My dear calm down. We were not there[quote when it all happened so we are free to give our various judgements.

Back to the matter, she did wrong by not letting her know.author=freecocoa post=29827121]I'm sorry but what are you on about?

Supporting him how? By 'fratenizing' with the enemy? Excuse me please but do you know what it means that one's husband is in jail for a crime he did not commit and his wife was collecting money from the guy who is responsible for her husband being in jail? To make matters worse, she lied about it, why? This woman is sleeping with the enemy and I mean that literally.[/quote]

Missmossy:
He really needs to take his time I must confess!

And she was here....where you been ma'am?

sandiyke:
My dear calm down. We were not there

Lol , guess I'm a bit passionate about this, it's cos I really hate people who behave like this woman, we don't need to be there to be able to tell that what she did is wrong, the fact that she lied about it, just make it all the more worse.

There's no iota of innocence here.

In as much as i don't support what she did, I feel so sorry for her.

freecocoa:
Lol , guess I'm a bit passionate about this, it's cos I really hate people who behave like this woman, we don't need to be there to be able to tell that what she did is wrong, the fact that she lied about it, just make it all the more worse.

There's no iota of innocence here.

sandiyke:
In as much as i don't support what she did, I feel so sorry for her.

Okay, that's well within your rights, I, however, wish people like her would be all taken away from this world, the world would be a better place.

Dirvorce dirvorce dirvorce that is what i want to see on this thread nothing else

There's no point begging the man when proper explanation has not been given for her actions. Gut level reaction is that this woman is despicable but sometimes things aren't all they seem. I hope the truth is revealed somehow.

Why didnt she tell her husband long before he found out?
Why keep silent if she had nothing to hide?
Why collect money from him at all?

Either she is a very stupid woman who should go back to elementry school and learn some common sense or she is a very greedy and untrustworthy woman

I dont blame the hubby. His reaction is normal.

The wife must be either daft and stubborn (terrible combination), or she knows more than she is saying.

The man should keep away until she gives a meaningful explanation.

aisha2:


Lol Buhari’s wife was jailed by IBB and his late wife went collecting money from IBB, he divorced her as soon as he came out of jail and discovered, he didn't quite forgive her despite begging from people till she died, he said he forgave her but he had remarried and moved on and couldn't have two wives something like that.

As for the questions thats what I asked and those were the answers she gave
I pleaded for the truth so we could at least beg him with a full confession she said that was it and she acted innocently.

As for what I think,my friend is a total family man,his life is his family, he is committed to whatever he does fully no funny business I guess he expected the same loyalty and high standard from her. I think she messed up and I told her so, she says it was a mistake. I can only appeal that he forgives but knowing him he may just tolerate her for their kids sake but I doubt he will stay married.

This wasn't a mistake on many grounds.

Her husband honestly confided with het that the man was part of the team that set him up. That is enough for her to dissassociate herself from her husband's enemy if they have had prior dealings. Also the mere fact that she received money from someone and in this case the enemy without her husband's knowledge or his permission is worrisome . She also lied about what she used the money for when he asked about. I have every reason to believe that she is hiding something. If she could do that because of greed she could certainly take his life without a second thought if he allowed her to stay.

remsonik:

You never hear of when they use juju collect person wife or use juju to destroy their home.
The man shouldn't take her back but he needs to dig deep before he becomes their victim

Take a very deep breath
We all know juju is real
But in your case it seems to affect your thought process too, , please chill.

byvan:
This woman undid herself, her greed ruined her marriage , she should live with it. I will stop begging the man if I were you Aisha.

Daz all o.

freecocoa:
Okay, that's well within your rights, I, however, wish people like her would be all taken away from this world, the world would be a better place.

Do you understand the import of this your post
That she be dead?
Because you wish it?

Are you god

Are you perfect?

On top online matter.....

Justfollowit:

Take a very deep breath
We all know juju is real
But in your case it seems to affect your thought process too, , please chill.

Jisos!! This insult is cool Lol.

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pickabeau1:


Do you understand the import of this your post
That she be dead?
Because you wish it?

Are you god

Are you perfect?

On top online matter.....

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pickabeau1:


Do you understand the import of this your post
That she be dead?
Because you wish it?

Are you god

Are you perfect?

On top online matter.....

pickabeau1:


Do you understand the [import] of this your post
That she be dead?
Because you wish it?

Are you god

Are you perfect?

On top online matter.....

No be only import,wat abt d export of her post kikikik.

what would have happened if the husband was not vindicated but sent to jail. the woman should not be trusted. I call it first class betrayal. so no other person to help out with money apart from the enemy? how sure are we she didn't really set her husband up?
she is only claiming to feel remorse because she was caught. abeg abeg abeg...

To be honest,if my wife does something like this to me,i will never speak to her again. Its just d fact,you cant trust a person hu betrays u in such a bad way ever again.

pickabeau1:


Do you understand the import of this your post
That she be dead?
Because you wish it?

Are you god

Are you perfect?

On top online matter.....

Excuse me biko, where did I mention death? That they be taken away from this world, do you know if I meant they should be given their own world?

I'm glad you recognize that it is a wish, where's the crime in wishing that this world be devoid of bad people? Ogbeni dey your lane abeg, I don't have time for any rubbish this morning and yes it might be online but I've dealt with people like this woman in the real world, they will be killing you while pretending to be your friend, nonsense.

mystiqueDZ:
And she was here....where you been ma'am?

I have been around dear good to see you.

aisha2

always involving herself in other people problem since 1881

aisha2:
Okay, here goes the story, I am caught in between two friends.

Husband used to work for a bank, he got set up for some fraud which he didn't commit. He tells his wife he is innocent and he will fight it legally. He told his wife who he suspects set him up.
True to his words the guy was promoted to his position while the husband was being investigated. He assures wife he will fight and win as he has evidence to back up his claim.

The man spends 2 months in custody till his case is heard and he is granted bail, he comes out continues the case proves his innocence and the whole web of fraud is discovered. Some big Ogas and the guy he fingered are arrested.

Now here is the problem. He found that his wife was collecting money almost 2 times in the 2 months he was in custody from the man who set him up. She works, even though his own accounts were frozen while he was in custody he made provision for her and the kids before the wahala started. He insists she was party to the set up or she is cheating on him. She says she needed help with lawyer fees. Lawyer says he did most of it pro bono as they were long term friends and the only money he received from her was from the guys brother who living abroad who sent money to help out with legal fees.

The guy wants a divorce, he has moved out, madam is pleading her innocence, people are saying forgive, he is very principled and says no way because he had already told her the guy was his suspect so why even have anything to do with him. She insists she is innocent.

I knew the guy before I knew her, we are all friends but I know him not to ever bend if he believes in something.

I don't know what to say, everyone is already in this issue, I want to ask here what men would do in the guys shoes and if any woman would go to her husband’s enemies for help when he is in trouble

I would walk away.
loyalty IS a big deal, loyalty to your spouse goes without saying.
What if eventually, he couldn't prove his innocence, would he then have been paying her salary
Greedy ass woman that couldn't see beyond the money.

freecocoa:
Excuse me biko, where did I mention death? That they be taken away from this world, do you know if I meant they should be given their own world?

I'm glad you recognize that it is a wish, where's the crime in wishing that this world be devoid of bad people? Ogbeni dey your lane abeg, I don't have time for any rubbish this morning and yes it might be online but I've dealt with people like this woman in the real world, they will be killing you while pretending to be your friend, nonsense.

As usual the typical online bravado

You wish someone should leave this world and say that is not equal to death then talk spiel about multiverses...

Ok

Yes the woman did bad
Maybe the marriage is over
Its not enough to wish her death as you don't even know the full story

Now you wish the world to be devoid of bad people
Are you good

"There is no one that is good; save GoD" -

Guess you know the good ones that should live in your world...LOL

Applaner:
aisha2

always involving herself in other people problem since 1881

Lol I was on my own the issue came and met me, I felt we were too harsh hence the posting here with her permission oh

pickabeau1:


As usual the typical online bravado

You wish someone should leave this world and say that is not equal to death then talk spiel about multiverses...

Ok

Yes the woman did bad
Maybe the marriage is over
Its not enough to wish her death as you don't even know the full story

Now you wish the world to be devoid of bad people
Are you good

"There is no one that is good; save GoD" -

Guess you know the good ones that should live in your world...LOL

Your business.
All I see is blah blah blah.

the woman deserves it. the man should go ahead and divorce her. Greed is indeed a terrible thing. even if the man had sent themoney to me unsolicited, i would have returned the money based on sole principle, even if i were starving or tell my husband at the very least. that bitch aint loyal!

Nollywood movie..

Divorce her..

He will never trust her again..

freecocoa:
Your business.
All I see is blah blah blah.

You r a bad person for only seeing that...
Maybe I should wish you out of this world

I feel she was trying to profit from the situation, perhaps she never knew her husband will find out. She has to confess her sins instead of feeding her husband's fear that she was having an affair with the thief unless of course she was having the affair either way she has some major truth telling to do.

A greedy woman yes, but if she did it for the profit i.e make money from the bad guy i wonder if the husband can forgive her even if it takes years.

Why did she collect money from the hubby's enemy?

An easy explanation would be that the guy wanted to assist the hubby while in custody. Don't underestimate the level of deceit some people go to cover their tracks. the wife's mistake was to accept since she didn't know how long the hubby would stay in custody. I'm sure a lot of people would have shown support one way or the other and it won't be far-fetched that the hubby's colleagues would want to assist. It could be a need to get enough funds to fight for her hubby. May we not fall into trouble oh. People react without giving much deeper thought to things when in trouble. Especially women, given the way they worry so easily.

That being said, I would advice the wife to get all proofs that she collected the money in good faith. Not by just saying it. A reasonable man will consider hard evidence that there was nothing shoddy about the transactions. He is acting based on the evidence presented to him. She should get a more compelling evidence than what he has and plead her case based on that and not by just "talking".

She messed up though. However, presenting facts with evidence might help convince him as to her intent. Aisha, u can tell her to prepare her evidence and plead with the hubby to hear her case 1 more time. Then let time do it's work.

fabiano09:

Jisos!! This insult is cool Lol.

It wasn't intended to be an insult.

Justfollowit:


It wasn't intending it to be an insult.

But it ended up being an insult,abeg read again.

The husband should run as far away from her as possible. I mean that literally.

Back stabbers are the worst set of human beings