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HUSBAND SCARCITY!
This may not be the best time for me to
write on this because of misinterpretati
ons, but I can no longer resist the push.
"Husband Scarcity" has become one of the
challenges faced by many young girls today.
If you go to prayer houses, majority of the
intentions are prayer for a life partner. And
this calls for concern. Casting our minds
back to the time of our mothers and
grandmothers, was there really much of a
"Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe
there were more men than women then, or
there was an adequate corresponding
numbers of both genders.
I don't think so. Maybe then, the women
had values and were prepared to build a
home and not park into a built home. Then,
once a young man comes of age and can at
least feed himself and his wife, he goes out
in search of a wife and the woman really
appreciates him and helps him to build a
future. What am I really trying to say? We
created what we now see as "Husband
Scarcity" for ourselves. Today, the reverse is
the case. Ask an average girl to define her
dream husband; you get things like "he has
to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a
house at least, and be presentable" and
then she adds "God fearing" in order not to
sound so worldly. Then, check the number
of girls around you and the number of men
that meet that standard, and you will see
the problem.
You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my
father's house and then go and start
suffering with a man." What a wonderful
dream! What if from the beginning, you
have everything you want and
there is no suffering, and later in the
marriage, the table turns around, then
comes
suffering? Will you run away? No one prays
for suffering, but it is good to start small
and end big, than start
big and end small. The problem is that the
description majority
of girls give of their ideal man is virtually
the same. When 50 girls want the same
kind of man and the man that fits what
they want is just 1 man, and the man can
only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49
others? They simply start lamenting of
"Husband Scarcity".
Another irony of our time is that it is hard,
due to the face of our economy to find a
man
who is of marriage age who possesses all
those things these ladies want, legally
(except those involved in Internet fraud);
even the number of those in Internet fraud
is not enough to match all those searching
for already made husbands.
If you look around, majority of the ladies of
substance, of good value and virtue, who
are ready to build a home with a man who
has prospects, are married and not
complaining of husband scarcity. The easiest
way to find a husband now, is to change
your view of who a husband is. A husband
is that man God made and then saw that it
may be hard for him to really actualize his
purpose for making him, without a help
mate and then made the woman and gave
to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled.
MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION
PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the
family of God here on earth. For those who
see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a
way into bondage. Women are HOME
BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T
CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY.
Where he is today, may only be a route to
where God has destined him to be
tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY
BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS
DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband
scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am
not saying that you should pick anyone that
comes your way and talks of marriage, not
all men are husband materials. What I am
saying is that you should stop setting your
standard on material acquisitions or physical
appearances. Look beyond the physical.
WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT
WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE
LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF.
And that which he is made of is, most
times,
not seen with the physical eyes, only its
effects can be seen.
Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is
seen is temporal and that which is not seen
is
permanent. Relax and go to God in prayer.
God did not just make Eve for making sake;
He made her for Adam's need to be met.
God
did not make you for making sake either
(unless He has a special calling on you), He
made you to meet a particular man's need.
AND THAT MAN MAY BE THAT ONE THAT
DOESN'T FIT INTO THAT YOUR "EXHOBITANT
STANDARD".do not despise or look down on
any man
cos,it doesn't take God a second to turn
around
someone destiny,a man can be very poor by
december,then God
bless him to be very rich by January.


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