Sub Topic: How Do You Cope With A Porn Addicted Spouse?

This article had an impact in me and I'm sure it will do same or more if you open up your mind and heart.



Truth be told, addiction to porn has quietly destroyed some Nigerian marriages.

I just read this anonymous letter from the wife of a porn addict and had to share it here tonight. The letter was passed on from a priest who received it from one of his parishioners.

Read and let's hear what you think, guys.

Dear Father,

I write to you in an anonymous fashion because if I were to tell you who I am, I would be ashamed to come to the confessional, to Mass, to the place where I am gratefully being nourished. I thank you for the wonderful priest you are and for the pastoring you provide to all of us.

Anonymously in your pews are women holding families together against the destructive forces of pornography on our husbands and sons. We are hurting and ashamed, tolerating– not enjoying – marriages and dealing with our inadequacies and depression.

Personally, I feel like the 15 years of my marriage before my discovery were one big lie; that I have been “duped” by an otherwise faithful, church-involved, Knights of Columbus husband.

In the three years since my awareness was heightened, I have come to believe that an affair would have actually been easier to tolerate; for perhaps I could compete with flesh and bones, but not with this. That pleasure and satisfaction can come to my husband from something so 2-dimensional has shaken me to the core;my very sense of who I am and what I am worth is utterly destroyed.

My world was turned upside down and I know if not for our children, I would have left the marriage.

Unbecoming of me, I daydream about that day when I might still. I am certain you are hearing it in the confessional from the husbands; my own husband has now been forthcoming in his challenges with pornography and about his frequent confessions of the sin. He initially felt great relief that I knew and somehow thought that my knowing would give him greater resistance against the temptation.

Unfortunately, I think it just makes him deceive and “hide” more. If this doesn’t destroy our marriage, I fear my “response” will. The other side is the woman’s side: our sin is the profound anger and inability to forgive because it doesn’t stop; how do we trust it even would? Some husbands regret their failure to stand up against this temptation; many do not even think there’s a problem, but it has them held captive.

I have heard another woman say she would rather her husband were doing drugs; at least there are programs to get past that demon. I am confident this is affecting my husband’s ability to do his job, and I imagine it is threatening the security of his employment. My now sinful thoughts are giving in to anger; my energy expended trying to keep our home free of the temptations that come with every latest technology; my “revengeful spending” – these are not what God has called me to. I constantly replay Jesus on the cross saying “Father, forgive them, they don’t know what they do,” but I answer myself with a “but, no one told Jesus they would love him and honor him all the days of their life.”I have sons who serve at the altar, and I fear for them and their futures; for their future wives.

I try to teach my teenage boys about purity, the value of their sexuality, and the Theology of the Body, but they know the magazines and websites of their father, who is a “good man” and “receives the sacraments”—so I am just the “old-fashioned” prude of a mother. I feel constantly under attack, and it doesn’t seem there will be an end to my hurting.

I wish there were a support group for the women suffering this way, but we are all so ashamed that we can’t satisfy our husbands enough, and afraid to make it public and destroy our husbands’ reputations, that none of us would come. We simply suffer and die inside alone.

I am not offering any advice or asking you to do anything about this. Perhaps you can just say a prayer now and then for the wives in your parish trying to hold a family together.

Thank you for tolerating my rambling here. Thank you.

Courtesy of Aggie Catholics.

Konji Stabilizer

Boring stuff from a possibly frigid wife.

ALKARULEZZ:
Konji Stabilizer

You think so?

EfemenaXY:
Boring stuff from a possibly frigid wife.

So you mean she should joyfully accept the fact?

emusmith:


You think so?

Yes boss (for singles) ........whatever happened to his wife?

emusmith:


So you mean she should joyfully accept the fact?

No. I'm saying she should quit acting like a log of wood in bed and get her freak on.

She probably scores a zero in the bedroom department. Why else is the poor man consoling himself with porn if not for her gross inadequacies in bed?

ALKARULEZZ:
Yes boss (for singles) ........whatever happened to his wife?

The single gets married and he's still swimming in porn...That's okay?

EfemenaXY:


No. I'm saying she should quit acting like a log of wood in bed and get her freak on.

She probably scores a zero in the bedroom department. Why else is the poor consoling himself with morn if not for her gross inadequacies in bed?

It is the husband who is a porn addict hence the log of wood...Says The Story.

emusmith:


The single gets married and he's still swimming in porn...That's okay?

nah....its pathetic

Porn isn't a gud tin tho, even 4 singles

ALKARULEZZ:
nah....its pathetic

Porn isn't a gud tin tho, even 4 singles

Yea. Admitting it's a bad thing is the first step to quitting it.

emusmith:


It is the husband who is a porn addict hence the log of wood...Says The Story.

You still don't get it.

He is addicted to porn because it serves as a medium for him to subconsciously indulge in his fantasies.

The question is: why? Why does he have to turn to porn despite having a wife? Why can't she be what he watches.

She should shape up fast before this man acts on his fantasies with a real, live, babe...rather than running to confession with her Christian mother arms.

Inspiritus Sanctum.

And am here to disprove u as a married man dat we suffer more than u who doesnt have women. Need proof?

englishmart:
konji no be excuse for this matter o..

If we wey no get babe dey blame konji for our jonsings, married man wey get freedom of knaking no suppose yarn any shiiiit

EfemenaXY:


You still don't get it.

He is addicted to porn because it serves as a medium for him to subconsciously indulge in his fantasies.

The question is: why? Why does he have to turn to porn despite having a wife? Why can't she be what he watches.

She should shape up fast before this man acts on his fantasies with a real, live, babe...rather than running to confession with her Christian mother arms.

Inspiritus Sanctum.

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I feel u man, ur point is very valid. D problem started from somwhere.

The woman no talk anything about their daughters that act the porn

Seriously,what we shud al get here is dat no behavior starts without a preamble,b4 day got married,he might hav been watching it,or the wife s starving im of sex or denying im of sum sex positions,no sane man wil hav a wife wu has al oda fmale quantities nd stil watch porn,bt catholic ladies gud 4 dat tin na,sorry o,make i bring bowl make u cry.

she even said she prefers her hubby do drugs than that.. oh woman never wish for that. if you can't stop him then join him
i believe he still loves her, he just got little problem to sort out...
and she admits that she's old fashioned, pls change that about your self and your hubby will start fantasizing about you.. peace

Nonsense!!! I wasted my time. How will a man with children prefer to watch Pórn than to service his wife? Most of them catholics still look at Long Pleasure able Sex as impurity and now the Husband has sought to an alternative. She even preferred if he was Banging another woman. I'm sure the man is tired of begging as Men hate to beg for what they are entitled to. In this way at least he is no longer disturbing her. Very funny woman. Make she dey there till she has to compete with another woman who would be surfing on her husband's . .... ...... Nonsense

Summary please.

na WA o and porn star,magazine are increasing everyday.
I think d woman av to take a bold step by reporting d husband to his parent or at least a cleric.Evenn d porn av put d man into a type of bondage which he himself may not like BT it is hard to quit...takes d grace of God.


I taught I won't make FP b4 d election BT I did.
Once again I dedicate dis page to.....

GMB/PYO
AND
AMBODE
You av my vote.

if u hav a wif and u ar porn adict.....
u ar just lik SHEKAU...

emusmith:
Sub Topic: How Do You Cope With A Porn Addicted Spouse?

This article had an impact in me and I'm sure it will do same or more if you open up your mind and heart.



Truth be told, addiction to porn has quietly destroyed some Nigerian marriages.

I just read this anonymous letter from the wife of a porn addict and had to share it here tonight. The letter was passed on from a priest who received it from one of his parishioners.

Read and let's hear what you think, guys.

Dear Father,

I write to you in an anonymous fashion because if I were to tell you who I am, I would be ashamed to come to the confessional, to Mass, to the place where I am gratefully being nourished. I thank you for the wonderful priest you are and for the pastoring you provide to all of us.

Anonymously in your pews are women holding families together against the destructive forces of pornography on our husbands and sons. We are hurting and ashamed, tolerating– not enjoying – marriages and dealing with our inadequacies and depression.

Personally, I feel like the 15 years of my marriage before my discovery were one big lie; that I have been “duped” by an otherwise faithful, church-involved, Knights of Columbus husband.

In the three years since my awareness was heightened, I have come to believe that an affair would have actually been easier to tolerate; for perhaps I could compete with flesh and bones, but not with this. That pleasure and satisfaction can come to my husband from something so 2-dimensional has shaken me to the core;my very sense of who I am and what I am worth is utterly destroyed.

My world was turned upside down and I know if not for our children, I would have left the marriage.

Unbecoming of me, I daydream about that day when I might still. I am certain you are hearing it in the confessional from the husbands; my own husband has now been forthcoming in his challenges with pornography and about his frequent confessions of the sin. He initially felt great relief that I knew and somehow thought that my knowing would give him greater resistance against the temptation.

Unfortunately, I think it just makes him deceive and “hide” more. If this doesn’t destroy our marriage, I fear my “response” will. The other side is the woman’s side: our sin is the profound anger and inability to forgive because it doesn’t stop; how do we trust it even would? Some husbands regret their failure to stand up against this temptation; many do not even think there’s a problem, but it has them held captive.

I have heard another woman say she would rather her husband were doing drugs; at least there are programs to get past that demon. I am confident this is affecting my husband’s ability to do his job, and I imagine it is threatening the security of his employment. My now sinful thoughts are giving in to anger; my energy expended trying to keep our home free of the temptations that come with every latest technology; my “revengeful spending” – these are not what God has called me to. I constantly replay Jesus on the cross saying “Father, forgive them, they don’t know what they do,” but I answer myself with a “but, no one told Jesus they would love him and honor him all the days of their life.”I have sons who serve at the altar, and I fear for them and their futures; for their future wives.

I try to teach my teenage boys about purity, the value of their sexuality, and the Theology of the Body, but they know the magazines and websites of their father, who is a “good man” and “receives the sacraments”—so I am just the “old-fashioned” prude of a mother. I feel constantly under attack, and it doesn’t seem there will be an end to my hurting.

I wish there were a support group for the women suffering this way, but we are all so ashamed that we can’t satisfy our husbands enough, and afraid to make it public and destroy our husbands’ reputations, that none of us would come. We simply suffer and die inside alone.

I am not offering any advice or asking you to do anything about this. Perhaps you can just say a prayer now and then for the wives in your parish trying to hold a family together.

Thank you for tolerating my rambling here. Thank you.

Courtesy of Aggie Catholics.

Porn is a good thing; you can confirm from b.erem

Hmmm

Don't she know the man is a porn addict before marriage?


Well it's a spiritual problem. Let the gut be taken to the pastor for deliverance asap .

Lol its a funny world..

Na wa o

EfemenaXY:


No. I'm saying she should quit acting like a log of wood in bed and get her freak on.

She probably scores a zero in the bedroom department. Why else is the poor man consoling himself with porn if not for her gross inadequacies in bed?

some men are insatiable. If u like do all the styles u know while
l bleeping they can't just stop watching indecency!


bottom line the man is an addict! at d same time stvpid

It's a bad habit..
Only Jesus.can save him