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Will You Marry Me? 5 Principles To Consider Before Saying 'I Do' by lolaxavier(m): 9:31am On Mar 06, 2015
Most women dream of the moment when they are asked “Will you marry me?” Many women say yes immediately. However, it would be wise to consider this question with
serious reflection because getting married is a great commitment that shouldn’t be taken lightly. It is sad to see the large amount of divorces in our society today. For this reason, before saying, “I do,” it would be a good idea to consider some guidelines to help make your wedding day end in "happily ever after." Your marriage should last forever.
The reality is that the future is uncertain and nothing can guarantee a successful marriage. However, I would like to share five guidelines that can be useful to consider before making such a significant decision that will affect your life forever.
1. A long and formal courtship

This type of courtship will allow you to know your partner better. As you share meaningful moments, you will be able to see your fiancé’s different attitudes when facing a variety of circumstances in life. At the same time, you will be able to find answers to the following questions: How does your sweetheart react when experiencing anger, frustration or high level of stress? How does he or she treat family members? How does he or she react when you have a problem and feel sad? Does he or she support you or abandon you? Is he or she a hard-working
and appreciative person? Is he or she jealous?
(Remember, getting to know a person better involves asking more questions than the ones previously mentioned).

2. Sharing ideals
Before starting a life together, you must discuss future plans. In order to function harmoniously, a couple must learn to share common ideals and mutual goals, such as discussing whether or not to have children, living in the countryside or the city, buying a house or travelling, seeking a degree or working and having a family business. These are a few of the many topics that you should discuss before getting married in order to avoid surprises. Since you know your future goals, it is good to discuss it with your fiancé to know if you both are on the same page.

3. Putting things in a balanced perspective
Imagine having a scale: on one side you place your partner’s virtues and on the other side you place his or her imperfections. If the scale is heavier on the imperfections’ side, you should think hard before saying, “I do.”
When considering all imperfections, you must reflect how much you are able to work through them. Some imperfections are not so profound, such as being shy or being less talkative. However, there are other imperfections that can cause serious wounds, such as certain addictions like alcoholism, drugs or pornography.

4. Pay attention to your fiancé’s family values

Reflect on your loved one’s family values to make sure you are compatible. Once you get married, you are also forming a new
family.

5. Analyze both of your economic opportunities
Starting a family involves serious financial commitments: buying a home, paying rent, buying groceries for the family, paying bills and other expenditures. Before getting married decide if you will have the economic stability to fulfill your financial responsibilities.

I would like to mention that these guidelines are not a guaranteed recipe for success. Furthermore, marriage should not be taken lightly because it is a relationship that requires sacrifice. Each story is different, each couple is unique and what may have positive outcomes for some people may not work for others. Nevertheless, it is good to consider these principles because you may discover some interesting aspects of your relationship. Above all, before saying, _“_I do,” you must be convinced that you love your fiancé and that this love is reciprocal. Best wishes!

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Re: Will You Marry Me? 5 Principles To Consider Before Saying 'I Do' by falconey(m): 9:33am On Mar 06, 2015
Look like lot of work.
Re: Will You Marry Me? 5 Principles To Consider Before Saying 'I Do' by elantraceey(f): 9:40am On Mar 06, 2015
Nice
Re: Will You Marry Me? 5 Principles To Consider Before Saying 'I Do' by Emodeee: 9:44am On Mar 06, 2015
Is his bank account HANDsum? If yes, go ahead with "YES, I DO."
Re: Will You Marry Me? 5 Principles To Consider Before Saying 'I Do' by lolaxavier(m): 9:45am On Mar 06, 2015
falconey:
Look like lot of work.

Guess it's worth doing those lots of work ahead rather than doing them when it's already too late.
Besides, it's not a classroom work, these are things you just get to observe and react to as days pass bye. Guess that's why you also need some room and a bit of considerable time for courtship.
Re: Will You Marry Me? 5 Principles To Consider Before Saying 'I Do' by lolaxavier(m): 9:49am On Mar 06, 2015
Emodeee:
Is his bank account HANDsum? If yes, go ahead with "YES, I DO."

I'd rather prefer to use the word MODERATE bank account. Every potential can't always have a handsome bank account. If you are lucky to jam one with a fat account, then good for you but if not, someone with a moderate account can still become a robust account owner.
Re: Will You Marry Me? 5 Principles To Consider Before Saying 'I Do' by 9iceboi(m): 9:51am On Mar 06, 2015
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Re: Will You Marry Me? 5 Principles To Consider Before Saying 'I Do' by lolaxavier(m): 10:18am On Mar 06, 2015
Re: Will You Marry Me? 5 Principles To Consider Before Saying 'I Do' by greatestboss(m): 10:22am On Mar 06, 2015
I smell FP.... Lemme reserve my comment till then sha.
Re: Will You Marry Me? 5 Principles To Consider Before Saying 'I Do' by Nobody: 10:31am On Mar 06, 2015
lolaxavier:
Most women dream of the moment when they are asked “Will you marry me?” Many women say yes immediately. However, it would be wise to consider this question with
serious reflection because getting married is a great commitment that shouldn’t be taken lightly. It is sad to see the large amount of divorces in our society today. For this reason, before saying, “I do,” it would be a good idea to consider some guidelines to help make your wedding day end in "happily ever after." Your marriage should last forever.
The reality is that the future is uncertain and nothing can guarantee a successful marriage. However, I would like to share five guidelines that can be useful to consider before making such a significant decision that will affect your life forever.
1. A long and formal courtship

This type of courtship will allow you to know your partner better. As you share meaningful moments, you will be able to see your fiancé’s different attitudes when facing a variety of circumstances in life. At the same time, you will be able to find answers to the following questions: How does your sweetheart react when experiencing anger, frustration or high level of stress? How does he or she treat family members? How does he or she react when you have a problem and feel sad? Does he or she support you or abandon you? Is he or she a hard-working
and appreciative person? Is he or she jealous?
(Remember, getting to know a person better involves asking more questions than the ones previously mentioned).

2. Sharing ideals
Before starting a life together, you must discuss future plans. In order to function harmoniously, a couple must learn to share common ideals and mutual goals, such as discussing whether or not to have children, living in the countryside or the city, buying a house or travelling, seeking a degree or working and having a family business. These are a few of the many topics that you should discuss before getting married in order to avoid surprises. Since you know your future goals, it is good to discuss it with your fiancé to know if you both are on the same page.

3. Putting things in a balanced perspective
Imagine having a scale: on one side you place your partner’s virtues and on the other side you place his or her imperfections. If the scale is heavier on the imperfections’ side, you should think hard before saying, “I do.”
When considering all imperfections, you must reflect how much you are able to work through them. Some imperfections are not so profound, such as being shy or being less talkative. However, there are other imperfections that can cause serious wounds, such as certain addictions like alcoholism, drugs or pornography.

4. Pay attention to your fiancé’s family values

Reflect on your loved one’s family values to make sure you are compatible. Once you get married, you are also forming a new
family.

5. Analyze both of your economic opportunities
Starting a family involves serious financial commitments: buying a home, paying rent, buying groceries for the family, paying bills and other expenditures. Before getting married decide if you will have the economic stability to fulfill your financial responsibilities.

I would like to mention that these guidelines are not a guaranteed recipe for success. Furthermore, marriage should not be taken lightly because it is a relationship that requires sacrifice. Each story is different, each couple is unique and what may have positive outcomes for some people may not work for others. Nevertheless, it is good to consider these principles because you may discover some interesting aspects of your relationship. Above all, before saying, _“_I do,” you must be convinced that you love your fiancé and that this love is reciprocal. Best wishes!
I like, u shouldnt just jump into marriage
Re: Will You Marry Me? 5 Principles To Consider Before Saying 'I Do' by lolaxavier(m): 10:44am On Mar 06, 2015
greatestboss:
I smell FP.... Lemme reserve my comment till then sha.

Hmmmmm...you are your own ooo. My posts no too dey reach front page dis days...no smell anything at alllll....
Re: Will You Marry Me? 5 Principles To Consider Before Saying 'I Do' by MisterLongman(m): 10:47am On Mar 06, 2015
With or without this principles what will be will still be
Re: Will You Marry Me? 5 Principles To Consider Before Saying 'I Do' by cyprianlah(m): 10:54am On Mar 06, 2015
For any girl to say YES!
Ur bank account has gotta have alotta six figures
Re: Will You Marry Me? 5 Principles To Consider Before Saying 'I Do' by boboLIL(m): 10:58am On Mar 06, 2015
Nice research
Re: Will You Marry Me? 5 Principles To Consider Before Saying 'I Do' by lolaxavier(m): 11:03am On Mar 06, 2015
MisterLongman:
With or without this principles what will be will still be


Read the post well, it's already been mentioned that these principles are not guaranteed recipes for success. The fact that what will be will be doesn't mean you shouldn't put cautionary measures like these in place.
Re: Will You Marry Me? 5 Principles To Consider Before Saying 'I Do' by SuperSuave(m): 11:07am On Mar 06, 2015
"will you marry me?" and you will start analyzing all this for how many mins?
Re: Will You Marry Me? 5 Principles To Consider Before Saying 'I Do' by lolaxavier(m): 11:21am On Mar 06, 2015
SuperSuave:
"will you marry me?" and you will start analyzing all this for how many mins?

This is not about analyzing when asked the question, it is about you addressing all these principles even before the question is asked. At least you would have been dating for some time, even if it is for one week.
Re: Will You Marry Me? 5 Principles To Consider Before Saying 'I Do' by greatestboss(m): 11:24am On Mar 06, 2015
lolaxavier:


Hmmmmm...you are your own ooo. My posts no too dey reach front page dis days...no smell anything at alllll....
Hanhan... Shey u don offend the mods ni??
I just dey feel ur writeup sha...
Re: Will You Marry Me? 5 Principles To Consider Before Saying 'I Do' by lolaxavier(m): 11:33am On Mar 06, 2015
greatestboss:

Hanhan... Shey u don offend the mods ni??
I just dey feel ur writeup sha...

Na so I seem am ooo

Re: Will You Marry Me? 5 Principles To Consider Before Saying 'I Do' by lolaxavier(m): 1:32pm On Mar 06, 2015
Re: Will You Marry Me? 5 Principles To Consider Before Saying 'I Do' by mizkeleke(f): 2:35pm On Mar 06, 2015
Nice list.
Re: Will You Marry Me? 5 Principles To Consider Before Saying 'I Do' by Intells: 5:25pm On Mar 07, 2015
All this is expressions of human fear of uncertainty. .and not Godly way for marriage if you consider all the above you ve mentioned that means only few can get married...fear is always wordly way God did not say u must count millions b4 you marry all you need is job and the bible said 1 can chase one million while 2 will chase 10milion that means ur success comes after your marriege ..if I may ask in any country who are the richest or wealthiest is it the bachelors or the married ones? Answer is married ones are the richest so all u need is God and not money in absolute cos some rich guys enterd in marrieges and end up poor after they tried to do it on their own..am not saying money is not good but thats not the basic. ..
lolaxavier:
Most women dream of the moment when they are asked “Will you marry me?” Many women say yes immediately. However, it would be wise to consider this question with
serious reflection because getting married is a great commitment that shouldn’t be taken lightly. It is sad to see the large amount of divorces in our society today. For this reason, before saying, “I do,” it would be a good idea to consider some guidelines to help make your wedding day end in "happily ever after." Your marriage should last forever.
The reality is that the future is uncertain and nothing can guarantee a successful marriage. However, I would like to share five guidelines that can be useful to consider before making such a significant decision that will affect your life forever.
1. A long and formal courtship

This type of courtship will allow you to know your partner better. As you share meaningful moments, you will be able to see your fiancé’s different attitudes when facing a variety of circumstances in life. At the same time, you will be able to find answers to the following questions: How does your sweetheart react when experiencing anger, frustration or high level of stress? How does he or she treat family members? How does he or she react when you have a problem and feel sad? Does he or she support you or abandon you? Is he or she a hard-working
and appreciative person? Is he or she jealous?
(Remember, getting to know a person better involves asking more questions than the ones previously mentioned).

2. Sharing ideals
Before starting a life together, you must discuss future plans. In order to function harmoniously, a couple must learn to share common ideals and mutual goals, such as discussing whether or not to have children, living in the countryside or the city, buying a house or travelling, seeking a degree or working and having a family business. These are a few of the many topics that you should discuss before getting married in order to avoid surprises. Since you know your future goals, it is good to discuss it with your fiancé to know if you both are on the same page.

3. Putting things in a balanced perspective
Imagine having a scale: on one side you place your partner’s virtues and on the other side you place his or her imperfections. If the scale is heavier on the imperfections’ side, you should think hard before saying, “I do.”
When considering all imperfections, you must reflect how much you are able to work through them. Some imperfections are not so profound, such as being shy or being less talkative. However, there are other imperfections that can cause serious wounds, such as certain addictions like alcoholism, drugs or pornography.

4. Pay attention to your fiancé’s family values

Reflect on your loved one’s family values to make sure you are compatible. Once you get married, you are also forming a new
family.

5. Analyze both of your economic opportunities
Starting a family involves serious financial commitments: buying a home, paying rent, buying groceries for the family, paying bills and other expenditures. Before getting married decide if you will have the economic stability to fulfill your financial responsibilities.

I would like to mention that these guidelines are not a guaranteed recipe for success. Furthermore, marriage should not be taken lightly because it is a relationship that requires sacrifice. Each story is different, each couple is unique and what may have positive outcomes for some people may not work for others. Nevertheless, it is good to consider these principles because you may discover some interesting aspects of your relationship. Above all, before saying, _“_I do,” you must be convinced that you love your fiancé and that this love is reciprocal. Best wishes!
Re: Will You Marry Me? 5 Principles To Consider Before Saying 'I Do' by lolaxavier(m): 6:42pm On Mar 07, 2015
Intells:
All this is expressions of human fear of uncertainty. .and not Godly way for marriage if you consider all the above you ve mentioned that means only few can get married...fear is always wordly way God did not say u must count millions b4 you marry all you need is job and the bible said 1 can chase one million while 2 will chase 10milion that means ur success comes after your marriege ..if I may ask in any country who are the richest or wealthiest is it the bachelors or the married ones? Answer is married ones are the richest so all u need is God and not money in absolute cos some rich guys enterd in marrieges and end up poor after they tried to do it on their own..am not saying money is not good but thats not the basic. ..

Not sure what you are driving at but to me, your pov sucks. The sooner you realize not everyone believes in god's existence, the better; and that doesn't rule out successful union for non-believers. Let's even assume god exists, are you saying the points below are not worth considering. These are just basic moral guidelines to help you in looking in the right direction for choices. It is just like going for an interview and you feel there is no need to prepare because you believe in god.
Sincerely, your point is too shallow.

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