When it comes to romantic relationships, there’s not much that is more devastating than heartbreak. Losing someone you love – someone who is a significant part of your life – is one of life’s great tragedies. After a breakup, you not only experience the grief of missing your significant other, but the loss of the future you had envisioned with them as well. It’s not easy. I attach readily and have trouble letting go, so I’m the first to say that this period is hard.
Nonetheless, I feel heartbreaks have positive components. What do you think?

Here is a true story of Taju a Bricklayer I once knew.

Taju started the bricklayer job at a very young age since he was not privileged to go to school and get a sound education. One thing about Taju is that he has always been soo passionate about whatever it is he was doing, no matter how small. He started from the lowest level possible and within a short period of time, he became very good at what he does and for this fact he became well known. He was able to read plans and to work in a well organised way.He was the peoples choice when anyone had a construction site to work on.
After working for a little over two years, he made a "significant" amount of money and decided to settle down. He got married to his first love who stood by him all the while he did not have much. They were happy and living a better life as a couple as they moved from the suburbs to a more civilized area. Things were going well and work was becoming more productive, and he even set up a salon for his wife close to their home.On this faithful day, Taju left for work( the site) early to finalize their previous agreement , on getting there, the client he was meant to work for cancelled their meeting for the day and rescheduled for the next week. After supervising a few things on the site, he decided to go home to surprise his wife. On the way home, the shop was locked(the salon) so he figured his wife would be home, he took out his keys to open the door and realized it was already open. He walked in and saw his wife in bed with one of his close friends.
He screamed and walked out, that was the last anyone heard of Taju. Some say he is mad, some say he is dead, but its been 6 years and no one knows his whereabout.

In this above scenario, I feel Heart Breaks have positive components
Strength Comes From Your Resilience

After the dust settles, there is strength one can gain on the other side of heartbreak. You learn that you're absolutely able to bounce back from the tremendous sadness and grief the demise of this relationship has caused. If Taju had experienced this at one point or the other in his life, he would have picked himself up and learnt how to bounce back.

Important Lessons Can Be Learned

When a relationship ends, new questions get asked. Self-awareness can increase. Figuring out what you have learned from this situation, and how it has served as a stepping stone for your future relationships is invaluable information for you to have.

Figure Out What Changes Need to Be Made

This may be the perfect time to look at your own shortcomings, as few as they might be (wink, wink). When we modify our own behavior and learn how to create positive personal adjustments, this creates a tremendous sense of empowerment and hope. This shift in thinking can also help our next relationship to be more rewarding and successful. Maybe Taju actually had a problem that drove his wife to do that, but he never got to know what it was.

And Finally We Develop a Deep Sense of Gratitude

It's not uncommon for people post-heartbreak to look back on their past and ill-fated relationship with a sense of gratitude. They feel happy they are no longer with this person, yet equally grateful this person was a part of their love journey history. They feel thankful this experience helped shape them into being the person they are today. taju could have been a Big man in the construction industry by now, living well.

So you see, heartbreak can provide a lot of positive psychological benefits. And It can ultimately pave the way for having something bigger, better and more beautiful come your way. And if none of the above strategies work for you, remember: Living well is always the best revenge!

We learn everyday

None, but experience. It helps us to become a more better person..

U can probably add it to your CV.

A blessing and a lesson. You tend to learn lessons that will turn out to be blessings as you progress through life.

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When it comes to romantic relationships, there’s not much that is more devastating than heartbreak. Losing someone you love – someone who is a significant part of your life – is one of life’s great tragedies. After a breakup, you not only experience the grief of missing your significant other, but the loss of the future you had envisioned with them as well. It’s not easy. I attach readily and have trouble letting go, so I’m the first to say that this period is hard.
Nonetheless, I feel heartbreaks have positive components. What do you think?

Here is a true story of Taju a Bricklayer I once knew.

Taju started the bricklayer job at a very young age since he was not privileged to go to school and get a sound education. One thing about Taju is that he has always been soo passionate about whatever it is he was doing, no matter how small. He started from the lowest level possible and within a short period of time, he became very good at what he does and for this fact he became well known. He was able to read plans and to work in a well organised way.He was the peoples choice when anyone had a construction site to work on.
After working for a little over two years, he made a "significant" amount of money and decided to settle down. He got married to his first love who stood by him all the while he did not have much. They were happy and living a better life as a couple as they moved from the suburbs to a more civilized area. Things were going well and work was becoming more productive, and he even set up a salon for his wife close to their home.On this faithful day, Taju left for work( the site) early to finalize their previous agreement , on getting there, the client he was meant to work for cancelled their meeting for the day and rescheduled for the next week. After supervising a few things on the site, he decided to go home to surprise his wife. On the way home, the shop was locked(the salon) so he figured his wife would be home, he took out his keys to open the door and realized it was already open. He walked in and saw his wife in bed with one of his close friends.
He screamed and walked out, that was the last anyone heard of Taju. Some say he is mad, some say he is dead, but its been 6 years and no one knows his whereabout.

In this above scenario, I feel Heart Breaks have positive components
Strength Comes From Your Resilience

After the dust settles, there is strength one can gain on the other side of heartbreak. You learn that you're absolutely able to bounce back from the tremendous sadness and grief the demise of this relationship has caused. If Taju had experienced this at one point or the other in his life, he would have picked himself up and learnt how to bounce back.

Important Lessons Can Be Learned

When a relationship ends, new questions get asked. Self-awareness can increase. Figuring out what you have learned from this situation, and how it has served as a stepping stone for your future relationships is invaluable information for you to have.

Figure Out What Changes Need to Be Made

This may be the perfect time to look at your own shortcomings, as few as they might be (wink, wink). When we modify our own behavior and learn how to create positive personal adjustments, this creates a tremendous sense of empowerment and hope. This shift in thinking can also help our next relationship to be more rewarding and successful. Maybe Taju actually had a problem that drove his wife to do that, but he never got to know what it was.

And Finally We Develop a Deep Sense of Gratitude

It's not uncommon for people post-heartbreak to look back on their past and ill-fated relationship with a sense of gratitude. They feel happy they are no longer with this person, yet equally grateful this person was a part of their love journey history. They feel thankful this experience helped shape them into being the person they are today. taju could have been a Big man in the construction industry by now, living well.

So you see, heartbreak can provide a lot of positive psychological benefits. And It can ultimately pave the way for having something bigger, better and more beautiful come your way. And if none of the above strategies work for you, remember: Living well is always the best revenge!

..a blessing