Platnum1:
I knw I self serviced but thats different from actual sex with a man.u knw d second entails alot

yeap dats thru, one can get STI'S, unwanted pregnancy etc.

I am married now since 3 months ago, I dated my wife for 3 yrs we didn't make love in the name of being a virgin only for me to try the thing weekds bfor marriage and noticed der was no blood. I asked her she said she was still a virgin bfor then. Well I didn't allow that disturb me but it hurst when u notice ur wife that assumed a virgin isn't a virgin.

You guys need sex education BAD.

Not all girls bleed when losing their virginity.

ammyluv2002:
I'm not saying it should be a criteria in any relationship but that doesn't mean being a virgin isn't a good thing that's just my point

I find it rude and disrespectful asking if a lady is a virgin. If she is, she should keep it as a surprise for her man.

braine:



Men take things like this seriously. Did you explain to him that you pleasured yourself by yourself? I wonder how one can still claim to be a virgin after self service tho

She had never slept with a man that's what it means to be a virgin, likewise for men..................Self servicing has nothing to do with it.

Even if the hymen is broken perhaps during sports, it doesn't mean she is no longer a virgin as far as a man's penis has not entered her vagina

.....just thinking, OP, you might have used a dil-do. In actual sense you may have neva slept with a man before marriage, but your private part received other kinds of visitors.

sorry case
cos now he will never ever blive u again thinking dat uve lied to him

Platnum1:
I knw I self serviced but thats different from actual sex with a man.u knw d second entails alot

Different in no way my dear. mind you the size of your finger is the same as some di*ks, so either u loose it to a big or small di*k/finger the fact remains that u did took your own virginity.
come to think of it,y would one who does self servicing calls his or herself a virgin again

I have never seen any intimacy gadget in real life. It's all gud cos I have put it behind me

pomsky:
.....just thinking, OP, you might have used a dil-do. In actual sense you may have neva slept with a man before marriage, but your private part received other kinds of visitors.

Did you bleed wen you first dis yourself? if yes u av no case to answer since you know who dis u, but if no, then som1 must av dis u unconsciously, I suspect a spiritual husband..... mind you tell ur hubby how d story goes....

So many ppl think it's ok to make fun of me. It's ok. I have found peace within myself abt d whole issue. I am neither a lesbian or a sex object user. I told him one tin, that perhaps in d after life,he will knw I was completely honest but by then,it wwill be of no use to anyone.

I knw I was molested as a child but that was way way long ago. No spirit husband can near me pls.

Boyooosa:
Did you bleed wen you first dis yourself? if yes u av no case to answer since you know who dis u, but if no, then som1 must av dis u unconsciously, I suspect a spiritual husband..... mind you tell ur hubby how d story goes....

Platnum1:
I knw I was molested as a child but that was way way long ago. No spirit husband can near me pls.

Platnum1:
So many ppl think it's ok to make fun of me. It's ok. I have found peace within myself abt d whole issue. I am neither a lesbian or a sex object user. I told him one tin, that perhaps in d after life,he will knw I was completely honest but by then,it wwill be of no use to anyone.

But were you

Completely honest with him I mean . . .

Did you tell him you were molested as a child? The hymen doesn't grow back so if it was broken when you were a child it will justify your not bleeding . . .

Also, not everyone (myself included) bleeds the first time . . . but it's very obvious when a woman is being penetrated for the first time, with or without the blood. The penetration is usually very difficult and frustrating and needless to say . . . PAINFUL!

Also, I didn't know 'virgins' masturbated

How do you know to get sexual pleasure by inserting your fingers if you have never experienced penetration before

Platnum1:
I knw I was molested as a child but that was way way long ago. No spirit husband can near me pls.

My sis i cant be ridiculous to join d pple dat will make fun out of ur story... i av an experience similar to yours dats y my advice went dat way.. i might not bliv in spiritual husband dat much, bt they claim they exist... my experience is wit a girl i dated for years. i met her wen she was a vag n agreed not to dis her not until we get married... i fingd her flesh to remove her vag, there wasnt much blood but she bled, thats where am comin from. so no matter how you fingd urself, you will know dat u av done somtin to ursef dat has to do with your virginity. But you being molested as a child, i dont understand and i wish to learn frm you.

ammyluv2002:

what? shey I lie nii?

Wedon:




But were you

Completely honest with him I mean . . .

Did you tell him you were molested as a child? The hymen doesn't grow back so if it was broken when you were a child it will justify your not bleeding . . .

Also, not everyone (myself included) bleeds the first time . . . but it's very obvious when a woman is being penetrated for the first time, with or without the blood. The penetration is usually very difficult and frustrating and needless to say . . . PAINFUL!

Also, I didn't know 'virgins' masturbated

How do you know to get sexual pleasure by inserting your fingers if you have never experienced penetration before

ur analyses are wise bt i suspect dat dis lady is either pulling our legs(yimu) or she is untruthful. She first claimed self dis, now claiming molestation @ innocent age. which one is the truth? d ridiculous aspect is dat she said 'after life'. does dat mean she has given up or shes just catching her fun with NL? whatever, i no dat its only one day dat a lady will stop calling herserlf a Vag!
Meanwhile, b4 u walk out d door, ur status reflects male, man too de bleed @ d point of dis?

Boyooosa:

ur analyses are wise bt i suspect dat dis lady is either pulling our legs(yimu) or she is untruthful. She first claimed self dis, now claiming molestation @ innocent age. which one is the truth? d ridiculous aspect is dat she said 'after life'. does dat mean she has given up or shes just catching her fun with NL? whatever, i no dat its only one day dat a lady will stop calling herserlf a Vag!
Meanwhile, b4 u walk out d door, ur status reflects male, man too de bleed @ d point of dis?

Meanwhile I think this lady is a big hoax. I mean c'mon . . . . even her own husband doesn't believe her.

What kind of virgin masturbates

Plus there was an ex in the picture and her hubby probably thinks she gave it up to him . . . or let him help her with her masturbation. Either way, she was not dis-virgined by her husband and that is what the whole wahala is all about.

Who care about virginity these days anyway . .

Your husband is prolly traditional and quite ignorant or too stubborn.
Hasn't he heard of hymenoplasty ? tell him that a womans hymen can even break from simple household chores or exercises and this can lead to the lack of visible blood upon insertion. Sit him down and explain it to him calmly since he seems insecure. Patience would be in order

FEAO1985:
Your husband is prolly traditional and quite ignorant or too stubborn.
Hasn't he heard of hymenoplasty ? tell him that a womans hymen can even break from simple household chores or exercises and this can lead to the lack of visible blood upon insertion. Sit him down and explain it to him calmly since he seems insecure. Patience would be in order

Ask her maybe her tin was tight wen her husband climbed (did her wall gripped)? That is wen she can justify all these theory, u too be man na, u go fit know broadway frm narrow escape na? Vag does not mean in a relationship these days tho, bt sincerity does. the bottomline is dat somtin is missen.

Wedon:




Meanwhile I think this lady is a big hoax. I mean c'mon . . . . even her own husband doesn't believe her.

What kind of virgin masturbates

Plus there was an ex in the picture and her hubby probably thinks she gave it up to him . . . or let him help her with her masturbation. Either way, she was not dis-virgined by her husband and that is what the whole wahala is all about.

Who care about virginity these days anyway . .

People dont care abt virginity but care abt sincerity n serenity.

i gave up talking to fools a long time ago, What is your problem or what concerns you? why would you even quote me on a medical explanation of the above ? are you that jobless?

Boyooosa:




People dont care abt virginity but care abt sincerity n serenity.

Exactly!

U are more of the hoax. U seem not to knw d diff btwn story telling n ppl's real life experience. Just so u knw,ur contribution is not appreciated, wit wat eva respect due to u.

Wedon:




Meanwhile I think this lady is a big hoax. I mean c'mon . . . . even her own husband doesn't believe her.

What kind of virgin masturbates

Plus there was an ex in the picture and her hubby probably thinks she gave it up to him . . . or let him help her with her masturbation. Either way, she was not dis-virgined by her husband and that is what the whole wahala is all about.

Who care about virginity these days anyway . .

christabeli:
Thanks

pls I don't mean you. I was referring to the folks that claim to be virgins.

Platnum1:
I have been married for 5 months now.I lost my virginity to my husband but he doesn't blv cos I didn't bleed. I was use to pleasuring myself with my fingers before now,maybe that's why I didnt bleed,I don't knw. D fact that i kept myself for my husband all these yrs and he doesnt even blv me hurts so bad. How do I get over this and not let it hurt me so much?

Chick you disvirgined yourself since

As..an experienced doc,,id like 2 tell u dat not all women experiences blood..as a virgin..d hymen could be slacked by an ordinary ride of a bike......and hey..am still a virgin...i dont believe u that a virgin will pre-intimacy....only a finger can enter a virgin's hole and the fact is:it is not pleasurable at all...even wearin a tampon hurts ....

exactly what i said

ammyluv2002:
[font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font]Pls don't get me wrong, I'm not saying i am a virgin but that doesn't mean it's not okay to keep it if anyone decides

If you say sooo.
I concur with your opinion. Sounds fair enough

Benilily:
olodo, go online and educate yourself about it, stop wasting your free mb on nairaland....
''Not all women bleed after first sex''

Must u insult to make your opinion known? Act like a woman if your one

vickchi94:


yes not all virgins bleed.if a woman has a light hymen fingerwork can break her virginity. And if its a strong 1 she won't bleed at all but only d removal of water.some might even need 2 go 2 d hospital 2 losen d hymen Small b4 she can bleed. Evry woman's body is different.
Just make some research on it b4 u accuse ur galfrnd or wife wrongfully

Ok tnx