You are
ready to take the leap.
You are settled in your
job or career and
mature enough to have
a home of your own. It
is important to marry
right because this will
determine the degree
of your happiness or
misery in life. Consider
the following factors.
They will help you
choose wisely.
Genuine feelings
Foundation is crucial. You
must genuinely love the
person. You must feel
truly attracted to him/
her.
You should share the
same spiritual beliefs in
Christ. He/she has a
personal relationship
with Christ and God
fearing.
You truly understand
the person. Don’t think
of getting married if
you have only known
each other for a couple
of months because if
you start living together
you may discover
surprises that may
pose problems to the
young marriage.
A lady that is desperate
telephoning, coming to
your house or office or
smothering you with
attention is not the
right person. You should
not go cooking, washing
or doing his household
chores. The right person
would not woo or
pursue a man no
matter how much she
or others admire him.
The man should do this.
The right person does
not demand money
from the man.
Successful marriages
are built on true and
genuine love on both
sides.
Commitment
Do not have sex before
marriage. If he is
putting pressure on you
to have sex he is not
the right person. He
should show
commitment. He must
be prepared to take you
to the altar first.
Avoid compromising
situations. Be willing to
take control of your
feelings. Avoid kissing
and prolonged hugging
to prevent passions
taking you over.
Loving attitude
She is disposed to going
into marriage with a
positive mindset about
her in-laws. She is ready
to take them as her
family.
If inter tribal or
interracial relationship,
he/she is willing to
accept and respect the
other person’s culture
and traditions. In the
face of initial resistance
she remains calm,
pleasant and respectful.
A mother is more
particular about the
type of person her son
is getting involved with.
Her desire is for a lady
with good manners, a
loving person a
daughter.
Character
He is not abusive,
selfish and critical,
fights or beats her. He
is not given to negative
tendencies. She does
not feel inferior,
frustrated or drained
when with him.
Being with this person
gives you happiness.
You are free to fully
express and be
yourself. The person
shows you affection,
respects you and you
enjoy spending time
together. Conversation
with this person is
interesting not boring.
There must be
chemistry and
attraction but you
would need to develop
character to sustain
this. Mr. Right is a
person of character. He
possesses the virtues
of humility, self-
discipline, self-respect
and honesty. He is
responsible. He pays
attention to cleanliness.
Miss Right is not
talkative or given to
complaining. She is
decent, polite and
respectful. She pays
attention to her
appearance. She has
learnt to cook and has
the ability to contribute
to the finances or has
potentials.
Trust
There must be trust in
the relationship. You
must both be
trustworthy and
faithful. The person
should not be spying on
you, monitor your phone
calls or computer usage
He or she should not
limit the amount of
time you spend with
others you care about.
He/she does not try to
isolate you from your
family and friends. Does
not try to control your
life but wants to share
your life.
Take the person to
your parents. Listen to
their strong reasons.
What is the opinion of
your pastor, marriage
counsellor, family and
friends? They would
have more objective
opinion and will see
things you may
overlook don’t ignore
them or delude yourself.
Don’t manage a
relationship!
If free of destructive
behaviors, does not
drink, prudent in
spending, does not use
drugs or other illegal
substances, faithful,
not cruel or dishonest
but you have doubts or
have cold feet getting
married without any
rational reasons don’t
get married to him. Divine assistance.
Pray for guidance to
make the right decision.
Pray to choose right.
Rid yourself of issues in
your past that may
pose problems in the
future.
Father, wherever there
is any kind of bondage
in my life deliver me
from it. I command —–
to be broken now by
the power and
authority given to me in
Jesus Christ in Jesus
Name. Amen. I have
been delivered. I am
free. I make the
decision to be
permanently free. I
begin to do everything
to the Glory and honour
of God. Amen

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Charity comment

Everything just dey one lane lyk say na Assembly

So many relationship experts these days. I learnt a lot sha.