I just saw this article in punch newspaper, what's your take on this


The article, last week, was a runaway success and it engaged over 20,000
readers. There were many online comments and emails debating and
discussing the topic: ‘Why you should test- drive your partner before
marriage.’

On analysis, the people who wrote in would be single, married, separated,
divorced or widowed. Of the single people, some would be virgins and the
majority would be sexually active (engaging in premarital sex, of course!).
Of the married people who commented, some would have married without
engaging in premarital sex. It would be nice to get their opinions. The
remainder would have engaged in premarital sex before marriage. It would
be great to conduct a survey to find the hypocrite among these. We did!
Anyway, this article is focused entirely on women and will show you exactly
how to put men through a test drive before marriage. Obviously, women
and men see things through different prisms. Women should realise that
what they want and what a man wants are two very different things.

Simply put, most men just want sex, regular sex, without necessarily
paying cash for it! Responsible men will try to cope with the result of
their particular choice: be it marriage or a pregnancy (whichever comes
first). An irresponsible man will look for an excuse!

Finally, our previous dalliances, experiences, family and religion colour what
we do and how we approach the issue of relationships. Some rely on their
family or friends to choose a partner for them, while some listen to the
pastor! However, if you have a mind of your own and are responsible for
your heart’s desires, please read on.

Let me also make a clarification: This article is for women of marrying
age (above 18 years of age) who are looking for or have found the right
man. If you have the man of your dreams in your sights, then you should
definitely test-drive him through these stages.

The initial stage
Physical attraction is important and is perhaps the first thing in the start
of a relationship. If you are not attracted to him, this may cause problems
later. You need to also evaluate whether he is fun and makes you laugh. Is
the man of your dream good company or just an ass? Is he mental,
aggressive, clingy and immature? Do you have similar interests and
common goals? Can you spend a whole day in his company and not be bored
to death? If you do not like him that much, leave him by the roadside.

The second stage
Evaluate where he is coming from and where he is going. What are his
values? What are his dreams and aspirations? Is he describing the kind of
life you want for yourself and your future family? What type of man is
he? Is he a liar, unserious and cannot be trusted with your friends? A
friend of mine was always farting in public. His girlfriend could not
tolerate this. They still got married, regardless, but the farting, snoring
and, of course, other disrespectful behaviour eventually destroyed the
marriage: after three children!
You now also need to define what you want from the relationship. Is
marriage an investment? Do you want the so-called mysterious happiness,
emotional and financial security and that ephemeral love? Can he provide
these for you and the family? Is he doing that right now? Are you
employed and he is not? If he is always asking you for money and is not
pulling his weight, he may be a dud after marriage. Is he rich and
famous? Could you afford to get lost in his shadow or do you want a life
of your own? Can you stand on your own? Would he be able to live with a
successful wife? Can he live in your shadow?

The third stage
How old is he exactly? Is he in good health? Are there any medical issues
that you should know about? Are there any family genetic diseases such
as sickle cell disease or other rare killers? Be sure to ask and talk to his
friends and family openly. What about his HIV or Hepatitis status? Have
you asked and checked? You should, before moving things further.

Now, the good stuff
We conducted a survey here in Nigeria to determine attitudes towards
premarital sex. We asked 100 consecutive unselected adults and the
following is the result of the survey.

What is your age? Our respondents were aged 20 to 40 years.
Are you male or female? Fifty-two per cent were males
Are you single, separated, divorced, married or widowed? Most were single:
78 per cent and 20 per cent were married and a tiny number divorced.
If single, are you sexually active? Of the single people, 50 per cent are
sexually active.

If divorced, widowed or married, did you engage in premarital sex? 60 per
cent engaged in premarital sex.
What is your view on premarital sex: Okay or not okay? Forty-eight per
cent said it was not okay, 32 per cent said it was okay and 20 per cent did
not commit either way. Interestingly, a few married individuals who had
engaged in premarital sex and some sexually active single persons felt it
was wrong!


source - http://www.punchng.com/health/healthwise/how-to-test-drive-your-man-before-marriage/

Nice rhetorics

This is Nigeria, Dont overdrive your man!