Serenity22:
Thanks guys. I'll just stop taking his calls n ignoring his texts then

babyosisi:
Serenity22, one of the biggest weapons of abusers (,yes you are being emotionally abused ) is se.x
The man is treating you bad yet he sleeps with you and messes with your mind so it's harder to leave
Cut off the se.x immediately
It won't make him treat you better,he is getting it elsewhere sef so there is nothing special you can offer him
Cut it off completely before you begin to think carrying belle will make him change
Once you break that off you will free yourself

TONYE001:


Well, am I fit to respond to this question? Maybe no but I'll make an attempt nevertheless.

Wifey and I just got married last August. Through out last year, we made attempts to leave the shores of the country to continue our studies abroad but we weren't successful...so, we gave up.

Presently, we are M. Sc applicants at one of the federal universities in the country. I have already written my entrance exam, wifey is still preparing for hers.

I think the major skill one must have to run a family, school, and work is the ability to multitask. Yea! By God's grace, I have this skill and I believe my baby has it too.

There is so much I can do to relieve her to a reasonable extent. I can help with the chores, make the environment at home as conducive as possible (to enable effective studying), and most importantly, I can figure out a way of providing her (and the house) enough fund so that she doesn't have to work until she's done with the program. Even if she must work (which isn't the case though), I would still be there for her at all time, God willing.

What is the situation now at home? By the grace of God Almighty, we are expecting our babies (we have already received twins by faith) and wifey is studying SERIOUSLY for her entrance exam. At the moment, I do (90%) of the cooking, 100% of laundry, (90%) of every other chore. All she does is to eat, take her drugs (follic acid, etc), rest, and study. I observed that she gets tired easily (she's in her first trimester) so the strategy is that once she wakes up, eats, and bathes, she studies with that "fresh energy".

Has it been easy? No!...but it's possible..

I wish you success ma'am and every other lady in your shoes.

Serenity22:
lol at carrying belle. I'll just avoid him bcs weneva I see him my knees turn to jelly

moca:
There was this lady friend of mine when I was an underG.
She is well established and the only thing was marriage.
She now met a man. Handsome to a fault with politician's kinda mouth.
Affair started. My guy knows what d lady wanted and proposed.
She accepted. We were all delighted.
If my guy wanna enter town,he will call my lady and tell her what he would like to eat.
My lady will leave her shop and go a cooking (lol)
Now my inquisitive nature went to work.
My guy said he works in so so and so in PH. I know that place like the back of my palm and I called some guys to check him up.
It was lie. I told my lady.
The guy will enter town and won't visit her at her shop but will go and drink with friends, then midnight he will show. then my friend will present whatever she cooked.
One night, a friend of the guy called mmy lady asking she should give my guy phone so they will chat. She did.
And told me. I started thinking"is this not a set up. Told her my fears and everything.
She went and told the guy every single thing I said. He even said he is running for a political post and borrowed money from this chic.
Lots of things. That was how this lady cut me off from her life and even set me up.
(we were like sisters,so close)
Fast forward,i graduated and left.
Went back to process my result and heard that d guy is now married to one school worker. The lady bought a car for him.
Mi lady is still single and searching after 6 yrs.
So heartbreaking cos she is a very good gal.
Should be in early forties now.

So gals, read in between lines. I love u and good sexx is very easy to come by.
If u see any handwriting on the wall, pick up ur shoe and tear race.
Love is everywhere. U can also get good and quality sexx everywhere.

babyosisi:


We all do foolish things for love
You are giving woman advise when she is having fights with her man,they settle their quarrel and you become the bad person
After she has gisted you all the nasty things he did

One woman here was having problems with her husband,I mean physical fights with 911 showing up
Her fellow women took her out for lunch and gave her tips on how to handle stuff
One day the man touch her for waist that he abandoned since and she blabs everything they advised her
The husband calls the husbands of the other women to warn their wives to keep away from his marriage,endangering thei relationships of people trying to help her
Of course when the issues resumed and he cleared the account and eventually moved out and filed divorce,she didn't have the face to tell the other ladies what she was going through.

moca:
There was this lady friend of mine when I was an underG.
She is well established and the only thing was marriage.
She now met a man. Handsome to a fault with politician's kinda mouth.
Affair started. My guy knows what d lady wanted and proposed.
She accepted. We were all delighted.
If my guy wanna enter town,he will call my lady and tell her what he would like to eat.
My lady will leave her shop and go a cooking (lol)
Now my inquisitive nature went to work.
My guy said he works in so so and so in PH. I know that place like the back of my palm and I called some guys to check him up.
It was lie. I told my lady.
The guy will enter town and won't visit her at her shop but will go and drink with friends, then midnight he will show. then my friend will present whatever she cooked.
One night, a friend of the guy called mmy lady asking she should give my guy phone so they will chat. She did.
And told me. I started thinking"is this not a set up. Told her my fears and everything.
She went and told the guy every single thing I said. He even said he is running for a political post and borrowed money from this chic.
Lots of things. That was how this lady cut me off from her life and even set me up.
(we were like sisters,so close)
Fast forward,i graduated and left.
Went back to process my result and heard that d guy is now married to one school worker. The lady bought a car for him.
Mi lady is still single and searching after 6 yrs.
So heartbreaking cos she is a very good gal.
Should be in early forties now.

So gals, read in between lines. I love u and good sexx is very easy to come by.
If u see any handwriting on the wall, pick up ur shoe and tear race.
Love is everywhere. U can also get good and quality sexx everywhere.

moca:

Nne, I learnt the hard way. She was so close to me. I don't want to see her hurt cos it was obvious that guy is a randy guy.
Told her to make investigation. It wasn't only me. Like three of us but I was d youngest and a student.
A week after sleeping in her house,his IV came out. He soiled her name.

Since then, If u tell me u wanna date and marry Mr A, I will wish u luck.

D guy that was sent to deal with me happened to be my former nebor and we were really close. When he came, he was like no, it can't be me cos he know me very well.
So he told me how he was told to come and teach me a small lesson(by the randy guy)

I'm very careful now. I can only do online advise and go my way.
Ladies, we no dey hear at all

gleatz:

Chai, I sincerely feel this woman's pain. Some stupid things we do for love.
That guy, the thunder that will strike him and his generation is still doing press up in Amadioha shrine, believe me.

moca:

She is good, very good.
Just don't know. Maybe bad luck or what.
She obviously don't no the signs to look for in a man.
When a guy whom d wife recently died while giving birth came, we saw the love and genuineness. Told her to give the guy a chance. She didn't.
Reason;there must be something that made the woman die during childbirth.shuuuu!
We begged and begged.
The man works for SSS. Was about travelling to US(i think he is a citizen) and want to go with the wife.
He left and courted and married another.
By d time my friend will realize what she has done,he has traveled out with d wife.
I for the go US like part 2 no dey.

Infact, we r bad compared to her.
Flawless.
I have told her to leave that city. It is better for her.

babyosisi:


Does she have a spirit husband
Do you know

Rofl

I hear dem spirit husbands are jealous lovers
Na so dem go chase every physical husband comot

moca:

So u believe in that thing?
I don't even though I ve seen one manifesting.
She actually ran to me for help.
Told her to go to mfm.
Anyway, I don't think she has.
At least from all d prayer houses she has been going to, nobody has told her yet
I don pray tire for her head.

gleatz:
@Moca
This leads me to the question "why does the so-called ladies and gus fall into the hands of wrong partners?"

Its so sadening seeing this hapenn. What coud just be the reason

Cc: All

thorpido:
Naivety,greed,lust.......and desperation at a stage when age becomes a factor.
To be good does not stop one from having the above.

gleatz:
Naivety I quite agree with you! Some dnt ve the greed factor in them though

moca:
@GoldenDr,i hear u. U have spoken well. Thanks dear.

@ thorpido, I agree with @gleatz.
I don't know about others but this lady is exceptional. I just couldn't abandon her.
Even with the attack on my personality, I went back to her and felt so sorry for her.

I guess what was putting guys off was her age and she looks it. U know some folks look older/younger than their age.
She has a relationship(up to 4 yrs)and the guy died. She started another(5 to six yrs) and small misunderstanding, the guy married another lady.
U see how the yrs keep on accumulating meanwhile the bad gals like us don't have problem with suitors and marriage.

If u hv a problem,just go to her for advice or financial support,she must help u.

I had once raised this question. Why r the very good ones left behind?

U guys don't really know what gals who r very matured to marry pass tru.
There r so many of them out there and I tell u, they r well behaved ladies.
I tire o.

Two major problems of women r when u reach the age of Mrs and nobody comes knocking and when u marry no pikin.

thorpido:
I agree with you that at a stage,age becomes a factor and many guys retreat at that time.
The question is what happens at 20-25yrs,26-30yrs?This is where i don't seem to understand.

GoldenDr:
At 22-25yrs, most still form, wanting a guy that is very comfortable, do not know what they want as a result of peer pressure and some unrealistic reasons. At 26-30yrs to the best of my knowledge desperation(especially if she is 30yrs, you hear statement like when are we going to see your parent, calling you every time, your mates are getting married infact every statement that comes out of her mouth 95% is marriage, when you have not dated up to three months), fustration (most especially if they do not have hand work or uneducated) and pressure from society (most especially at work place). Some at that age(26-30yrs) have a very bad mouth, still watching Kim Kardashin and family and acting that way and a few are just bad cooks.

PearlO:
Great job.....weldone to evrybody who has contributed to the growth of this thread...trust me, guyz ve saved alora pple and I happen to b one....
Saw d thread wen twas on d 45th page...I folod religiously until nw..
I have learnt alot...sm ve implemented n it worked odaz havent....like y'all ve said, different strokes for different folks....coz it worked for d oda pson doesnt mean it will for me.....
to each his own
I rily wish I cud share mine bt dunno where to start from.
seem like ve got d worse n most complicated love life ever
I guez I will ve d courage to share mine smday soon

keep doing wot y'all knw hw to do best
Godz using y'all to bless so many pple

babyosisi:


Thank you for the kind words
It's exciting to know that the thread achieved its purpose
Thanks to all the contributors who shared their personal stories and experiences and words of advise from the heart

cococandy:
the thread will still reach 200 pages.

It is like that kitchen thread.
It touches one part or the other of most people's lives.

An0nimus:

That kitchen thread sha, Lord have mercy. See food kwa.

I'm always touched anytime I visit that thread. If only I can receive that anointing for exploits

cococandy:
one of my favorite threads on NL.

GoldenDr:
Please drop the link.

Chillis:
81 pages, abeg wetin una dey talk here sef .

Just mention me when una begin share money