, they are so shy and unassertive, that they hang around pretending to be "friends", in the hope that somehow, someway, they will get the courage up to ask her out for a "date".

They are so desperate to please that they put aside their own needs, and place the object of their desire on a pedestal. Instead of appreciating her, they worship her.


Clingy
They cling to her, and want to be "one" with her for fear that if she is out of sight, she may disappear or become attracted to someone else. A Nice Guy often has trouble with emotional intimacy, because he believes that if she learns about the REAL person inside, she will no longer love him.

Nice Guys are always asking HER to make the decisions. They think it's being equitable, but it puts an unfair burden of responsibility on her, and gives him the opportunity to blame her if the decision was an unwise one.


Fear of Conflict
Nice Guys rarely speak up when something bothers them, and rarely state clearly what it is they want, need and expect. They fear that any kind of conflict might spell the end of the relationship. Instead of compromising and negotiating, they repeatedly "give in". When she doesn't appreciate their sacrifice, they will complain that, "Everything I did, I did for her.", as if this somehow elevates them to the status of martyrs.

A woman doesn't want a martyr. She wants an equal, caring, adult partner.


Self Esteem
Nice Guys think that they will never meet anyone as special as she is. They use their adoration as a foundation for claiming that "no one will ever love her as much as I do."
Instead of being a profound statement of their devotion, this is a subtle, but nasty insult. It is akin to saying to her: "You are a difficult person, and only *I* can ever truly love you, so be thankful I'm here."



Too Clingy
More than loving the woman in his life, a Nice Guy believes he NEEDS her. "She is my Life, my only source of happiness..." YECH! What kind of a burden is that to place on her? That SHE has to be responsible for YOUR happiness? Get a grip!


Long Story Short
The nice guy -needs- to believe that he is the best person for the object of his desires, because otherwise his insecurities will overrun him with jealousies and fear. The truth of the matter is that there are many people out there who can be a good match for her. We rarely stop loving people we truly care about. Even if we no longer continue the relationship, the feelings will continue... But love isn't mutually exclusive. We can (and do) love many people in our lives, and romantic love is really no different. Though he may love her immensely, there will likely be other people who have loved her just as much in her past, and will love her just as much in the future. The irony of it all is: "Who would want to go out with someone who was inherently unlovable anyways?"



This ultimately boils down to the fact that Nice Guys don't like themselves. Is it any wonder women don't like them? In order to truly love someone else, you must first love yourself Too often Nice Guys mistake obsession for "love".

In a nutshell: Self-confident, caring, decent-hearted women find "Nice Guys" to be too clingy, self-abasing, and insecure.

Get this: INSECURITY ISN'T SEXY. IT'S A TURNOFF.

You don't have to be an ego-inflated, arrogant jerk. You just have to LIKE yourself. You have to know what you want out of life, and go after it. Only then will you be attractive to the kind of woman with whom a long-term relationship is possible.

You might say there are numerous disadvantages to been nice to ladies, well nobody is saying you should stop been nice, but if you are going to be nice do it because you really want to, not because you are expecting something in return"

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Can this be true?!

Nice Read !! Space Booked "

noted

It never stopped me being the Nice Guy that I am.

the world is always against everything nice.

so its a bad thing to be nice and a good thing to be bad eh?

Every body don they make there own list


Nawa o

Well, no need stressing myself. I'm not nice anyway!

Go make money And everyoda thing shall be added unto u matt 7vs7....

#Dosent matter if u are a mr nice guy or not,as far as u chase some money and do wat is ryt...ladiez will alway wanna roll wit u and giggle lyk a teenager whu just lost her virginity.

When I was nice and broke they always fixed me on their friendzone list.
Now that i have small small cash flowing and a nice prospect.I have made their dating zone.

Recycled topic

Hmm mm

I was too nice with ma EX
So I gat change

Bad guys all d way

virginboy1:
When I was nice and broke they always fixed me on their friendzone list.
Now that i have small small cash flowing and a nice prospect.I have made their dating zone.

Sorry bro, they just love ur money. Try forming broke and c wat will happen.

Can't even remember the last time I was nice.

carlos1:


Sorry bro, they just love ur money. Try forming broke and c wat will happen.

nah, i know those that love my little cash and those that love me for my personality.
It's depends on how I use my intuition.

Part5

FLAWLES:
Part5

D guy don cancel d film o oo " Hehehe

so true

Just be a Gee . A balance between a bad and good guy. Nothing like nice in our dictionary

All these generalisations are what will push people to what they fear most. Who told u ladies dnt cheat on guys that are not nice? Who told u that all nice guys are not confident and are clingy? Are u trying to say nice guys remain single for life? So they dnt marry? The word 'NICE' has been bastardized too much. No wonder guys loose their girlfriends to real men after forming 'badt' guy. They will now come to nairaland and lament.

noted!

Eljay24:
You hear it all the time: "He was such a NICE Guy, and she's Heartless for dumping him."

If you have one bad relationship after another, the only common denominator is YOU. Think about it.

SO WHY DON'T LADIES LIKE NICE GUYS

PART 1

Hideous Insecurity
What's wrong with Nice Guys? The biggest problem is that most Nice Guys are hideously insecure. They are so anxious to be liked and loved that they do things for other people to gain acceptance and attention, rather than for the simply pleasure of giving. You never know if a Nice Guy really likes you for who you are, or if he has glimmered onto you out of desperation because you actually paid some kind of attention to him.

Nice guys are a big red target for the predators of the world. There are women out there who are "users" -- just looking for a sucker to take advantage of. Users home-in on "Nice Guys", stroke their egos, take them for a ride, add a notch to their belts, and move on. It's no wonder so many Nice Guys complain about women being horrible. ..


Nice Guys go overboard.
They bring roses to a "lets get together for coffee" date (Oyibo setting that is to say).
They try to buy her affections with presents and fancy things. They think they know about romance, but their timing is all wrong, and they either COME-on too strong, too hard and too fast, OR, they are so shy and unassertive, that they hang around pretending to be "friends", in the hope that somehow, someway, they will get the courage up to ask her out for a "date".

They are so desperate to please that they put aside their own needs, and place the object of their desire on a pedestal. Instead of appreciating her, they worship her.


Clingy
They cling to her, and want to be "one" with her for fear that if she is out of sight, she may disappear or become attracted to someone else. A Nice Guy often has trouble with emotional intimacy, because he believes that if she learns about the REAL person inside, she will no longer love him.

Nice Guys are always asking HER to make the decisions. They think it's being equitable, but it puts an unfair burden of responsibility on her, and gives him the opportunity to blame her if the decision was an unwise one.


Fear of Conflict
Nice Guys rarely speak up when something bothers them, and rarely state clearly what it is they want, need and expect. They fear that any kind of conflict might spell the end of the relationship. Instead of compromising and negotiating, they repeatedly "give in". When she doesn't appreciate their sacrifice, they will complain that, "Everything I did, I did for her.", as if this somehow elevates them to the status of martyrs.

A woman doesn't want a martyr. She wants an equal, caring, adult partner.


Self Esteem
Nice Guys think that they will never meet anyone as special as she is. They use their adoration as a foundation for claiming that "no one will ever love her as much as I do."
Instead of being a profound statement of their devotion, this is a subtle, but nasty insult. It is akin to saying to her: "You are a difficult person, and only *I* can ever truly love you, so be thankful I'm here."



Too Clingy
More than loving the woman in his life, a Nice Guy believes he NEEDS her. "She is my Life, my only source of happiness..." YECH! What kind of a burden is that to place on her? That SHE has to be responsible for YOUR happiness? Get a grip!


Long Story Short
The nice guy -needs- to believe that he is the best person for the object of his desires, because otherwise his insecurities will overrun him with jealousies and fear. The truth of the matter is that there are many people out there who can be a good match for her. We rarely stop loving people we truly care about. Even if we no longer continue the relationship, the feelings will continue... But love isn't mutually exclusive. We can (and do) love many people in our lives, and romantic love is really no different. Though he may love her immensely, there will likely be other people who have loved her just as much in her past, and will love her just as much in the future. The irony of it all is: "Who would want to go out with someone who was inherently unlovable anyways?"



This ultimately boils down to the fact that Nice Guys don't like themselves. Is it any wonder women don't like them? In order to truly love someone else, you must first love yourself Too often Nice Guys mistake obsession for "love".

In a nutshell: Self-confident, caring, decent-hearted women find "Nice Guys" to be too clingy, self-abasing, and insecure.

Get this: INSECURITY ISN'T SEXY. IT'S A TURNOFF.

You don't have to be an ego-inflated, arrogant jerk. You just have to LIKE yourself. You have to know what you want out of life, and go after it. Only then will you be attractive to the kind of woman with whom a long-term relationship is possible.

You might say there are numerous disadvantages to been nice to ladies, well nobody is saying you should stop been nice, but if you are going to be nice do it because you really want to, not because you are expecting something in return"

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#Updated . .. so due to lack of Funds we cancelled the sequel

Eljay24:
You hear it all the time: "He was such a NICE Guy, and she's Heartless for dumping him."

If you have one bad relationship after another, the only common denominator is YOU. Think about it.

SO WHY DON'T LADIES LIKE NICE GUYS

PART 1

Hideous Insecurity
What's wrong with Nice Guys? The biggest problem is that most Nice Guys are hideously insecure. They are so anxious to be liked and loved that they do things for other people to gain acceptance and attention, rather than for the simply pleasure of giving. You never know if a Nice Guy really likes you for who you are, or if he has glimmered onto you out of desperation because you actually paid some kind of attention to him.

Nice guys are a big red target for the predators of the world. There are women out there who are "users" -- just looking for a sucker to take advantage of. Users home-in on "Nice Guys", stroke their egos, take them for a ride, add a notch to their belts, and move on. It's no wonder so many Nice Guys complain about women being horrible. ..


Nice Guys go overboard.
They bring roses to a "lets get together for coffee" date (Oyibo setting that is to say).
They try to buy her affections with presents and fancy things. They think they know about romance, but their timing is all wrong, and they either COME-on too strong, too hard and too fast, OR, they are so shy and unassertive, that they hang around pretending to be "friends", in the hope that somehow, someway, they will get the courage up to ask her out for a "date".

They are so desperate to please that they put aside their own needs, and place the object of their desire on a pedestal. Instead of appreciating her, they worship her.


Clingy
They cling to her, and want to be "one" with her for fear that if she is out of sight, she may disappear or become attracted to someone else. A Nice Guy often has trouble with emotional intimacy, because he believes that if she learns about the REAL person inside, she will no longer love him.

Nice Guys are always asking HER to make the decisions. They think it's being equitable, but it puts an unfair burden of responsibility on her, and gives him the opportunity to blame her if the decision was an unwise one.


Fear of Conflict
Nice Guys rarely speak up when something bothers them, and rarely state clearly what it is they want, need and expect. They fear that any kind of conflict might spell the end of the relationship. Instead of compromising and negotiating, they repeatedly "give in". When she doesn't appreciate their sacrifice, they will complain that, "Everything I did, I did for her.", as if this somehow elevates them to the status of martyrs.

A woman doesn't want a martyr. She wants an equal, caring, adult partner.


Self Esteem
Nice Guys think that they will never meet anyone as special as she is. They use their adoration as a foundation for claiming that "no one will ever love her as much as I do."
Instead of being a profound statement of their devotion, this is a subtle, but nasty insult. It is akin to saying to her: "You are a difficult person, and only *I* can ever truly love you, so be thankful I'm here."



Too Clingy
More than loving the woman in his life, a Nice Guy believes he NEEDS her. "She is my Life, my only source of happiness..." YECH! What kind of a burden is that to place on her? That SHE has to be responsible for YOUR happiness? Get a grip!


Long Story Short
The nice guy -needs- to believe that he is the best person for the object of his desires, because otherwise his insecurities will overrun him with jealousies and fear. The truth of the matter is that there are many people out there who can be a good match for her. We rarely stop loving people we truly care about. Even if we no longer continue the relationship, the feelings will continue... But love isn't mutually exclusive. We can (and do) love many people in our lives, and romantic love is really no different. Though he may love her immensely, there will likely be other people who have loved her just as much in her past, and will love her just as much in the future. The irony of it all is: "Who would want to go out with someone who was inherently unlovable anyways?"



This ultimately boils down to the fact that Nice Guys don't like themselves. Is it any wonder women don't like them? In order to truly love someone else, you must first love yourself Too often Nice Guys mistake obsession for "love".

In a nutshell: Self-confident, caring, decent-hearted women find "Nice Guys" to be too clingy, self-abasing, and insecure.

Get this: INSECURITY ISN'T SEXY. IT'S A TURNOFF.

You don't have to be an ego-inflated, arrogant jerk. You just have to LIKE yourself. You have to know what you want out of life, and go after it. Only then will you be attractive to the kind of woman with whom a long-term relationship is possible.

You might say there are numerous disadvantages to been nice to ladies, well nobody is saying you should stop been nice, but if you are going to be nice do it because you really want to, not because you are expecting something in return"

. ... Part2 Loading

#Updated . .. so due to lack of Funds we cancelled the sequel

....ok...so u sayn u can't get punny coz u a nice guy?... Abi?...and hen u sayn u lack fund. So u think its ok for women to date nice guys that r broke?...we confused! (no oofense) .

i see