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A Letter To My Children About Fifty Shades Of Grey by OtunbaJega: 4:33am On Feb 18, 2015 |
My Precious Children, Tonight, I succumbed to peer pressure (exactly what I caution you NEVER to do) and went with a bunch of girlfriends to see Fifty Shades of Grey. I ignored the little voice in my head that implored me to just say “no!” because, after all, it’s just a silly movie, right? Well, I wish I had done as I always tell you to do and given that voice credit because it was right. The thing is, I’m also kind of glad I didn’t because now I have these words for you. One day, in the not very distant future, I’m going to blink and gasp as I realise you’re suddenly old enough to see movies like Fifty Shades of Grey, yourselves. Of course, you or your friends may even decide that curiosity wins and risk sneaking a peek even earlier than that. Either way, I have to accept the hard fact that your innocent eyes and your uncorrupted minds are going to see this drivel sooner or later. I am writing this so that when that day comes, you’ll recognise Fifty Shades of Grey for what it is, rather than what it pretends to be. Let me begin by telling you what Fifty Shades of Grey is not. It is not a love story. It does a pretty convincing job of masquerading as one, for sure, but please believe me when I say that love doesn’t even have a cameo role in this plot. It is also not a romantic fairy tale with a harmless bit of naughtiness sprinkled on top. Romance is glaringly absent, in fact. As for harmless S&M, please understand that this screenplay’s message is the polar opposite of harmless. In this ‘harmless’ piece of fluff movie, a rich, handsome, experienced man uses his power to seduce and manipulate a young, innocent student into doing a lot of things she is extremely uncomfortable doing. They are not equals. They are not partners. There is, in fact, no ‘they’ to speak of at all. Rather, it’s a movie about a narcissistic man’s controlling and violent sexual desires and his sense of entitlement to use and abuse a vulnerable young woman’s body and mind as tools for his own gratification. It’s all about his needs, coupled with the arrogant expectation that she should comply, regardless of her discomfort, to please him. I sat in the theatre and looked around me at hundreds of women, buying into this so-called ‘sexy love story’ and I felt sick. If an entire theatre of women three times your age couldn’t see how damaging this plot line is, how on earth are teenage girls and boys supposed to? Please, my daughters, don’t allow this romanticizing of sexual domestic abuse fool you into believing that you should ever allow yourself to be treated like Anastasia Steele. Please, my son, don’t watch this one day and believe that it’s ever okay to intimidate, manipulate or disrespect a woman like the ‘hero,’ Christian Grey. Nobody, male or female, wants or deserves to be disrespected, manipulated or violated against his or her wishes. I hope, when the day comes that you’re grown up enough to be in a relationship, that you’ll understand that what goes on behind bedroom doors should always be pleasurable for both of you, regardless of your tastes. I hope you’ll understand that consent given under duress isn’t consent at all. I hope you’ll demand respect and that you’ll give respect in return. Tonight, I walked out of the cinema feeling terrified and a little sad for your generation. If this is the movie that you base your ideals of love and romance on, then I need to make some things very clear and I hope you’re listening. [b]If someone wants to be with you, turning up at your part-time job unannounced when you haven’t ever even discussed that you have one and acting possessive when a co-worker talks to you is not romantic. It’s creepy. If you say you’re a virgin and he responds by violently deflowering you, that’s not love. That’s assault. If he tracks your whereabouts when you’re out clubbing and takes you to his hotel when you’re too drunk to make a rational decision, then undresses you and puts you in his bed for the night, that’s not protective. It’s stalking. In fact, stalking is the least of what it is. If he turns up inside your apartment uninvited, it’s not romantic. It’s breaking and entering. If you tell him you’re not interested and you ask him to leave and he responds by tying you to your bed and having violent sex with you after you repeatedly say “no,” all the while threatening to do worse if you make a noise, it’s not passion. It’s rape. If he sells your car and buys you a new one without your permission “to surprise you,” it’s not romantic. It’s theft and manipulation. If he monitors your phone calls and threatens you with physical harm because another man calls you, he’s not in love with you. He’s abusing and controlling you. If beating you with a leather strap until you cry is what gives him pleasure and he asks you to do it despite your distress because it turns him on and then plays the victim to explain it all away, there is no soundtrack in the world that should quiet the voice in your head that yells out that love and romance were never in the picture and they never will be.[/b] My children, this film was deeply disturbing to me, and I have life experience on my side. I shudder to think that you are going to grow up with stories like this to model relationships on and that you or the people you date will mistake this for ‘normal.’ Please, my precious children, know this: Love is gentle. Love never takes. Love does not demand. Love waits for consent. Love doesn’t need helicopter rides and expensive gifts. Love is enough. When there’s love, the voice in your head doesn’t yell. It simply doesn’t have to. My children, listen to me on this, if nothing else. And, if you choose not to listen to me, then listen to the voice in your head. With abundant love, Mum http://www.bonbonbreak.com/letter-children-fifty-shades-grey/ 170 Likes 28 Shares |
Re: A Letter To My Children About Fifty Shades Of Grey by Akshow: 5:50am On Feb 18, 2015 |
Hmmmmmm why do I have to be d first comment on a thread abt a movie have not watched. Mtycheeeeeeeew. Space for sale pls 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Letter To My Children About Fifty Shades Of Grey by Nobody: 10:36am On Feb 18, 2015 |
Out of pressure, i had to go see this movie, when I came out I was like "thank God its just a movie". Not all movies have a good moral lessons and happy ending and believe me those kinda movies are what brings you closer to the realities in our world. Take heart op the worst is yet to come 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Letter To My Children About Fifty Shades Of Grey by Nobody: 11:22am On Feb 18, 2015 |
Lovely write up...It depicts sickening things that people do all in d name of sexual fantasies. But it's just a movie 3 Likes |
Re: A Letter To My Children About Fifty Shades Of Grey by Nobody: 3:12pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Now I'm more convinced more than ever to see the movie. If it's truly rated R, I expect more than softcore porn sex scenes oh. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: A Letter To My Children About Fifty Shades Of Grey by Qoaki3k: 8:35pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
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Re: A Letter To My Children About Fifty Shades Of Grey by Nobody: 6:56am On Feb 19, 2015 |
Nigerians and their never ending hypocrisy. The movie is rated 18+ meaning it's not meant for children. You probably saw the trailer and yet still went ahead to watch it. You have probably read the book too. So what are you complaining about? I have never seen an article from you condemning po.rn in Nigeria but you can proudly show how much of an hypocrite that you are by condemning a movie into which so much effort was put into. SMH. 13 Likes |
Re: A Letter To My Children About Fifty Shades Of Grey by Nobody: 7:13am On Feb 19, 2015 |
oluafolabi: Then what's all the big deal about?? Is the content cruder than the Von Trier's Nyphomaniac?? 2 Likes |
Re: A Letter To My Children About Fifty Shades Of Grey by msmon(m): 7:43am On Feb 19, 2015 |
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Re: A Letter To My Children About Fifty Shades Of Grey by Vicotex(m): 7:43am On Feb 19, 2015 |
50 shades of grey now and then. Thats i dont blame nigerians cos they wanna act like christ 4 Likes |
Re: A Letter To My Children About Fifty Shades Of Grey by hungryboy(m): 7:44am On Feb 19, 2015 |
As if this your lamentations go stop the movie from making millions at the box office |
Re: A Letter To My Children About Fifty Shades Of Grey by Thebrightest(m): 7:44am On Feb 19, 2015 |
What is the film really about? 3 Likes |
Re: A Letter To My Children About Fifty Shades Of Grey by adewasco2k(m): 7:44am On Feb 19, 2015 |
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Re: A Letter To My Children About Fifty Shades Of Grey by kayboy4y(m): 7:45am On Feb 19, 2015 |
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Re: A Letter To My Children About Fifty Shades Of Grey by KingEbukasBlog(m): 7:45am On Feb 19, 2015 |
too much hype ... it will disappoint some people ... just like 'Friends with Benefit' , no actual nu.dity 2 Likes |
Re: A Letter To My Children About Fifty Shades Of Grey by rill: 7:46am On Feb 19, 2015 |
brb |
Re: A Letter To My Children About Fifty Shades Of Grey by DAVECENA(m): 7:46am On Feb 19, 2015 |
I still believe it isn't porn. |
Re: A Letter To My Children About Fifty Shades Of Grey by siegfried99(m): 7:47am On Feb 19, 2015 |
Re: A Letter To My Children About Fifty Shades Of Grey by tundeayo2020: 7:48am On Feb 19, 2015 |
kids are wiser than you think |
Re: A Letter To My Children About Fifty Shades Of Grey by nairalandbuzz(m): 7:49am On Feb 19, 2015 |
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Re: A Letter To My Children About Fifty Shades Of Grey by Mrphilia: 7:49am On Feb 19, 2015 |
I guess I got to make out time to see this movie ..because this one wey e reach frontpage this morning e be as if the film dey give op sleepless night. 2 Likes |
Re: A Letter To My Children About Fifty Shades Of Grey by lionshare: 7:49am On Feb 19, 2015 |
That movie is nothing short of nonsense and to think it's making waves across the cinemas, the was jam packed! Aside from the ugly and inhumane messages of controlling others to do your bidding, I find it very boring to say the least! I was thinking if it were to be a Nigerian movie, it would have gotten so much backlash but I guess the whites can't go wrong ....pure bull shit! 25 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: A Letter To My Children About Fifty Shades Of Grey by IamOpemipo(m): 7:50am On Feb 19, 2015 |
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Re: A Letter To My Children About Fifty Shades Of Grey by mcdokwe(m): 7:51am On Feb 19, 2015 |
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Re: A Letter To My Children About Fifty Shades Of Grey by Nobody: 7:52am On Feb 19, 2015 |
Fifty shades of bullshit!! Not so happy I wasted like 2 hours of my life seeing that piece of shit. I could easily have watched porn for free online instead of wasting $30. 14 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: A Letter To My Children About Fifty Shades Of Grey by Nobody: 7:52am On Feb 19, 2015 |
Theyve been corrupting us with their movies since God knws wen. i jst watchd d trailer....they r sick! unfortunately thats wat some girls really dig... 1 Like |
Re: A Letter To My Children About Fifty Shades Of Grey by omega2128(m): 7:52am On Feb 19, 2015 |
don't watch it- go force me to watch it |
Re: A Letter To My Children About Fifty Shades Of Grey by Nobody: 7:55am On Feb 19, 2015 |
porn or no porn...will try to see d movie |
Re: A Letter To My Children About Fifty Shades Of Grey by naijainfogalery: 7:55am On Feb 19, 2015 |
Thanks Grandma for your advice as usual, like you rightly said peer pressure pushed you to watch it and after seeing it, you gave your verdict, I promise not to let peer pressure force me to see this movie, I will willingly determine to go and see it, then after i will come here and give my verdict. 4 Likes 1 Share |
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