Ok. Let me give the disclaimer that I am a diasporan, and I had to consciously learn a lot of things that native Nigerians take for granted. One of those things is phone call etiquette.

How do you keep your relatives from getting upset if you forget to call them? You know we tend to have very very large families, and all most some of them are important and genuinely care about you, and you care about them too. But I'm not really an idle chatter kind of person, and small talk is so awkward for me...

I actually made a list of relatives to call on New Year's and I've gone through 75% of it, and I'm already tired lol. And this is the shortlist (aka the people I will feel guilty if I don't call). Sorry cousins, y'all are getting SMS and Whatsapp messages, unless I really owe you a call (which I do for about half of them )


Is this a typical scenario for you? Am I doing this right?

I just want to be a good niece. They give me a lot of leeway, but I'm getting old enough to do it properly now.


Help...

Seeing the title, I though u were about to give some info relating to Nigeria Custom Service. . . . . . . . .

@Topic: I still dey expect my christmas and new year call, sms, whatsapp, email, and ALERT from u o. . .lol

Martins301:
Seeing the title, I though u were about to give some info relating to Nigeria Custom Service. . . . . . . . .

@Topic: I still dey expect my christmas and new year call, sms, whatsapp, email, and ALERT from u o. . .lol

LOL ok I'll change my title

I'm sending you a message right now

MissMeiya:
But I'm not really an idle chatter kind of person, and small talk is so awkward for me...

Me too so I don't call or text any extended person. I give my wishes if when I see them.
I stopped all the sending wishes to my whole contact list years ago and I am nice enough to reply only the ones who send me personal messages not BCs .

How do I keep any of these people from getting upset?
I don't. "E ma binu" will be the end of it if it comes up.

Are you doing right? If it feels right to you then it's right.
No point guilt-tripping yourself over it.


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Why bother yourself at all? Why go through the stress? I wouldn't, if I were you.

slimyem:
Me too so I don't call or text any extended person. I give my wishes if when I see them.
I stopped all the sending wishes to my whole contact list years ago and I am nice enough to reply only the ones who send me personal messages not BCs .

How do I keep any of these people from getting upset?
I don't. "E ma binu" will be the end of it if it comes up.

Are you doing right? If it feels right to you then it's right.
No point guilt-tripping yourself over it.


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It feels right to me. I love hearing how happy they sound when I call them.

I feel like this might be a daughter expectation, because my brother doesn't bother.

goofyone:
Why bother yourself at all? Why go through the stress? I wouldn't, if I were you.

Lol because I love them.

Put up ur pishure on ur profile

MissMeiya:


Lol because I love them.

MissMeiya:
Ok. Let me give the disclaimer that I am a diasporan, and I had to consciously learn a lot of things that native Nigerians take for granted. One of those things is phone call etiquette.

How do you keep your relatives from getting upset if you forget to call them? You know we tend to have very very large families, and all most some of them are important and genuinely care about you, and you care about them too. But I'm not really an idle chatter kind of person, and small talk is so awkward for me...

I actually made a list of relatives to call on New Year's and I've gone through 75% of it, and I'm already tired lol. And this is the shortlist (aka the people I will feel guilty if I don't call). Sorry cousins, y'all are getting SMS and Whatsapp messages, unless I really owe you a call (which I do for about half of them )


Is this a typical scenario for you? Am I doing this right?

I just want to be a good niece. They give me a lot of leeway, but I'm getting old enough to do it properly now.


Help...

Girl, you crazy

Tbh, I only call the or text my closest cousins and aunts. I definitely can't call everybody. But I will encourage you to do as much as you can. and try not to make some people feel jelous

Hmnnnn

shinaboy:
Tbh, I only call the or text my closest cousins and aunts. I definitely can't call everybody. But I will encourage you to do as much as you can. and try not to make some people feel jelous

Ok thanks

If you don't call too often, just don't expect calls and the equation will balance

I myself don't even call. Then my cousin came back from UK, spent some good time with younger bro without putting a minute call across to me

laplace12:
If you don't call too often, just don't expect calls and the equation will balance

I myself don't even call. Then my cousin came back from UK, spent some good time with younger bro without putting a minute call across to me

I don't even like to answer calls because I know how expensive it is to call from Nigeria, even though my parents tell me it means something when a person decides to spend their credit to talk to you, I'm supposed to accept the sentiment, but it makes me so uncomfortable! And besides it's not that I like getting calls in the first place, I just don't want to make them unhappy.

Also, on a more selfish note, when I come around, I need somewhere to stay and people to help me get around

MissMeiya:


I don't even like to answer calls because I know how expensive it is to call from Nigeria, even though my parents tell me it means something when a person decides to spend their credit to talk to you, I'm supposed to accept the sentiment, but it makes me so uncomfortable! And besides it's not that I like getting calls in the first place, I just don't want to make them unhappy.

Also, on a more selfish note, when I come around, I need somewhere to stay and people to help me get around

MissMeiya, you can't have both, you know. It's a give and take.
Did you finally make all those calls on the New Year?

goofyone:

MissMeiya, you can't have both, you know. It's a give and take.
Did you finally make all those calls on the New Year?

Yep. It felt really good. I love my family. Time flies...

MissMeiya:


Yep. It felt really good. I love my family. Time flies...

Oh that's good. I never did, except to only a very few. I'll gladly take whatever comes.

MissMeiya:


Yep. It felt really good. I love my family. Time flies...

Though you didn't call me shaa

Whatever you do to me pleases me. Calls, whatsapp, fb, twitter et al, ayam okay wirrit lol.

Call only those that call you

I don't have such family members.
I have way too many cousins, aunts and uncles that I only know by name.
Even the ones that live in the same city and state as I do. . . I DO NOT CALL!
I can't be bothered!

I love my space. . . besides, we gat nothing to offer each other!
Amen!