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Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by Fourwinds: 8:49pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
abbey621:what i know is she didnt investigate properly because her place of IT would have helped if he was truly single. I believe her boss wasn't her only friend wen she did her IT. So y didnt she ask questions. Dere is no how some workers will not know d current state of d man. Abegi na greed. If na guy wen no get much she go drill d guy with questions even ask d kind of soup d guy chop last 3 Likes |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by freecocoa(f): 8:50pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
The man might be a scammer but where's the harm in doing a background check before marrying someone for feck's sakes? 3 Likes |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by abbey621(m): 8:53pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Fourwinds: Once again you need to read the story again. While she was doing I.T he was married, he didn't claim to be single till after a year later. Please read the story again! |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by nkkystel(f): 8:59pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
What a pity, don't worry my dear God Almighty will judge them. |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by nebukadnezzari(m): 9:01pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
abbey621: I suggest u use the words tactical. If hunan beings were tactical... and if yes we wont have problems at all. I Advise young people to read wide and be smart. Ive gone as far as buying C.I.A Materials online in order to make myself more aware of human deception. Person no go do back ground check e go come dey bother us with e matter. Na women deceive pass, what most of us are not aware of is the subtle clues they unintentionally drop when they tell lies. 1 Like |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by abbey621(m): 9:04pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
nebukadnezzari: HABA! Life no hard reach that na, if everyone armed themselves like C.I.A operatives imagine what kind of world we would be living in..... |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by Fourwinds: 9:05pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
abbey621:i have read and digested d story. She did IT a year before d man came calling saying all d pooo. Are u telling me she doesnt know where she did her IT a year ago to ask questions. Or are u telling me if u graduate even after ten years ur employer can not reach out to ur former school to find out certain things about u. Dey can chose to believe d certificate u presented and dey can chose to go further Dan dat to find out behind ur back 1 Like |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by abbey621(m): 9:12pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Fourwinds: You are not being reasonable, so you expect her to go back to where she did I.T after a year and start asking questions about the man's personal life and you also expect people there to entertain such questions. This is reality not a soap opera, better wake up! The best form of evidence was the man's family and unfortunately it didn't workout, if Nigeria was a more civilized society, I would say she should do a background check on him but that option does not exists as we no get verifiable database. |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by Nobody: 9:15pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Ishilove:All that glitters are not gold..you caused it yourself..when you hear him discusing with you about his marital problems, you would have take time to do research on him..buh due to impatience u jump into it and nw u ar regreting it..ehh..imagine..it paining me.. |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by zeepatoprick(m): 9:15pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
MizMyColi: Dou there is some truth about what u av uttered.. But I guess u are not close to 30 yet.. Maybe u are, bt age in women invokes desperation... I jst feel for her..dazz all |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by Nobody: 9:16pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Why u no fast and pray b4 u marry the man 1 Like |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by Fourwinds: 9:22pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
abbey621:so i should wake up rite. Going dere to ask is now soap opera. Good. Dere are people i have met in certain place i work or other things, i have phone numbers of some of dem and actually close to at least one person. Call, if d person has no information, let dat one link u to anoda person. At least confide in one what is happening. But u make it all secret u suffer alone. U cannt be smart let someone what is happening to u. Unless u want to b secretive and greedy about it |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by abbey621(m): 9:29pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Fourwinds: I don't know about you but the place I did I.T for a year was in another state, the people I worked with we had nothing in common and after a year we all went separate ways, keep in mind this was a place I worked for a year o not to talk of someone that did I.T for only a few weeks. You need to wake up and realize life is not all about theories. In addition, when it comes to matters of the heart most people don't have time to do all the detective work you mentioned above, we are humans and operate largely on emotions, abeg give the poor girl a break, she no be James Bond! |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by nebukadnezzari(m): 9:30pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
abbey621: NA TODAY NYASH DEY FOR BACK GREED N STUPIDITY MADE HER A CONMANS MARK. YOU NEVER SEE CON WEY DEM INVOLVE PRESIDENT JOIN. SHE WAS CARRIED AWAY BY THE ILLUSION OF MARRIAGE THAT SHE COULDNT SEE THE DETAILS. A wise man once told me its not whats right with the picture that matters, its whats wrong with it. She was used to open the mans wifes womb... 1 Like |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by abbey621(m): 9:34pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
nebukadnezzari: Sure she was used but believe it or not, an average woman would fall for the same con over and over again. Women are moved by emotions and no human being is above making a mistake, trust me it could happen to anyone, the elements were just too much to the point that the guy involved his family and also met her family, very sophisticated con. Guys also get duped everyday, I've been duped once also so let's stop all these criticism. |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by Fourwinds: 9:41pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
abbey621:in my earlier post i told u marriage is not a four years course or part-time work of six months. Here where i stay, come and see all dese young boys and girls f**king demselves as if tomorrow will not come. Now after putting d girls in a family way u hardly see d boys again. At nite dese girls come out with babies striped to deir back begging under d cover of d nite. So we wel dey keep our pkekus for d rite time we no know wetin we dey do? Because i know say putting a girl in a family way is not one month journey. Tell me all dese girls i make mention of where dey daft dat dey couldn't find out about who was shaggy dem? |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by Taiw(m): 9:49pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
at age 22 she married a 42 year old man..She clearly had a motive. She say d man's wealth and wanted to play a smart one but the man was smarter. ..life goes on. collect monthly upkeep for d kids and move on. At 30 now, its almost impossible to see a suitor that wants to marry a mother of 2kids not even 1kid. as long as ur conscience is clear God will fight 4 you |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by abbey621(m): 9:50pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Fourwinds: Your example has nothing to do with this situation. She didn't just shag him like a street girl, they got married, families were involved so I see no relation to the situation you mentioned. The only mistake she made was to put her trust in a human being, something many of us do everyday. 1 Like |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by Fourwinds: 10:01pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
abbey621:it is d same way dese girls put deir trust on dose guy. Is it not d way d man use mouth to tell her dat her has divorced dat dese guys do use deir mouth to sweet talk d girls too.? What u are not getting here is dat d wealth of man played a major role here. Look at d comparism she gave between where she lives and d first wife and d school her children goes to and d first wife. Is her children not going to school? Is she not accommodated? A husband with a living wife, what do u expected, u share he has simple |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by abbey621(m): 10:04pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Fourwinds: Your example has nothing to do with this situation. She didn't just shag him like a street girl, they got married, families were involved so I see no relation to the situation you mentioned. The only mistake she made was to put her trust in a human being, something many of us do everyday. Tired of arguing with you! |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by Fourwinds: 10:19pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
abbey621:i said wealth was what she fell for. She saw her future being guaranteed. It is as if u don't know girls. A girl of 26 years can leave a 28 year old man who is still struggling and coming up to marry a 45 years old man who is established but a windower forgetting dat d man was once a struggling young man at his early age. Dis is greed simple 1 Like |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by Nobody: 10:21pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
MizMyColi:[b]Inner light[/b]baby pull over Abi na illuminati 1 Like |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by donodion(m): 10:27pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Mondisweets:Gbosa.. ...and very direct...I like I Like. |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by iampetite(f): 10:38pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Have been reading posts on NL for a while but this particular one caught my attention so I had to join to share my experience . Really single ladies need to be careful and wise. I met a guy at my friend's wedding 2yrs back, I never knew this guy was married that day, so we became friends, we talk on a daily basis and we were getting close. To cut the long story short, this guy later told me he's married but he likes me so much that I should please marry him because his wife didn't conceive for 12months after marriage but later conceived, the wife was pregnant when I met him, he told me all this when she put to bed but to my surprise, this guy was on me begging me to marry him because he wasn't sure the baby is his child,that I should just please get pregnant for him because he would do the DNA of the child, and divorce . I laughed in Chinese.....imagine a man calling his child a bastard just to get down? I started hating on him since that day. |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by Nobody: 10:52pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
nebukadnezzari:hehehe..... Dude.... Dont you think that eish has happened to me? My GF got married to a Lagos dude dat proposed to her while we where dating..... BTW.... Where was it mentioned that she had a BF?? You think she'll just marry some random dude cos he proposed to her when she has a BF?? Not all women are gold diggers bro.... The earlier you realise this, the better for you... We still got women of integrity out there so quit being a punk a55.... |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by Nobody: 11:43pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Fourwinds: Has anyone knowingly taken someone else's husband here? |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by Nobody: 11:46pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
uplawal: There are some very unrealistic comments here, like call the ex and make enquiries. I am sure that most people here would not call an ex wife and have a talk with her. It is either you trust your partner or you don't. Calling his ex to spy on him would be wrong and can break a relationship. If my boyfriend called my ex, I would feel disrespected. The girl was cheated on and deceived by this man and he is to blame and NOT she for having trusted him. She had no bad intentions. It is easy to condemn someone. I am happy to hear that you are enjoying your marriage. May God bless your home. |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by dinachi(m): 11:49pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
This story doesn't add up! The lady in question married the man out of desperation... 2 Likes |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by nebukadnezzari(m): 12:16am On Jan 03, 2015 |
FLYGERIAN91: SWALLOW A CHILL PILL BRO... Since when do women of integrity marry divorced men without proper confirmation from God. Oya na her integrity done land am for dust bin My friend wisen up, recognise a LovePeddler wen you meet one. |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by giftedmum: 12:19am On Jan 03, 2015 |
hmmmm.practically money is power,get a job and empower ur self, pray also.take it dat u re a single mother,God wld see u thru |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by nebukadnezzari(m): 12:27am On Jan 03, 2015 |
carefreewannabe: YOU ARE VERY FREE TO JUMP INTI MARRIAGE WITHOUT PROPER BACKGROUND CHECK. Thats why most of you get killed by the same death which killed your father and his father. Always close the old chapter in order to open a new one. VISIT THIS PAGE ON FB "AMARA VAN LARE" You will find out that 80% of marriages in nigeria are sour as a reault of improper background checks b4 marriage. 2 Likes |
Re: Deceived Into Marriage, Used And Dumped by Nobody: 2:54am On Jan 03, 2015 |
only greedy persons are scammed, he saw right through u dat u are obviously after a ready made man and luxurious life, it's obvious u are d materialistic type and to me he already settled u so stop crying dat u were dumped. 1 Like 1 Share |
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