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Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by paradises: 1:13pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
pls advice! He claims to love me'bt his altitude is nt the same'He gets angry easily ,abuse me anyhow ;just name the fowl language he will use it'tthen he starts mentioning the amounts he gives every months 'this pains me to heart cos I manage and even add more to the expenses! Am just. tired! |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by Nobody: 1:17pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
paradises: Beats you twice a week? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by MizMyColi(f): 1:20pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
Errrr...... Whatever happened to the parlance "Safety First!!!!" 3 Likes |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by paradises: 1:24pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
am wondering. and he his generous'bt when he is angry "he talks and talks untill you Will be forced to reply his craze'then he starts this abuse I wonder if he really loves as he claims |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by bellong: 1:32pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
Your posts are not coherent... 1 Like |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by Nobody: 1:37pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
Arranged marriage or did you date the guy yourself? 2 Likes |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by paradises: 1:43pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
Nt arranged o!I lost count of his beatings!though he claims I was d one who provoked him'Its a major hole in my heart presently 'though he has stopped beating dis days'bt I also lost counts of his abuse verbally 'Pls can I go on wt the divorce plan!just tired |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by Nobody: 1:55pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
Nawa ooo, all these abuse stories Just try separation and see how it goes... Has anyone talked to him about his character before? Thought they said only women verbally abuse their partner |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by bellong: 2:11pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
Have you ever been to see a psychiatrist together? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by ancashy(f): 2:26pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
I hate divorce,but as someone said separation should be considered,sometimes absence can make d heart grow fonder and like another rightly commented safety first,both mental and physical safety |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by KanwuliaJara: 2:42pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
Another 'JIM' IKE CHUKWU on the lose! |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by bennyrazz: 3:17pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
paradises:what do you think of doing? |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by Carinaflo(f): 3:22pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
This story just reminded me of a guy I came in contact with sometime ago; the very first time we had issues, he started his verbal abuse, started calling me names, started mentioning "all the money" he had spent on me. I was so shocked because I had always thougth that women are the ones known to be verbally abusive, never imagined that a guy could behave like that. And he was even pleading with me to accept his marriage proposal. I had to run as fast as my legs could carry me. I stopped receiving his calls, deleted all his contact, blocked him on fb and whatsapp. My dear, life is too precious to be living with someone that will be making you angry all the time 11 Likes |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by Carinaflo(f): 3:22pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
This story just reminded me of a guy I came in contact with sometime ago; the very first time we had issues, he started his verbal abuse, started calling me names, started mentioning "all the money" he had spent on me. I was so shocked because I had always thougth that women are the ones known to be verbally abusive, never imagined that a guy could behave like that. And he was even pleading with me to accept his marriage proposal. I had to run as fast as my legs could carry me. I stopped receiving his calls, deleted all his contacts, blocked him on fb and whatsapp. My dear, life is too precious to be living with someone that will be making you angry all the time |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by freecocoa(f): 3:30pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
Na wa o, leave him for a while and go some place else. 1 Like |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by bukatyne(f): 3:33pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
MarvellousGod: One of NL's fallacies 4 Likes |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by pickabeau1: 3:34pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
bukatyne: You also propagate one of these fallacies That nigerian marriages are shams 1 Like |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by bukatyne(f): 3:35pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
pickabeau1: Yes they are like the 'Nigerian' god is a sham |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by pickabeau1: 3:36pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
bukatyne: glad you know you are a fallacist Every idle word.... I noticed that was missing from your thread 2 Likes |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by bukatyne(f): 3:41pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
pickabeau1: Excuse me? I still maintain that 'Nigerian marriages', 'Nigerian god' etc. are sham so where is the fallacy Or are you one of the posters who believe that only women verbally abuse their men? Besides, this thread is not about me; let the OP get the help she desires. 1 Like |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by pickabeau1: 3:44pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
bukatyne: You, a nigerian woman married to a nigerian man coming here to say that nigerian marriages are sham HAHA.. i laff in spanish If that is not confusion.. i wonder what it is You are the one that mentioned fallacy here... i just mentioned one of the fallacies you propagate 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by bukatyne(f): 3:47pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
pickabeau1: Pick, This thread is not about me And yes, the Nigerian is in quotes. Good day and focus on the thread/OP 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by pickabeau1: 3:48pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
bukatyne Good day to you too 2 Likes |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by ichidodo: 4:46pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
Lemme guess, this here is an intertribal marriage,innit?... |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by fuzzywuzzy: 5:04pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
How did you miss all this during courtship period? An insultive talkative is usually easy to spot during courtship, or maybe you were growing old and felt you had to get married to him so you don't end up as an old spinster. I would have said leave him, but I don't know how strong you are mentally to withstand the stigma that comes with divorce.....am sure that man has a girlfriend outside that's why he has forgotten that you are still his wife and he has to respect you. Men own no pass cheating. Its something all men look forward to after marriage; like a rite of passage or something. And when they start having strong feelings for the girl outside they start seeing their wives as shit and as a source of inconvinience in their lives. I wonder why their unfaithful, STD carrying asses even bother getting married. 2 Likes |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by 5minsmadness: 5:07pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
bellong:She has been hit on the head too many times 1 Like |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by bellong: 5:15pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
5minsmadness: |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by SAMBARRY: 5:22pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
KanwuliaJara:haaa madam you don reach here when I was just about calling you. Na real Jim iyke love o |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by 5minsmadness: 6:24pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
@paradises. Your husband's good character ...he is generous... ...he professes his love for you... ...he has stopped beating you...which means he can stop his verbal abuse too. Your husband's bad character: He is verbally abusive He is a nag He is easily irritated. Your good character: You help in the house financially You are patient with him Your bad character: You provoke him when he nags. This makes him angrier and triggers his verbal abuse. Plan: Pick out a night when he is calm and surprise him with some good cooking. After he has eaten, surprise him further by fucking his brains out. Then when you two are basking in the after-effect, mention to him how his verbal abuse hurts you. Don't do it like fight. You already know you are in the right in this matter, no need to prove anything. Quietly let him know how it hurts and repeat some if the more painful words he has said to you. I bet you he will apologise. Tell him also that his nagging irritates the hell out of you and that is why you react and respond which in turn provokes him. Tell him how you would want him to address matters e.g mention something once instead of repeating it over and over again. Also allow him to talk and say the things that annoy/irritate/provoke him. Allow him talk without interruption, no matter how silly his points are. This will also let him get some things off his chest and you might even be surprised to find that it is something else that been bugging him since. When you two have said your piece, have sex with him again. I assure you he'll behave himself for the next six months. P.S. This method should be repeated every six months for best results. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by pickabeau1: 6:45pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
5minsmadness This your post - correct chips Are u sure its not easier to just divorce 2 Likes |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by 5minsmadness: 6:47pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
pickabeau1:Do you know the procedure for divorce? I do. Trust me, my advice is easier. If it doesn't work out after 2 attempts then they can dive-orce. |
Re: Hot Tempered Married Man!i Want To Run Away by Nobody: 6:55pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
freecocoa: 1 Like |
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