For Lovers: If You Do These 7 Things On A First Date, You’re Doing It Wrong


The first date is a test, and we don’t want you to fail.
By Paul Carrick Brunson .
Let’s face it. The first date is a test.

Unfortunately, many of us go about it the wrong way by
trying to figure out everything our companion is doing wrong
to disqualify him instead of looking at everything he’s doing
right.

Following are the seven most common first date mistakes,
based on what my male clients have told me after going on
dates with women.

1. Being late with no warning.
Now, if you’re going to be more than five minutes late for a
date and you don’t call or text, it’s a fail on your part.

Showing up late starts the date off terribly and sets a bad
tone. It conveys a lack of importance. We prioritize what’s
important in our lives by how much time (and money) we
dedicate to it.

That being said, either aim to arrive on time or just call the
moment you realize you’re going to be late. Good manners
can go a long way.

2. Dressing inappropriately.
Real talk: Being underdressed, overdressed or
inappropriately dressed translates as being pretentious, not
fun or easy.

On a date, especially right after work, many women often
forget to dress s*xy. Your business causal outfit is not hot.
Conversely, don’t wear close to nothing either. Just because
he’s salivating doesn’t mean he “likes” your attire.

Lastly, if the date is an activity like a hike, forgo the heels
and mini-dress because you think they look cute. Always
dress appropriately for the moment.

3. Poor eye contact and fake smiles.
Having poor eye contact and flashing fake smiles send the
wrong messages.

The saying goes, “Eyes are the windows to our souls.” If you
limit eye contact because you’re looking away, you simply
don’t look confident in yourself.

Also, fake smiles are fairly
easy to spot. Give too many inauthentic smiles and you
enter the “looks like a stalker” category.

Eye contact should be focused on the person with whom
you’re talking. Be sure to mix in a few nods and eye blinks.
The rule of thumb is short single nods are most effective; it
shows that you’re listening. Double or triple nods make it
seem as if you’re trying to speed the person up.

4. Phone addictions.
One of the biggest mistakes made on a date is using your
cellphone or placing it on the table and glancing at it every
time you get a message. This can show you are
disinterested in your date.
When you’re on a date, please keep your cellphone in your
purse or pocket. Your date deserves your full attention.

5. Poor manners.
If you’re rude to others, it shows that you have poor social
skills and aren’t a very nice person. Nothing makes a date
want to run away like a rude and impolite person.

If you’re on your date and the waiter forgot the extra lemon
wedges, and before the waiter is out of earshot, you shout
“Stupid M****…” That ain’t nice! And, it will make your date
wonder how you will treat him or her in a relationship.

As in life, when on a date treat everyone the way you would
want to be treated.

6. Talking about your ex.
By making frequent mentions of your past relationships, you
might be conveying that you’re not over your ex. Living in
the past is extremely dangerous.
If you can’t stop talking about how great the old flame was
or how you enjoyed the things you both did, chances are you
still wish you were in that moment. Do yourself (and your
date) a favor and admit you’re not yet ready for a new
relationship.

7. By not knowing the B.B.R. (Belly Button Rule)
B.B.R. stands for the Belly Button Rule. This is my favorite
rule, and one I talk about in-depth at my coaching sessions.
It is the most telling and compelling of all body language
tactics.

The direction our belly button faces reflects our attitude and
our emotional state. When we face our navel toward
someone, we’re subconsciously saying we’re interested in
the person or the conversation. Face your navel away, and
you’re saying “get me the hell out of this.”

Most people do not know this rule, so learn and master it,
and you’ll be able to better read and control your
interactions. Not listening shows disrespect and is the most
passive-aggressive form of disrespect. Listen to your date.

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What about 'entering the place' on the first date?